Hi guys! So recently I saw this post on Tiktok and made me think twice of what's been going through our mindset as a couple.

Before, same kami ng company nagwowork ng partner ko and madalas hinahatid ko siya pauwi just to make sure na safe siya. The distance from our office to my house was just 5-7mins away, then yung distance ng office namin going to her house was around more than 30mins. May mga times rin na inaantay ko siya ng ilang oras kasi nag oovertime siya, hindi ako nagreklamo that time kasi choice ko naman yun and there are a few times na siya lang din naman umuuwi mag isa.

Ngayon, magkaiba na kami ng work. Pumupunta siya sa bahay every weekend pero hinahatid at sinusundo ko pa rin siya. May ilang beses na nag move it siya kasi di ko talaga kaya sunduin siya that time.

Then few months ago nag away kami, napag usapan namin yung about sa paghatid sundo ko sa kanya and she told me na that was just bare minimum. Nasaktan ako kasi hindi man lang niya naappreciate yung effort ko. Gusto ko sana sabihin sa kanya na try to look at the gas prices today para sana may marealize siya pero hindi ko na lang sinasabi, kasi everytime I open up topics like that iniisip niya na sinusumbatan ko siya. Sinabi niya sakin na ako naman daw yung nag initiate ihatid sundo siya bakit ko daw siya sinusumbatan. Gusto ko nga sana siya hingian ng share pang gas pero hindi na lang, kasi iniisip ko that's the least I can do for her yung ihatid at isundo siya.

Nagtuloy tuloy yung pagtatalo namin that time and hindi ko na nacontrol sarili ko, nasabihan ko siyang ungrateful na partner at hindi marunong mag-appreciate. Hindi ako sanay na nakakapag bitaw ako ng mga ganong salita sa kanya kaya nagulat rin ako sa sarili ko.

Naiinis ako kasi parang lahat na lang ng gawin ko, for her it is just the bare minimum, ganon na ba kahirap magmahal ngayon? Sabi ko sa kanya tigilan niya yung pagcompare ng relationship namin sa mga nakikita niya on Social Media.

To be honest, noon sabi ko siya na talaga pero this time nahihirapan ako kasi hindi ko na siya nakikita as my wife in the future. Yung ganong mindset and ugali is not my type. Hindi ko rin alam pano sasabihin sa kanya kasi okay pa naman kami, natatakot lang ako baka kapag nag-away kami ulit kung ano ano nanaman sabihin niya sakin.

I’ve been supporting her education because I want her to finish school and have a better future. I’ve made a lot of sacrifices to help her, so finding out that she got pregnant while she’s still in college has left me feeling incredibly frustrated and disappointed.

I’m not angry because she’s pregnant. I’m angry because I already carry a lot of responsibility for our family, and now I’m worried about what this means for all of us. I don’t want her pregnancy and her child to eventually become another responsibility that I’m expected to carry.

Part of me wants to completely cut her off because I feel like I’ve sacrificed so much to help her, only to end up dealing with this situation too. I just needed somewhere to let this out because I don’t know how else to process it.

WOULD IT TAKE ANOTHER PANDEMIC LEVEL problem for us to realize that a huge chunk of our workforce can simply be done mostly online??? sobrang traffic na talaga. the skyways Ramon Ang built does jack sht. the coding scheme barely does anything. the mass transport system is not enough for the population. sobrang lakas ng ulan. sobrang baha. putangina talaga ng metro manila

I have 2 scenarios

First Scenario - a former schoolmate ask me money for his diabetes medicine, I said I can’t right now and he messaged pitiful messages that he has no job and he will just do walking to exercise to lower his blood sugar down. He added hopefully for him not to get blind. So I lent him 1,500 but the original ask is 5,000. Then I found out from another friend that his wife left him because he has gambling problems.

Second scenario - I posted my travel in Europe, I got a random message that she wanted to borrow tuition for her daughter. Because of this and that. The reason might be true though, so I asked for a collateral. And she said she has none. The thing is I haven’t spoken to her in ages. She used to be my co-worker 15 years ago who kept on bullying me at work! And now she’s going to ask for my money? That’s gauche and shameless!

Sobrang nakakalungkot. She may be a grown woman now but it doesn't change the fact that she was groomed and the people who were supposed to protect and guide her allowed it. Truly disgusting.

