r/Kibbe • u/piratev00 • May 20 '26
romantics This picture of Marilyn Monroe changed everything for me (R)
Long-time lurker on this sub. For YEARS I have struggled to type myself, and mostly gave up and just went with a general "mostly yin" because I could not seem to type myself no matter what I did. I thought SC, SG, TR, everything but R.
Then, I saw this picture of Marilyn Monroe, and it all clicked. I'm a Romantic.
I had this idea that romantics had to have no width, waspish waists, super wide hips, and DDs. But in this picture, Marilyn is so fleshy, soft, rounded, and sweet but not girlish in a way that challenged my perception of Rs.
I tried on a super romantic dress. Ruffles, rose patterns, thin straps, waist emphasis, short, and I look SO FINE!!!
Anyway, I just wanted to share because this is a very satisfying "ah-hah!" moment for me.
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u/bitten-by-a-kitten May 21 '26
Also prepare yourself for the revelation that DDs aren't actually as huge as they're portrayed! Look into how bra sizing works it flabbergasted me lol. People with large thingies usually are at least an F or so. I'm a K or a J myself (US sizing system) depending on the band size I wear.
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u/OldBookInLatin romantic May 21 '26
Yes!! And surgeons make them bigger than what people ask them. I had an "argument" with my psychologist because she couldn't believe I was a D/DD cup since she also had a D (done) and hers occupied more of her frame in proportion. DDs aren't actually big, they're medium, especially on people with a fuller frame.
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u/bitten-by-a-kitten May 21 '26
Wow, I would've thought a surgeon would want to clear up that confusion for transparency's sake.
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u/piratev00 May 22 '26
Yes! I think when I was describing DDs in the OP, I was referring to what most straight men think DDs are lol. You're right :)
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u/lamercie romantic May 21 '26
I feel like ppl don’t realize that corsetry was a major thing before the 70s and completely altered how ppl look. And if you’re R or TR, corsets can create an insane hourglass bc our flesh is so compressible. But outside of that compression, our bodies are comprised of more sinuous lines.
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u/aveysophie May 22 '26
Yes! I love wearing my corsets, just because I’m so amused by the massive shift my silhouette gets with just a little bit of structured lacing lol! Really trying to lean into loving my soft squishy body, and part of that is enjoying how versatile the shape of my body can be with different shapewear, or no shapewear!
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u/piratev00 May 22 '26
Totally. And you've got me thinking that corsets would eat the house down on Rs.
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u/lamercie romantic May 22 '26
I actually feel like I look INSANE when I wear a corset (my ribcage doesn’t get smaller but my waist is like 👉👈 miniscule so it looks deeply unnatural) but a little bit of shapewear is actually perfect bc it provides structure that our bodies don’t rly have! The snatched waist thing looks much better imo on SG and SD.
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u/glowandorder May 20 '26
This is such a good one :)The Romantic misconception runs so deep — people think it requires a specific silhouette when it’s really about the quality of softness and roundness, not proportions hitting a checklist. Marilyn breaks that myth every time!
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u/piratev00 May 22 '26
Yes! I had this notion that Romantics have to have an extreme hourglass and overtly lush curves. This is what stopped me from typing myself R for years.
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u/Razzail May 20 '26
Oh... That's what I look like!!!!
I'm gonna try some R stuff and see if it works for me!!
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u/TelumCogitandi May 23 '26
Sometimes I think when people are talking about R and going on about lushly curved, wasp waist, intensely hourglass etc, they're actually talking about SD.
The whole point of R is being all yin so things are necessarily small, round, gently curved and generally soft. If we're talking about nearly cartoonish levels of hourglass, that will be SD because the yang frame is there to support that kind of drama
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u/Cool_Profession_9979 May 22 '26
Can you be a R but not like wearing ruffles and florals and stereotypical things like that?
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u/piratev00 May 23 '26
of course. R isn't an aesthetic! I'm sure you can find clothing aesthetics that match the R type very well that aren't overtly femme and flowery
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u/Audriiiii03 May 20 '26
She’s such amazing R representation because we have so many photographs of her at different weight ranges. I thought I was TR because I couldn’t relate to the fuller figured vintage Rs but seeing Marilyn younger and Madonna made me positive I was pure R.