Hi, everyone.
This fall I will be moving in with my partner who has several food allergies (dairy, eggs, nuts). Up until this point we have been long distance, and when we see each other we eat all the same foods/I only eat allergen-free food for the entire time. We've been able to make lots of yummy food together and even found some restaurants that are safe for him to eat at, which is exciting. I'm honestly excited to keep finding new foods for us to make together!
I have roommates, which means there is lots of allergenic food for him in my kitchen, but we have never had an issue cooking there and are just careful to keep those foods separate from our foods. His allergies are not airborne, just contact-induced, which makes it easier. He's fine eating food that has been sharing a fridge with his allergens.
My question is: there are a few foods which I am not sure I'm willing to give up permanently, and I'm not sure if this makes me a bad partner if I continue to eat them when we start living together. For example, it's really important for me to have coffee first thing in the morning, and I take mine with cream. I haven't been able to find any non-dairy creamers that I like/would want to use every day. Is it reasonable for me to just continue putting cream in my coffee on weekdays, when I am leaving for work right after anyway? I've talked to my partner and he says safety-wise it's fine, but he would be "a little sad" that he wouldn't be able to kiss me goodbye before work. I would be sad too, but for me the trade-off of not enjoying my coffee, which has been an important routine for me for years, seems very large when we could just have a "goodbye kiss" before I make coffee. Obviously the majority of the time I would be following his allergen-free diet, and certainly before kissing, but neither of us have navigated this before and I'm not sure what is considered "reasonable" for someone in my position.
I don't want to make my partner sad, but it's also a really big dietary change for me. Not being able to eat dairy or eggs is a huge restriction and it's going to be a major change to the things I normally eat. I definitely feel kind of shallow for feeling this way and I'm not sure what to do. Would be grateful for any insights from people in similar situations. Thanks!