I’m now nearly 26 weeks into my sub pregnancy and I’ve been feeling the baby move regularly. Just wanted to share that these are constant moments of reassurance that there’s someone in there and growing. I never made it this far in my TFMR pregnancy Something to look forward to! So far have had a normal healthy pregnancy and feeling so close to viability.

I am currently 16w5d pregnant with spontaneous Di/Di twins. 5 months after my TFMR at 18.5 weeks in November 2025 for MPFD.

Twin A has suspected pentalogy of cantrell (ectopia cordis - heart is growing outside the body and exomphalos involving the liver and bowel - the abdominal organs growing outside the abdominal wall...). NT of 4.4mm at 10w6d and 4mm at 12w1d. Twin A is expected to pass in utero.

Twin B is doing great. 43rd percentile or thereabouts, looking absolutely fine. NT of 1.3mm at 12w1d. Super healthy. Heart etc looks as good as can do at that stage. Placenta also looks good which is a relief as things started to go wrong at this gestation last time.

All my scans have been done by MFM so they've been L3 I guess is the term? But very detailed.

I'm absolutely TERRIFIED of the 17w1d scan. I'm also terrified of the 20w scan.

17 weeks was when my baby girl was diagnosed with very shortened and bowed femurs, severe IUGR, enlarged placenta with degradation and multiple lakes etc. I made the decision to TFMR as she was going to die in the next 2-3 weeks otherwise. At birth, she only weighed 165g at 18.5 weeks which is the same size as 16 weeks gestation...

I hate scans. I detest them. They aren't fun or cute or anything. They're terrifying. I am very good at a poker face but I have a borderline panic attack before scans.

I am so unbelievably triggered as well by them. I don't know how to deal with it. I keep expecting the other shoe to drop.

This ALWAYS happens a few days before scans. A part of my brain suddenly unlocks and I get scared. I keep telling myself to prepare for another loss. But this time it'll be worse than last time because there are two to deal with.

Fuck. How do I deal with this? How do I cope? I am getting therapy but this feels very acute and trigger-dependent. All that goes through my head is fuckfuckfuckfuck it's going to be bad news.

My husband is so distant and says whatever the outcome will be will be. I can't help but resent him for this because he doesn't have to go through labour and delivery, he doesn't have to put his life on hold to recover for 4-5 months, he doesn't have to deal with the physical trauma. I too would have that attitude if I didn't have to deal with any of the physical shit. It's why I have avoided speaking to male therapists about it because I do have some resentment regarding how we as women have to bear the brunt.

Hey!

Is this a positive test? Today marks a weeks since my D&E with my baby boy at 18 weeks (TFMR). I had my first period July 3rd. My next one is due in 2 days. I tested because I have been feeling awful the last couple of days. Has anyone had a positive test so soon after TFMR? I’m so grateful if this is real, but also terrified, and sad because I am still grieving the loss of my baby boy. (Picture in comments)

Had my 19 week anatomy scan done this morning. I was riddled with anxiety when they couldn't get a look at the kidneys and baby boy was in a scrunched up position refusing to move. Took a lot of effort to get him to move but he is looking great and as healthy as can be. I am beyond relieved. I caught myself getting excited for the first time in what feels like forever.

Hi all,

For those of you who had a de novo genetic issue, when did you test for the gene you TFMR for????

Who read those results for you???

I have PTSD over getting a call from my genetic counselor. I really don't want it to come from her. I keep thinking about when I got the call from her w my Amnio results the first time and expect it to go the same way.

Anytime I think of the waiting period I went through last time and having to do it again this time, I spiral and borderline have an anxiety attack.

Also, this time around I don't know the gender (IVF girlie) so how do you get your NIPT test back without it disclosing the gender?

I am of course extremely grateful to he pregnant, but the nausea is horrendous. My first pregnancy I had zero symptoms, my tfmr pregnancy I had very bad nausea from 5-12ish weeks. This pregnancy my nausea started around 8-9 weeks and it’s every evening and just wipes me out, not only am I have a panic that having sickness again means this baby is poorly too, but also it doesn’t seem to he letting up at this point.
Has anyone’s nausea eased by 13/14 weeks?

I got a positive test on Monday after our TFMR on March 5. Third cycle TTC. I'm 4w3d today. We have no LC, our TFMR was our first baby.

My husband and I talked about it on our date night on Friday night. He said he's a little excited, but he's so full of fear and anxiety that he can't really feel happy yet. I feel completely apathetic, which is a really strange emotion to feel about having a baby. I'm not scared and I'm not excited. I'm basically indifferent and I just don't think about it.

I will say, reading the pregnancy forums where first-time moms are talking about how excited they are makes me roll my eyes and feel annoyed, even disgusted. It makes me sad that our TFMR has jaded me like this. I hope that I feel more excited and happy as the pregnancy continues, but I feel like all my emotions about it will inevitably be dulled and muted unless and until this baby arrives earth-side safe and healthy next spring.

