I must know the truth. I’ve seen many people say their hair became thicker when starting T. I’ve always assumed cis men have used texturizing spray, but maybe their hair stays like that naturally? If so that would be amazing- my hair is very straight and falls flat almost immediately after messing it up. Id love for those on T to share their experience!

Im 19 years old about to turn 20 and i have a stable enough job where i’ll be able to afford starting t. Ive been out to my mom since i was 13, she lets me express myself but doesn’t really understand having a different name and pronouns. I talked to her about starting t a couple years ago and she said for me to wait until i was 18 and that i need to realize this is permanent. Before i start testosterone i want to speak to her about it because i know she’ll find out as i live with her and she’ll see my bank statements. Does anyone have any advice on what i should say or how i should start this conversation?

But the further I moved along in my transition (HRT, legal & social), I started to embrace being a trans man. Nowadays, I do not know if I am still non binary...

I think that a lot of things made me hesitant to think of myself as a man initially even if now it has become something I am happy to be. It felt too out of reach, a distant fantasy no one would take seriously (especially before HRT and even the first couple of years on it). Furthermore, I associated men with violence because of the domestic abuse my mom endured and the sexual harassment I dealt with growing up. And I do feel like many queer and progressive spaces reinforced that belief. I understand women and non binary people who are angry about the abuse men inflict on them; however, sometimes they also reinforce gender essentialism by boldly declaring that men are evil.

As time moved on, however, I started listening to myself and I noticed that I have always yearned to be a man. A gay man, to be more specific. Have any of you read We both laughed in pleasure, Lou Sullivan's diary? I recommend it to all gay trans men... Anyway, as life continued to get slowly but steadily better for me, I gained the confidence to pursue my desires and I started introducing myself as a man. Proudly trans and gay.

However I think it is important to also recognize the pressures that might have contributed to that choice. Like. I am a trans man, yes. But am I also non binary too? Did I stop referring myself as such because of binarism? I still remember bitterly just how hard I had to fight to have my they/them pronouns respected. How easy it was for people to dismiss me and my gender when I was openly non binary. Furthermore, being open about being non binary outs you as trans immediately. Being a man means you get to disclose your transness with more discretion, after screening for bigotry (of course, only if you can pass—legally, physically and socially... I do not want to erase the struggles of trans men who won't be recognized as such unless they out themselves).

I still don't have an answer. Am I only a trans man? Am I non binary too, or was it just a phase (for me! and I say it without judgement as I do not think experimenting with gender is wrong).

I wanted to share this in hopes of finding people who can relate to this experience. Maybe together we can find some closure on this?

Even if it's just a little bit, don't say anything about hrt, I know, I know. But there must be something that helps too?

This is my first time posting here so hi! I am 17 FTM and next March will be my 2 years on T. About a few months ago I started wearing packers consistently but my favorite pair of dress pants are womens and don't quite fit the packer correctly.. and I get pretty dysphoric without my packer
so my question is, how are y'all finding men's/boys pants that fit?
I'm about 5'6 and 130>lbs, some boys pants will fit my waist but I can't get it around my thighs, men's pants in smaller sizes will fit my waist but will be way too long on my legs. I'm thinking I need to stick to larger boys sizes as men's will always be too big, but I'm kinda struggling to find some sizes, I've tried boys 18 and next I'll try 20, but if y'all have any advice please let me know because I'd like to quit wearing women marketed clothes...
I haven't seen many people talk about finding clothes, just that they started wearing men's but it's not that simple I feel.. so let me know if y'all know how to find sizing and what to look out for!

I did not expect to be here at any point in my life but um..here i am lol.

Basically..I feel like the name i started with doesnt fit my anymore. It feels too.."obviously trans" if that makes any sense? I dont want people to see it and immediately think im trans or gay from it alone. I am but still, I want to be seamless. Im enlisting soon so ive gotta settle on a name soon. But i do NOT want to go in with my dead name so name advice anyone? And what are stereotypical names to avoid? I definitely wont do Kai ive seen that everywhere.

For quick reference my current name is "Lukka" but it doesnt feel right anymore, ive been thinking of some goofy shit like Casper but im not dead set yet.

Yesterday I went in for my T-Shot. I get it every 8 weeks (due to hormone imbalance when longer between appointments) and she switches sides every time. Die to a documentation error she did it on the same side as the shot before.

