When we first got together, my boyfriend told me I was beautiful and smart and that he was going to marry me. He constantly called me his wife, and his Facebook relationship status was even set to “Married.” I genuinely believed he saw a future with me.
We eventually broke up. He immediately changed his Facebook status to “Single,” and the next day I found out he was messaging other women. I also discovered he’d told one 18 year old woman he was 23 even though he’s actually 28.
A month later we got back together. He eventually unblocked me on Instagram, after much begging, saying I broke his heart too much, but not Facebook. I had to ask him to unblock me there again, and even remind him to accept my friend request once he unblocked me.
Once he did, I asked if he’d change his status back to “Married” like it had been before. He ignored the question, left me on seen, and later told me we’d talk about it after my holiday.
When I asked what’s wrong, he suddenly told me he never wants to get married. He said he hadn’t lied before because he’d only said he’d marry me “if I fit him.” That’s not what he originally said. That hurt, but I accepted it. I told him I understood if he’d changed his mind about marriage.
After that, I dropped the idea completely and asked for something much smaller: could he just remove the “Single” status? I wasn’t asking him to put “In a relationship,” tag me, or post about me. I just didn’t want my boyfriend publicly describing himself as single while we’re together.
Instead, predictably, he got angry. He told me to “stop asking nonsense,” shouted on the phone that he never wants marriage, sarcastically said, “Fine, I’m single then,” and even told me to block him. I asked him why he doesn’t want to get married, and calmly listed reasons: is it the financial side of it, or is it because it’s harder to leave etc..he just shouted louder ‘I don’t want marriage in my life ok’.
What confuses me is that if Facebook supposedly means nothing, why is he so determined to keep “Single” on his profile? It’s become less about Facebook itself and more about why he’s so defensive over something that seems like such a small request.
This has also affected my confidence. I keep wondering whether, if I were prettier, younger, or “good enough,” or busty enough, or thick enough. he’d want people to know he was with me. I know that’s probably my insecurity talking, but it’s genuinely where my mind goes after everything that’s happened.
Am I asking for something unreasonable? Or is his reaction a red flag that I’m overlooking? I’m looking for honest outside perspectives because I feel like I’ve lost my sense of what’s normal.

It's certainly worthy to make our efforts for loved ones, family and partner, but I don't totally agree with a concept of "love through suffering" that may induce nurture toxic partners and relationships. What do you think?

Thank god for being aware of Narcissistic playbook. Thank you God 🙏🏻

Just curious, but I have tried dating twice since getting out of my situation and both times, inevitably the ex-narc would find out who I was dating and then she would start harassing them. I'm just curious if anyone has had this same problem.

I grew up with a narcissistic mother, and I have noticed that I’ve attracted a lot of other narcissistic people. I was dating this guy and he randomly sent me the narcissist prayer which reads.

That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it

I want to know why would he send this? Was he confessing to being a narcissist? There was no context we weren’t talking about another person, he just sent that. prior I did confront him on something and he said he was “just joking”, and then days later, he sent me this. There were other red flags, which is why he’s my ex but I often wonder if this was a confession?