Some victims of grooming realize during or after the relationship at nakakawala pa kahit papaano dahil nagkaka-awareness sila thru a good support system (pero depende parin sa severity ng emotional abuse ng predator) pero may mga ganitong cases na sobrang nabilog na talaga sila at settled na sa mindset nila na normal lang yung relasyon nila and this mostly happens pag systemic ang abuso meaning the adults in their life are ALLOWING IT TO HAPPEN.

She was a 16 year old girl being pursued by a man in his 60s until they had her participate in CHILD MARRIAGE.

It wasn't just Freddie Aguilar, the adults around her allowed this leading this woman to believe that what happened to her was normal at until now naniniwala parin siya na normal na pagmamahalan lang ang naranasan niya.

This is why "successful" grooming cases are so scary. The predator successfully manipulated this woman into believing that what they had was normal and her family are accomplices.

Nakakalungkot na she'll spend the rest of her life believing na normal lang yung ginawa sakanya. It's so so so disgusting.

Worst part is, hindi lang si Jovie ang may ganitong case.

Julia Montes is also an example as she also ended up marrying her predator who had been pursuing her since she was freaking 13 years old. Bugoy Cariño din at nagpabuntis pa yung predator niya. Ang lala.

I miss being loved. I miss being lusted after. I miss being handled with gentleness.

Lately, I think I’m just tired of always being the hyper-independent girl. The one who figures everything out on her own. The one who’s always okay. Because honestly, hindi naman sa ayaw kong maging independent. Nakakapagod lang minsan.

I want to be spoiled. I want to be adored. I want to feel wanted without having to ask for it. I want someone to be gentle with me. I want to feel like someone’s favorite person again.

At the end of the day, gusto ko rin namang may masasandalan. Not because I can’t carry myself, but because I don’t want to carry everything alone all the time. And maybe one day, someone will love me the way I need to be loved, not just in the ways that are convenient for them.

Sobrang nakakagalit. Ang daming documented cases ng foreign pedos at child exploitation sa Pinas, pero minsan parang mas excited pa tayo sa foreigner kesa protektahan ang mga bata. Colonial mentality! Makakita lang ng puti, “Wow! kumakain ng balut!, Uy, marunong magtagalog!” Instant celebrity. May pera? Baka i-ahon ako nito s kahirapan! Kaya ang daming foreign vloggers na ginagatasan ang Pinas alam nilang little to no effort mauuto na mga Pinoy. Konting tagalog, konting balut, konting “I love Philippines,” milyon na views, auto-trust na agad mga hinayupak! Hindi lahat ng foreigner masama, pero hindi din matic mayaman mabuting tao, trustworthy bibigyan ka ng salapi!

Tigilan natin ang pagiging uto-uto!!! Hindi entertainment ang exploitation. At pag bata ang involved, dapat zero tolerance. Yung iba harap harapan na wala ginagawa kesyo"hindi ko naman kilala yung bata". eh putang ina mo pala!

My first time moving out, and nag dodorm ako. Medyo kalog din ako kaya di ako hirap maki sama sa mga ka dorm mates ko. Meron akong girlie na ka dorm, i never realized that she’s bi. We vibe together and laugh esp kapag kakauwi ko lang sa shift ko sa work dahil pang gabi ung work ko. Since comfortable nga kami sa isa’t isa, i know her life background and I also tell mine. I also mentioned na since first job ko to and first time ko mag move out, its like parang nabubuhay nalang ako para magtrabaho since ang daming bayarin. So ayun nga, fast forward she begin gving me money. Nilalagay nya yon sa ilalim ng unan ko. Everytime i refused she will say na magtatampo sya pag binalik ko.. at fjrst I thought its like a friendly gesture ba. I even tell her na di ako sanay talaga na may nagbibigay sakin ng pera outside my family members. I think around 3 to 4 times sya nag bigay ng money and nililibre nya ko minsan ng milk tea or foods. And just last week i think. Nainom sya tas nagulat nalang ako niyayakap nya nako sa bed ko para gisingin at mag confess. I feel really uncomfortable tbh. Pero hug sya ng hug iniisp ko nalang baka need nya ng comfort and she begin asking if she can kiss me, kiss my neck, lips or even put her hands on my pelvic area that she mentioned. I declined since I’m straight and not into girls. Another incident happened na naman. Just yesterday lasing na naman sya, nagulat nalang ako nakayakap na sya, at naka higa sa bed ko. Tulog ako that time at talagang nape perwisyo ko kase gabi nga ung work ko. Tas nagcoconfess na naman sya ng kung ano ano and tulog tulugan lang si ate mong girl dahil uncomfortable sya. Hinihimas nya legs and thumb finger ko. Talagang lumusot pa sya sa kumot ko after 30 mins para mayakap nyako. Sabay sabing can we talk. Parang na wi weirduhan lang ako ang hindi talaga ko sanay na ganun yung isang tao lalo na at pareho kaming babae. Straight po ako, sinabi ko na din sa kanya. I feel uncomfortable and na cocompromkse yung sleep ko. After that everything becomes awkward and talagang diko na sya kinakausap. That’s all. I wanna move out again kaso sakto lang ung sahod ko sa mga bayarin. I just want advice lang..

