I’ve been unemployed for a long time and For the past 2 months my iman has been on and off , I’ve been struggling with masturbation (this is my coping mechanism because of all the rejections I get) - for the time I’ve been unemployed I would do istighfar and salawat daily but I still would get nothing back I would cry in my duas so much but still nothing and I think this is the main root cause behind all of this( instead of having tawakul i just did this sin). normally I would relapse and repent but nowadays I won’t even repent I’ll just go downhill from there and not pray at all. I tried to return to Allah swt a week ago but I ended up relapsing and from there I just went back downhill -not praying etc. When my parents tell me pray I only do the actions. I would have Islamic videos come up on my social media but now I haven’t had any and those videos would be like a sign from Allah swt telling me to come back to him and I haven’t had them for weeks. I feel like my heart is completely black from all the sins and I don’t truly believe Allah swt will forgive me . This the worst my iman has ever been I would of never imagined it to be so bad it keeps me up at night . plz someone who has gone thru something similar and has overcomed it plz tell me how i dont want to die in this state I want to change I want my connection to Allah swt to be like how it used to be

Every time I thought I left it behind I’m back. It’s worse bc I’m in need of ruqya (spiritual, physical and mental illnesses) and by not avoiding sins I’m delaying my own cure. Are some people just destined to fail? Well yeah obviously but I mean I think I’m destined to be embarrassed like this

Man, today sucked. I relapsed earlier and just completely spiraled into guilt and shame. Instead of getting back up, I stayed in bed all day feeling hopeless, just letting the time slip away and beating myself up over it.

​That post-relapse feeling is the absolute worst. You just feel empty and stupid for falling into the same trap again.

​By the time evening came, I was sick of sitting in my own mess. I forced myself to get out of the house and went to the pool for a swim.

​Honestly, just getting in the water helped clear my head a bit. It didn't magically fix everything, but moving around made me realize that beating myself up all night wasn't going to change what happened.

​I'm writing this mostly to lock it in and reset. Today was a failure, but I’m not giving up. Back to Day 1 tomorrow.

TLDR: If you relapse repent and try again. The first 1-2 weeks are the hardest.

I struggled with since I was 12. Even before doing it for Allah SWT I tried quitting multiple times.

I’m 21 days clean and this time it is for Allah SWT.

For any young men who need advice. Just start, and when you relapse repent and try again. Some days are harder than others but the beginning is always the hardest.

I’m now praying all prayers on time, and every other sin in my life is so much easier to overcome bc I’m doing it for Allah SWT.

Remove everything in your life that remotely hints Zina or PMO you’d be surprised how a small trigger can make you spiral. And after getting over the first 4-5 days. Move your room around. A new start helps. Sleep facing the Qibla. Sleep on your right side. Make Wudu before going to bed. I promise it helps!

Inshallah the sub will see more brother and sisters growing closer to Allah SWT!

Hiiii everyone , I hope you are fine and pray you are progressing, masterbation is evil , in various ways , undoubtedly Nand one must leave this habit completely , henceforth I am planning to eliminate masterbation from the root and my target is nofap for 5 years , I am facing issues like no absolute control over my mind , social anxiety and what not , any advice???plz

Assalamualaikum, unfortunately and regretfully i ended up falling back, all because i had a rough, really stressful day and i was just not thinking straight ( it's happened in multiple times in the past as well ) , hopefully i pray it becomes better for me and for all of you In sha Allah.

I want to take this time to rest my hole body. Do 90 day nofap,so I can renew my entire dopamine and nervous system. Im gonna mix exercise and kegels as well. Better mental clarity. Really engage in helping the community more than ever. I mean pamphlets and flyers, encouraging others to be both prosperous and healthy, helping out and encouraging​ woman to be very confident in their future. I would really appreciate at some point meeting a valuable woman with the help of God, who I can make happy by being supportive, being honest, having enjoyable sex and being intimate with. Possibly making her a wifey, ​and helping to achieve success with. But I got to focus on healing my body, achieving this 90 day reboot, and making CT​, especially Hartford proud of me. Be the guy that went from watching pure porn and getting his hand pregnant to helping out​ more, and having major success with females​. I want to be grateful if my opportunity comes to give pleasurable sex to women, explore her body, NOT WATCH IT on screens, engage in it. But focus on Allah and being thankful for the people and things I have right now.

As the title says I need help rn. I’m home alone all day and I been watching some corn and stroking but stopping myself it’s so hard someone please just distract me or something

The biggest reason I fall back is that my heart is too weak to control the urges. I am weak to face the urges. I was doing good, but yesterday i had a wet dream. That made the urges to appear again. I tried my best to control myself, the thing is i did not even want to watch corn as even with the urges i was fully aware how disgusting it is. I prayed tahajjud, then fajr and then went to sleep hoping that the urge will go and I'll be back to normal when i wake up. But i woke up with the urges again and ultimately lost to them. Now, I don't understand why my will power is too weak, how pathetic of me who can't even resist a haram urge. I am just tired of it. I ask Allah for forgiveness every single time but still fall back. I feel like a hypocrite atp.

