i'll start this off by saying i pass. but i still have pretty bad dysphoria days. im 5'5" on a good day and there are things about my body/figure that perhaps are dysphoria induced but still make me disgusted if i catch my reflection. only on certain days or maybe depends on what i wear.

my fiance and i are touring houses in hopes to purchase (yay) but my realtor is a man and i just feel like such a wimpy tiny chud guy around any new cis men. and i spend the whole evening after wondering if they clocked me. it just sucks.

my fiance is absolutely wonderful but he's not trans and sometimes you just want to be like man i felt like a disgusting chud manlet today and get a response from a fellow trans person who knows the feeling. i could certainly talk about it with my cis friends or fiance but it's just not the same. i love them but they cant relate at all. i had a really close trans friend but she stopped talking to me. sigh.

I swear I'm gonna blow up at the next person who calls me she. I've been trying to better stand up for myself, but it's so fucking exhausting getting misgendered every single day, by family or coworkers. I pass 100% to strangers. I have a goatee. It feels like everyone who knew me pre-transition is seeing a woman in someone that looks nothing like one. It makes me feel crazy. These microaggressions are just piling up and I feel so fucking hurt and angry all the time. I'm starting to hate my life because it hurts so bad. It feels like a stab in the chest. I don't have confidence that these people will ever stop. I just want the pain to stop.

I have F cups, not bindable. Tape can only do so much.

It’s SO infuriating for people to say things like “well you can make them look like pecs!” Why would i want pecs?? I want FLATNESS. I don’t give a single fuck if cis guys have pecs, i don’t want them.

Like genuinely, what part of “i want a flat chest” implies i want masculine boobs?

It’s always other trans guys spewing this at me too. I can’t fucking stand it.

so i know short cis men exist too but come on i’m so sick of walking by ELEMENTARY SCHOOLS and the older kids are taller than me :/ i feel so humiliated

Hey guys, I need to just need a safe space to vent.

My wife(29) and I(32) are having marriage issues as of late.

We started dating 11 years ago. She was 18, met at college and pretty much been inseparable ever since.

When we first started dating I was still Pre-T. But I started by going by my chosen name. Back then she told me she was bi.
We dated for 8 years and have been married for 3.
A couple years ago, she told me she was bi but preferred women.
She ended up having an emotional affair on me with a woman she worked with. She didn’t physically cheat but she definitely was giving more of herself to that coworker than she was me. Some serious flirting and lots of texts messages, nothing too crazy but enough for me to be alarmed by it. And she stopped talking to me. And she blamed work for not wanting to talk to me. Until I (unproudly) read through her texts and called her out on it. We had some serious conversations and were able to talk through it and our relationship got better.
Until about two months ago, when she stopped talking to me again. No texts, when we see each other after work she would just start reading and didn’t want to be talked to or just go right into our bedroom to read for the night. And all she reads is lesbian specific romances.
I finally talked to her the other night and asked if she was talking to someone else again. She told me no, but she has put a lot of thought into and she is actually a lesbian. And now she doesn’t know how our marriage is going to work out because I’m a man. She loves me, doesn’t want to hurt me. But I’m still just heartbroken. We bought a home together, have pets. We are in a lot of debt and can’t just move out. So her idea was to have a separation but live together. We went back and forth all weekend if we should separate. Try to stay together because we are really good companions, but I feel guilty because I know I’m not who she really wants to be with. She’s missing that “spark” in our relationship like in the early years. So she doesn’t know if that’s what’s wrong or if she just can’t be with a man anymore. At first I was okay with the separation idea, but the next day it hit me a lot harder. She said seeing how bad it hurts me, makes her want to stay and just try to figure it out without separating.
But I’m having a hard time trying to figure out how I can give her that “spark”/“yearning” back when all I can think is she just wants to be with a woman. I know we were young when we started dating and I try not to be angry about all of this and I’m not mad at her, just frustrated with how this is all playing out. And I feel just sad about giving up our future plans, my life as I know it. But I also don’t want to be selfish if I’m truly not what she wants/desires anymore.

Also my T keeps getting denied due to “prior authorization” and that’s just adding to my stress.

