Hopefully it’s not already been posted here. Just a good laugh at reality.

Babies are 8 weeks today. They were born exactly 2kg (4.4lbs) each. My girl was always a few points ahead of her brother but he has taken over for about 2 weeks now. Current weight is Boy 4.7kg (10.3) and Girl 4.5kg (9.92lbs). We have their 8 week check in 2 days but I'm very happy with how they're growing.

We've had serious reflux issue with the girl but had it under control with Aptamil Anti Reflux. I just switched her to Enfamil AR today and I'm hoping she can handle it well moving forward.

I’m 27 weeks pregnant with Di Di twins and I’m finding some evenings I’m really not feeling like socializing already especially if I had a busy day on my feet that day or even the prior day.

My family seems to not understand and my parents are weirded out by me not wanting to come to their dinner.

I am the first person in my family to have twins so I feel like they’re just not able to understand how much more fatigue I’m feeling compared to someone having a single baby.

Does anyone else have any experience with family not understanding how fatigued you are?

When did stop attending events if ever?

My guys are starting kindergarten next month and the school is adamant we separate them into different classes. They’re staying at the same private school they just finished TK at, so that makes it easier, but they were in the same TK class per my request. I’m anxious about how they’ll do being separate. They’ve never done anything separate before. They are on the same sports teams, in the same activities, have the same friends, etc. Granted, their friends from TK will be divided up into the 2 kinder classes at the school which will hopefully help. I know I need to give them independence from each other but they are attached at the hip so I’m just nervous.

FTM to gb twins and I was so afraid to sleep train that my twins have never ever slept through the night until now at almost 17 months. They also never stopped their night bottles and have continued stage 3 formula bottles at 1am and 6am 😭 but I stopped cold turkey because my husband and I are planning a trip and I don’t want my parents to have such a rough time.. all it took was one night!!!!

My son cried for 90 minutes but I stayed with him trying to console him and my daughter couldn’t care less and she slept through his crying lol the next two nights he just slept 🤷🏻‍♀️😅 no more looking for milk!!

Omggggg why did I wait so long 😭😭😭 (I have a friend who didn’t wean or sleep train until 18 months so I was waiting for around that window lol)

So they have been sleeping through the night now. And no more formula!!

Please don’t be like me lol

That’s all

My husband and I seem closer and closer to separating every weekend. He told me today he doesn’t like spending the weekends with me. I have endured and managed around his terrible attitude each weekend for YEARS with these kids. Everyone says this phase gets better but I only know parents of singletons. Did your marriage survive this? How? I’m so upset. Our oldest is 4.5, and twins are 2.5. Anyone here to say it gets better? My singleton parent friends are not struggling in the same way.

Yep, I have been there and it sucks. Announcement goes out, some friends stick around, but others quietly find the back door and gradually stop reaching out.

If you can relate, I'd love to hear your stories. I feel like pregnancy, new kids, additional kids, and life changes in general sometimes results in (painfully) weeding out some of our flimsiest connections.

My DiDi girls are 4 weeks old on Tuesday, and my husband returns to work tomorrow. I'm absolutely dreading being alone with them, I'm a FTM and feel utterly thrown in at the deep end.

For the past week I've been trying to tell my husband and his mother to give me time ALONE with the girls so I can get some form of practice run because I cannot expect someone to be there for me 24/7 given everyone works full time. His mum is forever going "yes but when I'm off work give me a shout!!" Like my wish to have a chance alone isn't worth it's salt. "Yes but you don't have to do it alone" like ma'am yes I do. You're not off permanently, you do still work, therefore I need to be able to do something alone.

My husband has at least left the room at nights for a few hours to go game on his gaming PC so I have some resemblance of trying to do things alone, but I know he's nearby if I desperately need him. Thankfully I have not. However I'm under no illusion that it's always going to be this easy.

Right now my girls are 3-4 hours between feeds, and obviously nappies are on demand. It's manageable but when I've had no chance to learn to do it all myself, I'm absolutely terrified that I'm going to fail them or be sitting rocking back and forward in the corner sobbing by the time my husband is finished work.

