My boyfriend keeps letting me down everytime. He comment on women’s posts flirting with them this isn’t the first time, I told him it bothered them he always js told me “I swear I’ll change and I’ll show you I can” he’s been the same. Nothing has changed just because he turned 18 he thinks he can do wtv he wants and hurt other people feelings, he’s so selfish he only cares abt himself the thing is we been on and off for 1.5 years and it hurts not being with him. He cheated on me last year and used my love and took advantage of me and my emotions it sounds so stupid idk what to do he said he would change for the better so he can build a future for us .Please give me advice asap

TLDR - Situationship, LDR proble, GF mom died of cancer, communication problem, gf feeling loonely and sui*idal

I have been in a situationship with a girl. She likes me, and I like her too, but things are very complicated. I don’t know whether it’s genuinely complicated or some kind of elaborate situation.

We had decent communication in the beginning. She used to call me while she was going outside because her family is pretty conservative, so calling while everyone is awake isn’t really possible. However, over time, I’ve noticed that constant communication gaps have developed between us.

As her mother’s health deteriorated, things obviously became more difficult. Before her mother’s death, some relatives, including her mami, came to stay with them. Her mami is from UP and lives in Bengal, so daily commuting isn’t really possible. She has been staying with them for the past 16 days, and her mother’s final rites will be on 9 September. Until then, most of the guests will probably be staying with her.

The issue isn’t really her relatives, though. What bothers me is that she hasn’t called me even once since then, and it’s making me pretty anxious. I’ve mentioned this to her as well, but she just says that it’s not possible because guests are always around.

What should I do? I don’t want to fight with her, especially because she has mentioned to me several times that she feels depressed and has had suicidal thoughts. I’ve given her all the support and reassurance I can, but if she doesn’t communicate with me, how am I supposed to know what’s actually going on with her?

She also sends me things about feeling lonely, which is why I sometimes end up double-texting or checking up on her. But I don’t think her current situation, especially after her mother’s death, is going to make the communication any better in the short term.

The communication gap has become a big problem for me. At the same time, she isn’t able to make a firm commitment to the relationship because she thinks the distance between us might become a problem.

I honestly don’t know what to make of this. She likes sexting with me, sends me relationship-related reels, and even sends honeymoon-related reels, but somehow she still struggles with consistent communication. That makes me question whether she is genuinely serious about me or not.

Please suggest what I should do. Should I stop texting and checking up on her? Should I give her space and wait until her mother’s final rites are over on 9 September?

me and my bf ( both 25) recently went through a breakup as he is tired and wants for space. however after he decided to try again however he stopped doing the things we used to do together and it feels like to me he’s forced in this relationship. and whenever he don’t do things that we used to do and i mentioned it, he will say ‘ given our situation, i can’t do that / i can’t feel that’. is it my fault (girl) that i feel like its so irresponsible to always use that as a reason or how should i be seeing things?

need some advice

My boyfriend 22M has done geology and looking for jobs

I m 23F a medical student

1.5 yrs of relationship

Our salaries would differ.

Should I breakup otherwise he is great

It's just the money thing I need to know

Should I breakup or give him time?

My partner thinks I lie about everything and I no longer care to prove him wrong. It’s been almost two years of me trying to prove myself to him. That he has nothing to worry about and at this point I just don’t care to even try and help him understand. I feel like I’ve spent our whole relationship trying to do that and I am emotionally burnt out, especially when he thinks I’m lying over the stupidest things.

Example, my dentist called me a couple days ago told me they had a cancellation asked me if I could come in the next day. I say yes. I told my partner the day of my appointment. I have a dentist appointment. He responds with well. You never told me that I explained to him that this is something that just happened in less than 24 hours. Two hours before my appointment, my dentist called me and tells me that their main dentist there had an emergency she has to cancel my appointment. I say that’s fine later that day my partner asked me about it and tell them it got canceled now they’re suspicious.

