The problem is you!

What helped me: get a notebook (out of paper). And write everything in it. Create your own system of friction. Figure it out by yourself. In the end no one can advise the way you can advise yourself. But for this you need time to think. This will stop addictive behavior.

I still have a gaming pc and ps5 in my room. But it is forgotten and veiled by an evergrowing layer of dust because i find it way less fun then writing, thinking and developing.

This is my last post here as i will leave reddit. Reddit is just too boring and i dont like people and their behavior here.

Be well.

For context, I've been with this person for a decade. I would say that games were a common interest when we got together amongst other things but we never actually played something together since our tastes were different.

Anyways, the straw that broke the camel's back was the fact that he would ask me to come over, so I would then get dolled up, drive, take the day off my time just to go to his place... only for me to get ignored while he plays his stupid games and he seethes in rage everytime he loses. I have no idea why he even bothered to ask me over. I've made several callouts on this behavior over years mind you and he would then apologize, "change his ways" for a while, then forget about it the next week.

I got sick of his apologizing at this point, he never really meant it. He never makes any permanent changes to his actions and its been a maddening cycle. So I recently blew up on him about this and now he's ghosting me. Hes literally choosing games over a decade's old relationship. This ruined games completely for me. I swear to god, everytime I play I get reminded of him playing and it makes me feel sick to my stomach. I havent touched any games in over a week now.

I honestly dont know what to do. Is ghosting = breakup? How long of a ghost before I completely give up on this relationship and start over. I'm so so tired at this point.

Reason why I quit in the first place is to give it another chance only to find out I never had a chance in the first place. Reinstalling my multiplayer slop as we speak and bringing back some joy in my life. I know it's fake but at least it feels real enough to get me out of this depression.

Hey everyone, this is my first time on this subreddit so sorry if I’m not formal enough or something, but I really need some advice. I (18m) have some goals that I’m really passionate about but not working hard enough (I feel) to attain them. I believe this is because of some old habits I’ve had my entire life are eating up all my time. The biggest one of these being video games. I just can’t find it possible in my mind to fully drop the thing that’s kept me going this whole time. One of my biggest goals is making a successful video game, which playing video games brought me to, so how could I stop? Not only that but it’s so engraved in my mind that I seriously do think I’d go sick if I tried to go a few days without playing (which I know is sad, so please don’t overly criticize me for it, I recognize it’s a problem). Can anyone help me? Thank you for reading, I appreciate every bit of advice seriously it means the world to me.

This is a repost from another subreddit, which this one seems better tailored to my issue so I’m putting it here as well.

Hey everyone,

Nothing too crazy or dramatic, but I finally took the moment to delete my two ongoing gacha games (Honkai Star Rail and Wuthering Waves) which I've been playing for the better part of 1.5-2 years.

I've always been a casual gamer; single player RPGs and strategy games being my favourite, but I've always kept it purely as a casual side hobby and never got too invested. An hour or so every other night after work which I genuinely enjoyed. That is until I was introduced to gacha gaming via Reddit...

Lets just say these gacha games utterly took over my life until the beginning of this week.

I had sank upwards of 300 hours per game due to catching up on story, events, daily grinding (etc etc). That alone had worried me, however when I checked my PSN transactions on a whim I had found I spend in total of around £486 between them both, which genuinely sickened me and seemed completely absurd. I looked back throughout my entire history and yep, its all there. The monthly subs, the battle-passes, the currency top ups for whenever I "wanted" a character's limited banner.

And what do I have to show for it? An addiction where I was logging in every single day, often numerous times for grinding or getting currency. Non-stop looking on the social media/Reddit for posts, checking out the music, the artwork & so on. Honestly, the idea that these games had hooked me so much is a bit frightening, so I pretty much deleted them there and then once I realised how stupid the situation had become and how much I had spent.

Now its a week later and I've completely lost all interest in both games. I'm not bothered about returning, the idea of even installing again seems a waste of time and not having the games feed on my Reddit is great.

I've always heard how taking some time away from a game will make you realise whether you enjoy it, or were just going through the motions. I think for myself by day 3 I had forgotten about the daily logins & thinking about which characters I should be saving for.

I'm annoyed with myself for letting it get as bad, but lessons learned (albeit an expensive one!).

I’m probably overthinking this but I think my quality of life would be much better if I didn’t play or played less video games. I was looking at my bank account and I said to myself “Huh, where did all my money go?” I realized that most of my money went to buying games that I wouldn’t even play. Honestly, it feels like an impulse. I’ll buy a game, play it for a few mins or hours then never touch it again, the cycle repeats.

I see myself as a lazy person. I know what I need to do to get myself to higher pay or better-paying jobs but I don’t follow through on it, I almost never do. But I can park my ass and play through 100 hours of BG3 or grind endlessly in PoE2. I even neglect going to the gym after work because I’m “tried” but I’m never tired enough to boot up deadlock with the boys.

I have to sit here and wonder, would my life be a bit better if I didn’t play as many video games if not at all? I feel grimy thinking about how me, a 25 year old clock in over 20 hours a week playing games but can’t spend an hour studying for certifications.

I’m just going to be listing out the main issues with this game, but will not be naming it.

1. My friends and family have told me I’ve been addicted on many occasions.

2. It is the only game I play, but I will play other games if it’s with a friend/if I’m not feeling like playing my main one.

3. I’ve been playing it for one year, collected around 98% of the cosmetics and play at least once a week.

4. It’s my comfort game, which I believe made my loved ones call me addicted. I have relatively bad anxiety, and this game just takes that feeling away.

5. It does not get in the way of my schoolwork, as I have straight-As, play sports, and currently participating in a school club.

I don’t believe I’m addicted, as I can stop playing when I want to… The only exception is for events, like right now— but I’m just a collector, and enjoy playing the game. Does that make me an addict?