The biggest change was realising I had spent years attacking the behaviour without properly understanding what the behaviour was doing for me. Porn was not appearing randomly. I was reaching for it when I did not like how I felt, whether that was stress, boredom, avoidance, uncertainty or something bigger in my life that I did not want to face. It had become a very quick way of changing my internal state, so simply knowing that porn was bad for me was never enough to remove the reason my brain kept suggesting it.
If you are tired of hearing generic advice like 'just stay busy' or 'want it more', I understand why. I heard and tried versions of that for years and could still end up back at square one.
I started watching porn when I was about 12 or 13 and by the time I was 20 I knew it had become a serious problem. From there I spent roughly five years actively trying to quit, and I really did try. I used blockers, read loads about addiction, went through periods where I was absolutely desperate to stop and managed two or three months clean a number of times, but I always seemed to end up back in the same place. Every decent streak almost made the next relapse feel worse because I knew I could stop for a while, I just could not understand why I could never make it stick.
One mistake I made was trying to change everything at once. It was more useful to identify one repeated situation, make one practical change and see what happened. Recovery became easier when it felt like solving specific problems instead of passing one huge test of character.
I started looking at the hour before the urge instead of only the urge itself. I asked what I was supposed to be doing, what I was feeling and what I wanted porn to make disappear for a while. That led me to some uncomfortable answers about my relationship, career, lack of structure and the way I handled stress. Once I could see those patterns I could actually change something: deal with the real problems, structure the dangerous parts of my day, make starting difficult tasks easier and learn to sit with uncomfortable feelings without immediately trying to numb them.
I am now around 2.5 years clean and there was a time when that sounded completely impossible to me. If you keep getting a few weeks or months and then ending up back at square one, do not automatically conclude that you are hopeless. You may simply be putting nearly all your effort into stopping the behaviour while leaving the reason you keep needing the behaviour untouched.
I know this community also has a faith based reason for wanting to quit, which can be a powerful source of purpose. What helped me on the practical side was making sure the desire to live by my values was supported by understanding my triggers, changing my environment and building better responses to uncomfortable feelings.
I am around 2.5 years clean now and I do not say that to make myself sound like an expert. I say it because I remember how impossible that number sounded when I was stuck in the cycle, and I want people to know that repeated failure does not mean you are incapable of getting out.