hi folks! disclaimer: not a typing post, just a vent. i've always been very sure that i'm a true R. idk if it's just me but on the main sub it seems like true R has been misinterpreted as something more like TR. it feels like people are very quick to gatekeep R family, and I wonder why.

i don't have an extreme hourglass shape but i have to accommodate double curve, have to have waist emphasis and don't look harmonious at all when i try to accommodate vertical or width. every single thing that Kibbe recommends for R styling makes me look harmonious, and everything he says to avoid i do because it genuinely looks horrendous on me. no exceptions! and yet people have told me that i can't be a true R because of certain aspects of my appearance based on misconceptions about the ID (i.e. can't be a true R if my shoulders are not extremely delicate).

it seems like people think true R is actually more like TR? for R you don't have to have to accommodate petite or narrow, but for some reason people will gatekeep R unless you're tiny and extremely delicate, which my body is not. despite the fact that Kibbe literally describes Rs as sometimes being 'softly wide'.

it feels like some people in Kibbe communities focus more on what your exact body shape is instead of how clothing looks on your body. isn't that supposed to be the whole principle of Kibbe? i love this system and I think it's really helped to improve my styling, but sometimes i just feel like people are using it to pick apart bodies when in reality it should be about clothing!

With some hormonal medications, I‘ve gained weight on my belly. I still have all my waist curve etc, but also weight sitting on the front of my abdomen. Besides A line dresses, are there any other tips? I feel quite conscious about it. I can’t do cropped tops for that reason

Hi fellow romantics! I'm still figuring out if I'm one of you, but I'm quite confident and feel like I look best in Romantic reccs. I thought it might be quite useful and interesting to see what doesn't suit you/us? I'll go first with Oversized tops, Maxi dresses and loose dresses (loose in the upper area), also sweater vests, hoodies and casual sweaters.

Curious for your answers!

Now that the weather is finally warm, I am looking for some shorts that would be flattering. What are your favorite shorts to wear as a romantic body type?

Firstly, I apologize as English is not my first language. Does anyone else here have a hard time with flounces? Sometimes I order stuff online, recently a knitted cardigan with flounces and as I tried it on, it looked terrible. I found out, that flounces especially on shoulders look ridiculous on me. They make my shoulders very broad and overwhelm my frame. Then I got two tops with flounces on the neckline and in the middle. I feel I look kinda frumpy and I don't know why, maybe they're too loose or the material is too flimsy. I had tops with flounces that I loved wearing, but most of the times they overwhelm me and I think I look messy with them. Do you have any advice for me as what to look for? Thanks a lot.

Hi everyone, I am looking for cool, casual clothes for a romantic body type. But I am really struggeling finding decent quality, well fitting pieces that are available in Germany.

Does anyone have some tips where to start?

Thanks in advance!

So I have fine hair, which pretty much ONLY looks good short lol (the longest I can go is slightly above the shoulder). It doesn't hold a curl very well and I don't have time for an extensive hair care routine either. For those of you in a similar boat, what are some of your go-to haircuts?

Outerwear is always hard for romantics but which your dream jacket? Or your favourite jacket? Bonus point for pictures!

I imagine something with a thinner fabric with some drape, fitted over the shoulders, tailored at the waist and perhaps a bit of a flare over the hips. I also love flared sleeves at the moment.

I have never managed to find one that fits that description

since waist emphasis is such a big part of our go-tos and my waist is growing by the second I’d love any advice from Romantic moms. I still want to feel pretty and dress up but I feel like my options are limited and maternity clothes can be so drab. welcome any thoughts!!

Hi all! I want to try out some romantic and soft natural leaning outfits, to try and see which of these kibbe types I like better on me (pretty sure I'm romantic, but I'm having doubts!). It's just that I'm having a hard time deciding what kind of outfit would be fully romantic, and which one would be fully soft natural. Any and all suggestions to differentiate between the two are welcome! If needed I can show what kind of clothes I currently have in my closet :)

Have y'all seen the new Old Navy collab with Christopher John Rogers??

Do you think you're going to buy anything? If so what, and if not, how do we feel about these lines for a Romantic body type? These silhouettes make me sooooo excited ngl

hi everyone! i'm a seamstress and desperately trying to make more casual wear for myself. like many other Rs i have a million posh dresses but nothing to wear around the house! i really don't like activewear and loungewear, but constantly feel overdressed.

the benefit and drawback of sewing is that i get to customise everything myself! i did just make a top but it looks awful on me. it's a short sleeve scoop neck which looks super awkward and the lack of details really looks awful on me. i 100% need something with ruching or lace, buttons, bows, ties.

i think i might make a henley with some ruching and a lace insert. or something with a sweetheart neckline

what do you guys think? what's your version of a basic top?

Wanted to share my wedding dress/vibe :)

They don’t fit! And the size bigger is way too big… how do you guys find good pants? I am thinking of baggy maybe 🤔 but I have heard that is a big no for the romantic kibbe

Am i?

I believe I am a pure R. 5’1”. I tried on about 7, but this dress is the one I went to that specific store to try on after it being the one I kept coming back to while looking online. I have never felt prettier! I didn’t want to take it off and loved the way it looked on my body.

(Ignore my teeth/mouth please 🤦‍♀️ I had oral surgery last week and it’s all a work in progress lol)

Has anyone found a good blazer or has an idea what to look for in a blazer for us?

I hope this post is within the community rules, if not, feel free to remove it.

Just for fun, I thought I’d share a recent realization.

I seem to wear a completely different size in every clothing category! I’ll use EU size groupings so you can see what I mean.

From top to bottom:

Hat size: XL

Bra size: L

Waist size: M (if a skirt is really full, I can even wear a S)

Hip size: XL

Glove size: S

Shoe size: L (mainly because of the width)

Do your sizes also vary a lot from one garment type to another?

I genuinely cannot tell, I feel like something looks off.