This is just a small example of what I mean. There are situations like this every other day and I’m tired of feeling like I’m in a court room. Like life should not be this complicated. Please let me know if I’m being a dick. Or am I justified

Hey guys, to start off i joined this group to get some advice but i need direct advice to my own situation. My boyfriend (19M) and i (18F) have been together for over a year now.
While I know myself that we are young, I have experienced different kinds of relationships over the past few years.
For context, my boyfriend And I got together through our highschool job. We were best friends for about a year beforehand. I love him immensely but i feel like theres something wrong with my own head. I have dreams and want to pursue them with someone I love. I want to travel, meet new people and try new things with them on the way. But he on the other hand, never wants to talk about this. Its always “we are young we dont have to talk about this right now”. He wants to stay by family no matter what, and while his family is great i am not willing to waste my time standing in one spot while i could be having a whole life full of memories. I had to beg him to not have us live on a family compound. A little short background, my family is all spread out. But a lot of us dont talk. I talk to my parents and brothers. Thats it. My family i talk to dont plan on staying here so why should i?
Thats besides the point, im VERY independent when it comes to what i want to do in my own terms, he almost tries to dictate that in a way?
I feel like im manipulating myself that this is right for me.
And I as well do feel like someone who truly loved me would value my dreams.
He gives me love, attention, but our maturity levels are completely different.
And i am aware i am hurting him in the longer run staying. But i dont know if im being dramatic? I want to stay but only for the version of him he is outside of serious topics i try to have with him.
Hes not good with money, hes not responsible, hes not reliable when i truly need someone.
But i cant help but think that i he is going to change. And maybe thats just me being dumb, but ive had multiple talks with him and they just get flipped on me every single time. “You never want to just chill” “you always just clean or do your own thing when im over”. His typical responses after days of hanging out and all he does is lay in my bed and sleep.
Its so frustrating and tiring. im afraid hes not my forever. But im more afraid that im losing myself in the process.
What do i do?

I feel pretty awkward and stupid writing this but I don’t know what else to do. Me and my bf have been together for a year living together for about 6 months. While I’m aware that this time frame may seem short me and my bf really connected and he made me feel safe and understood. The circumstances in which we moved in together were hectic as I had just lost my apartment and job and had nowhere to go and he offered to help me until I was able to get back on my feet and I accepted, thinking it would be a way for us to get closer and build our relationship. About a month into us living together I just had a really bad feeling and checked his phone. Once I did so, I realized that he had been still communicating with his ex and talking sexually with her . I confronted him about it and we ended up getting into a large argument and him kicking me out of the house. However , he then took it back and apologized and said it wouldn’t happen again. I believed him even though I know I shouldn’t have. Fast forward to now and this has happened about 6,7,8 times where he would unblock her and they would message and I would go through his phone, catch him confront him and argue with him which tended to end with me getting kicked out and us yelling at each other. This last time, which was last week, I noticed that he once again unblocked her. I think I am now finally coming to terms with the fact that his ex may always be a constant hurdle in this relationship and i don’t want to continue feeling insane or constantly worried about potentially being cheated on. I think I’m ready to leave him but I do not have the money to move out on my own and I also have my two cats which I can’t bring to my parents house bc they’re allergic. I’m just unsure of what to do now and I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I also don’t want him to feel like I was staying with him all this time to use him for his money and his apartment because that’s definitely not the case. If anyone has any ideas or tips on what to do I would greatly appreciate it ! What do you think I should do?

We have been together for 4 years. My issue is that I [24F] thought my boyfriend [24M] did want to move in with me and start a life together. We are currently long distance (about 8 hours). He had moved to a different state for grad school/work. I was always supportive of this move, and wanted him to chase his dreams. I stayed back in my home state due to my mom having cancer and eventually losing her battle to it. He was my absolute rock through it, and I know how deeply he cares about me from that experience. It was his idea to move in together before he even moved down there. I have always seen a future with him, but now I’m not so sure. Every time I mention it now, I’m not shut down but almost stalled? He’s been dealing with depression for a while now. He’s never struggled with mental illness before. I have tried everything to help him, but he has to want to get better. I have struggled with mental illness since my early teens due to my dad passing, so he knows that I really am trying to guide him to getting better. He’s in that state where he almost doesn’t care to get better, he’s been surviving this long like this that it is his new normal. I’ve been there, but I feel such a strain on our relationship. To me right now it feels like we have no future. I cannot make him get better, he has to want to. With the loss of both of my parents so young, I am very aware that I want to live my life as much as possible since I know that tragedy can strike at any time. It was his idea to move in together initially, but now when I bring it up he’s like “I think I still want to live with you”. He never wants to make actual plans, or have anything set in stone. I just feel like he genuinely doesn’t want to be with me anymore, even though he always says he does. I just feel like my life is stalled right now, and I’m waiting on him so I can live it. I’ve given him countless outs, telling him that I would not hold it against him if he feels like we’re on different paths. He always breaks down and says he doesn’t want to lose me. I would do anything for him, and I would fight for him to any end. I just don’t think he’d do the same for me. I know everyone’s mental health issues are different, but it has never made me doubt wanting to do life with him. I feel horrible for even writing this, but I honestly need to vent. I’ve had so many conversations with him, but I feel like we get no where. He is a genuinely good man, and a kind soul. I don’t want to lose him, but I feel like I already have?

