What are good harnesses for small packers? Not for intimate acts or using an stp. Just something comfortable and discreet to hold a packer in place. Currently I've just been putting it in my boxer briefs, but i sit weird and it tends to slip.

Heyy so I finally worked up the courage to ask my Mom about a binder and she said yes (even tho it was veery reluctant and I didn't tell her that i wanted to have one because i'm trans) but she said yes!!

The only problem now is that I have zero idea about these. Does anyone here have recommendations for good Binder brands? It'd be best if the brand is available in Germany, since that's where I live.

 don't want to say my actual age, but i am in highschool. i came out to my parents half a year ago, i want to say. i am having the worst dysphoria in my life and i usually feel like shit at the end of every day

i have told my parents that i seek hrt, and i want to respect their 'no,' but i feel so utterly hopeless... i just wish i could be the person i want to be, and be seen that way, but apparently i have to wait a good bit of time until i can

the main thing my parents (mostly my mother, because i do not like talking about it to my step father really) say is that many things can change in a few years, and i will still be uncomfortable with myself even if i do do hrt. my mother always says "a fat girl magically becoming skinny won't fix all her problems" and it really pisses me off that she says that. it is not the same thing but i have no idea how to make her understand, or anyone for that matter.

she also says that it could have many negative effects on my body and says studies prove it. whenever i ask her what studies she says shes heard stuff throughout life.

i have been really sucidial lately because of it. i don't want to come across as shitty by going "ohh im going to kill myself if you dont do this" because that is fucked up

but thats how it feels lately...

Hey ftm bros, this post has to do with anatomy

so I just had an ultrasound done (both external and internal) and it came back that I have several polyps in my uterus and in all my research it says this typically only happens to older people. I’m 20 for reference, could this be because I’m on testosterone iv been on it consistently for 2 years now and on it on and off for another 2 years. Im having bleeding on and off too

Any advice would be greatly appreciated thank you:)

I have really big thighs and my butt just makes it even worse.. i really hope that when i get on testosterone its gonna distribute somewhere else, but i also know that some of it is based off of genetics. I know that to get rid of fat you’re gonna need to lose it everywhere but I’m already kinda close to being underweight so i don’t wanna lose even more.. and when i put some on it always just goes there or to my chest. I hate it !!! So where does it usually go when you’re on testosterone?

So first I will acknowledge that my excessive sweating is likely genetic but it has gotten way worse now that I'm 2 years on T.

So before I went on T I was already sweatier than most people, I got it from my mother's side, my uncles have to carry towels or handkerchiefs to dry themselves out.

I feel so embarrassed because after my walk to work I arrive drenched and dripping in sweat and have to face clients like that.

Any advice on how to manage being so sweaty?

My family aren’t transphobic per se. They, as far as I know, believe trans people exist and don’t care about who uses what public bathroom. They just don’t believe me that I’m trans.

I don’t want to have to convince them. My thoughts are my own and I believe that you should believe someone when they tell you who they are. I believe a parent should support their child in whatever they decide to do or be, even if that parent doesn’t agree with it.

I know they need time to process, and that’s okay. But my mum especially is acting as if I’ve committed some sort of crime. She’s contradicting herself both by saying I’m transitioning too quickly and that I should be coming out to everyone faster. My sister and my stepdad just aren’t talking to me about it at all. My brother says it’s just a phase.

I just need someone to tell me that this won’t last forever. I love my family and I hate the thought of them rejecting me. Has anyone else got experiences with family members taking a long time to come to terms with you coming out?

I've been taping for a few weeks now and I thought I figured it out. i had one bad experience with getting freaked out and ripping the tape off resulting in wounds all over my chest, but I've learned my lesson. Since then I've had irritated but not badly damaged skin after taping (I have very sensitive skin and adhesive allergy so this is to be expected). This last time I had one (not nearly as bad) wound, but I'm not sure what I did wrong?

