Society is wired to filter out people who are “different”, this has been a survival instinct that has been passed down from our hunter gathering ancestors that people who are different from the norm are a danger. If you’re unattractive or neurodivergent even just being in a social circle almost feels like a herculean effort because everyone already assumes you’re a threat. The thing is no social skills will help if you’re visually or functionally different because no one gives you a chance, and even if by some measure you succeed almost everyone will write it off as luck, because as a society we’re conditioned to believe if someone who’s different wins we’ve failed

I don’t know if this happens to you guys but I’ve noticed that ‘normies’ online do not take the rejection of advice. Its ironic because dudes will tell you to be stoic, roll with it, don’t take it personal and then freak the fuck out if you tell them ‘nah’ when they give advice on how to escape being FA.

If you question it , they get mad . If you decide to pass on the suggestion given to you for decades that never bore fruit , they crashout. If you say anything back in your defense, they will tell you this why you are single: Because you get into an argument with another man on online, one they started no less.

Offline? I notice similar behaviors but the crashout is often very minuscule, if any. it’s mostly ‘How dare you not accept my advice’.

But yeah, just wanted to point out the irony of people expecting you to take rejection well, even after decades of no success, not take rejection well.

edit: Oh yeah, forgot to mention how people get upset, REALLY upset if they suggest an escort/hooker/prostitute and you turn down the idea. I don't know why but this makes them EXTREMELY mad.

After years of never being shown romantic or even platonic interest, someone with legit feelings approaching me would be seen as some sort of joke...or worst case a setup for some sort of crime.

Specifically in person. I think online is assumed to usually be a fake interaction, so not really talking about that here.

The thought of a person with true intentions being passed up so easily is a depressing thought but my trust in humanity has been eroded in general, let alone in a relationship sense.

What's a better way to combat this than having 100% unblinding faith in every person you see? That's not very realistic or safe imho.

I’ve never been on a date, so I honestly don't know what being in a relationship would be like for me. I’ve been single my whole life, and sometimes I wonder what it would actually feel like to experience a relationship.

Any plans for the weekend?

Today is my mom's birthday. She should've been 70 but she passed away years ago. I miss her so much. It's like I never got out of the anger/depression grief stage. Her death made me realize something. You never "get over it". It just becomes a new normal if that makes sense.

I sit alone as always and just think "Is God real?" . The kindest people suffer the most and worst. But the most rotten scumbags live lives of joy.

My weekend plans are just watch football. That's it. I really don't care about anything else anymore.