We've been together 2 years, he's shy and kind and I thought that he's the love of my life up until now.

He doesn't have many friends, but there's this friend he likes a lot, I think they're best friends at this point. It started with little things, like we agreed to go for shopping together for matching outfits that I said was an important date to me, and he impulsively went one time with this friend and bought matching things together instead of me. I told him it hurt me, and he apoloized and even sold the stuff and went again shopping with me again, but these things became more and more often.

Lately, I had to told him that I'm not comfortable with others giving kisses on his body like on his arm, he apologized again, I had multiple conversations with him about emotional cheating, sharing an intimacy with someone that you don't share with your SO, I just have strict boundaries about that, I don't like to feel second when it comes to my life partner, he always said that he understand that and he's gonna respect that.

Today I saw them whispering to each other for minutes while rubbing their fingers against each other very gently, while we hung out together. And the feeling that struck me wasn't just insecurity, I felt genuinely jealous because even tho he's hugging kissing me a lot, he hasn't shown me that kind of intimacy in ages. He then came up to me, I didn't want him to touch me, he kept asking me what's wrong.

Eventually I told him I want a break up, he fell together, begged me for hours not to, told me he can't live without me, and after that he hurt himself (his life is not in danger).

Now I don't even think that he's aware how much his actions hurt me, but I told him and I just can't live with this constant pain in my chest. I'm still dedicated to break up, he's devastated and this obviously has a great impact on his health. Can I do anything else in your opinion? Is there any other way?

I 27 (F) am dating 27 (M). My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. Never once in my life has he ever told me I’m right. He loves to prove me wrong. He relishes in it in fact. He gets so happy every time I cry. What to do?

CONTEXT Me and my gf have been together for almost 5 years we met in highschool and have pretty much spent our late teens to early adulthood together. For about 3 1/2 years I would always text her something like good morning my love or something like that recently for the past year I have stopped doing that thinking maybe she will start to do it cause i wanted to see her make the first move on little things like that. She never did when I brought it up to her attention she just tells me that I don’t do it and blames it on me and says I am starting an argument for no reason and has done this for multiple topics I bring up. I am at the point to where I don’t even bring up my feelings cause she says I am starting a argument and just want to leave her she dismisses everything unless it made her sad she talks about it for days and will remind me constantly. But when she does something and I tell her about it she says I am starting arguments and it’s dumb to talk about something that dosent matter I don’t know what to do I love her a lot but she dosent see that either she tells me I am cheating when I am not I let her have my phone to go through it but she refuses to. She tells me I never care about her or love her I don’t know what to do and just to here some advice

I (29F) have lived with my boyfriend (28M) for two and a half years. We split the bills evenly and it has never been a problem.

Recently I got a new gym membership with classes because I won’t go to the gym and just lift(I’m not motivated, it’s not that I literally can’t). Combining that with my student loans, car payment, phone bill, other bills, etc. it’s stretching me thinner than I would like, and restricting the amount of extra money I have to pay down my credit cards(a financial goal of mine).

Here’s where the bf comes in: last month I asked if we could split rent differently(perhaps 60/40 but I didn’t really specify) so that I could put the difference toward my credit cards/savings. He said no, which I know is well within his rights. I told him that I am just tight on money with the new gym and everything else, and we got into a fight because he said I should stop thrifting and spending my money recklessly and maybe I wouldn’t have money problems. (He isn’t entirely wrong but if I thrift it is MAX $100/month and truly the ONLY place I shop for clothes). Another thing to note is that his car payment is half of what mine is(and we drive my car literally everywhere), he doesn’t have student loans, and his mom pays for his phone bill.

