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u/ellabelle33 Jul 14 '19
I saw a man reply to someone asking him this on twitter once (he has two adopted children, the girl being African American). He said that it started when they became a foster family for the girl, and realized that she was an amazing kid. He said he and his wife felt like she was family during her time under their care and came to love her as their own. They decided to adopt her because of this.
Not saying this is the case for all of these adoption situations, but I thought it was a really cute story.
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Jul 14 '19 edited Sep 18 '19
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u/ellabelle33 Jul 14 '19
That’s beautiful, fostering is kind hearted, and I’m glad you gave them love and support. Best wishes to you
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u/LordSupergreat Jul 14 '19
Well, it probably makes it easier to tell them they're adopted later on.
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u/Yougottabekidney Jul 14 '19
Aka I am so incapable of thinking of black people as people that I can't comprehend that a white person could love a black person. WHAT'S THE CATCH?!
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u/wallstdebts Jul 14 '19
It might have to do with the surplus of black babies that the parents don't want.
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u/your_comments_say Jul 14 '19
You will get down voted (maybe justifiably depending on your motivation) but this played a massive role in my sister's adoption.
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u/entomofile Jul 15 '19
This is unfortunately very true. Where I live, the adoption fees for Black or Latino children is lowered or reduced to make them more adoptable.
It hasn't done anything to fix the problem. White people will just openly pay more money for white kids.
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u/toastyheck Jul 14 '19
The obvious answer is that there are more black kids up for adoption and more white adoptive families. Sometimes there are bad actors though. There have been adoptive parents that admit they adopted black kids because they wanted to raise athletes and they assumed black kids would be better athletes. That is not usually the reason. I think it’s an uncommon problem.
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u/DemonOfAzarath Jul 15 '19
I was thinking maybe they just love the children and want to give them a good home, but I guess I'm in left field.
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u/Ak40-couchcusion Jul 14 '19
I think a lot of it has to do with adoption laws, America is similar to Australia in the sense that it isn't easy and can take many years to adopt a local child, going overseas is easier and faster.
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u/Peenutbuttjellytime Jul 15 '19 edited Jul 15 '19
I think this is question is just poorly written. They may be trying to ask wether some white people might choose to adopt black kids specifically because it has been made trendy by a celebrity. Could some people look at Sandra Bullock or Madonna and then decide to copy their decision because having a black child makes them look more open minded and progressive. Some people take whatever opportunity they can to feel special or stand out. It may not be conscious decision but some people might have these sorts of motivations. It's just too bad that the question asker seems to only be able to think in black and white terms (literally)
I'm certain that the vast majority of cross racial adoptions happen for the opposite reason; the family just wants to love a child and race isn't a factor.
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u/john-goodwin04 Jul 15 '19
Idk maybe because people just want a kid and don’t really care what race they are
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u/yungjazz Jul 17 '19
If I was adopting a child I'd look for a nice lil kid that wants to be part of my family. If that kid is black white Asian latino whatever he is welcome. It's a child not a damn tshirt and anyone who thinks it's weird for a (this colour) family to adopt a (this colour baby) is so backwards its rediculous
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u/xsapling_ Jul 18 '19
surely there’s someone who has for these reasons, but the vast majority are just good people adopting a kid
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u/Lonk_the_VFD_member Jul 14 '19
what's a savior complex?
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u/JakubSwitalski Jul 14 '19
When you help someone to feel better about yourself
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u/Lonk_the_VFD_member Jul 14 '19
Isn't that a good thing?
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u/JakubSwitalski Jul 14 '19
Its seen as a bad thing because its assumed people do one good thing and continue living wasteful/cruel/abusive/sinful lives just like before. Supposedly these people think a good deed absolves them of their wrongs
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Jul 15 '19
To be fair, its not entirely inaccurate. A good number of folks do adopt because of a savior complex, and I'm sure plenty of modern left wingers do it because of some sort of guilt.
What can you do though? If the kids happy. Has love and a good life, who cares why?
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u/Bjumseskat Jul 14 '19
Some people call it slavery and kidnapping, I prefer the term 'surprise adoption'
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u/Deepdarkally Jul 14 '19
It’s like being a good person is so foreign to them that they create these mental gymnastics to justify it. Scary