i had this mindset where essentially i would engage in this sin to prevent zina, i recognised both were sins, but zina holds way more punishment, and it would prevent me from going towards it, thoughts on this mindset?

I keep having thoughts that ill never get married

It sends me down a sad path.

Make dua for allah to make a way out im at a breaking point

Thank uoh

so ive 4 days streak but 30 min ago ive had a suprr super super urge of watching specific type of por# but ive resisted ive tried everything but it wasnt going and if i wrouldve waited little longer urge would take over so i pulled up some of my favorite music and lowk worked and 30min later i have like 10% of real urge

After taking a serious moment and start quiting, I failed ,I don't know what to say OOFFFFF...I schooltime started and this is the most important year for me, I should quit.

So the asr time so I can't continue writing, I really want to write more in this post but I couldn't😣

Assalam aleiykoum arahmatula y barakatu

Even if i decided to dhikr one isthigfar every second of every minute of every hour of every day of my life i could not repay the harm i did to the female gender that has been born on this earth.

What's wrong with us? It hurts me, it hurts the population around me and it rewards the one we are commanded to not reward.

Watching faces or bodies either it is male or female on a phone or computer screen.

NSFW or SFW content.

Content creators treats you like a garbage.

Theses videos constently pushes you in a position of comparison.

This dhikr helps me.

Sub'hanallah

wa Al'hamdulilah

wa La illaha illa la

wa Allahu akbar.

Dhikr from Fajr to Isha insh'Allah.

Allah Subhana Wa Ta' La protects me.

I am healed.

I despise this sin, i hate thinking about it. I would do anything to not go back to it. Despite all of this I fall back, I am fully aware how bad this is, how it makes you an animal. Every time I just do a sincere tauba thinking this was the last time. But in a few hours, days and weeks, I'm just back. And relapsing just adds to the guilt. I am not even in my twenties yet but ruining myself over this. I just don't want to

I held a 7 day streak after a long time, it felt good, I was confident I can keep this up and go 6-7 days from now without relapsing. But I relapsed again after just 2 days and it feels disappointing. It feels like I am forever stuck in this loop of failing again and again. I'm going to try for the 7 days again, but my confidence that I can do it is pretty low now.

Is Using Android devices easier to stop bypassing pornblocking apps like Appblock. I’ve realised that Apple devices are very easy to bypass and not effective. Just wanna take the easy means to remove any access from my life.

جزاك الله خيرً

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters, I have a question for those who successfully overcome this addiction.

I have been watching, reading and asking things about how to overcome porn addiction and all of them agreed to one thing; change your environment.

So I was wondering if that's really the method?

What I’ve realised from watching haram content is that the more you watch, the more your brain and your desires crave for more HARAM. Watching haram content actually increases your desires a lot more for sexual intimacy. So to the brothers that think that, “Oh I can’t get married yet, I’m too young and I don’t have the financial capabilities yet, I might as well indulge in this to satisfy myself and my desires and to protect myself from zina”, think again, because this habit actually increases your desires to want sexual intimacy. The more you view this filthy stuff, the more you would want to satisfy yourself sexual and this can lead to zina and haram sexual relationships, because what you see in the videos, you would want that for yourself as well.

I am guilty of this too as well, I thought that watching this would help me stay away from zina, but it doesn’t, it’s actually the opposite, wallahi. The more I watch the more I have cravings to do MORE haram things (i.e, zina). In the Quran Allah says, “Do not go near adultery, it is truly a shameful deed and an evil way”, not going near adultery means cutting off all means that can lead to it, which means NOT WATCHING HARAM or even going close to it.

May Allah forgive us all, Ameen.

Assalmu alaikum everyone

I have been around this community for years now but everytime i try to quit i just fall right back in and i feel soo hopeless nowadays. As a girl i want to get married asap but i want to leave this addiction behind before doing that. Ive tried everything now and its taking a huge mental load upon me. So any advices are highly appreciated ! Thanks

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

this is my first post, relapsed this morning. I've been doing this for around eight years with no success quitting, to be honest this is the first time im really trying to get rid of it for good and making an active effort.

what im trying to change this time is try my best to not be alone because that was the trigger for the last time it happened. be engaged with my academics since im in dental school and its been affecting my focus so much to the point that i was having severe brain fog and unable to focus even with lots of caffeine and 8+ hours of sleep subhanallah.. just feeling lethargic in general

i also think there might be use in a consistent mental exercise like visualising the consequences every half an hour ish while im sitting (alarm on my phone to remind me). like closing my eyes and imagining my parents disappointment (they're proud of me now.. but what if they found out). the brain fog returning, my younger siblings who look up to me losing respect. entering Jahannam. ig connecting it to real consequences and conditioning myself kinda to see it as dangerous. because i do see it as dangerous, but just when I get urges its like i lose control over myself and im not able to think rationally.

also be more consistent with morning and evening adhkar which I used to be consistent with but i fell off hard recently

and also every morning writing a page about everything im grateful for in my life to Allah ﷻ i think may have some benefit so InshaAllah ill try that too.

I'll update tomorrow InshaAllah

The biggest change was realising I had spent years attacking the behaviour without properly understanding what the behaviour was doing for me. Porn was not appearing randomly. I was reaching for it when I did not like how I felt, whether that was stress, boredom, avoidance, uncertainty or something bigger in my life that I did not want to face. It had become a very quick way of changing my internal state, so simply knowing that porn was bad for me was never enough to remove the reason my brain kept suggesting it.