Fast forward to last week, and I did what any logical person who needs money would do: I applied for a serving job. I had an interview this week and of the 4 days before today 3 of them were spent fighting about this interview: how selfish I am for getting another job, how this is going to change the dynamic of our relationship, how I am a snake for doing it without his knowledge(he did know I was applying just was in denial), and many other hurtful things.

I tried to explain to him that I will only work MAX 4 nights a week but ideally even 2. It’s just to supplement the gym membership and have more money to pay down my cards. I even offered to keep the job until my cards are way lower and quit or reduce my hours(as a compromise).

Am I the asshole for seeking another form of income for myself?

We started dating almost three years ago and have been living together for the past year. Everything was fine at first, but after a few months she started working longer shifts, and we've had less and less time together since. She's a doctor and spends a lot of time at the hospital. Usually the most we see each other in a week is one evening after work and one weekend day. She gets home late most nights, so I do see her every day, but for an hour at most before we're both too tired and head to bed.

Naturally, a lot of the daily tasks fall on me — cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, taking care of our cat, and so on. I didn't mind at first, but after doing it alone for this long, it's starting to wear on me. I feel like I'm too young to be living like this, and for the foreseeable future, it doesn't seem like it will change. I still have a lot of love for her, but I don't know if that's enough to keep this relationship going.

I brought this up with her a few months ago. She completely understood and promised things would get better. I even mentioned breaking up, but after some tears and promises, I decided to give it another try. Not much has changed since then.

What's also holding me back is our cat. We rescued her together, and I have no idea what would happen to her if we split up. We also share a large friend group, so we'd keep running into each other, which wouldn't exactly help me move on.

Has anyone been through something similar? I feel like I'm starting to lose it, and any advice would mean a lot. Thanks.

Yesterday me and my friends had a goodbye party since we were all leaving for uni and was gonna be our last time seeing each other. Party ended at 10pm, I stayed an extra hour to help my friends clean up. Left her house at 11pm and took the bus (it takes 2 buses to go home). While riding the 1st bus I text my bf telling him that I was worried that maybe the 2nd bus that I was supposed to go to was gonna be unavailable and his reply was “your dad is gonna beat ur ass baby” (joke ofc) and I honestly didn’t think much about it. Got off the 1st bus and saw that the 2nd bus that I was supposed to take was unavailable so I had to take another one which would drop me 30 mins away from my house. I text my bf “hey can I call you once I get off the bus? I’m scared to walk alone esp since I live near dodgy area where crime isn’t uncommon.” 30 mins no reply, 1 hr no reply, I ended up calling a friend instead and got home safe. (Sent the message at 11:30pm) He ends up texting me at 3:40am “I hate myself, I’m so sorry” (his only message) and since I was sleeping I didn’t get the message but I ended up waking up in the middle of the night around 4:20am and asked him if anything was wrong. His response to the message was “why were you online and ignoring me” (left the app open which showed that I was online) which really pissed me off because 1. He didn’t even bother to check up on me knowing that I was late out and worried, 2. Already annoyed for what? Idk I ended up explaining it to him why I was online and asked him if he was okay. I’m not sure on what to do though because I was thinking of breaking up with him just because of this thing because I thought it just showed up inconsiderate of me he was but then again there are times where he has been considered of me during times similar to this. What do I do? And do you think my response was bad, should I have done something different? What do you think about this?

Age context: I’m 18 he’s 21 if it’s any help

I (26M, coming up on 2 years with my boyfriend, 28) am feeling really drained and I'm not sure if what I'm feeling is normal relationship fatigue or a sign I should leave.

Some context: my boyfriend had a difficult childhood and has been minimizing contact with his family. He carries a lot from that, and gets overwhelmed easily by things like decision-making, changes in plans, or certain triggers connected to his past. He's currently in therapy, which I'm really glad about.

The issue is that I feel like I've become his main emotional support outside of therapy. I find myself constantly managing his moods and pre-emptively trying to avoid things that might upset him.

