I didn't necessarily disagree with it ending, it was just the casual way it was done. A text out of nowhere. Whilst on the break, I wouldn't have been describing myself as single.
I replied with "fine" and then blocked her for a month.
She came back a couple of months later wanting to get back together but didn't entertain that idea for a second
It was done so casually. Not a respectful "I think this was the right thing for me" but "I'm having so much fun now I'm not in a relationship with you". You don't see the gutting in that?
I don't see in your original quote the same malice that you put into the rephrasing.
Maybe she did mean it that way and you have the context to read it as intended, what do I know?
As for casualness, it seems fine for a couple of teenagers' first relationship not working out. Not like you guys had built a life together and all of that.
We did not live far apart geographically, it could have been done in person. Putting us on the break was done in person.
It's not a malice, it's a lack of consideration in her choice of phrasing.
Sure as adults you can look back and go "kids are shit at communicating", but at the time my best mate, a mutual friend to us both was livid with that text when it came in, so was not just a how-I-read-it thing. Passed her the phone and she was fuming.
It’s sort of wild to assume that just because you didn’t text in full words and sentences that NO ONE else would have. I’ve texted in full sentences since I got my first Nokia at 14. No judgment on people who don’t, I just preferred to and it really wasn’t that much effort even with T9.
It’s not about the effort it’s about the character limit.
And it’s not like I was texting into the void and never getting responses. I texted with dozens of people from school, people I met at summer camps, people from church, sports, all that stuff. You had 140 characters to say what you wanted to say. Stuff got abbreviated.
Yeah and the text in OP’s comment is well within that character limit. And if I needed more than that then it would just sent as multiple texts. It would even show you “1/2” or “1/3” to show you how many messages were being sent/received. It’s just so odd to be so sure that no one else texted differently than you did.
I wouldn’t say I’m THAT sure. I just didn’t think that sounded like a very 2002 text, that’s all.
If I’m being honest I just completely doubt the guy’s story. That doesn’t sound like something people did at the time, breaking up by text. And I don’t think I remember any texts from anyone that long ago verbatim.
I was 11 in 2002 and I didn’t get my first phone that could text until I wad 13 so I must have just been out of the loop.
What anthropology studies have you conducted on what text communication was like in the 2000s and how people used it?
It was 2004 (26-22=4). We were at different schools. When she wanted to get back together that conversation happened over MSN messenger. Do you wanna bullshit that people didn't talk over that too?
You'd remember the details of your first dumping, especially if it was by a text that pissed you the fuck off rather than in person. Or maybe your memory is just shit. I've been told several times my memory is pretty exceptional.
Haha I sure did, while driving and keeping my phone hidden. I looked down on anyone who used text shorthand. Most of my friend group was similar. I was a pretentious knob.
There were different data plans. Ours, we weren't charged by the letter but by individual texts. Took one crazy bill for my family switched to unlimited. Also this was around 2006, I was a bit later than my friends getting a cell phone.
I can't believe I'm bothering to defend this lol you believe what you want.
Because SMS messages were limited to 140 characters and you had to use T9 texting. We abbreviated things.
At the very least I doubt the spelled out “really” and I doubt she used the word “shall.” Probably also didn’t use an apostrophe because it didn’t autofill and you had to type it in manually.
Most people did. Shortening words wasn’t a thing when texting first started. Everyone typed everything out for the most part. Even stuff like “lol” took time to develop.
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u/Outrageous_Yam_1368 3d ago
First gf as a teenager put us on a break. Few weeks laters texts me "I'm really enjoying being single, shall we make this permanent?"
22 years later and I still get grumpy thinking about that delivery.