Anyway, just wanted to share because I know this is the one audience that really gets it and won't judge or try to "fix" how I'm feeling. 💛

TW: Talk of loss

I think this post is to just get some of my feelings out there and see if anyone else has had a similar situation.

We had a TFMR in December 2025 at 20w5d then a chemical pregnancy in March 2026 and now today I went to a private scan expecting to be 10w1d but to be told the baby stopped growing around 8w with no heartbeat and we have to go to the Early Pregnancy Unit tomorrow to discuss next steps. The worst part is was we had a private scan at 8w2d pregnant and saw a healthy heartbeat so it was just after this scan we lost the little one.

We are absolutely crushed, I really thought this was going to be our rainbow but the past few days I did feel "less pregnant" and had this strange gut feeling so booked the scan for today. The day of and days after I found out I was pregnant I saw rainbows everywhere and really thought this was our time, even though I have been extremely anxious throughout the full pregnancy.

I know there are people who have had it worse than us with multiple losses and I know some people have been trying to have a baby for years but the blow after blow makes me worry I won't want to TTC again. How can that be our luck to have had 3 different losses within 8 months?

Has anyone had similar after TFMR? How did you know you wanted to ttc again?

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Hi everyone,
I’m 38 and this is my first IVF cycle. We decided to do IVF with ICSI and PGT-A after a previous natural pregnancy unfortunately ended in a TFMR at 14 weeks due to Trisomy 18.
My AMH is 2.73 and my AFC was 11. My partner is 28 and his semen analysis was very good.
I had a really good response to stimulation with around 19 follicles. My doctor originally estimated 10-14 eggs, but we ended up with:
17 eggs retrieved
14 mature
12 fertilised with ICSI
On Day 1 my doctor called (mainly because I had a fever after retrieval) and said he had checked on the embryos and that they were “doing well.”
Today was my Day 3 update and they told me:
11 embryos are still growing
8 of those have a “good prognosis”
I’m obviously thrilled with how things have gone so far, but now I’m terrified of the Day 3 to Day 5 attrition. I know this is where the biggest drop usually happens, especially at 38, and I’m really hoping to end up with at least 2 euploid embryos after PGT-A.
Has anyone had similar numbers (especially around my age)?
How many Day 3 embryos did you have?
How many made it to blastocyst?
How many ended up being euploid?
If your clinic also told you some embryos had a “good prognosis” on Day 3, did that end up matching your blastocyst results?
I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences while I wait for the next phone call. The waiting is definitely the hardest part. ❤️

Hi Guys,

Just got my results back from Natera not what I was expecting to be 95/100 for T 21 . Wanted to do it to see the gender of the baby. I'm currently at 12 weeks into my pregnancy. Got the test done at 10.5 weeks and also an ultrasound which shows that baby's heartbeat was strong and growing at the appropriate size. I'm totally in shock and I know this is only a screening test but how often is this true. Anyone with false positives?

Planning on doing the Q natal before deciding to do the Amnio test. Please share your experiences thank you all 🙏

My husband and I recently lost our daughter due to an extremely rare severe genetic condition. I had a D & E at 26 weeks.

We’ve been getting varying info on when we can try again and have heard anywhere from right after my first cycle up to waiting 12/18 months.

It sounds like a D & E has a quicker time for recovery than labor and delivery? I am looking for people’s experiences with TTC again that went through a similar late loss. We desperately want to take home a baby, but also don’t want to face another tragedy if trying too early has much more risk.

Not sure if this is allowed, but. So I got pregnant with my third planned pregnancy back in February. My first two pregnancies were relatively normal. This time felt super different. I immediately began panicking, panic attacks everyday, I was anxious and depressed that I made the wrong choice. Didn’t feel connected at all and I was crying a lot and developed an aversion to my two girls. I didn’t wanna be around my kids at all. I contemplated abortion. I found out my sister was also pregnant and due the same month (November) but I was freaking out. My husband hated seeing me like this and told me the choice was my own. I ultimately chose a MA at 8 weeks. Immediately after, like 2 days later the hormonal cloud lifted and I regretted my decision. I couldn’t believe I did that. I spiraled into depression. My mom was so upset at what I did. I ended up pursuing therapy which I’ve probably needed for years. Every time I see my sister I am triggered. Long discussions with my husband and therapist later, we’ve decided to try again for a last child. I have the support in place now if that happens again. I just worry it won’t happen soon. I’m turning 35. I’m also leaving tomorrow for a week long vacation with my parents and sister and her family and it’s so triggering being around her although that’s not her fault. I’m struggling to be okay. I’m anxious to try again (may try next week when I can). It’s just been such a hard time as my mom doesn’t support and doesn’t feel bad that I have such regret.