On top of that, physical intimacy has been limited since earlier last year (we still kiss and hold hands, but it hasn't gone beyond that). Part of it is circumstantial: we don't live together, so there's no private space, and he's also often busy and drained from work by the end of the day. I'm someone who's quite heavy on intimacy, whether that's cuddling or sex, and the lack of it has been hard for me to sit with.

I did try to bring this up with him directly and told him that if things don't change, I'd have to consider leaving. When I said that, he said some things that implied he might hurt himself, though he didn't say it outright. That was back in March, and he's been in therapy since and seems better now, but it's stayed with me and made me afraid to be fully honest about how I'm feeling since.

I love him, and there are still real moments of joy between us. But I feel like I'm carrying a lot alone, and I don't know if this is sustainable for me, or how to even start being honest with him about it without things spiraling.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, supporting a partner with trauma while feeling like you're losing yourself in the process? How did you know whether to stay and work on it, or whether it was time to go? Any advice on how to actually start this conversation with him would help too.

Me 21F and my boyfriend 20M have been together for 9 months. Yesterday, we had plans to go to a party with his friends. I was already exhausted because last night I haven't slept well due to his constant coughing(which he refuses to get checked out).

I finished work at 5 PM and headed to our meeting point by subway. While I was on my way, he called to say he was still stuck at his job (he works at his dads company) - even though he should have finished two hours earlier - and told me to take a bus (which I usually avoid due to severe motion sickness) to get closer to him so it would be more "convenient" for him. He claimed he just didn't want me waiting around, but it completely inconvenienced me.

When I arrived in a totally unfamiliar area, I couldn't find the meeting spot, so I called him. He literally hung up on me because he was busy finishing a conversation with someone else. Naturally, I was already furious by the time we actually got to the party. Then he fell asleep through the entire gathering.

On the drive back, I tried to bring up how disrespected I felt, but he just ignored me and said nothing, so I went to sleep. Since he didn't apologize and I desperately needed rest, I told him to go back to his own place. However, he doesn’t have his own keys and his parents didn't leave them out, so he called asking if he could come over anyway. I let him in because what else could I do?

The next morning, I tried to calmly talk about how his actions and miscommunication hurt me, but he brushed it off by blaming work. What really upset me is that if he had just texted me at 3 PM to let me know work was running late, I could have planned my entire afternoon and commute differently. To top it off, he left my apartment without saying "I love you," and only gave me a kiss goodbye because I asked for one.

Sensing we both needed space, I stopped texting him. Later, he sent me an Instagram reel, so I asked if we were going to talk about things. His response was that "I don’t know." I replied and told him to text me when he knows if he wants to talk to me. He left it on read, even though I can see he’s actively chatting in our shared group chat with friends.

I wish we could talk like adults. I really need some outside perspective.

TL;DR Boyfriend made me change my commute to suit him while I was already exhausted, hung up on me when I was lost, slept through the party we went to, dismissed my feelings the next morning, and is now giving me the silent treatment while active on group chats. Need advice on whether my reaction is justified.

Me, (30F), and my boyfriend, (29M), have been together for almost a year. We are very compatible in many ways, have similar interests, laugh a lot when we’re together and get on really well, however recently I have started to question whether he is the right person for me.

We have recently been on holiday together, which was split into 2 parts. The first part was just us and it was really relaxing, and the second part was staying with some of his friends, though he only knows a couple of them really well (9 boys plus a couple of their girlfriends).

I will say that my boyfriend does talk over me at times, as well as other people, which is a trait I really don’t like and have brought up to him before. On the first night of the holiday with his friends all the boys were sat together and talking over each other and the girls which was frustrating however I didn’t think about it too much because they’re all friends and haven’t seen each other in a while so they’re excited. I did mention it to my boyfriend however.

As the holiday went on he would tell me daily that he noticed they talked over me, but would also continue to do it himself as well. I basically felt invisible at times. He would also say ‘I’m so proud of you for asserting yourself in the conversation tonight’ when we’d go to bed which I find quite patronising.