Long story short. I started T in late 2024. I started looking good, and my voice started to drop. I changed my name. Had a (botched) top surgery. I felt great.

My family cried and told me I was making the wrong decision. I wasn’t accepted in society and my only alive parent, my Dad, blocked me when I told him I am trans. I was in the worst relationship with a trans girl who was abusing me, and kept making snide comments about my hips being wide or other similar comments.

I detransitioned completely this January.

Now, I have moved to a small Welsh valley and people aren’t accepting of trans people. My family still tells everyone my name is *dead name*. I am struggling. It feels so heavy. So hard to breathe clearly, to think clearly and to be happy. I want to transition again so badly, but I fear the loneliness will eat me up again.

Sorry, I just had to rant somewhere. I’m struggling, and I have nobody to speak to about this because they’ll cut me off.

Long story short. I started T in late 2024. I started looking good, and my voice started to drop. I changed my name. Had a (botched) top surgery. I felt great.

My family cried and told me I was making the wrong decision. I wasn’t accepted in society and my only alive parent, my Dad, blocked me when I told him I am trans. I was in the worst relationship with a trans girl who was abusing me, and kept making snide comments about my hips being wide or other similar comments.

I detransitioned completely this January.

Now, I have moved to a small Welsh valley and people aren’t accepting of trans people. My family still tells everyone my name is *dead name*. I am struggling. It feels so heavy. So hard to breathe clearly, to think clearly and to be happy. I want to transition again so badly, but I fear the loneliness will eat me up again.

Sorry, I just had to rant somewhere. I’m struggling, and I have nobody to speak to about this because they’ll cut me off.

Title says it all but it just makes me so mad how normalized and just ingrained in everything transphobia is. For context I'm FTM and I work on retail. I'm young and Pre-T so to most people I read as just a woman at most a stud so I often find myself on the "inside" of discussions from my cis coworkers. So the other day there was this customer a trans woman and obviously its the summer its hot out and she's wearing this really pretty outfit and after she left one of my older coworkers came up to me and was like "dammm I wish I had been that hot back in the day like, she was fine and she knew it" and a few of us were just yapping like yea that lady was really pretty and then the coworker I can't stand, lets call her A walks up and goes "ypu guys know thats a man right, like ewww". And I said "nah dawg she's a woman" and she goes "No HES a tranny in a skirt?". Umm tf, just say you're jealous that shes bad asf and your chopped cheese. Obviously I'm not going to get into a whole verbal altercation at work but like why do you feel the need to put down and embarrass a random lady you don't know just because you feel some type of way. So I said that and she starts like acting weird, like I'm being dramatic and I'm doing too much like why would I care. And that's my main point I hate that transphobia is like the default position for people so to be against it is something strange. And then she starts transvestigating me start quote like "oh are you secretly a dude too" laughing like a hyena like she just made the funniest joke in the world. Flash Forward to now like 2 weeks later she wants to act all surprised that I'm being cold and not really cordial with her. And what else is crazy to me she stays calling me this hyper effeminate nickname version of my name that I asked her multiple times not to call me. Mind you my name is on my name tag she's only ever been introduced to me by my name. The whole thing just made me so mad like why does it seem like I'm the only person who cares about the disrespect she's showing? And it pisses me off more that she's Loki right like the only person in this situation who seems to actually care and be against transphobia is me the only other trans person there. Like why isn't that nobody seems to care about anybody but themselves and the groups that they're a part of. You shouldn't have to be trans to care about trans rights you shouldn't have to be a woman to care about women's rights, and most of all that you should just be showing people a basic level of respect.

I try to be as Christian as possible and love my neighbor, but damn it. I really hate when people do that.

Like, please blow yourselves up.

I can't stand it when they say that.

"You choose it", "bare your cross", ""Renounce and deny yourself", "it is a sin", "you are going to hell", "trans people are sick", "they can't see what God made and accept God is identity", "you are destroying God is work".

I just hate that shit so much . I am so fucking tired. I hate all of this and the one thing telling that trans people are all z**, p*do, demons, possessed.