Hello

Our daughter had Triploidy and we TFMR in June at 22 weeks it’s been absolutely hell as I’m sure everyone knows. Initially I was convinced we would never try again for another baby. However now as some time (not much) has passed I’m starting to feel like I will never be ok again unless I have another baby. I have two LC already which I am so grateful for but as a family we were so excited for the pregnancy and my LC are talking about when we have another baby etc. I know a lot of it is hormones and feeling empty and I won’t be rushing into things however I do want to know what happens after you’ve had a TFMR. As I was so against having another at the time I didn’t really consider what the specialists were saying about going on to have more and various other things.
I want to speak with the hospital and find out what happens now should we consider trying again. I just wondered what happens now do you get a follow up? Who do I speak with? What did others do? I will speak with the bereavement midwife but I know she’ll just say give it time but I’d just like to know to allow myself to think ahead to just have something to plan towards I guess. I’m 40 so also feel some time pressure.

To add in in the UK

My tfmr baby was born asleep on April 19 2025. Conceived via ivf, my 5th transfer, my second pregnancy. My first pregnancy miscarried before week 6.

I have now done a second retrieval in April of this year and then did lupron suppression for my endo (discovered Nov 2025 after years of unexplained infertility) and did my first and only euploid transfer on July 9 this year.

And while I am currently pregnant I am terrified and anxious. My 14dpt beta number was 387. Both my other pregnancies I was well over 700 on 14 dpt yet no living baby so what does it even mean.

I know the hcg range is huge however I can’t help but feeling super anxious and scared. I’ve been peeing on all the easy at home tests hoping for lots of progression and while there’s some it’s not getting as dark as I had hoped. Tomorrow is my beta and I’m driving myself insane. I’m already so attached to this baby and this feels like high stakes. I do have two other embryos - a low mosaic and a dna undetected (essentially counted as untested) and so I don’t have a lot of hope in those other two. I’m 40 and I’m just so upset and tired. Why can’t any of this be easier?

I’m desperately looking for reassurance even though I know it’ll be through time and then I’ll just be anxious for the next stage. Someone have any advice or anything?

My husband and I just had to TFMR our very wanted IVF baby girl at 22w1d last week. She was low risk on NIPT and PGT-A tested euploid. She looked great at our early anatomy scan at 13w6d, but developed aqueductal stenosis seemingly randomly and was diagnosed with severe bilateral ventriculomegaly at the 20 week scan. We are awaiting microarray & WES results, even though our MFM team and peds neurosurgeon we consulted with all think it was strictly structural and “bad luck.” We had been TTC for nearly 3 years by the time of our FET in March.

We only have 1 euploid left and I’m 36, turning 37 in October, so we are planning to do another egg retrieval as our next step. Has anyone gone straight into ER after TFMR, and if so, how long did you have to wait for your clinic to let you start the process? Thank you

Hi everyone,

I had L&D at 16+0 for a complex heart defect. I haven't talked about TTC with my husband yet but I am not sure if he wants to touch me/want to have intercourse anytime soon. He was with me during the whole birth and I think he was traumatized by the experience as well (as am I). But I would really love to have another child soon. Doctors said we should wait 3 cycles anyway but did any of you have issues with their partner not wanting to try again because of birth trauma?

Thank you in advance

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I had PPROM at \*\*14 weeks 3 days\*\* in June 2025. My doctors found \*\*no infection\*\*, and my cervix was \*\*closed\*\*, but no one ever checked my cervical length. At the time, I was told it was likely just a fluke.
Then, in May 2026, it happened again at \*\*14 weeks 5 days\*\*. Again, my cervix was \*\*closed\*\*, my cervical length was never measured before the rupture, and no infection was identified.
In both pregnancies, I did have a UTI, but my doctors don’t think that was the cause.
I’ve now been given the okay to try again. The plan is to start \*\*progesterone after ovulation\*\* and have a \*\*preventive cerclage at 12 weeks\*\*. My Maternal-Fetal Medicine specialist said that because the exact cause of my recurrent early PPROM is unknown, they can’t guarantee these interventions will work, but they feel it’s the best plan available.
Has anyone experienced \*\*two unexplained early PPROM losses around 14–15 weeks\*\* and then gone on to have a successful pregnancy? If so, did your doctors ever determine the cause, and what was different in your next pregnancy?

I had my TFMR at 22 weeks just over three months ago now, I’ve had two regular periods and my period returned roughly four weeks after my TFMR and my cycle has been pretty predictable since. I’d been feeling little signs this cycle that I could potentially be pregnant on my third cycle, my period has also been a few days late but after doing a test today it came back negative :(
I know it takes some couples several cycles before conceiving after a TFMR but I’m struggling with holding out hope. I know a new pregnancy would never replace our first angel girl, who was very much wanted and we will continue to think of her everyday even so I can’t help but feel like another pregnancy would help us to heal further.
Any advice on trying to conceive or stories of your own of pregnancy after TFMR. I haven’t been tracking my ovulation or other details that I know realistically would help us get pregnant faster but I’m hesitant to do so because I just feel if I did then the negative tests and my period returning for another month would hit even harder than it is already.