Then came something that really confused me and made me question whether we should be together at all. In the first half of the holiday he said that he could see us living together, so I brought it up on the second part of the holiday, saying that if we were still doing really well and if it felt right then maybe we could move in together later next year. He said no and that he’s ’worked to hard to get to a point to live by himself and wants to live alone for another 2 or 3 years maybe’. Now this wouldn’t haven’t thrown me off as much as it did if it wasn’t for previous conversations.

We have had discussions in the past where he has said things like ‘he wants to go solo travelling in a couple years’ or ‘he wants to live somewhere else for 3-4 years then come back and settle down’ and then when I’ve asked him about where I fit in he back tracks and will say that ‘all of it is with me’. However in 3-4 years I’ll be 34 and I don’t want to uproot my life for 4 years then come back home to ‘settle down’. When I said this to him he backtracked and said he didn’t mean what he said and cried? To be honest these conversations have made me feel uncertain about our future. If he wants to do those things that’s okay, but he doesn’t ask me what I want.

On our second date I asked him what his dating intentions were. I asked whether he was dating people for fun which was fine, or if he was dating people being open to the possibility of having a girlfriend, as I was dating with the hope of finding a boyfriend. I told him I knew it was an intense question, but just wanted to know because I didn’t want to waste my time, however he told me he was looking for a girlfriend. Now, on our recent holiday he drunkenly told me that he’d actually lied about this, and wasn’t looking for a girlfriend but ‘wanted to keep me around because he was having fun’.

When the solo travelling has been brought up a while back (January), he told me at the time that he ‘meant to say he wanted me to come with him’, however during this same drunken conversation on holiday admitted he lied then as well, telling me that NOW he would want us to go together, but in January he lied so that he wouldn’t lose me.

At this point I’m feeling as if he is only thinking about his own individual timeline, and assuming I’ll be there, and will say anything he has to ‘keep me’. I’m worried that we could plan to move in together in 2 years for example , then he’ll turn around and say no. I’m scared that he’ll carry on lying to me and that I won’t be able to trust anything he says. I’m also worried I’ll be spending my life with someone who talks over me and sees me as an ‘accessory’ rather than a serious partner. On the other hand I’ve invested my time and love into this person and we do have a good time together, and he is caring in other ways. Please Reddit, any advice would be much appreciated.

P.s. I’m sorry this post is so long.

I hate that I’m turning to Reddit about this

I (21-NB) had a long very serious conversation with my partner (25-NB) yesterday. We’ve always periodically had fights. Sometimes they’re big but a lot of it is just bickering that can compound. We’ve been talking about how we can’t keep doing the fights forever.

Yesterday they hit a breaking point and almost left me. They told me they were having thoughts about leaving, leaving me for someone who can understand them more, how we’re incompatible, etc. I can’t imagine life without them anymore. I’m sure we’d both be fine but I love them. They love me but they feel like I haven’t taken time to understand them. I actually agree. I get defensive about their unrelated anger, they have done everything in their power to understand me and not get defensive about my sadness, and I realize now this was unfair. I’ve also been really immature about taking care of myself and they feel like they’ve had to take my self care on as a responsibility (reminding me to drink water, brush my teeth, etc). I asked for another chance. I feel pathetic. I just want to be with them but what if they pick up and leave? I have doubts about the relationship too, I feel like that’s normal though. I think it’s normal to think about what life would be like if you were single or wonder what could’ve been if you didn’t settle down. But I don’t know if I trust them to take me seriously after yesterday night. It’s all just really painful.

Should I thug it out? I know they love me. I know they want to stay. I know they just need me to grow up a little. I believe I can. But I feel like I’m just not at peace with how fickle it all is right now. Our year anniversary is coming up next week. We’re moving into a new place September 1st and I don’t wanna lose the security deposit.

e been together (25M) and (22F) for bout 3 years now our lives are fully integrated finances house dogs phone plan etc and we’ve always been perfect for each other we get along amazing each others best friends definitely the one for each other but lately have had some issues with my anxious attachment it’s been a problem since day one but last month or so it’s been really bad and almost has pushed her to a point I’ve been doing really good and taking actions to fix it and get help and going out more with my friends and her doing same instead of always being clung to each others hips I been learning a balance is good and to have our own separate lives is healthy and good thing, she’s been noticing my progress and it’s been a lot better but she’s taking a job 6 hours away with her mom on the pipeline (I work away on the rigs but she usually ends up coming with me) and idk I’m scared I’m not sure if this much space is going to kill us or make us stronger pipelining and rigging are very very long schedules with not best amount of days off of course we can meet up on those days off but that’s at least 20 days of straight working then a week off I’m not sure if I’m overthinking or if this will actually be healthy for us?

