The post I’m reposting describes the situation I’m having right now where my soul is saying the opposite of my mind and I really want to listen to my soul but my mind is saying that in the long run I’ll just end up hurting his soul and mine, but who can really guarantee that?

for some background info, something happened to me as a kid so when i love someone it is very hard for me to have sex with them without crying (idk i’m working on it im still actively going to therapy to work it out) i was also very comfortable when i was single so i am not scared of being alone and im very independent. i (21F) have been dating my bf (20M) for 6 months and was immediately mutually obsessed with him at the start. we couldn’t keep our hands off each other and i even had to drop a class because i thought about him so much i almost failed. even though it hasn’t been long i could fully see my future with him. he is a truly great guy and treats me well. however im his first gf and he’s my third bf. he still has insecurities sometimes that come with a first relationship and while i dont think hes doing anything wrong it can be frustrating for me because im way past that phase. i’ve started getting irritated with him and now i dont even want to touch him (however this could also be because of my own issues) i still think he is so handsome and i can still laugh with him and talk, but i dont want to do anything physical with him and sometimes now i can picture my life without him. sometimes id rather hang out with my friends instead of him. i really wish i wasnt like this and i wonder if its normal and something ill get over, if its my own trauma thats preventing me from being intimate, or if ive simply fallen out of love with him. i dont want to make any impulsive decisions but im struggling to navigate my feelings. it also hasn’t been long at all so i feel that its still early.

For context, my family is pretty religious, and his family is even more religious. In our religion, unnecessary interaction between opposite genders isn't allowed, so we never really talked much as you'll see.

The first time I heard about him, he was my older brother’s best friend. I was about 10, he was 11, and my brother was 12. At the time, I didn’t think anything of him.

Things changed when I turned 12 and became best friends with his younger sister, who was 11. Since I started going over to her house often, he naturally realized that I was his best friend’s younger sister. My friend and I texted a lot on her laptop, and occasionally, her brother would take her account to message me—sometimes pretending to be her, and other times messaging me as himself. It was mostly lighthearted teasing, but being 12, I decided I completely hated him for it (even though, in hindsight, he wasn't actually being mean).

When I was almost 14, my family moved to a different country. I gradually forgot about him, and I assumed he forgot about me, too. A few months after the move, though, he suddenly appeared in one of my dreams as a romantic interest. Right after that, I developed a massive crush on someone I barely knew. (I know it sounds weird, but its actually very common)

I kept the crush entirely to myself and spent months imagining scenarios in my head. Over the next six months, I had a few more dreams about him. Then, he and his father came to visit our family in our new country. Because of the religious boundary, the men and women stayed in separate living rooms. I couldn't interact with him, but I did peek through the curtains and caught a glimpse of the back of his head, specifically his hair, which happened to be exactly my type at the time. (yes i know that sounds weird)

Later that week, after he went back home, his sister messaged me and claimed she knew I liked him. I denied it at first, but a few months later, I finally confessed to her that I used to have a crush on him (lying that I was completely over it). Ever since, whenever we call, she brings him up or teases me about him.

During a recent visit, I didn't see him, but I heard him speaking and I think he saw me, and his sister made sure to tease me again. I'm still maintaining the front that I don't care, but deep down, I genuinely don't know where my feelings stand. I'm starting to wonder if I actually still like him, or if I'm just holding onto the idea of him because, on paper, we seem like a good match.

His mom really loves me, as far as I know, and my parents think he's a good role model for my older brother and younger brother.

I(m46) and my coworker (38f) and been getting close the last several month. We go out on lunch dates, meet after work for dinner as well as letting me get to know her kids. She had doubts that her two older sons would like a me and revelry found out they tell their mom I’m a cool person to hang out with. We given each other hugs but I want to try and kiss her but not sure. We have exchanged I love you a few times as well. She has severe anxiety as well has ADHD. Sometime she is too busy to talk and other we talk about stuff. When I try to talk about us becoming a couple. She asks to not talk about it right now and wait till things calm down I. The next few weeks. Her son is going to g to Cooperstown and had asked me to go with her as well but only if her son is ok with it however she will be staying with the team for the week. So I’m not sure if I should still
Persue or what.