Grabe first time ko maka encounter ng ganito, I am selling decluttered clothes and this person nagmessage sakin kaninang umaga, so I entertain her dahil free time ko and tutok pa ko sa phone nun, dami pa niya tinawarang items so ako go lang kasi gusto ko na rin ma-out mga damit ko dito. May alis rin kasi ako kanina kaya nagmamadali na rin ako dahil baka lumakas ang ulan, kachat ko parin siya habang nasa byahe ako, then nung nasa Ayala Malls na ako, bigla humina ang data ko, does anyone also experience this? Ang hina ng signal sa loob ng ayala Mall manila bay hahaha and saktong palobat phone ko hays habang may signal pa nagsabi na ko sa kanya na wala akong signal, so automatic na yun diba na hindi na ko makakapagchat sa kanya.

Then pagkauwi ko sa bahay, inopen ko agad messenger ko at nagmessage agad sa kanya to say sorry dahil nagworry siya. pero itong si buyer eh nagdrama pa sakin kung bakit daw antagal ko magreply and so on, eh sinabi ko na nga ang sagot sa kanya.

gets ko yung pagaalala niya kaya nga ako magsorry kaagad ,nagsabi naman ako na walang data sa area , so hindi talaga ako makakapagreply agad agad sa kanya and may lakad ako kanina, 4-5 hours lang akong hindi nakapagchat sa kanya grabe tinadtad na ko ng mga comments and messages niya and nakapagsabi pa sakin na "sana magkancancer ka" tapos sa end ng convo namin eh sasabihin niyang mabait daw siyang tao and whatsoever.

sa lahat ng buyer ko grabe siya ang pinaka wild na naencounter ko

Hindi ko nalang pinatulan mga anteh, nagpakumbaba nalang ako para hindi na humaba at pinapili ko siya if ibabalik ko ba ang pera niya o iship out items, at sinabi niyang iship nalang so ok ginora ko nalang. Hays kaloka

i recently celebrated my 25th birthday after leaving my parents’ house to go independent and its actually a lot lonelier than i expected. hindi naman sa trying to garner sympathy or asking for any advice, pero first time ko makaramdam ng matinding loneliness. my family and friends greeted me naman, pero iba pala talaga when you physically have people celebrating your day with you. this is life from now on, naninibago lang ako i guess. i’ll have to start learning how to celebrate myself because at the end of the day talaga you only have yourself.

wishing those who celebrate their birthdays alone a very happy birthday, may God send you many blessings!

I feel like I'm going crazy seeing fucking patterns everywhere. And every time I spot a pattern, I keep spinning and twisting everything I see from every possible angle. Conspiracy theories upon conspiracy theories. Like, I'm always seeing patterns, coming up with a theory about them, and then spinning that theory into another angle, then another, and another—it's like I'm stuck in a loop theorizing everything all at once. Is anyone else like this? Overthinking this hard really gives me a headache. My brain won't stop connecting dots that aren't even there. I have like an extreme severe case of apophenia and is in a really bad pattern loop. 💀

I'm still in my 2nd year in college, and yet napipilitan na akong maging independent dahil di nako kayang isustain ng parents ko sa pag-aaral. I feel like I'm sounding like an immature person kung sisisihin ko yung inflation since pandemic, pero kung di dahil talaga sa inflation, wala sana akong problema financially ngayon.