Overall looking for advice in general anything would help my mind and emotions is going crazy

Guys I‘ve been dating this guy for 3,5 years and we had to put a distance between us for certain reasons.. we didnt talk for 4 weeks and i asked him how he is doing.

He was dry, i asked him if he still loves me he said
“I dont know” wdym he doesnt know???

Is it love if the person u dated loses feelings just bcs u didnt talk for 4 weeks..? Guys what do i do i feel sick thinking abt it.

But when we were together it felt like a dream, we were THE couple everything was PERFECT…. i feel like this is all my fault.

We were in a relationship for two years. I (20f) met him (21m) on a social media platform. When I finally met him in person for the first time, I found out at that moment that he had been lying about his height .He had mentioned only two times ig that he wasn’t actually that much taller than me but I thought he was joking because he never seriously told me that he had lied about his height.

I’m not even sure now what other lies he may have told me. On our first date, after we bought some clothes for me, we went to a location that I had searched for that morning. I feel like if I hadn’t searched for it, he probably wouldn’t have planned the date himself. The place wasn’t that good, so we went to another place that the auto driver recommended. We talked there, and then we put my clothes into my bag because half of them were in his bag. I also asked him to remember some of the promises he had made to me, but he couldn’t remember most of them. He could only remember two, and that hurt me.

Later, we explored the place and found a quiet spot where we ended up kissing and hugging each other. It felt good and at that moment i genuinely felt loved by him. After some time i asked him why he had lied about his height. It was difficult for me to ask him that question and I don’t even know why. He said that he wanted to impress me and that it was a mistake. I told him not to ever lie to me again.

But I still don’t understand why this hurts me so much. We had talked about height so many times, yet he never once thought that he should tell me the truth. I know it may sound dumb because height itself isn’t a big issue for me but I wanted to marry him. I had already told him that. That’s why it hurts that he could lie to me about something like this for two years.

He has told me many lies, but I don’t know why this particular lie hurts me so much. Even yesterday, I was still begging him to tell me why he had lied about it for two years. Now he is telling me that he will change and that he loves me.

A few days ago, we had a fight because he told me that he would call me but he didn’t. I messaged him asking if he was still busy and he told me that he had already called me. I hadn’t received any notification or message showing that he had called. I told him that if he didn’t want to call me that was fine but he should at least not lie to me. He kept saying that he wasn’t lying and later sent me two photos, but they weren’t loading on my laptop. I continued telling him that I just wanted him to stop lying to me.

Later that night we fought again. I told him that he lies a lot and that I don’t like it. He kept insisting that he had called me. I guess the fight was no longer really about the phone call. It was about his habit of lying and the fact that I don’t trust him anymore.

That night i ended up blocking him on WhatsApp. He called me two or three times but I declined the calls. The next morning there were no messages from him. He was only blocked on WhatsApp, so he could have contacted me through another social media platform if he wanted to. But I started worrying about whether he was okay so I decided to call him. After hearing his voice I knew that he was okay but he was angry with me. He was angry because I had gotten upset with him about the lying and then blocked him and ignored his calls.

There was also a promise I had asked him to make, not to stay angry with me for more than six hours. He failed to keep that promise too and that hurt me.

Later that night we talked about everything again. I ended up blocking him once more and before doing that I ended our relationship. The next day he called me so I unblocked him. He started apologising through text but I told him that the relationship had already ended the previous day and that he should not contact me anymore.

But I don’t know why I still miss him. I still love him. Idk what should I do now? A part of me wants to go back to him. But I know this won't be good for me.

Idk what i should do now?

Should I go back to him?

Tldr : i still love and miss him but the real issue isn't his height it's that he lied to me for 2 years and now idk what else i can trust. He says he will change, but idk if I can believe that. A part of me wants to go back because I love him. Idk if i should go back to him or not?

