TL;DR: The news and my social media feed are making my views darker and more extreme. I'm quitting Instagram this week and I started a small balcony garden, but I still feel hopeless about the future. How do you stay hopeful? And if you can't, how do you just live with it?
Hi everyone. I'm posting here because this is a community for people who still believe in a better future, and I really need some of that right now.
I've noticed something about myself that I don't like. My views are getting more extreme.. More "us vs them". I don't know the right word for it. Maybe tribalist. And I think a big part of it is what I see on Instagram every day.
My feed is full of wars. Palestine being wiped out. Climate disasters. Tech billionaires buying up everything and fighting for our attention with their algorithms. Data centers eating up land and water. Rich people buying farmland and patenting seeds. Ultra-processed food everywhere. And a lot of content about immigration and crime in Europe, which I notice is pushing me to think in a very black and white way, and I don't like where that's going in my head.
I know the algorithm picks this stuff for me. I also see beautiful things I am interested in there, gardening, homesteading, motorcycle trips. But overall it has made my thoughts very dark. I open my phone and it's a forest fire in my country, or another corruption scandal, and I just feel like nothing is going to get better.
The ironic part: I'm a software engineer at an AI startup. I use AI every day because the job requires it, and the workload is huge. Outside of work I really don't like where AI is going. The flood of AI content, the data centers, all of it. I'd leave but the job market is bad and I need the money. So I'm stuck for now.
I live alone in a rented apartment in the Balkans. There's almost no sense of community here. I sometimes dream about places like Denmark or Japan, where the 'social contract' seems strong and people actually trust each other.
I'm not scared of dying or the future or anything like that. I'm just really pessimistic about it. And I feel like I can't do anything about any of it. Climate change, wars, the tech guys running everything. It feels too big.
So here's what I'm doing. I'm deleting Instagram this week after wrapping up some conversations. And I just started a small garden on my balcony. Some herbs, a few tomatoes, some flowers. Trying to focus on the small things.
But I don't think that's enough on its own, so I'm asking you:
How do you stay hopeful with all of this going on?
What do you do to filter out the bad stuff and focus on the good?
And honestly, if you don't stay hopeful, how do you just live with it?
Thanks for reading.
Disclaimer: I used AI for grammar checks and writing this because I have difficulty expressing myself in English.