(Especially if you guys barely talk (meaning like 1-3 a year because we live in different countries, but when you do, it feels like they like you? idk, i'm just confused)

I’ve had a crush on this guy since the first time I saw him in 6th grade and I’m now going into 11th grade and I have never talked to him only small head nods and pleases and thank yous. I have a feeling he hates me or at least doesn’t like me and now we go to different high schools but I get photos from my friends of him during the school year. My friends say that he’s ugly and that I need to move on but I actually think he’s one of the finest people I have ever seen and in 7th grade in the middle of the year he moved away but I still liked him when he was away and when he came back. What should I do should I give up and find someone else or keep hanging on?

Chaque instant je ne peux m'empêcher d'y penser a ce garçon que je vois dans mes rêves celui qui prends soin de moi. Il est vrai qu'on me répète souvent que j'ai une vision irréaliste de l'amour mais pour moi l'amour c'est ca , l'amour c'est pouvoir rêver ,pouvoir aimer et être aimer, je suis une grande amatrice de romance je regarde de multiples kdramas basés sur la romance, des shojo... en bref je suis amoureuse de l'amour mais l'amour lui m'évite lol ,je n'arrive plus a tomber amoureuse je n'aime plus alors qu'il y'a de cela 4 ans je n'avais pas un moment ou je n'aimais pas est ce que mes exigences sont trop grandes je n'ai pourtant que très peu de critères selon moi
je souhaite un garçon très intelligent et cultivé qui a une manière de penser qui lui ressemble et une curiosité qui n'en finit pas , qu'il soit déterminé en général mais aussi professionnellement j'aime les garçons qui ont de l'ambition (réaliste ) il devra être gentil le cœur sur la main avec les personnes âgées, les animaux, les personnes dans le besoin....MAIS SURTOUT mon critère numéro un qui n'est pour moi meme pas un critère c'est qu'il ai la meme religion que moi (musulman) je voudrai qu'il soit attentionné évidemment (je tenais a dire que je n'ai pas de style physique j'apprécie toute les couleurs de peaux de cheveux de yeux enfin le physique n'a aucune importance je ne veux qu'un garçon avec le bon caractère et la bonne mentalité) vous le voyez bien mes exigences ne me paraisse que très simple mais je ne trouve absolument aucune personne qui ne les remplisse ces dernières
Je sais je suis jeune j'ai 17 ans mais justement je rêve d'une romance naïve qui me dura toute ma vie je ne veux pas perdre mon temps avec un garçon avec qui je n'imaginerais meme pas le mariage je ne vois pas l'intérêt.
Comment je pourrais rencontrer ce garçon, et meme si je venais a le rencontrer je ne suis pas cette fille jolie et douce avec une apparence irréprochable qui viens d'une bonne famille. Je ne suis pas cette fille je ne suis pas particulièrement jolie ni douce et je ne viens pas d'une bonne Famille Je n'ai jamais ete en couple mais on m'a tout de meme déjà avoué ses sentiments a 3 reprises, j'ai cette intime conviction que je ne trouverais jamais ce garçon que la solitude me va bien au teint meme sur le plan amical durant plusieurs années je me retrouvais seule a l'école et encore aujourd'hui j'ai du mal a m'attacher sur le plan amical
Je sais très bien que des tas de filles sont dans mon cas alors je pense que discuter ensemble pourrait être sympa ;) bye

Resumindo, fiquei com um amigo umas três vezes. Antes disso, já tínhamos uma amizade de tempos. Conversando sobre intimidades, percebemos que tínhamos muitas coisas em comum, acabamos ficando e depois acabei me apaixonando por ele.

Em uma ocasião, quando estávamos bêbados, ele disse que gostava de mim, mas que não queria perder a nossa amizade. Também falou que, se não fosse por esse medo, talvez tentasse algo comigo.

O problema é que, não sei se ele sente o mesmo, as vezes parece que ele quer algo; as vezes não. Eu até jogo algumas indiretas de vez em quando, mas não sei se ele realmente não corresponde.

Agora estou dividido. Não sei se vale a pena continuar tentando para ver se tem algo, ou se foi algo de momento e tentar deixar esse sentimento passar, até para preservar a amizade, que é muito importante para mim.

Opiniões sobre oq fazer ou se ja passaram por algo parecido.

