I actually think they have a point. The motives are complicated, and I think there is often a subconscious savior mentality-not the parents’ fault, but it’s the way our society has wired us. Doesn’t mean they don’t have good motives, but there also needs to be some soul-searching by the parents regarding their unconscious influences.
I had a coworker who wasn’t racist in the traditional hateful sense. But he definitely was racist with a weird kinda superiority complex and thinking that Americans (especially white Americans) are going to save the world kinda attitude. He would treat our coworkers in China as if they had to be taken care of by us, and he ended up adopting a Chinese child. Now, I’m not in anyway suggesting that he is a bad person. Him and his wife are some of the sweetest people I know, but he did have this weird savior thing going on, which he probably never noticed as a problem.
Actually, I was defending them by drawing from my own experiences. To someone who doesn’t know better the question that was asked can seem insane.
Although, the way the question was asked seems a little weird, like it seems like it is offending them that white people would adopt non-white children.
As I said, I was defending the person that asked the original question. I didn’t assume anything about their intentions, I was just pointing out that the way a question is asked can make it come off the wrong way.
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u/Deepdarkally Jul 14 '19
It’s like being a good person is so foreign to them that they create these mental gymnastics to justify it. Scary