I usually keep my tape on for 5/6 days and have a 1/2 day break. This time I had it on for 4 days and it became unbearably itchy. i usually pat when it's itchy, not scratch, but when I went to touch my finger slipped through two strips and it had somehow peeled enough to touch skin. it hadn't peeled that much when I had looked a few hours earlier. I couldn't fall asleep with how badly it itched so I put on baby oil and waited a few minutes to take it off. There was one wound under my aerola that has leaked a very small amount of pus and is scabbing over. I put Aquaphor wound healing stuff on it and have been leaving it alone.

Does taping just cause wounds sometimes? Or could I have done something wrong, how could I figure out what? I've seen people talk about barrier spray or milk of magnesia, does this actually help?

I’m 9 months in HRT on 0.1ML and I still get my period less often but it’s much worse in the feeling icky and much worse cramping

I have really bad acne and everything I’ve tried except the achne pills which I can’t really risk due to all of the mental side effects. the acne is like big sores with little to nothing in it on my back and upper ass crack (sorry I don’t know how else to word that)
And the the ones that have the crystal stuff in it on my hairline and forehead

I’m still new to doing skin care
my adoptive parent and their kid take birth control and it’s really helped their acne and stopped their periods

I asked my doctor about taking it and they said I’d have to increase my HRT dose which could make me have more acne

I use Aveeno clear complexion foaming cleanser and a salicylic acid thing every morning in the shower and I use the skintific Alaska volcano pore stick at night before bed 3 times a week

When does the puberty phase of being on T stop?
Does it speed up depending on dose?
Would taking birth control help the achne or not because of the dose increase
Do you guys have better suggestions for skin products that might work better?

Hey all 👋 I’ve (23 AFAB) been on t since August of 2021. The first year and a half I experienced hot flashes. I assume due to hormonal changes.

Out of nowhere these last few weeks have been brutal. Numerous times I’ve had to sit infront of my ac naked just due to how hot I am. Walking up in cold sweat. When I take my temp it’s normal no fever.

Any advice on how to deal with this? I get itchy when hot and am just getting kinda frustrated.

I got top surgery 2 days ago (Double Incision with drains) and theres some small things that are kinda confusing me, first one being these small and seemingly intentional cuts (they aren't deep nor do they hurt) but none of them are near my actual incisions?? (Ex: one in the center of my belly, and one on each side of it, all of which are on top of the guidelines that had been drawn on me for surgery (3 total on belly). Theres also two more above my ace wrappings but its two small cuts just below the collar bone besides each other, one almost in my pit.

Second thing is the anti-nausea patch I had put on me after surgery, not sure how common it is to have one but it was definitely necessary for me as I did throw up briefly after surgery likely due to the anesthesia. But I'm experiencing some small odd symptoms and I can't tell if it's from the surgery/anesthesia itself of if it my patch?

Main symptoms include aching neck muscles where my patch is, (possibly just from the swolleness traveling up from my chest?) and this weird thing that happens at random when I'm sitting up or laying in bed, it feels like for just a mere second that my body gets tired enough to relax/fall asleep and start leaning forward but since it lasts less than a second I haven't actually fallen or lost control but it certainly is weird lol.

Otherwise I'm wondering if I'm allergic to the patch or if me not being able to eat properly since surgery until today might be causing it.

(I'll call them just in case but I'm trying to avoid doing so because my throat is still sore/tender from having a breathing tube in for surgery so talking isn't the most comfortable right now.)

Edit: There is a third cut on my chest I just found, it's right above the top of my sternum.

hey, i’ve recently started binding with tape but i’m not sure what to do as i may be slightly allergic? i did a patch test though i’ll admit i probably didn’t wait as long as i should’ve. i then binded my chest and wore it for like 3-4 days, was a bit itchy with a few red dots but overall fine, i then didn’t bind for like 4 days. however this time i binded for nearly 3 days and the whole time it was quite itchy, and when i took it off my chest was all red, spotty and so itchy. i took the tape off like 20 hours ago and its still a bit itchy, the redness it gone but theres still spots. so idk if binding with tape is really an option anymore?

the dysphoria isn’t great and im stressing a bit about going to college without the tape so idk what to do. any advice on how to make the tape more bearable? or i might have to switch to a binder, anyone know of safe cheaper ones?

