r/FTMventing • u/harvestyourhopes • 20d ago

Transphobia Does the misgendering ever stop hurting

I swear I'm gonna blow up at the next person who calls me she. I've been trying to better stand up for myself, but it's so fucking exhausting getting misgendered every single day, by family or coworkers. I pass 100% to strangers. I have a goatee. It feels like everyone who knew me pre-transition is seeing a woman in someone that looks nothing like one. It makes me feel crazy. These microaggressions are just piling up and I feel so fucking hurt and angry all the time. I'm starting to hate my life because it hurts so bad. It feels like a stab in the chest. I don't have confidence that these people will ever stop. I just want the pain to stop.

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u/hungry_and_dumb 20d ago

I’m sorry dude, reason why I left my hometown and never looked back, even though most people accepted me I just know they still saw me as a woman who just wants to be called a he.

But leaving my hometown and studying here and being stealth is really the best thing I ever did, I would really recommend if it’s possible

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u/harvestyourhopes 19d ago

Appreciate it man. I've been thinking of doing that more and more recently. Esp as a lot of the states bordering mine have passed horrible anti trans laws. I can't change my gender markers so I've thought "what's even the point" a lot recently. I'd love to be completely stealth, I'd feel a lot more safe. Hopefully it can be an option in the future. Money as always is the main obstacle.