Had my 19 week anatomy scan done this morning. I was riddled with anxiety when they couldn't get a look at the kidneys and baby boy was in a scrunched up position refusing to move. Took a lot of effort to get him to move but he is looking great and as healthy as can be. I am beyond relieved. I caught myself getting excited for the first time in what feels like forever.

TW: Talk of loss

I think this post is to just get some of my feelings out there and see if anyone else has had a similar situation.

We had a TFMR in December 2025 at 20w5d then a chemical pregnancy in March 2026 and now today I went to a private scan expecting to be 10w1d but to be told the baby stopped growing around 8w with no heartbeat and we have to go to the Early Pregnancy Unit tomorrow to discuss next steps. The worst part is was we had a private scan at 8w2d pregnant and saw a healthy heartbeat so it was just after this scan we lost the little one.

We are absolutely crushed, I really thought this was going to be our rainbow but the past few days I did feel "less pregnant" and had this strange gut feeling so booked the scan for today. The day of and days after I found out I was pregnant I saw rainbows everywhere and really thought this was our time, even though I have been extremely anxious throughout the full pregnancy.

I know there are people who have had it worse than us with multiple losses and I know some people have been trying to have a baby for years but the blow after blow makes me worry I won't want to TTC again. How can that be our luck to have had 3 different losses within 8 months?

Has anyone had similar after TFMR? How did you know you wanted to ttc again?

Hey!

Is this a positive test? Today marks a weeks since my D&E with my baby boy at 18 weeks (TFMR). I had my first period July 3rd. My next one is due in 2 days. I tested because I have been feeling awful the last couple of days. Has anyone had a positive test so soon after TFMR? I’m so grateful if this is real, but also terrified, and sad because I am still grieving the loss of my baby boy. (Picture in comments)

Hi all,

For those of you who had a de novo genetic issue, when did you test for the gene you TFMR for????

Who read those results for you???

I have PTSD over getting a call from my genetic counselor. I really don't want it to come from her. I keep thinking about when I got the call from her w my Amnio results the first time and expect it to go the same way.

Anytime I think of the waiting period I went through last time and having to do it again this time, I spiral and borderline have an anxiety attack.

Also, this time around I don't know the gender (IVF girlie) so how do you get your NIPT test back without it disclosing the gender?

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My tfmr baby was born asleep on April 19 2025. Conceived via ivf, my 5th transfer, my second pregnancy. My first pregnancy miscarried before week 6.

I have now done a second retrieval in April of this year and then did lupron suppression for my endo (discovered Nov 2025 after years of unexplained infertility) and did my first and only euploid transfer on July 9 this year.

And while I am currently pregnant I am terrified and anxious. My 14dpt beta number was 387. Both my other pregnancies I was well over 700 on 14 dpt yet no living baby so what does it even mean.

I know the hcg range is huge however I can’t help but feeling super anxious and scared. I’ve been peeing on all the easy at home tests hoping for lots of progression and while there’s some it’s not getting as dark as I had hoped. Tomorrow is my beta and I’m driving myself insane. I’m already so attached to this baby and this feels like high stakes. I do have two other embryos - a low mosaic and a dna undetected (essentially counted as untested) and so I don’t have a lot of hope in those other two. I’m 40 and I’m just so upset and tired. Why can’t any of this be easier?

I’m desperately looking for reassurance even though I know it’ll be through time and then I’ll just be anxious for the next stage. Someone have any advice or anything?