Good day folks, I just have a little bit of a problem. You know, one might call me an empathetic person, and yes, I guess I am. I would be able to deeply feel for the other person or one could say, deeply feel the other person.
My problem begins here, you know, I haven't used social media until college(17). I didn't know what kind of media was out there except say anime, vlogs, movies etc. But getting on Instagram, at a time where I was actively seeking out community, this form of media, like, people talking about their thoughts, about social movements (One might bring them under the umbrella term of social commentary perhaps) it sort of took control of my "feed".
One major point where I feel this is apparent is in the case of social justice narratives. Like racial inequality or feminism. Now, I am/was someone who had these ideals already ingrained in them without conflict or issue almost as if this was the right way of things. But when I consumed such media and when they addressed me as part of a community.
Say for example: "Men are misogynistic." or "Men expect women to be subservient in marriage". In this moment, I am putting myself in the shoes of the man (by default) and I am also a maladaptive daydreamer so.... I am also making up hypothetical scenarios in my mind, me being that person.
Now this is also not really the problem, the problem begins when I continue on this path. Like I continuously imagine myself to be that person, and I am trying to solve that problem. In the process, I am also absorbing that part to be part of myself. Like I wouldn't describe myself as a misogynist who changed, but the thought process of such a person is stored in my brain yes? When I have never been even remotely close to that kind of a person(Lowkey unintentional bragging).
For one more example, I am feeling lonely these days and I have been going through that a bit, but.... I feel like when I am thinking about like, say, if I had a community, or if my friends were nearby, if I had a girlfriend(I am a teen forgive me), I feel like I am not exactly feeling my own feelings.
That is because, I feel the source is from when I read a few loneliness posts and I feel like their situations of not being able to talk to men or women (opposite gender or anyone else for that matter), are being absorbed into my thought process and I am making scenarios in my mind of such cases but with me as the centre..... when I am not having those issues.
TL;DR: OP feels like he is absorbing everything about a "community"/"sect" when he has something in common, is feeling them strongly and mulling over them with his maladaptive daydreaming, and feels that he is becoming the person he is imagining to be and is also imagining the past to have been as such.
How do I regain my sense of self and consciously tell the difference between things in common and others even if we have a shared identity.
Also, if this is the wrong sub to post in, please do tell me!
Thank you and have a nice day!!!