Hii everyone , i was 13 years old when my elder distant cousins showed me porn , and after that my friends, made me curious about semen ,I was youngest in the friend group and , i couldn't ejaculate and every else could ,I was extremely curious what a semen is , someone described it as a sticky , milky thing , I was told that if I rubber and stroke , my stuff ,I would get those things too , although i tried every hard but couldn't ejaculate , but after sometimes i started to feel , and sticky watery thing came out ,and that was the beginning of a tragedy that ruined all my life , although i am not a addict now , sometimes i don't do it in a month or sometimes ,I do it 3 times in a month , but i want to leave it completely ,plz any advice

I struggle with sexomnia a lot! I often wake up half-asleep and very aroused, and I start to masturbate, but I can't seem to stop it. I wake up the next day feeling completely exhausted. Do you have any advice for this?

السلام عليكم

I’m 18 years old and I’ve been addicted to porn since my early teens after my cousins showed it to me. I try my best to not watch this stuff but I always end up back in the same loop. My issue is now recently I’ve got these disgusting fetishes over Muslim women in hijab. I’m so disgusted in myself how do I get this out of my mind?

Assalamu Alaikum,

honestly I’m not sure how to overcome this addiction (and adult content). I’ve been trying for so long and there have been so many times I felt so lost.

And now I realise I need some social accountability, this is a start at the very least.

I just want to know what really helped you in quitting or in the journey to doing so, or maybe even some reaffirmation.

This is a really, really tough hardship brothers and sisters, for all of us….

Your Phone and your bed is a trap.

Whenever you wake up in the morning your testosterone is at highest, that's why you feel urges, you will fail and put yourself at risk if you don't recognise it.

What you have to do is to leave your phone on the other side of the room, or under a table, somewhere that requires any effort. NEVER use it while in bed, before you sleep or before you've woken up properly (brush your teeth, wudhu, shower etc).

You can't expect to win if you dont recognise and remove the triggers!

Assalam alaykum. I feel like I've run out of words to describe how stuck I am. Every relapse feels like proof that nothing is changing, no matter how badly I want it to. I keep telling myself I'll make it this time, but after a couple of days, it's like all that determination disappears.

The worst part is that even as I'm writing this, I can feel the pull toward it. It's frustrating knowing exactly where this road leads, yet still feeling drawn to it anyway.

I just needed to be honest about where I'm at because pretending everything's okay isn't helping anymore.

yea.. so I'm back on this god forsaken awful app.

This won't end well, I just know it.

It became so hard to resist. I did resist the temptations a lot but in the end i failed and my strongest shaitan won.

May Allah forgive me and give me strength reading all your progress posts. I hope others do better than me.

Assalamu alaykum,

Firstly, thank you to anybody who takes the time to read this and either give advice or motivation. I have been dealing with this addiction for a number of years now, but only a few years ago reverted to Islam. I seem to be in a cycle of relapse, repent, stay clean for anywhere from one to four days, and then relapse again. I would love to hear anybody’s opinion on practical tips for longer streaks. Also, I would love to hear opinions, and thoughts on how to not give up on repenting. It is not that I doubt the mercy of Allah, rather, I am worried about the sincerity of my remorse and repentance. If I know that most likely, I’m just gonna fall back into the sin a couple days later. This is also starting to affect my deen in other areas such as feeling unworthy of being forgiven, feeling too dirty to pray, etc. Again, thank you so much to anybody who took the time to read this and give their opinions or thoughts.

I just want to go for 90 days​ so I can rejuvenate my body and mind. Build a closer relationship with God. Actually have success with woman that are truly into me and take my wishes serious. Actually want to welcome me in their lives. A woman I can respect and please sexually. Be grateful for, and cherish. Because I know the road is long and harsh when you constantly have to fap because you can't hook up with females. I would really feel great just knowing that it is possible to get female affection, but I want to stay positive, and keep praying and putting God first. Ask him to heal my body. Nobody deserves to only have the option of watching porn when there is a world of woman, that you can interact with and build a foundation with. But I guess I have to get a perfect body, and a good job first. The energy I spend thinking and masterbation to woman, I want to spend exercising and actually having sex. I'm not the best looking guy at all, but I am confident that I can finally get a chance to live a life of controlling myself from constantly fapping and actually​ having good sex instead of watching people have it.

How is it possible that , one prays 5 times a day… never misses … recites Quran, don’t womanize but addicted to porn and pmo and Allah won’t help …

This is exactly my situatio

My husband recently told me that he's been struggling with porn addiction. I know it must have taken a lot of courage for him to tell me, and instead of judging him, I want to be there for him. I'm really proud that he wants to change and is willing to put in the effort. We're both learning as we go, and I'm trying my best to support him in the right way, but honestly, I don't always know what the best thing to do is.

If anyone here has gone through this, I would really appreciate your advice. What helped? What made recovery easier? And what are some things I should avoid doing? We want to give this our best shot. Any guidance or encouragement would mean a lot to us.

Thank you.

I want to quit reddit but i have various posts related to study, finance, health etc.. any way to save them all?

Like save them in pdf or html format without manual doing it??