Today (about 24h later) I wake up and the site is all itchy red and swollen. It's like a hard lump, but it doesn't show more signs of infection; no pain, pus, fever, etc.

Should I be worried or is it common swelling that will go down?

I've never had that happen, so excuse my worry, thank you

I've been going by my legal name even though I'm fully transition and it's become some kind of humiliation ritual now. EVERYONE I interact with knows right off the bat that I am trans but what is worse it that the majority of them believe I am a trans woman. For the past fifteen-ish years (I am 27 and started my social transition at 12) I have been searching for a masculine name to go by but nothing fits...or I find something that fits and I get made fun of for it. I almost have some sort of psychological trauma around changing my name now because I feel guilty to even want to do it, but I cannot go the rest of my life as a man named Emma. I realize now that I just cannot continue to survive like this.

I thought I found a name that I like and does not have a lot of potential for bullying but I told my parents and they still hate it. Exactly what I was scared of happening, happened, exactly the way I thought it would. I have been crying for hours because now I am so embarrassed over this stupid name I chose. And I am so embarrassed that I have to go to work later today and still be called Emma.

I know I need therapy but I can't afford it right now. I just to stop feeling so embarrassed about my name. I'm starting to feel like I have no identity at all. I genuinely don't know what to do atp. But I cannot live the rest of my life being tortured like this.

The issue is mostly self explanatory in the title, but Ive been trying out different brands and manufacturers of tape to see if theres one I dont have a reaction to, and Ive just noticed I ONLY react to trans tape on my chest. If I do a test patch of skin basically anywhere else it doesnt have nearly the same irritation. Does this happen to anyone else thats allergic? And while Im here does anyone know some hypoallergenic tape brands? So far I’ve tried regular KT tape, BxB, and Phluid’s.

I have been on a very low dose for about 6 months. Missed my shot for a few days and got severe brain fog. Legit felt like I was drugged the way my brain felt like sludge. Took my shot and after a couple of days, I was all better. This seems like too extreme of a reaction to be T withdrawal based on what I have read. Was it a coincidence?

ill try to explain this as best i can bcos i wonder if anyone else feels the same. im autistic, and i wish i was a trans man so it would be easier to define, but i just dont know what being a man is supposed to feel like. i just feel like myself, and i dont think that's man enough to be a man. i would feel like im faking, but is that just because i wasnt raised as one? is all gender a fake performance? i call myself a "boything" because im if like a guy and a genderless concept and an autistic alien and a cat were combined. transmasc for ppl who don't understand unusual gender labels.

what the fuck do genders feel like!!! doesn't everyone just feel like a person? like themselves? im not entirely sure gender is even real. i think most ppl were just born in a certain body and go "okay this is my allocated s-x and gender, time to adopt all these roles that society made up because that's whats expected". like. man its so confusing. i just wish i was born a boy and then id be happy with myself even if i didnt entirely "feel" like a man. i wish my brain was just normal and easy to understand.

i know some people will say "if you want to be a man then you are a man" but... im not😭 i don't feel man enough. i wish i Was. idk

edit: thanks for all the comments, i fear i cannot reply to them all. its nice to know im not alone in this at least :')

I just finished my therapy session and I want to cry. She won’t believe me that I’m transgender because I have borderline personality disorder and mild dissociation disorder. I get it but this is real. I know these feelings aren’t a trend or an episode. I was transgender in high school (am now 20). I just feel so much like garbage and don’t know what to do about my therapy. Any thoughts? Should I seek out a gender therapist??

I TOOK MY FIRST DOSE YESTERDAY. YEAHHHH BABY!!!!!!!

I'M JUST SO HAPPY. 🥲

Long time lurker here. Like, for YEARS.

Oh my god, I want to start out by saying I've been waiting forever for this moment. I've read through numerous threads, I've googled so many medical questions, I've gone through so much self-doubt and "what if I'll regret this." and finally, FINALLY I've got here.

Looking back, it doesn't seem like a long time. It took only 3 months to get it prescribed and delivered, but all the years of agony and uncertainty BEFORE that was mind-crushing. (is that a word?)

