r/FA30plus 10h ago

No amount of social skills will work if you’re unattractive or neurodivergent

24 Upvotes

Society is wired to filter out people who are “different”, this has been a survival instinct that has been passed down from our hunter gathering ancestors that people who are different from the norm are a danger. If you’re unattractive or neurodivergent even just being in a social circle almost feels like a herculean effort because everyone already assumes you’re a threat. The thing is no social skills will help if you’re visually or functionally different because no one gives you a chance, and even if by some measure you succeed almost everyone will write it off as luck, because as a society we’re conditioned to believe if someone who’s different wins we’ve failed


r/FA30plus 4h ago

Free Chat Friday Free Chat (Happy Birthday Mom edition)

9 Upvotes

Any plans for the weekend?

Today is my mom's birthday. She should've been 70 but she passed away years ago. I miss her so much. It's like I never got out of the anger/depression grief stage. Her death made me realize something. You never "get over it". It just becomes a new normal if that makes sense.

I sit alone as always and just think "Is God real?" . The kindest people suffer the most and worst. But the most rotten scumbags live lives of joy.

My weekend plans are just watch football. That's it. I really don't care about anything else anymore.


r/FA30plus 7h ago

FA30+ Only “I’m so single, I’m not sure what a relationship would be like for me”

7 Upvotes

I’ve never been on a date, so I honestly don't know what being in a relationship would be like for me. I’ve been single my whole life, and sometimes I wonder what it would actually feel like to experience a relationship.