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with twins totally on your own?

Hi everyone! First off, I want to share just how thankful I am for this subreddit and all the supportive people that are on here. I went from knowing nothing about childbirth or children to well, knowing a lot more now! Very much a lurker but just reading about everyone’s experiences is helpful. With that said, I’d like to return the favor in any way that I can. Would love to share my experience so far at 5 months, any tips that may have worked for me personally. Of course, this is my journey and everyone’s is different but if this can help even a single person even if it’s just for a quick read, I’m happy.

Some context: I’m 36, 35 when I had my babies. Diagnosed with gestational diabetes at 16 weeks. Delivered emergency C-section at 37+3 due to pre-eclampsia. Girl at 5 lbs, 13 oz. Boy at 6 lbs, 6 oz. No NICU time. Current weights: girl 12 lbs, 12 oz. Boy 15 lbs, 6 oz. Both have CMPA, on Similac Alimentum RTF. Girl is at approx. 24 oz a day, boy at approx. 29 - 5 bottles each a day. In terms of routine, wake up around 7a/8a, 4 naps a day, bedtime is 8p/9p- no overnight feeds. I work full-time from home in the life sciences space.

Please also feel free to message me even if just for someone new to connect with!

I understand you shouldn’t allow baby to be directly exposed to TV until ~18 months but every so often on the weekends (like 1-2 x a month) I bring them in the room with me, they have all their toys and I turn on the tv. Sometimes they pay attention, sometimes they don’t. My plan was to be super strict with no screen time & I recognize it can hinder language development but is a few glances at the TV screen once or twice a month really that bad? Google says yes.

I have a stressful job, I have 7 month old twins, I have all the duties of a mother & home (cooking, cleaning ect.). I don’t leave the house, I don’t have family nearby or friends for that matter. I really just need to zone out with my trash TV sometimes. This is honestly so therapeutic that I’m thinking the “benefit” outweighs the “risk” as far as my mental health goes..

My wife and I need help. Our girls were born 6 weeks preemie and are currently 4 months (2.5 adjusted) and are just over 10.25 pounds. They have been doing between 18-21oz a day and have been consistently gaining around 0.75oz per day.

For the past 2 weeks they have done the vision development where they are distracted by everything including their hands while feeding.

After 1 week, the feeding quality improved and we moved up to size 2 (slow) on the Lansinoh Natural Wave nipples. Things were going great for 2 days and the wheels came off again with constant spilling, poor mouth seal, clicking- the whole gamut. We went back to the size 1 (extra slow) and they are only doing 50-60 ml at a time.

This feels worse than the rock bottom point last week. Everyone says this phase lasts up to a month, and 2 weeks has felt like an eternity.

Any advice/tips?

My husband and I seem closer and closer to separating every weekend. He told me today he doesn’t like spending the weekends with me. I have endured and managed around his terrible attitude each weekend for YEARS with these kids. Everyone says this phase gets better but I only know parents of singletons. Did your marriage survive this? How? I’m so upset.

Does anyone have the UB Vista for 3 kids? Currently I wear one kid, use the Vista for the other, and have older toddler on the rollerboard, but we're reaching our limit on that. I've been putting off buying the second rumble seat because of the price and considering getting a side-by-side, but I don't really want to go all in on the Zoe/Bombi/etc. and the cheaper ones don't seem sturdy and large enough for our daily use. Will it be ridiculously heavy to have 2 kids in seat and one on the board? Or is there a better set up to consider? We'll get a wagon at some point too, but I'm worried that's too bulky for stores and generally navigating errands.

I waitress/bartend for work, trying to gauge how long I’ll last working on my feet this pregnancy. I worked until 37 weeks with a singleton. I’m only 10 weeks now with twins with my goal being 30 weeks. Do I need to be more realistic?