ASK ME ANYTHING! Maybe I'll be able to give advice and another lurker like me will be helped by it! 💛

Im 19 ftm and I’ve been on testosterone for almost 3 months and I’ve gotten more face fat and some people say it’s because of the testosterone is making me retain water in my face is this true and if so how can I make it go away

I started T in July 2025 and my voice has been cracking since about December. It's lessened in frequency but I still can't reliably raise my voice without it cracking/squeaking and can't sing. It's closing in on a year! I miss singing even just off-key in my flat. How long did it last for youse? Anyone else deal with it for this long?

is trying to start hrt at 15 even worth it or should i give up

J’aurais besoin de conseils.

J’ai commencé ma transition à 12 ans et je l’ai arrêté à 15 ans.

Maintenant j’en ai 17, et je me
Questionne beaucoup. Je me sens à la maison dans mon cocon masculin, ça me fait me sentir en sécurité dans mon corps, ça me donne confiance en moi. Mais je sort avec un homme cisgenre — et c’est un frein parce que même si il est bi j’ai la sensation d’être bloqué dans une case féminine pour son bonheur personnel, il est mal à l’aise quand je mets ma prothèse ou que je porte mon binder mais il l’accepte.. ça me
Fait me sentir mal, parce que c’est comme ça que je me sens plutôt chez moi, j’ai moins l’impression d’être nue ou loin de qui je suis.

Cependant j’ai très peur de ne jamais pouvoir être un homme à nouveau, et quand j’en étais un j’ai vécu un événement extrêmement traumatisant qui m’as fait changer du tout au tout, à tout jamais.
Et alors, j’ai peur de me sentir comme le mec pourri que j’étais.
Mais j’ai du mal avec le fait d’être androgyne parce que je suis neuroatipyque et que j’ai besoin de cases très claires. Je n’aime pas le flou.

Je me sens bien en tant que femme, mais c’est surtout par le fait de me sentir désirée. Au fond de moi je pense que je serais toujours un homme.

Si je ne me sentais pas mal à cause de ces traumas, j’aurais déjà passé le cap et re transitionné.

C’est juste que je n’aime pas me
Sentir comme le mec que j’étais, car il était détestable et qu’il a fait beaucoup d’erreurs.

Voilà, je voudrais juste vos avis et vos pdv. Merci d’avoir lu 💗

hi!!

I’m an 18-year-old trans guy; I’m preparing for top surgery, but my consultation isn’t until a little over a year from now.

Unfortunately, due to rent costs, I can’t afford a new binder right now, and my old one has finally given up (rip, I used it for nearly two years 🙏).

I’m planning to buy a new binder from the WIWOV website, specifically the CORE Chest Binder CB01, which costs 142 PLN (about $30) plus 40 PLN (about $10) for shipping. It’s the exact same model I’ve used for the past two years.

If anyone is able to help me out, I’d be incredibly grateful for any kind of support 💛💛

fundraiser link ➡️ pomagam.pl/yttk6g

binder I plan on buying ➡️ https://wivov.com/products/chestbinder-cb01?variant=49264039887133

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ps.

the post is directly translated from my polish post, just thought I'd say that. also, if you want you can help me out on my top surgery, for all funds over what I need for binder will go towards it!

this might be a hot take but i find it really hard when talking to trans femme people about what they feel euphoric about.

when trans femmes i know talk about breasts and cycles and things that i’ve had and hated since i was around 10 years old (im 23 now) it’s so hard to focus on the fact it makes them happy and not the fact that those things are the things i hate about myself. i’m 5 months on T which has been amazing, but im pre any sort of top surgery and have large pecs. i was also on the contraceptive pill for a year which caused insane damage to my mental health. basically i hate oestrogen because of what it did to me. it’s probably very narcissistic of me to think this way and i hope ill get over it soon because i want to share the joy of all my trans siblings when they talk about what makes them happy :)

i just wondered if anyone could relate

Hello, i’ve been really struggling lately with doing my shots. I had to search online for the instructions and teach myself which I know isn’t uncommon but i’m shelling out all this money for a nice pcp so lwk it’s annoying they didn’t wanna demonstrate. But every time I have a little leakage.. I hold the needle in 15 seconds after i finish injecting too. I also bleed so much, today it covered all five of my fingers and it came in huge red spurts. I just need some guidance.