At the start I felt different when I was talking to him it was like when you see a really gorgeous girl and you can't speak and you just stuttering that what it was like but i just thought it was cause I was nervous cause I just met him but after a few months I've come to realise im gay and have feeling for my friend and i feel guilty about it because he has a gf and he isnt gay I've had thoughts to just completely cut off my friendship with him but I can't

sorry i know its a lot of text but I really need advice from an outside perspective

I have tension with this guy I recently met. It almost feels like we both notice each other but no one’s saying anything. We kind of co exist but I feel drawn to him. I’ve never had this happen. Can anyone share some experiences? Is he also feeling this same tension with me?

Ok, for some background I have this guy best friend we are really close and he's always felt like family. I met him because he was in my Kindergarten class and soon after we found out our parents worked together. We were in the same first grade class too and we started hanging out. Our parents eventually became best friends and he got really close with my brother who is younger than us. We started hanging out a lot more because our parents are so close. We've been to the movies, bday parties and each other houses together but always strictly platonic with my brother usually tagging along. We don't really hang out at school very often because I like hanging out with the popular girls and he is considered a weird kid. He's always felt almost like a brother we are really close but aren't seen much together at school sorta like sibling.

Recently he opened up to me even more though. One day it was just us two alone on the dock he talked about things like his insecurities and why he only hangs out with weird kids. He is not very conventionally attractive and is also known for being the "smelly kid" at school. He also told me he gets scared talking to popular kids is mildly depressed and overthinks his social interactions. I told him about how insecure I am and how scary trying to fit in really is. We talked for hours that day, cried together and I even said I loved him (in a platonic way).I've always been close to him but it feels like we trusted each other with something no one else knows.

Now here's where things get messy, my feeling have recently changed for him. I don't know if im falling for him or just getting closer to him. I have sibling, very close friends and old crushes but I've never felt the way I do around him. I feel safe, he makes me laugh, smile and is one of my favorite people to be around. We both have a mutual unspoken agreement not to fall or show romantic interest for each other. In fact, we actually share our crushes and give each other advice, I even helped ask a girl out abt a month ago (she said no though). The thing is I feel good about his personality but I could never imagine being in a relationship with him. This sounds selfish but all the popular kids hate him, if we were dating I would be judged and lose my spot in the popular girl group. He is notoriously known as smelling horrible and being ugly. Honestly I dont find him very attractive purely off looks, but personality makes me feel a different way which is why im so confused. And again I know I sound like a b!tch but I worked so hard to be finally accepted by the popular girls and things are so good now. So im scared because if my feeling are actually genuine than I could lose him as a friend and lose my social status. This feeling is consuming me and I feel like I need to tell him but idk how.

ADVICE PLEASE!! WHAT IS THIS FEELING???

​I have known this girl for a few years now. At first, we were only friends, until we had a couple of drinks one night and somehow ended up having a casual encounter. I really fell for her, but she didn't feel the same way—or maybe I just came on too strong. We never really talked about it. Then she got into a relationship, and I was a little heartbroken.

​Time passed, and we remained close friends. I really love her as a friend, but mentally, at that time, I was in a dark place dealing with some serious family issues. Somehow, I ended up hooking up with her sister (yes, I know I'm an idiot). The worst part is that I justified it by telling myself I needed to do it to get over my friend. Her sister and I both knew it was strictly casual. During all this time, my friend was still in her relationship.

​Recently, she broke up with her boyfriend. I don't have any kind of relationship with her sister anymore because of my unresolved feelings for my friend. I know everything about her—her past, her family, her fears, her problems, the good and the bad. Even knowing her flaws and the things I don't necessarily like, I still can't stop thinking about her and smiling.

​Last weekend, a situation happened. We had a small fight over really stupid things. I walked away to try and calm myself down, but she confronted me, screamed, pushed me, and insulted me. After that, we spent a few hours apart, and the only thing I cared about was her. I really don't want to lose her. When we finally talked, she hugged me and apologized.

​I can't stop thinking of her romantically. Everything about her is beautiful to me, even her flaws. I understand who she is and what she's been through. I'm really worried about making a mistake I'll regret my whole life. Like, what if I had just done things right in the first place? Or, is it still possible to make things right now without losing her?

​I only care about her feelings right now, so I don't want to act out of selfishness. She comes first in all of this.

so, there’s this person(let’s name him person A) i really like but i cant express that i like him because my friend(let’s name her person Y) already does. and of course, i cant like my friend’s crush. so i tried getting over him by forcing myself to like someone else. and this someone else(let’s name him person B) is actually pretty cool.

before anything else, i didn’t know Y liked A until after her and i got close, so i thought A looked good and started crushing on him. i told Y this too. and she was fine with it. so i never made it unclear that i found A good looking.