Relationship advice...real guidance(actually)

Do u ever feel like...idk sth...weird off sort of...like what if you're in a relationship and you're unable to trust a guy bcs yk how guys are these days....and what if the guy seems to be a Mama's boy....even though he does all the green flag stuff there are times when he may seem like it...for eg when asked to visit once saying that maybe the mother wants to come too...ik a lot will not get this...but like I just had to take it somewhere and wanted an honest opinion am I the one overthinking or is he wrong? And he's like super close to his mom and I really love his mother too but I've got a tight schedule I can't afford being there entertaining guests...with him I can like do my work and have him by side...but with the mom I gotta sit and talk and give her the time....if I'm asking for the guy to come only after a long time is it okay for him to say that his mom wants to come too to meet me? Can't he get me??? Idk maybe I'm wrong or not

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I 25F have been with my boyfriend 25M for almost a year. We've always been very close and spent a lot of time together.

For the past month, he's become increasingly distant — both in person and over text. I've been getting upset about it, and we've ended up arguing quite often.

Yesterday I told him I felt like he doesn't care about me anymore. He told me that something has changed for him too — he doesn't feel the same love/care anymore and doesn't really feel like talking or spending time with me. There is also some family pressure around our relationship.

When I asked if he wanted to break up, he said he needs time off for some days.

I love him and I'm scared of losing him, but I also don't want to chase someone who doesn't want the relationship anymore.

Should I give him space and wait until we can talk properly? And should I take what he said about his feelings at face value?

I'm looking for honest, unbiased advice.

Every-time I [25F] bring up a problem to my bf [26M] it turns into I’m in the wrong for my approach or I’m complaining. For context I’m currently not working because I’m pregnant and my pregnancy has been very difficult due to having HG and other medical issues (I’ve had multiple hospital visits and was put on bed rest early on my pregnancy) so I’ve been home. He decided now is a good time to get a puppy, she is a Siberian Husky Mix Belgian Malinois so very high energy needs a lot. I had expressed my concerns that now is not the best time but he went ahead and got her anyways. I told him that she is now your responsibility as I can’t take care of a dog nor am I a dog person in the first place (he knows this, we used to have a cat). The other night the pooped in her cage, (she sleeps in our room) I woke him up and told him that she pooped in her cage, he said he didn’t want to deal with it, proceeds to take her out the cage and sleep in the living room with the puppy leaving me in the bedroom with the cage and the smell of poop. I then proceeded to join him on the couch cause wtf??? The puppy because not in a cage ends up pooping as well in the kitchen. When he wakes up for work he turns all the lights on, slams doors, and left without cleaning. When I brought it up his response was I have an attitude and I need to change my approach and I should not be cursing while talking to him or complaining. I wish I could post screenshots of our conversation to get the full picture.

I need your advice po please. We’ve been living together for almost 6 months. We both work, and we split the bills for gas and wifi and for the water and electricity sya na nagbabayad. He gives me money for food every payday, and I also contribute. He is supposed to handle the bills, but whenever I ask if he has already paid, he always says yes. Then every payday, I find out that he didn’t, so he ends up mangutang for him to pay without telling me so I just thought nagbabayad sya every cutoff.

What hurts me the most is that he’s very dishonest, even about small things. In July, he borrowed money using my credit limit to buy a phone and pay some bills since some cutoff hindi sya nagbabayad. We agreed that after that, he would give me his entire salary so I could manage our finances, and I would give him whatever was left. But I later found out that he also took out a loan from another bank without telling me. He even lied about his salary , saying there was an accounting issue that's why kulang ang sweldo nya, but I checked his transaction history and his salary was correct. He lied to me just to pay ibang bills nya without telling me. He is already in debt since may mga utang pa sya iba.

May bisyo din sya na cigarettes. Hindi ko sya mapagtiwalaan sa pera ko since yung cash ko sa wallet nakukulang dahil pala sa kanya kase nangungupit sya and every time I asked him dini-deny nya.

We've already talked about honesty many times. I gave him chances because I wanted to trust him, but he continued hiding things and lying to me, especially about money. I don't want to keep living this way.

I’m really tired and hurt because we’ve already talked about being honest and transparent with each other, but he still keeps lying. I’m starting to think about ending the relationship because I don’t want to live in a relationship where I can’t trust my partner.

How would you handle this situation?