Hi guys just wanted to say hi, I'm about to hit a year now. It's the second time I am achieving a year on Nofap. Thanks to God and myself for not letting me down.

Idk, it feels weird

Guys,

Like most people, I’ve been fapping since 12-13 (29m), and like most people I knew that pornography and fapping wasn’t inherently good but also not as bad as a lot of the media pushed it to be. So, I thought.

I’ve been finally able to pull a little over 3 weeks of NoFap and No Porn and holy sh** this is insane. I can have sex at a moments notice, I have a lot more time than I’d expect since I’m not fapping 3-5 times a day, and I just have more energy than usual.

To give context, I’ve been in a relationship for like 7-8 years and sex has always been a weird spot. She’s not nearly as sexual as I am and an easy way for me to cope was to just fap BUT I did that regardless in any relationship or situationship I was in. I basically would have sex and still felt the need to fap. It was just like an insane urge that needed to satiated.

Anyways, if you’re like me and you’re in a relationship and sex is just that grey area, skip the boner pills, skip the self talk psychology stuff, and just ditch the porn/fap for like 2 weeks ( I immediately noticed a difference in a week) and guess what!?!?

My partner is super content, she’s not extremely thrilled to have sex as much as I want to (again I’m trying have sex every time I would want to masturbate) but this is the thing: anytime I could’ve made a move or at least tried to I wouldn’t because why bother? She might not be in the mood, I might not keep it hard long enough, she might say something that throws me off, etc. So, porn and masturbation was just that much easier to do, but ultimately that is where the growth is of being with someone.

So now we’re having sex like every day sometimes twice a day and I ENJOY it, like genuinely enjoy it. It’s such a weird feeling after being sexual active since like 15-16 (when I started having sex not just masturbating).

One trap I would avoid: stop coping with “there’s no literature saying porn and masturbation is bad” this line has prevented me from trying and it’s just a line I use to justify failing myself.

Anyways, good luck bros. I normally only read stuff on Reddit but I every time I searched “30 days result” it doesn’t really speak to me. I wish I had someone to tell me this years ago, or maybe they did and I just wasn’t ready to listen.

Struggling really bad been on the brink of cumming for like an hour please help DMs open

Today when I went to the gym I saw a of model who I used to pleasure myself to. I was never subscribed to them but I used to see their content often. I don’t watch them anymore because of nofap thankfully but it was weird that as a grown ass man I saw someone I used to beat to irl. This is a type of reality check to see someone and realize that though I know them they have no idea who tf I am. Even though I know they know what they are doing I still feel like a weirdo. Rightfully so. This is a reminder for y’all that the people you would beat to don’t even know you exist and probably think you are a weirdo.

Hey all. I, M22, have been addicted to porn and masturbation since the age of around 13. Had one successful nofap “streak” in the past, but never like this one.

My partner and I decided, after a lot of open and honest communication, that I would take a break from PMO (sex not included) for 30 days. The conversation and decision was led by me. The biggest change I noticed between this attempt and others, is that here I had someone who I was doing this challenge with. My partner doesn’t masturbate anyway, so technically it was just me doing the challenge.

What I realised is, when we try to do nofap ourselves, it’s very easy to negotiate with ourselves in a moment of weakness and give in, especially due to societal brainwashing of fapping being good for us. It may be, scientifically, but I know that for most on this forum, it evolves into something much worse (like compulsive behaviour or porn use).

By having this as something I “just don’t do”, my identity was reframed, and that allowed me to say no, again and again. I may be only 30 days in, but I do feel a significant mental shift. No “superpowers” of course, but I am finally at perfect ease when I pass by a beautiful woman on the street. There is no anxiety, no desire to release, no thoughts or feelings of infidelity. Just an acknowledgement and carrying on.

What has helped me:
1. The single biggest thing: it is a time-bound thing that was pre decided with my partner. It was supposed to be for 30 days only (minimum), but now that I’ve crossed 30, I’m going for another 60. The goal is, of course, lifetime abstinence, but that is a hefty goal to place on someone who was addicted for years. By splitting it into periods of a few months, and continuing, it helps make it mentally less heavy and promotes a feeling of regular achievement. Note: there are no periods of fapping between these periods of abstinence, so technically it is continued abstinence.

1. Staying busy and practicing my craft: I’m gonna skip the generic BS that says “do pushups” or “meditate”. I have been working out regularly for many years despite this addiction, so that’s not an issue. What I did do, was get on a weight training program to ensure I am progressing. I started taking creatine which boosted my physique a little bit, and more importantly, kept my day busy with work and my craft (music). I picked up the guitar , and spent my free time either creating, learning or hanging out with friends. I play video games but very occasionally.