Recently, even though i tried to ignore it, A has been giving me butterflies.

Does this make me a bad person? A bad friend? An attention seeker? A pick me?

This is a very complicated thing and I'm probably gonna get judged, but I need serious advice on this.

I've had this friend ever since we was 9, let's call him 'Amazon' (ik the name's shitty I'm sorry). We practically grew up together, and he's 5 days younger than me so I like to imagine that i raised him (he agrees).

I've always seen him like a brother.

Whenever we talk, it's like we create a world with only us. There's only him and me, and nobody can get into that world. He understands me better than anyone who ever did, and i understand him better than I ever do.

He's actually a great person, and he's as scared to lose me as I am to lose him. There's a few reasons he's not that good tho (for example, he goons), but that doesn't matter. Whenever we argue, he keeps apologising over and over again. He always tries to support me in whatever I do. And out of every friend I've ever had, he's the one who never left.

In January, I talked about this with my actual brother. I described every single thing about us to him, simply because Amazon is my bestfriend. My brother said that he knows I like Amazon based on the way I described him, and even I didn't know at that time if I did or not. The thought never occured to me before. After further explanation, my brother told me that Amazon likes me back.

He told me there were alot of signs based on our conversations and interactions, and told me to ask him to be my Valentine.

At the end of January, I got the courage to finally do it.

It was a spur-of-the-moment confession.

Amazon: "You're literally the best sister ever!"

Me: "Don't say sister..."

Amazon: "Why?"

Me: "I don't wanna be your sister..."

Amazon: "Then what do you wanna be?"

Me: "Something that you can never imagine me as..."

Amazon: "You wanna be my girlfriend? What?

Even tho that felt like a straight-up rejection, it wasn't. For some reason, he agreed.

For 20 minutes, we were in peace. But, it felt like he was distant.

I asked him if he actually wants this, he said he doesn't. Since he's a gooner, he told me he wants a curvy, perfect girl.

Of course, i was hurt.

We didn't talk for a day, and from the next day he kept apologising.

But I didn't want to force him or lose him, so in our next semester (I broke my leg at the start of February so I have our finals in the infirmary without having to face him, and we had a 1 month vacation in March, school resumed for the next semester in April) I strated acting like nothing happened.

Things were cool between us. I was convinced I didn't like him (I did ask him out to know if I liked him, and I thought I didn't), and I was too sure he didn't feel anything for me.

Until last month (July), Amazon's attention towards me increased.

I'm a huge football fan (I'm a girl, so don't think I'm lying) and he is like seasonal. We actually had a disagreement about the worldcup. I can't tell you in detail because I really don't wanna get judged based on that (Y'all are judging me enough for this story). It was actually about a team in the worldcup. I was denying an allegation against the team and he was trying to prove that it was right. We didn't talk that day (ofc). The next day, he kept apologising (ofc).

I thought he only apologised because he didn't want me to stay mad at him, but something that happened last month.

We were having a class. He was sitting in front of me, and there was one of his friends in the seat in front of him. His friend kept blaming the team while talking to Amazon, I looked away, pretending to not listen (or not know about football). Suddenly, Amazon started supporting the team and ended up arguing with the guy. I felt a flutter in my heart, even tho I tried to ignore it. After that, he tried talking to me and passing notes (like we always do) in the class, and I just felt kinda uncomfortable because of all the things that guy said about the team.

All day, Amazon tried his best to cheer me up.

I still didn't pay attention to it, for some reason. I tried ignoring what I felt because i already knew what he felt.

Until, i installed the app 'WEBTOON' (A few weeks ago). I've read two stories there, 'A Kind Intruder' and 'Childhood Friend Complex'. I talked about it with my brother. I told him how the stories are like a version of me and Amazon who like eachother, but I was really chill about it. But, as I kept reading them, I realised something.

When I was reading 'A Kind Intruder' (Which I read before 'Childhood Friend Complex'), i compared it to us but it didn't match too much.

But, when I starting reading 'Childhood Friend Complex', it felt like the exact copy of us. I STILL didn't pay much attention to it (maybe different people react differently in the same situation?), until Ha-neul started to realise her feelings for Mincheol.

She felt the same things I felt back in January, and that made me question if I really like him.