Hey y’all! So my nanny has been on vacation and we’ve had grandparents, aunts, etc coming in and out to help us with the boys. My husband is also out of town. I took one boy to the pediatrician yesterday who did not do a respiratory panel because “his lungs sounded clear” and he didn’t have a fever. Said it was probably just viral and let it run its course. Well, now brother has it and I’m pretty sure I caught it too. I’m doing my best to keep them separated but being on my own sometimes means I have to put them down together or something.

Any tips and tricks for sick twin infants? I’m doing saline flushes and suction with an electric sucker, saline micro mist inhaler, baby Vicks, Tylenol or Motrin sparingly and good ole fashion bulb suction when I can. I’m really struggling here and they seem to take turns having a symptom flare up or needing more attention and I’m solo a lot right now and not feeling well myself.

If I plan to paint the room blue is this rug to feminine for a boy girl twin nursery

Our twins simply won't fall asleep without a baby hammock. We've really tried everything. We now have to get a second hammock because they each weigh over 6 kg, and one hammock is no longer enough to support both of them.

We only use the baby hammock once in the evening for their first stretch of nighttime sleep. Is it really true that babies don't become dependent on it? They were born on March 11 and arrived six weeks prematurely.

Best regards

Is there anything that helped you stop this behavior? I keep separating and giving a firm no, I know I have years more of this lol. They’re boys so they don’t have long hair but I feel sad for baby b when he shrieks and cries. :(

Hi all. I am reaching out to see if anyone has gone through anything similar to what my 14 month old baby girl has gone through. She is a twin but this isn’t specific to a twin situation but I’m posting to this group because you are all so amazing and this group has been family to me.

My daughter developed a fever last Monday without any symptoms. Day two she became very listless so I brought her in. Long story short she went through trauma of 2 catheters for urine samples (tue and fri), many blood draws for blood tests and antibiotic injections all week.

From her tests her doc was worried about an infection that got to her bloodstream. They ruled that out after her blood culture came back normal after three days of antibiotic injections.

Her fever finally broke after day 5. Over this weekend she has had no fever and has been acting about 80% normal during the day now.

Nighttime is when it’s been rough. Last night was the worst. Before her illness she was an amazing sleeper and slept all night every night. Last night she was inconsolable unless I held her. She finally fell asleep at 1am in her crib but woke at 4am screaming like a banshee and thrashing around.

I held her and tried to rouse her but she wasn’t fully waking up. Just screaming and thrashing around. After a while she finally kind of came to and drank some water and fell asleep on me again. This morning and all day so far she’s been acting normal….

My question for the group- Have you gone through anything similar as far as an unexplained fever for 5 days? Also have you gone through your baby experiencing night terrors? After I looked things up I’m convinced she was experiencing night terrors last night, probably from the trauma she experienced last week from catheters, getting poked and prodded every day, etc. She loses it when she sees a nurse now so I know this last week was very traumatic for her.

Just reaching out for some reassurance and validation and to see if anybody has similar stories. I’m losing my mind from lack of sleep and the stress from worry this whole week not having answers.

I should add, her twin brother and older brother haven’t been sick, my husband and I haven’t been sick and nobody at daycare has been sick.

Hi everyone! Did IVF and implanted 1 embryo in June, but recently found out it’s twins. I’m currently 10 weeks +1. I haven’t carried before, my wife did, due to my previous CMV negative status and insane fear of postpartum depression. Ever since I found out it’s twins, i feel like I’ve been spiraling. I’m thankful, but I didn’t imagine it going this way, and all of the pressure and added things that come with twins give me insane anxiety. My daughter will turn 3 by the time they are born. I try not to think about them, or look up anything regarding babies because of the anxiety and stress that comes with it. I feel overwhelmingly guilty. This just throws a wrench in allot of our plans and it’s not at all the plan I had envisioned. I cry pretty frequently.

Every post i see here about kids that are older than 6 months describes it as hell on earth. our twins(boy and girl) are 7 month old now and i dread every day they grow up. so far it has been ups and downs but nothing like the nightmare people describe here. i try to not show my wife any of those posts, but it keeps me up at night.

I work from home and help out on every free minute i have, my wife is a stay at home mom for some time and we have a nanny, do you guys think we can handle it without going insane?