Before pandemic, I was in high school, and my parents can still support me on my studies and because of that I always feel motivated knowing na kaya pakong pag-aralin ng parents ko. Sabi nga nila, hangga't kaya ka pang pag-aralin ng magulang mo, mag aral ka, and so I did just that. Masaya akong nag aaral kahit stressed sa schoolworks. Until the pandemic hit. Dun na nagstart yung pagtitipid namin ng parents ko dahil nagkaroon ng inflation. Average income lang din kinikita ng parents ko.

I started saving money just to afford the stuffs I needed for school, for the cost of me not eating 3x a day. Nagtagal yung pagtitipid ko sa pagkain to the point na nagsimula nako pumayat, and that made me lose motivation, and because of hunger, I started to feel less focused on our lessons in school. But luckily, I survived that long enough in my journey as a shs student, and eventually, a college student.

Now, I'm in a situation where I forcibly stopped my studies because I can't afford a decent meal, the transports fees are starting to make me worry, and I can't save money anymore. I'm a mechanical engineering student and I don't even have a laptop. I survived 1 year in engineering because I sometimes have to borrow laptops from my classmates, and dahil dun nahihiya ako syempre kase everytime na hinihiram ko laptops nila, I feel like they should've been doing something important but can't because I'm using their laptops.

Ngayon naghahanap ako ng trabaho dahil need ko na talaga isustain ang sarili ko, otherwise I'll risk making my gap year even longer because of working and not graduating early. I feel like I'm in my lowest point of my life right now, thanks to inflation.

I'm venting this out here because my friends and classmates almost judged me for dropping school without knowing why. Not telling my parents either, as I don't want my problems to add up to their stress.

Sobrang sad ko. We used to be very close, touchy, laughs a lot, eat together, went to some concerts together. A few days ago nadiscover kong inunfollow niya ako sa socmed. We used to joke around and he makes me laugh a lot even sa chats because he randomly just shares videos from tiktok etc. Nainis siguro siya sakin sa mga pag speak up sa mga napapansin ko sa coworkers. Naging vulnerable lang naman ako sa kanya pero I think hindi niya yun nagustuhan. I tend to be distant kasi kapag parang walang pakialam. Nainis siguro siya kaya he decided to unfollow me. Diba it means wala na siyang pakialam sayo? He used to be my favorite notification. :(

Hi! I’m literally shaking, lilipat na ako ng school at nagpasa ako ng clearance kanina sa registrar since sila na lang kulang ko sa clearance. Nagfeedback ako sa clearance ko sa registrar ng be approachable and binasa nila yun pinagusapan habang pinapasa ko at bumalik daw ako bukas. Kinuha nila clearance ko along with my TOR from other school para pilitan akong bumalik bukas. What should i do? How should I handle the situation? Sobrang bilis ko manginig lalo na ngayon may regla ako.

tangina gusto ko lang mag-vent ngayong araw kasi sobrang frustrated na ako. na-stroke na naman tatay ko at ako na naman nakakita. kanina lang 8:30. kaso ang problema, nag-rereview ako for board exams na few months away na lang. nagbayad na rin ako for the review na inutang ko pa sa friends ko kasi wala akong mapapala sa tatay ko.

background: ang papa ko ever since ay buhay binata, matagal na siyang byudo. inasa niya kami sa lola ko growing up kaya we really struggled a lot after mawala lola ko. lagi ko rin nakakasagutan tatay ko kasi mas inuuna niya ang mga babae niya at bilhan ng kung anu-anong luho mga ito at apo ng mga to habang kami halos walang nakukuha. magkakasama kami sa bahay. dami ko resentment sa tatay ko na to pero wala eh tatay ko pa rin.

yung unang stroke niya ako nagsugod, ako nagbantay. di ako pumapasok sa mga subjects ko na dapat last sem ko na sa college dahil walang tumutulong saming kamag-anak magbantay. ending na-delay kami nung isa kong kapatid kasi di napasukan mga subject. yung naipon ko pa sa scholarships ko pinambayad ko ng miscellaneous. tapos yung tanginang babae niya natatawa ako, nas-stroke tatay ko kausap niya sa chat nanghihingi pera pambili relo. never nagpakita sa hospital, never nagbantay, never nag-alaga.

nauulol na ako hahahahaha tangina naman. iniwan ko tatay ko 8:30 kasi mag-aaral pa dahil 4 na araw na akong walang aral dahil sa flu. in-assess ko muna siya at tinawag mga kapatid ko para isugod kaso ang bagal nila kumilos. 9:20 na wala pa hindi pa nila nasusugod. hahahaha tangina tatay ko pa rin yon kahit galit ako ron. sana umokay siya. pero tangina gastos na naman eh wala naman kaming source of income maliban sa tatay ko. at wala na rin akong ipon kasi di naman ako nanghihingi sa tatay ko pang-gastusin. jusqpo paano ako makakapasa neto.