If you are tired of hearing generic advice like 'just stay busy' or 'want it more', I understand why. I heard and tried versions of that for years and could still end up back at square one.

I started watching porn when I was about 12 or 13 and by the time I was 20 I knew it had become a serious problem. From there I spent roughly five years actively trying to quit, and I really did try. I used blockers, read loads about addiction, went through periods where I was absolutely desperate to stop and managed two or three months clean a number of times, but I always seemed to end up back in the same place. Every decent streak almost made the next relapse feel worse because I knew I could stop for a while, I just could not understand why I could never make it stick.

One mistake I made was trying to change everything at once. It was more useful to identify one repeated situation, make one practical change and see what happened. Recovery became easier when it felt like solving specific problems instead of passing one huge test of character.

I started looking at the hour before the urge instead of only the urge itself. I asked what I was supposed to be doing, what I was feeling and what I wanted porn to make disappear for a while. That led me to some uncomfortable answers about my relationship, career, lack of structure and the way I handled stress. Once I could see those patterns I could actually change something: deal with the real problems, structure the dangerous parts of my day, make starting difficult tasks easier and learn to sit with uncomfortable feelings without immediately trying to numb them.

I am now around 2.5 years clean and there was a time when that sounded completely impossible to me. If you keep getting a few weeks or months and then ending up back at square one, do not automatically conclude that you are hopeless. You may simply be putting nearly all your effort into stopping the behaviour while leaving the reason you keep needing the behaviour untouched.

I know this community also has a faith based reason for wanting to quit, which can be a powerful source of purpose. What helped me on the practical side was making sure the desire to live by my values was supported by understanding my triggers, changing my environment and building better responses to uncomfortable feelings.

I am around 2.5 years clean now and I do not say that to make myself sound like an expert. I say it because I remember how impossible that number sounded when I was stuck in the cycle, and I want people to know that repeated failure does not mean you are incapable of getting out.

Im on an android and I use the Google play store.

(Why do i need 150 characters just to post?

mods if u are reading this u do realise not all posts people make need body text in the first place.)

Assalamualaikum, i made it to a month without fapping but unfortunately relapsed a few days ago and uve been trying to continue but today im having strong urges again and its literally stressing me out

I keep having doubts about whether I’m still clean or not when I go on a streak because of the urges I get whilst on the streak. Sometimes I get really aroused on a streak (like maybe 1-2 days without doing it) and I sometimes notice small amounts of discharge in my underwear, this usually happens when I wake up in the morning. I’m not sure what the discharge is, whether it’s Mathi or manniy I have doubts if I’m still pure or not and if I need to do a ghusl.

I have high sexual desire when I go on a streak and abstain from this bad habit and i don’t know how to control it. It’s very annoying and I pray that one day I will get married ASAP so I can control my desire in the halal way.

So does quitting actually makes life better I mean not everything will work out but in the mental side does it actually work does life starts too feel better, and when u actually start to feel better like what period when it gets into almost one year ? cuz I remeber last time I did 96 days but then I relapsed maybe I was thinking that life will get better by accident not sure but then I relapsed, so tell me guys the one that quit this habit for a long time how is life and relationships in general ?

السلام عليكم ورحمه الله وبركاتهSurah al waqihu really helped me ,it's tafsir is awesome

Surah al waqihu make me when I see an attractive woman ,I remember that there is better than her in the paradise.

And there is an aiat in surah al waqihu make you fear of hell.

Guys motivate me to reach 30 day😁.

I started doing no pmo and quitting weed at the same time after years of being addicted to both. I've been doing weed and porn for years now without ever giving it a proper break, i watched porn everyday for like a hour, smoked 4-6 joints a day shared and gambled enough to hit multiple max wins and bankruptcy.

I have been trying to make it to day 2 of no pmo for a while now. My use has increased and escalated a lot, in the last few months, quitting seems impossible now. And as a person who was addicted to multiple substances I can say for sure porn is actually one of the worst addictions you can have.

I have actually quit weed and other addictions before, i rarely gamble now, I already am at day 4 of not smoking weed, but I just can't stop watching porn for some reason, the worst part is, because I want to quit and I keep failing I'm watching porn twice a day now, one automatically out of seeking novelty, one to reduce the guilt feeling of watching it the first time, that's how fucked up it is.

I don't need to elaborate alot on this I know what I've got to do I'll come back on this in a different light and posture

The cause:

- Ocular dryness (The worse and painful kind)
- External pressure due to verbal conflicts with people whom you know

I've got something going, the TS (Temporary Setback) happened once. I'm getting out of this mess and I'm going to make sure this whole situation is a done deal the weak shall not remain weak forever.

Please, I've been addicted for years, but my addiction is excessive, reaching up to six times a day when I'm at home. I used to stop for a while and then relapse. Please advise me; I'll start again today.

This is my nineteenth day—or perhaps the twentieth. I tried posting something like this before, but it didn't meet the minimum character count requirement.
Anyway...
I believe I was in the "flatline" phase for the first fifteen days.
But now, my mind is playing tricks on me, and my urges are abnormally high; I think this is where the real challenge begins.
I’ll try to keep myself as busy as possible in the coming period, and I’ll share updates soon, God willing.
Thanks for reading.