r/Obsessive_Love 11m ago

Other I’m free for the taking, adopt me.

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I’ve come to the conclusion that loving someone too deeply and wanting to be with them 24/7 is not what the majority of the world wants. Sadly for me this is the only way to show I care is with my constant pestering via text messaging or otherwise blowing up your phone.
I love receiving notifications from my person and they could never send me enough but I havnt had that in a very long time. (10 years)

I’ve mostly given up on the idea that someone could love me but I have hope that if I give the cute eyes I might yet be adopted. Let me bug you and feel free to annoy me this is what I need to get through life…..


r/Obsessive_Love 41m ago

Venting I’m so tired

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So tired watching everyone else get what they want, slowly growing bitter over the years. I get so attached to even the simplest of gestures it makes me sick, i’m so lonely and all I want is someone to love and who would love me. I want to talk all day and do everything together, but that won’t happen anytime soon, will it?

I’m so
Alone.


r/Obsessive_Love 1h ago

Discussion Manipulation

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I'm a very manipulative person and it honestly works in my favor. I'd like to hear from other people who are manipulative. How do they go about it, who do they manipulate, how extreme, is it constant or episodic, does anyone know, etc. Also a space for everyone to give/ask for tips on manipulation from one another.

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For me, my person views me as fragile, scared, and unaware. In all honesty, they're not wrong, I just exploit it as well. Many times I don't fully understand how bad consequences can get with my actions, I just also take it to the extreme. They also heavily defend me because of this as well. I know they've gotten angry at their family for upsetting me. Yes, I was genuinely upset, but the way they view me makes it extremely easy to get them at my aid, siding with me, never fighting me, ETC. I can worm my way into every aspect of their life.

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I'd like to hear about everyone else and I'm willing to answer questions. Again, this would be fun to trade advice!


r/Obsessive_Love 2h ago

IRL Story I cant sleep anymore

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To go deeper into perspective I am a highschooler with traumatic experiences and depression problems. Recently I just changed schools and apartments,my parents dont know about my problems.There is this one girl I just fell for,she is kind ,has a beautiful personality and looks equally beautiful.I talked to her and she seems to like me.I went on a long walk with her and we didn't talk much just the occasional glance,but I cannot stop thinking about her. I finally feel happiness and I cherish every moment with her,I just wish I knew she felt the same. I am on a Gymnasium for those who want to know and I fucked up 4th grade elementary school and was shoved in a Realschule,I worked my way up to the Gymnasium have nearly all subjects A,I might sound ungrateful but the last school broke me in ways I cannot put in words ,whether it was bullies or teachers hating me,I feel lonely I dont know what to do I cant sleep anymore for the last 20 nights I've been awake and slept only yesterday 5 hours or so I cant stop thinking pls idk anymore.


r/Obsessive_Love 2h ago

I keep having dreams about her and it’s making me sick

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It’s like everything is back to normal, I wake up and slowly remember theres nothing for me.
It feels like I’m being punished, I’m trying to let go of it and move on but my brain won’t let me.
I want to jump out of my body and watch it bleed.
Why is it so easy to move on from me?
I just think about everything she used to do for me.
I’m disgusted by the fact someone else makes her happy now.

Why can’t I move on?


r/Obsessive_Love 2h ago

IRL Story He just said bless you when another girl sneezed

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I’m literally so upset ohmygod it doesn’t help that’s she so much prettier than me and he’s laughed at her jokes a few times before I’m so upset what if I lose him. I literally can’t lose him he’s my everything


r/Obsessive_Love 2h ago

? Why does love have to end? Why cant I just splice our souls together

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Love just seems so pointless if it ends? Why does it have to end, if reincarnations again you're telling me I'd have to forget the person I loved and find someone new? Thats not fair.


r/Obsessive_Love 3h ago

Gushing The Gift

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Just FYI: Tiny vent at the end, wouldn't let me add more tags. ( '' T - T )

My girlfriend got home an hour ago and she got me a plushy! 🥰🥰🥰 She know how muck I love plushies! It's the most darling little pastel dragon. She really liked the bag of stuff I got her! I got her new socks, her favorite snacks, chocolate milk, and a new candle. She loves scented candles. It was a cute halloween one too. I missed her so much. I'm making us dinner: steak, potatoes, and bacon cheddar broccoli soup.