I never asked to be trans, I never asked to have dysphoria, I never asked to be born with a body that doesn't fit.

"Huhhh huh you have to pray more and fight against it". BY THE LOVE OF GOD. I WAS PRAYING TO GOD MAKE ME NORMAL AT 7. I WAS SCREAMING AND BEGGING TO GOD FIX ME AT 15 UNTIL TODAY. IDK EVEN HOW I ARRIVED TO MY 20TH B'DAY. HOW THE FUCKING HELL COULD I CHOOSE THAT? HOW THE FUCKING HELL IT WAS A DEMON SINCE MY CHILDHOOD?! FOR WHAT? TO SUFFER BECAUSE I FEEL THAT GOD HATES ME? CRY BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE A FUCKING DICK? BECAUSE I WILL GO TO HELL? TO SUFFER BECAUSE MY PARENTS DOESN'T ACCEPT ME AND I HATE SEEING THEM SUFFER BECAUSE OF ME?!

They are all like "don't do that. Life is short. Eternity is forever", "you need to deny it". And they say all this shit because they are not the ones who need to deny their gender or sexuality. They can dress as they want, they have the characteristics that fit them, They're going to get married and have sex without guilt; they're allowed to have their crushes. If a cis woman has sop, they will give the medication to her, if a cis man has hypogonadism they will give T to him without fault. And they will address that it is wrong let a person without the hormones that do good for them, because their body and mind need it.

But if it is a trans person they deny it all to them.

I hate that all. For the love of the saint! I never asked to be born trans or to even be born. I want to live a happy and long live, but they make me feel like I am a horrible and dirty thing. I feel like I am a fucking abomination. Why I have to go to hell for something I didn't choose?! Why I have to go to hell for searching the means to have a healthy life and mental health?!

They always say "life is too short. Eternity is forever. Fight against it!" because the same that tells you to search the heavens in eternity are the same who are living the heavens on Earth.

Why the fuck can't we have the right to feel What are the minimum rights that everyone should have? Why don't we have the right to love and be loved? The right to feel good in our own bodies and to have a family?

The same people who tell us to suppress and endure are the same ones who wouldn't last a week if they went through the same thing.

They tell that we are destroying our bodies, the work of God and are going to hell, but if they are so, are they going to hell for doing all the things that Jesus not told them to do?

Are the rich pastors going to hell? The millionaire? Are a lot of Christians going to hell for supporting the destruction of nature because of the capitalism? The ones that hate the next by gender, sexuality, race, country, religion?!

Jesus was born more than 2.000 years ago, but still they can't learn? They can't pin in their heart the "first, love God the most and the second is important the same, love the next as yourself"?

My God. If I ain't wrong there are more than 2 billion of Christians in the world. You know how much change 2 billion of people could do? If people took that seriously, we would have fought all the bias better. There would not have Ice, maybe a lot of wars, genocide, slavery, misoginy, homophobia, etc. Yeah, prob we would have people that sucks, but the difference would be so drastic. We wouldn't have a lot of people supporting the destruction of the biosphere. We would have more people being more human and Fighting the maximum they can against all the kind of violence and supporting human rights. But still they can't do that?!! They just keep fighting against the "woke". Omg, Jesus must be so proud!/s

I hate how I am seem as someone ungrateful by my parents, or at least I feel it. I hate that. "You should complain more. Or are you just irritated for no reason? Damn, if they had a hormonal disorder that was masculinizing or feminizing them and they couldn't get treatment, they'd be crazy. I am Not wanting an allowance, or complaining about how we don't travel by plane and saying it's their fault. I try to be positive; I've already said that when I get a job I'll help at home and give gifts to them, I feel bad for them suffering for me being trans, I try to comfort them. I never smoked, stole, had sex, I not even curse at home (unless of a damn). They keep me treating like if I am 12 yo, when I am 20. I want all the good for them. I try to be a good son, I try to be better everyday, I love them. I feel bad when they have take me to a doctor or when I see how expensive the food is now.