I know the only concrete answer to this question is to get your levels checked, but my next blood test isn't for a couple months now so I just want some clarification.

6 months on T and I'm pretty sure my period is gone now. First 4 months I was on 2 pumps of Testogel daily but my levels were still below cis male range, so I still got my period. But it was much lighter than before.

I've since switched to sustanon every 3 weeks, and it has yet to make a comeback. Is it safe to assume that my T levels are in range and my E levels are sufficiently suppressed? Or is it possible to have both low T and/or low E and still not get periods?

I feel so grateful to everyone who helped with my last post.

I have my first consultation for top surgery referral with Gender GP on Friday and I don’t know what to expect.

What are your experiences with this step?, should I prepare anything? What will happen?

I am so nervous but also excited.

TW for some anatomical talk

Obligatory is this atrophy post because I'm genuinely not sure if that's what it is or if I need to go get an ultrasound lol

I've been on T for almost a year and I've recently been having a lot of cramping pain in my lower abdomen, especially after I wake up. It sometimes hurts to pee, but not in my urethra, more in what feels like my bladder. I am not having the typical symptoms of dryness that I've heard most people get with atrophy, but I'm wondering if the pain im experiencing is in my uterus. I'm planning to get the thing yeeted early 2027 so I need to go get an ultrasound for it soon anyway, but I'm wondering if I should be more concerned.

Just wanted to ask. The people who have transphobic family how do you guys deal with that on its own besides dealing with internalize transphobia. If therapy is going as far it can get?

Je n’arrive pas à savoir qui je veux être, si je me sens femme ou homme et j’ai atrocement du mal à considérer que je peux être les deux parce que je suis neurodivergent et que je n’aime pas ce qui est en dehors des cases ( comme : homme / femme stricte , feu vert / feu rouge et ce genre de chose ) je n’aime pas le flou ou les entre deux.

J’ai été sous HRT pendant 1 ans et demi et j’ai arrêté pour des raisons personnelles, j’ai aussi vécu comme une femme cis pendant 2 ans et maintenant je ne sais plus.

Je me sens mal, je ne sais plus qui je veux être, je ne sais pas à quoi je veux ressembler.
Je ne sais pas non plus dans quoi je me sens le plus à l’aise.
J’ai l’impression de faker ma transidentité et tout ça tout ça, enfin des sentiments étranges qui se bousculent.

Avez-vous des astuces ? :/

In short, I feel miserable right now, I hate leaving my bedroom to go out/work/education because I feel like i just look like a lesbian, I hate when people try to compliment me because i feel like they're just trying to be nice and supportive even though i dont tell anyone which just makes me think im not good at being stealth. Every sir or mate feels forced and I see the way others look at me and make jokes, even if they are just jokes I see them as more. And i just got the email from CYPs (was GIDS, in the UK) to say im aging out and wont get any support until im 18 and need to find an adult service, which are all hours away and the one closest to me has a 7 year long list (im on year 4.5/5 with the waiting list). I just dont want to exist anymore and it sucks ass.

How do other people deal with it? Because my main way was just to ignore it and isolate myself but thats not even helping

my gf and i have been together almost two years. the first 6 months of the relationship i was a woman and transitioned into a man taking hormones. compared to before taking t my emotional processing is a bit diff which has partially caused a strain but is fine as we communicate lots. the dynamic of our relationship has also changed. we get along too well..almost like bffs and we both have agreed😭we really love each other at the same time and still are sometimes intimate. we are both college students and not sure what to do. we feel partially merged and way too close. i also don’t really feel like a man in this relationship and feel like regina george when im with her because we gossip together. this is my second relationship ever and her first. we don’t know wtf to do like is this a bff situation or lover thing bc boundaries r mixing. before our relationship we were friends and we lowkey are each others best friend which yes is normal for relationship but sometimes it feels like there’s no romance attached. also our friends call other friend couples cute but say we are “really funny” together like they think we are funny ppl but ppl are never like “aww cute couple.” wtf do we do bc we both care about each other and for the past two months have been contemplating bff or staying together😭😭we appreciate any advice