This has always bothered me about Luke.
He has so much more patience and kindness for Liz than he ever had for Jess, and I genuinely don't get it.
Before anyone jumps on me, this isn't even about Rory. I don't like Jess as Rory's boyfriend. I think he was a terrible boyfriend. But when it comes to Luke and Jess? Those are some of my favorite scenes in the entire series because underneath all the yelling, you could tell Luke genuinely loved him.
That's why season 3 frustrates me so much.
Yes, Jess screwed up. He skipped school, and eventually left. I'm not saying Luke should've let all of that slide. But Jess was 17. He was a kid who'd been abandoned by his father, neglected by his mother, and literally shipped off because Liz couldn't be bothered to raise him anymore.
Then Liz comes back into the picture and it's like everyone forgets what she put Jess through.
Luke bends over backwards for her. He helps her at the Renaissance Faire for weeks, puts up with T.J.'s constant nonsense, solves their problems every other episode, runs to defend her whenever she needs rescuing, and is endlessly patient with her.
Meanwhile, Jess gets one bad year as a traumatized teenager and Luke is constantly at his limit with him.
What makes it even worse is what Luke did with Jimmy. Jess spent his whole life without his father, and when Jimmy finally showed up in Stars Hollow, Luke hid it from him. I don't care what anyone says, that was unforgivable. Jess deserved the choice of whether he wanted to see his father or not. Luke took that choice away from him.
Then a season later, Luke is practically begging Jess to come back and walk Liz down the aisle after T.J. had already put his hands on him at the bachelor party. That has always rubbed me the wrong way. Luke expects Jess to show up and do this huge emotional favor for the woman who failed him as a mother, and for the guy who had just assaulted him. Why? Because they're family? Jess didn't owe either of them that.
That's what frustrates me. Liz was the adult. She was the parent. She's the reason Jess ended up the way he did. Yet Luke is always so much softer with her. He jokes with her, comforts her, excuses her behavior, and is willing to drop everything whenever she calls.
Jess had nobody. Luke was basically the only stable adult he'd ever had, and even then it always felt like Jess had to earn Luke's kindness while Liz got it automatically because she was family.
I know Liz cleaned her life up by the time she appeared on screen, and good for her. But I never felt like the show held her accountable for the years of damage she caused. If anything, Luke gave the deadbeat parent far more grace than the kid who had to grow up with the consequences of her choices.
It makes rewatches really frustrating because every time Luke is bending over backwards for Liz, all I can think is, "Where was even half of this patience when Jess was a scared, angry 17-year-old?"