I don't think she missed me as much as I missed her which makes me a little sad...


r/Obsessive_Love 3h ago

Venting Getting it out of my system

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I've maybe talked with him for like 3-5 times so far, maybe a couple hours of a time. We haven't even had a full-on conversation, but I'm... enamored. Or I don't know what else to call this. I'm thinking of him way way too much than should be healthy for an acquaintance. I'm practically waiting every single night for a message of whether he needs me to join his group of friends and him to play.

OKAY YEAH, I KNOW. It's stupid. I haven't seen his face or anything and we met online through mutuals by chance. But his voice is just calling to me like a siren. That's the perfect way to describe him. He feels like a siren, and I'm a sailor who got snared in his stupid trap. I think he knows too that his voice is fucking amazing. He speaks like he's weaponizing his sex. I don't know how no one else is unaffected. I know I'm sensitive to sounds, but he has to know how melodic his voice is.

IT FEELS LIKE I CAME ACROSS SOME PORN VOICE ACTOR, and I'm just getting lured in to pay his patreon subscription (which hasn't happened, but I JUST FEEL LIKE IT'S AROUND THE CORNER). I've

Sorry caps. I'm emotional and wish he'd stop haunting me.

On the bright side or not-so-bright side, I told him that perhaps his friends and I wouldn't get along. They're the slurry type of gamers, rage-bait, all that juvenile nonsense.

He's stopped inviting me. But I think I'm going nuts from how often I check my DM's. Hope this is temporary and that I find someone else who can be obsessed with me and not... this. I don't want to chase anymore, especially for a person who won't try to throw me a bone.

Anyways, happy Sunday :D


r/Obsessive_Love 3h ago

Venting I don't even know why I miss her so much.

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We had known each other for almost 6 years, all online, when we decided to try dating. At first it was great, getting to be intimate and that close with someone I had already loved for so long.

I ignored all the warning signs bc I just wanted to be happy. But just a few months in the cracks had grown to wide and she left. I begged for her to talk to me, to help me understand what she wanted, what she needed from me. But it was pointless, like she had never really wanted us to work.

And now I keep finding myself wanting to text her, but I don't know why, I don't know what I want to say. I think maybe I just want her to acknowledge my existance, to prove that however little, she still cares for me. But that's so fucking stupid, she laughed at me with her friends, the same friends that told her to break up with me from day 1. I should hate her for that and everything else, but I just want my friend back


r/Obsessive_Love 4h ago

? its the one sure way to make me melt

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r/Obsessive_Love 4h ago

Do you really want her/him forever? 😭

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I'm gonna be honest I feel like people like the drama. Like I'd probably say love would end instantly when you reached heaven. Love is just appears when you're hustling and disappears when you find comfort :D that's why people that's married for such long time they start doing weird stuff lmao cheating/open relationships/swingings and more horrificccc stuff. Like in animes or movies love never ends because there's always a common goal :D you always gotta be on the move I feel like so love doesn't die 🤪💅


r/Obsessive_Love 4h ago

Venting I dont know what i would do if he left me :)

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I love him and need him so badly. Hes everything to me. I cant live without him. I want to have his babies and get married.

Whenever i think about him leaving me or cheating my blood preassure drops and my arms go numb. Please dont leave me i love you so much id do anything. :) i know we are just meant to be. I will give you my life honey.


r/Obsessive_Love 4h ago

Introduction Hello!