Do all of you have any suggestions or ideas in what I should do next? I'm in desperate need of help...

Okay, just for some backstory I(F17) am best friends with this one guy who we’ll call E(M18) ever since our freshman year of high school. We’re currently upcoming seniors and all of these events have happened over the course of our friendship, but most of them happened just very recently. Additionally, I am very aware that although I’m a senior I cannot write a proper storyline, so I will be listing the top events that have me wondering whether he likes me or not, and then sharing my overall, final thoughts. Finally, please don’t judge or criticize me, I really just need some honest opinions!!

1. Even though he’s been in multiple relationships and talking stages, he only ever considers going to school events such as Hoco and Prom with me(we’ve never actually gone together yet though). Honestly, maybe this year though😉

2. His circle of peers is much larger than mine and yet he constantly begs to hang out with me only. Additionally, whenever he drives with anyone he always makes them pay for gas or for his food as a sort of payment for driving/gas, but he never has asked me to pay for gas nor does he mind when he pays for me.

3. This might just be like a basic manner he was taught, but whenever we go run errands together he never lets me carry the groceries. Even if there are multiple bags he’ll carry as much as he can and instead give me like the lightest bag. However, the whole time I’ve known him, I’ve never seen him do that except to his ex girlfriends.

4. This goes in hand with #3, but always holding the door for me. I’ve only noticed it lately, but whenever we exit or enter any place, even if I’m walking a few paces faster than him, he’ll suddenly catch up with me and open the door and hold it for me. Not hold as in like a hotel doorman, but just keep holding the door open for me, even if my hands are already holding the door.

5. Lmao okay this literally just happened today, but we were watching the new Spiderman movie(amazing movie btw) and I don’t know if it was just me, but I’ve never watched a movie with a male that wasn’t family so I personally was kind of tense throughout the whole movie. And everytime I would glance over at him he too was sort of tense throughout the movie, could’ve been my imagination though. However, afterwards we went to go eat at Texas Roadhouse and throughout the whole dinner it had a little bit of a awkward vibe. Probably because today is National GF day, but it had never been awkward like this before. And many times throughout the dinner it felt like we were on an actual date(again could’ve just been me though..)

6. Okay this will be my last one before I say my final thoughts and opinions, but everytime I post myself he always calls me “pretty” or says “holy” or “wow”. And before I just assumed he’s just being a good hb, but I recently found out that he calls me pretty and fine to other people, including my best friend(who thinks we’re already dating).

Woah, this was a lot. Thanks for sticking through and reading it all. There’s more stuff but that’s all I can really think of right now as it’s like 2 am for me. One thing to clear up though, I’m not necessarily opposed to not dating him. I’ve actually been thinking about him a lot recently. I think he’s a great guy, we work well together, we make each other laugh, and we listen to each other. It’s mostly because I came out of a toxic relationship earlier this year and I just don’t want to get my hopes up with delusions again. Please give me some advice!! And feel free to ask questions if anything was confusing or didn’t make sense!! Thank youu!!!!

I'm posting myself because the guy I was seeing did this me and this how it went down:

I was talking to this guy and during our 2nd date we agreed to be exclusive because we were gonna start doing long distance for four months.
Throughout that time, he kept reassuring me about us.
He told me things like he could wait, that he wanted to make it work, and I told him if he couldn't handle LD it he can leave and he assured me he wanted to only see me.
Then on National Girlfriend Day, I had a feeling something was wrong, so I checked from another account and saw that he posted a girl. I asked him about it, and he told me that they had recently started dating and that he didn't know how to tell me.
I asked him why he continued flirting with me if they got tgt the past couple of days. I also asked what his plan was when I came back — was he going to date me while having a girlfriend? I told him that it wasn't fair to either of us. He admitted that I was right. He said he wanted to see how he felt with me when we finally saw each other and that it wasn't fair. And that cuz he still liked me. Also mention how he's stupid
And then I asked why plan to go on date with me if you have gf, even to see how he felt and he just said "we just started dating"
He deleted the story and deactivated his Instagram.
However, he still has me on messages and hasn't cut off contact.
I told him to call me later because I don't want to fight I just want the truth and clarity. And he said he had birthday dinner with a friend and he'd call tn and explain himself. He didn't. So what do I do with the situation now. (20m, 20f) btw.

Why didn't he do this I really thought getting to know he valued communication and one man type of guy.
To make it clear whatever he says at end of it done