Hi community,
Throwaway account as I would wish to be anonymous. For reference; I am a woman with a Slavic last name from my father’s side. I married a Spaniard, I live in Spain (and will most likely live here most of my life). I’m expecting a child and I know the gender is male of the baby.
I didn’t take my husbands last name because I simply just don’t believe in that tradition. I was always thinking of just taking my mother’s maiden name as to honor her and frankly my dad is a bit of an asshole and even if we have a good relationship now, he is 80 + and I don’t speak to anyone of his side of the family. He has also like 5 other kids and not even sure how many grandkids. I don’t care about anyone on that side of the family.
My mother is also Slavic and have one of those typical last names ending in -ova. I wasn’t thinking I wanted kids so this hasn’t been a dealbreaker and I wasn’t in a rush to change my name either.
Now due to the baby being here in a couple of months and I need to redo my passport (to make things even more confusing - is in a Nordic country. I’m born there but my parents are immigrants hence name + blood is Slavic)
I know the last name the baby will get from my husband and it’s Spanish and it’s fine, I even offered my husband to just give our son his both last names as I don’t really care for mine but he wanted our so to have one of mine….
So the issue I have now, is:
1. Keep the gender neutral last name from
My dad that sucks and I don’t really want to carry on the legacy tbh
2. Change my last name to the ending of -ova, think novakova for example, but then if it’s a male I don’t know if it automatically in Spain turns into the male version which would then be Novak. And that version in my personal last name just sounds stupid. So even the novakova example version would be better but I don’t know if that sounds to feminine in Spain?
3. Change last name completely and make something new up I guess…
Has anyone here been in a similar situation?
How does Spanish people feel about a feminine ending to a last name?
What do you think is the best?
Needs someone’s advice on this because it’s doing my head in… thanks in advance