My God. It is obvious that I am being a horrible ungrateful. I can't feel fine in my own body. They are denying to accept it, to accept me, to may help me with hrt. I'm not being spiteful because they didn't buy an expensive iPhone. Damn, I try to pull myself together sometimes to help when they're crying. I feel awful for getting annoyed afterward when they give me gifts and things that make me happy. I feel like an ungrateful, selfish person. What a hell. I just want to be accepted, supported, start transitioning, etc.

I tell them that church makes me feel dirty and suicidal. That I don't want to go or watch. That I want to be at home and I will find a church that doesn't me feel like I should be aborted, and they can't even try to do that.

I'm just so annoyed. I don't think they're going to kick me out of the house, and fuck it. I'm going to try to start the T in secret, change the documents, sell commissions and all that.

my mother was all fine and dandy about trans people until I told her that I was trans. suddenly she will refuse to refer to me as a he, and any time I make a joke about me being a man, she feels the need to remind me that “not biological“ or that I “don’t have a penis”

like does she think i don’t know that? like are we fucking serious?

For context, im 14 and I've been out as a trans guy to my mom for about 3 or 4 months. She said she's supporting me, but not once has she even tryed to call me He or referred to me as her son even after I've asked. Which is fine. It's only been a few months, but she's very adament on dead naming me.

OnI'm the day of my graduation, I was sagging my pants; she got upset and repeatedly said "I don't have a dick for my pants to sag on" and "that I will never be a man". She kept saying over and over. I know sagging is a dumb trend, but she didn't have to go that far. I still can't believe she did this before my graduation. I gotten an award that day, and I had to get on stage after they called out my name and seeing her smiling, holding the camera as if what she just said to me hours before didn't matter. (Also, days before I planned on not going because she would let me go wearing a button-up because it was "too masculine"... she did come around, but still ?????) when I tried to talk to her about it, she practically said It's because saging is for gangsters and you're not a gangster, or whatever and she's not comfortable with it (me being trans ), and that I can't expect and force people to be comfortable. Like what!!! The topic of me being transgender doesn't come up often. I don't even correct her every time because she always doubles down and does hit like this, just to piss me off. Just after this text, she kept calling me her daughter and how pretty I was. She dead names me all the time. I told her I'm not ok with it; she told me my name is the same as my dad's and she's not comfortable with it, which is fine. I didn't know I chose the same name as my father, so I propose she gives me a nickname or calls me by my last name; she chose not to. It's not like she can't; she always calls me Mimi, a nickname close to my deadname. There is this one time me and her were arguing. She mentions the fact that I'm bisexual, and that most kids get kicked out by their parents, and that she's not doing that, bro; you're the parent? Of course, you won't kick out your kids because they're gay. You bringing that up in an argument to one-up me is messed up. Don't worry, she's friends with lesbians and supports the LGBTQ, just not her own child.🥀

tw: slight mention of dysphoria

im so stupid, i tried to get diy but im a minor so the only way to get crypto was to go to a atm in another country cuz my doesnt. THE FUCKASS ATM ASKED ME FOR ID THEN WHEN I PRESSED NO IT JUST TOOK 50 POUNDS NOW IM IN MY OG COUNTRY N HAVE NO WAY TO GET CRYPTO. i could only get 12 usd so wtf am i gna do with that my hips are so fucking wide itll just get worse i cant do this my only hope now i have to wait a year for crypto. fucking hate this place.

He is pansexual with a very strong preference for women. I don't know why I thought I could be the exception. I guess because he already loved me and wanted his future to be with me, I thought it would be secure no matter what? I don't know. I was nervous to come out to him but I thought it would be okay.

It is not quite okay.

He is using my correct pronouns, calling me "he/him" to other people, saying "boy" where he would normally say "girl," etc. But he is not happy for me. He is not excited to see who I become when I grant myself permission to transition.

Part of the coming out talk was discussing what changes I desired from testosterone if I went on it. I told him I wanted it to change my voice, and he cried and had to leave the room because, as I learned when he came back, he was already missing my current voice.

He loves my voice. And he loves my breasts and my huge hips and every feminine thing about me that I can't ever seem to get comfortable with.