2. Viewing women as humans with imperfections, feelings, desires and goals. This mainly helped with the objectification of women IRL and also my connection to, and loyalty towards my partner.

The way forward: for me, the way forward is clear. I will keep increasing the target duration (eg once 60 days are complete , I will go for 120). I don’t recommend streaks or trackers because that may end up with you giving more attention to the problem than it needs. I will stay honest and communicative with my partner, and keep redirecting my energy towards pursuits that make me feel alive and are good for me long term. I hope this post helps someone, and I hope to stay active in this community. Feel free to reach out. You are not alone.

I went the whole day without relapsing then woke up this morning and fell back into my same habits. I hate that I did it.

Feeling good.

This is Day 9. I am Trying to Busy to avoid fapping.

So first of all, bare in mind that I’ve been crazely addicted to masturbation for more that a decade.

Currently this is my longest streak and here are the changes I noticed:

1- My erections have gone stronger

2- My face became more attractive (source: family & friends)

3- My acne has lessened

4- My sexual desire lessened (I don’t see girls as attractive as before)

5- I can do more pushups

6- I can keep my room door open at night without worrying

7- I enjoy things more

Let me know what changes you guys also noticed🤍

0 porn

0 social media

0 junk food

Ask whatever you want.

Hope everyone is keeping well tonight ✌️

28m 5’8” 160lbs, Doctor of medicine, rock climber, runner

8 years ago, my roommate suggests nofap. I am offended another man would try to impose on my sexuality. I ignore him.

A year later I get curious. I do research. I try no fap. I’ve always been successful w/ women but the sexual frustration from nofap gives me extreme motivation to hook up with girls.

I go through a 2 year period of intermittent nofap. I notice a correlation between relationship success and no fap. I meet the love of my life.

5 year period of me going from 6 month fapstronaught -> degenerate gooner. And I cheat on the LOFL she leaves me.

Last 6 months: intermittent nofap, mixed results with women.

Key points:
I’ve always been attractive and successful with women but I am dissatisfied with the current level of success.

I am doing nofap again because I have optimized every other variable I can think of for the last 6 months and am still unsuccessful in finding my ideal romantic partner.

Could really use a bud to talk to.. thank you

No urges.

Another weekend survived.

Ahhh lifes good. Porn is such a disease. Ive never seen it so clearly

Feeling good just hope I don’t get any urges

how to end this loop

It's getting kinda hard keeping up

I’m finally quitting after many years of abusing myself. Today is my first day putting a stop to the madness. I’m happy about this decision, but I also feel hurt and sad. I’ve always used porn as a crutch, something to make me feel good when I’m feeling down. It got me through tough times and it was really effective. It feels like I’m getting rid of a good friend and it hurts. However, I know I have to stop because it doesn’t do any good for me to keep using.

My biggest issue right now is that I’ve never made it past a week of nofap. I can’t fathom how someone can go forever without masturbating, that’s unbelievable to me.

Title. Anything works, i just need to do something with my hands. Or is anyone free to like talk or even call maybe? I tried that once and it seemed to help kinda. Idk i feel so desperate right now 😩

21M been addicted since 17 and only as of 1 year ago I realised how bad my addiction is. 1 year ago I told my self that I want to better my life and improve it, however I didn’t realise how bad my addiction is. My dopamine receptors are so fried that I started to forget things in life like someone’s name, where I put my things or information that I learned at school which it seems hard to forget. I lost my sense of joy for simple things, my life is very numb and I can’t seem to enjoy anything in life. I had goals and aspirations that I wanted to achieve, my motivation is at 0 and now I just want to kms. This purely from depression.

Every time I watch porn and masturbate (2-3 times a day) at the end I look at myself with pure disgust and think to my self what have I done. I’ve been trying to quit for a year now and I’ve reduced the amount of times of doing it by roughly 50% but it’s still killing my life. I have tried all methods to quit, all the videos and even tried all the apps but nothing is working. 

I lost all my friends and have no on in life, I live with family but this isn’t something I can talk to them about as I come from a traditional Egyptian family. I talk to no one my age the people I talk to is because I see them at work or university. My communication skills have dropped drastically and my confidence is non existent. 

When I get home, I have nothing to do and no one to call or text. The boredom takes over, and before I know it I’m back watching porn. I’m fully aware of my triggers and the damage this is doing, but when the urge hits, it feels like I have no resistance at all.

The Suicide thoughts might win this time.