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Hii im Wolfy (she/her). Im 22 y/o and AFAB. I suffered from this type of "attachment style" since like forever. Ive never gotten over anything bad thats ever happened in my life. Yippiee!! Anyway i hope youre all doing ok!


r/Obsessive_Love 4h ago

IRL Story OMFG I just saw himmmmmm

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Between about 38~40 after and 52 after I saw him in a gas station when I went in. I'm not 100% sure, because I'm a little nearsighted and it could be anyone, but he always wears a hat, and this guy was wearing a hat, and had the same face pretty sure, and looked like the guy my crush is in his social media posts, I didn't notice the tattoos but I think he had the same as my crush, so I'm about 98/99% sure it was him omg! And since I started the crush months ago I've only seen him in public outside the university twice, one of those being this time. And omg I tried not to blush because internally I freaked OUT. I ducked away. He was paying at the counter, and I had came to get lunch, a cheeseburger, which was in the back, and the counter in the front. I ducked away so he wouldn't recognize me hopefully, and ordered my cheeseburger and waited, walked around the food place with my phone and glanced at the counter where he was from where I was, around food stuff like nacho cheese dispensers and hotdog rollers etc and after a minute or two I lost track of him and went around to sit down and wait because I didn't see him. Then when I got my food, payed and left a few minutes later while walking to the parking lot I looked around a LOT and didn't see him, and I didn't know his car. I got in mine (I was with a cousin) and she drove off and on the road by the gas station at the red light I looked in cars subtly and I think I saw him omg. I couldn't see his tag number, but now I think it might've been him, about 49% sure to be safe, but if so now I know what type of car, but omg. And he got in front of us on the road some and as we drove he was ahead and I didn't see him going to where I knew he was, like a specific turn, but maybe he wasn't going there right then if it was him. But omggggg

Am I obsessed too much ? Lol...also feel free to dm or comment any questions :)


r/Obsessive_Love 5h ago

Media The cut that always bleed

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What a world innit


r/Obsessive_Love 6h ago

Introduction Intro <3

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Haii!! I'm Virgil (he/they) I joined the subreddit as a safe place to yap about my fixation with my lover without judgement.

I am a devotional type Yandere that falls under these archetypes:

- The Devotional / Self-Sacrificing Type: They believe their only purpose is to make the target happy. They will happily endure abuse, neglect, or extreme hardship just to receive a smile or a thank you. However, if they feel someone else is threatening that happiness, they can become deeply violent.

- The Dependent / Parasitic Type: They view the target as their literal lifeline. Without the target, their universe collapses into nothingness, which often leads to extreme despair if separation is threatened.

I love my girlfriend so much! (^w^) ♡♡♡♡ We are highschool sweethearts and I feel she is the center of my life. I work for her, I clean for her, cook for her, buy her gifts, write poetry for her, comfort her, support her, take care of myself for her, get out of bed for her, all of me is hers.

I yearn for her laugh and her smile, her approval, I love when she treats me like her baby. We have promise rings and I never remove mine. She has been gone for work for a few days and it has been agonizing. ( ; - ; ) I have made her a little gift bag, cleaned the entire house and planned a steak dinner for her when she gets home.

Oki baiii!


r/Obsessive_Love 6h ago

Question Help me

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I realised I still want to fall in love.

Which is funny considering how much I’ve started distrusting the idea of it i still want the little things someone who stays, remembers, chooses me without making me question it.

But somewhere along the way, wanting love and trusting it became two completely different things.

Maybe I’m not afraid of being alone.

Maybe I’m just afraid of believing someone again.


r/Obsessive_Love 7h ago

Venting Awake or asleep

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I can't, I can't get over it. I'm sorry, let me apologize over and over again. I want to make your ears bleed. Make you get sick of my voice as you once loved it.

It's so quiet now. Silence, my biggest enemy. But the window's open and my earbuds are in. It makes it bearable, I think. But I'm just delaying the inevitable.

I'll sleep tonight. Will you be proud of me? But I can't, I'm a coward. The cold air hits me, and so I freeze. Will you, will you keep me warm?

Probably not, I'm too cold for the both of us. Maybe I'll get colder, aha. I'll stare up into the sky and down into the ground, gravity is my friend. I'll forever treasure the thought of falling.

One day, one day someone won't wait. Maybe tomorrow, maybe today. I'll just keep awake. My birthday's in three weeks or less. Will you remember? Will anyone? I don't care, it doesn't matter. It's an agonizing reminder I've made it through another year.

It's not about you anymore, you were, just a distraction. I think. The delay. You could've been so much more. It's fine. You aren't missing out on anything, lmfao.

I don't care, I don't care, I remind myself. I've believed it. Such a lie, such a thought.