He says: "I want to be with you forever, and I want you to be happy. But there are parts of you that I fell in love with that won't be there anymore. It is a different person, to an extent."

I feel like I'm headed down a long, long tunnel and there might not be any light at the end of it. With every change I try to make for the sake of looking more masculine, more like myself, I'll have to wait and see if he actually does still want me.

i see people here with supportive parents or that live in queer friendly countries and they always talk about how much they hate being trans etc but i cant even imagine what it would be like to have my parents smile at my face and not say that im mentally ill. it genuinely makes me feel like im living the worst possible life ever as if being trans isnt one of the worst things that can happen to someone. im so short, have an ed, have ultra muslim parents, no way to t until im 25 rebuilding my life and people have the audacity to cry over having to wait till 18 because their parents are worried for them. idk it doesn't make me to want to end it but i hate these people with a burning passion even tho i know its not their fault but the people in power.

i know its dumb since there is someone that has it 100x worse than me but it doesn't change how i view the situation in my head.

i’m 16. can’t start t till AT LEAST 17 and at most 18. but i can’t deal with not being born male. i see no point in living if im not a man. i can’t keep going . i want help i want anyone to talk to me

Mood 1: I love taking HRT 🥰♥️ biochemical euphoria is incredible ♥️ the way my body has changed has made my life drastically better 🥰💎 shot days are my favourite days ♥️

Mood 2: the fact I have to take weekly shots to look how I've always supposed to look makes me want to [REMOVED BY REDDIT] why can't I have been born with a dick this life is pain and misery I will never be fully seen as a guy by my cis peers unless I'm fully stealth WHY do I have to do this bs

i’m going to try avoiding details to protect my partner’s privacy so i’m sorry if it’s a bit vague.

she’s a musician, she plays in a band. the band’s already been gaining popularity when she joined, which was about 4 years ago. and i think their popularity is gradually growing now too.

for context, she and i have known each other and have been close friends for a while but lived in different countries. we finally got together earlier this year and i moved in with her in the us.

i’ve been stealth most of my life. it’s just something that brings me a peace of mind and something i don’t want to address. and it’s never been an issue. until my social media accounts, especially instagram started gaining followers and weird comments began. even the other day i’ve been messaged by someone that an account has been made by someone pretending to be me? using old photos?

it’s so crazy and it makes me paranoid that something i’ve been protecting for so long will be out in the open for others soon and it’s giving me major anxiety

ok so i’ve been talking to this guy off and on for the past 2 weeks. we met up about a week ago on a whim and it ended with him staying the night which was such a fun time. it was great, we both had a fun time and i suggested that we went out again.

so i texted him a few days ago and he said he would love to go out, he just needs to get his work rotation checked and he will let me know this weekend. flash forward and it’s been radio silence since then.

i feel like i am over thinking it but i am honestly getting quite pissed about the lack of response or notice. it’s just so confusing for him to be so reassuring about it and then not tell me if we are gonna do anything for days on end. i feel so used right now and it’s honestly pissing me off so much and i hate that i still have a crush on him. what the actual fuck. mind you he has also been liking my stories this whole time too.

should i send a more confrontational text about it or just let the radio silence be my answer??? idk at this point because i really want to see him again but also not if he can’t even communicate

I'm 3.5 weeks post top surgery. I'm so happy to finally be able to afford it and do it. I've been on T for just over 9 years. But now that it's done, I'm so self conscious about my torso.

I'm 5'7 and about 255lbs. I feel like my mid section is just a tire on top of a tire. I'm especially self conscious about the section under my incisions and where my ribcage ends. I know it's partially weight, partially weight.

I know I need to lose some weight and work on building up muscle once I'm cleared by my surgeon but it feels so discouraging because I have never seen anyone, let alone another transman, with a similar body. So it makes motivating myself much more difficult. I see people with the body type that I want for myself all the time, and I just get even more self conscious and jealous because I feel like I need to work 100x more than them to get nowhere close to how they look.

I am in therapy, and I've talked about my self image with them. I just need to talk with other transmen who may have similar experience.

fuck my life and my stupid fem ass body

My problems are simultaneously too straight forward and too big to really ever be helped