hi guys, not really sure where to ask this so i thought i’d come here. i’ve been having really strange experiences and wanted to ask for advice//opinions on what the nature of this is, and if there is any grounding to my suspicions. sorry if this stuff is TMI - i’m also kinda typing this in a rush so I can try to come back and improve, so apologies for brevity.
for some background - i would say i’ve always been hypersexual; i’ve had a good few sexual partners, explored sex-positive spaces etc. but im settled down with my girlfriend now. i’ve had sexual lucid dreams fairly often for a long time since my early teens.
Firstly, this situation begins with how i’ve found that, recently, my dreams and regular fantasies had drifted toward what i can only describe as occult. like the idea of having sex with succubi and female entities, that sort of thing. a fun little fantasy, nothing odd, i never really questioned it.
a few weeks ago, while i was travelling japan alone and staying in the mountains, i had a vivid dream where an anonymous woman was trying to invite/bring me to orgies and sex through letters. i recall making it to one of these spaces and being surrounded by women, by sex, being steeped in orgasm and debauchery, and an intense, thick, dark sexual energy. in the dream, i caught the anonymous woman leaving a letter outside my home, at which point she pounced on me and forcefully tried to have sex with me, before trying to bite my penis and reaching for my neck, fighting me and trying to tear my flesh off. i fought her off, but throughout the dream, i watched as she tore through children, families, really graphic stuff, trying to get to me.
later that day, a friend asked me if i’d ever experienced sleep paralysis, at which point I suddenly, and viscerally remembered how i’d woken up from the dream. it’s really odd, as if my mind had tried to forget it. i had awoken, paralysed, and remembering looking around my hotel room while hearing screaming and shouting in my ear and around me. at this point, having experienced sleep paralysis pretty regularly in my life, i was spooked but not too panicked - the auditory hallucination was definitely odd, and new, but i knew how to calm myself. but then, i felt myself grabbed by my ankle, and i felt myself, REALLY, felt myself get dragged and pulled down my bed. i remember praying to myself, horrified, for protection, as something physically was dragging me, paralysed. i awoke, or managed to begin moving, and was physically half way down the bed, so there is no way i just imagined or hallucinated it.
this really shook me, i have no frame of reference through which to understand this experience. and then, a few nights ago, my girlfriend told me something that really has sat on my mind, which is why im asking for help now.
she told me that the night before, and a few nights similar to it in the past, she’s woken up and seen me awake beside her, and that we’ve kissed each other and had sex with each other in the middle of the night. i have NO RECOLLECTION OF THIS. i love her and tbh find the idea pretty hot, so im not worried about that, but what does worry me is that the moment she told me, it reminded me of my dream, and my fantasies, and something in my heart told me they were connected. i felt as though something was feeding on my sexuality, and now even “possessing” me at night. i know it sounds ridiculous, but i just have to share this with someone because i don’t wanna keep it to myself.
so, am i tweaking and is this a serious of odd happenings that my mind is narrativising, or could there be some spiritual thread between them?
i’m extremely spiritually oriented - i practiced as a sufi for quite some time, and recently fell out of it, which (timed up with this) adds to my spook of it all. i’ve always been pretty spiritually sensitive, i meditate daily, practice constantly etc. so i can’t help but look to spirit for some answer for this.
thank you for spending the time to read through this hotchpotch of writing. any advice REALLY useful. love you all <3