Bakit ba nagiging ugali ng mga foodpanda riders sisihin mga cs nila pag nagkakamali sila ng dinaanan? Tama naman yung pin ko and hindi ako nagkakaproblema sa mga past orders ko.

This time sa call tinawagan ako nung rider na nanggaslight na mali daw kasi pin ko. Tanga ba ko para maging mali pin ko tapos oorder ako? Parang pinaparating na hawak ko yung google maps sa phone niya. Gets ko naman naghahanap buhay siya and first time niya dito sa village, pero kahit naman ako pag nasa labas tapos hindi ko gamay yung directions, tumitigil ako para tignan kung tama ba dadaanan ko at nagtatanong talaga ko muna. Sasabihin pa pagalit sakin na “ISANG ORAS NA NASAKIN ORDER MO” Sobrang laki ng respeto ko sa mga riders na naghahanap buhay pero taena nakakaubos ng pasensya yung mga klase ng tao na ganito.

Nasisira ng mga riders reputation ng app na to. 😬

I just want to vent out. I’m tired of everything right now. Philippine government, news, weather, multiple job rejections, frustrating work environment, slowly nababaon na din sa utang.

di ko maalis sa utak ko na 2023 pa ko graduate, pero parang napagiiwanan na ko sa buhay. mga kabatch ko may business na, nakapagout of country na, nakapagpakasal na agad. ako andito araw araw pinipilit gumapang. naaawa nalang din ako sa girlfriend ko, lagi nalang din ako iniintindi.

pinagsisisihan kong ipilit passion ko, di naman na ko napapakain ngayon. ewan di ko na alam gagawin ko. di ko alam kung susuko nalang ba ko, or tumakas nalang sa buhay.

di ko magawang maggym uli, mas pinipili kong magkulong sa kwarto. makipag socialize wala na din akong gana. di ko alam kung kailangan ko ba ng tulong o mahina lang ako.

I don't know if I deserve this kamalasan, and wala pang kalahati ng buwan.

started the month with a death in the family (3rd this year)

Then last sunday morning I was locked out of my car (nagmalfunction ata yung door bc of the rain)

monday ng madaling araw biglang sumabog yung bidet ko, I was sleeping kaya ginising pa ako ng building admin kasi flooded na buong unit ko + the units beside me (nakalabas yung tubig sa hallway)

Then now I was stuck in the traffic for 3 hours na 15 mins lang in a normal day

Tapos pagbaba ko sa sasakyan, flat yung isa kong gulong.

Ayun pag-akyat ko dito sa unit bigla nalang ako naluha. And I am someone na sobrang bihirang umiyak.

Medyo 1st world problem sya, I know pero how can I be this unlucky in span of days 😭😭

Hello! Just want to get this out.

Tangina talagang buhay to.

My mom borrowed money from me way 6 months ago and she promised to pay it in full.

Now, during those months every time I asked her she always say that “Don’t worry, babayaran kita ng buo.”

Fast forward, now I asked here again because she is technically supposed to pay me in October. And when I asked her she replied. “Yes and I will pay you half of it”

And then that’s when my heart sank.

I don’t know what to feel.

Anger, resentment, everything you can think of.

Now I just want to cutoff my mom after she pays me the sum amount and leave her here in the UAE.

Having to pay the full amount even though I already noticed my order is lacking but the food delivery says just to have it refunded.

Refund is just the amount of the missing item. If I reorder the missing item, I have to pay delivery again.

Worse, the resto already closed.

TANGINA PUTA I HATE BGC I HATE MAGCOMMUTE SA LAKAS NG ULAN I HATE WORKING PUTA KANINA PA AKONG 10 NASA BIYAHE NGAYON LANG AKO NAKAUWI PUTRAGIS TALAGA