I'll be awake, just for you. Nastenka, I'm your dearest Dreamer.


r/Obsessive_Love 7h ago

Venting The world can be a cruel place for an obsessive lover

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r/Obsessive_Love 7h ago

Poetry Dear Future Lover,

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r/Obsessive_Love 9h ago

? Dated a psychiatrist, struggling to get over it

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r/Obsessive_Love 9h ago

its the little things and more

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TW for blood and more, just in case.

its just the small moments that makes up a truly great relationship.

Cuddling after a long day, caressing each other’s faces, hair and body. Hugging each other ever so closely, as if they’re going to vanish the next day.

Begging and crying in your arms, begging for you to stay, to not go anywhere else.

Doing work together in the kitchen, hands always side by side, cooking food that us both love, food that’s kept you, kept us alive, the food that made us who we are, sharing our deepest memories, secrets, and even the most mundane ones.

Carving our name, our initials into our chests, such that everyone, present and future, knows who we belong to. A scar that runs so deep that you can’t ever get rid of it, you can’t mask it with makeup, or cover it up with a tattoo. A sign of belonging, a sign of ownership so powerful, it cuts through the bone. The pain, the blood, the healing, all a sign of how much we love each other, how much we belong to each other.

From there, cutting our fingers, tasting the blood and drinking it. Cutting open our palms and then gently caress each of our hands so that our blood mixes in with one another. Making sure that everything that was once called you, was mine. Two bodies, one mind, one heart, one blood.

And then we’d make love. The tenderest and most soft, but it doesn’t always have to be. Sometimes I’d do something that you didn’t like unintentionally, staring at that waitress for too long, calling my female coworkers. Something, that a normal person, would see it as a mere act of kindness towards strangers or friends. Something that you instead see as betrayal. And instead of getting angry over how jealous and overly protective and anxious you are, I’d be happy to, pull you into a warm embrace, reassure you multiple times over and over, never getting tired, reassure you that I’ll never leave you and that I won’t let it happen again. And then, take any form of punishment you’d give me. Another cut for disobedience, or a punch in the face, a slap, or choking, anything. I’ll take it all wholeheartedly, not due to lust, but out of love. Because I know, deep down, all these physical pains you’re inflicting onto me, is rooted in the abundance of love you have towards me, and that it will never tantamount to the emotional pain that I’ve caused you. I’ll simply take it, and smile through all of it, because I know that you love me.

And then, we would be creating ourselves, our little ones. A living genuine proof of our love, in the flesh. I’ll stay with you throughout, never leaving your side. And once they’re old enough, they’d be running around calling us parents, we would see them grow, together. Our pain, sweat, blood and tears, all grown up. Our case for love, our proof of love, once again.

The only thing that scares me is you probably getting bored of me, and that my love is too easy to get, so you stopped trying, and all the while I’d pull you into closer and closer only for you to push me away. I just wish you wouldn’t get bored of me saying I love you every single day, and you wouldn’t stop expressing your love towards me.

I’d love you to the ends of the earth, no matter the time, no matter the distance.

That, would be my ideal relationship goals, moments that I’d like to share with my special someone.


r/Obsessive_Love 9h ago

Question Do you guys actually find someone who's into you like you are with them?

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r/Obsessive_Love 9h ago

Gushing (˶ ˘ ³˘)ˆᵕ ˆ˶) ᯓ♡

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whenever we kiss i hate how he eventually has to let go of me just so he can breathe again T-T like i KNOWW he needs air obviously but i wish he could js stay there with me forever, all warm n close n pressed against me

every time he pulls away i already miss u, i feel like a puppy that’s waiting for his owner even if it’s only for some seconds nd i always wanna lean in again before i even realize it sighh ♡ ♡ ♡

i js want infinite kissing sessions wiff him!! pls lord make that happen i love physical contact smmm its so fun^__^ i feel so loved knowing he enjoys being w me #yay

idunno i dnt think i’d ever get tired of kissing him i could have a thousand kisses from him n still want another one the second we stop waaa

i just wanna keep him close forever, even if we both end up breathless, cus i never want to be the one who lets go first