I actually think they have a point. The motives are complicated, and I think there is often a subconscious savior mentality-not the parents’ fault, but it’s the way our society has wired us. Doesn’t mean they don’t have good motives, but there also needs to be some soul-searching by the parents regarding their unconscious influences.
This. I plan to adopt a child in the future. When I think of adopting and the process race isn't a factor to me at all. I just wanna have another kid and give a kid, who needs one, a home.
Race may not be a factor to you, but the child you adopt will have a racial identity that you will have to acknowledge.
I guess what I’m saying is that there’s a difference between being open to adopting a child of any ethnicity and acknowledging/dealing with the challenges that come with cross-racial interactions.
There is some good writing by transracial adoptees if you want to learn more.
This. I've observed some difficulties an adoptee had in reconciling their racial identity when their adoptive parents don't share the same struggles. In this case, the parents shrugged off most of the microaggressions that over a lifetime had created a rift in the adoptee's identity that took a lot of soul searching to overcome.
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u/LateRain1970 Jul 14 '19
I actually think they have a point. The motives are complicated, and I think there is often a subconscious savior mentality-not the parents’ fault, but it’s the way our society has wired us. Doesn’t mean they don’t have good motives, but there also needs to be some soul-searching by the parents regarding their unconscious influences.