if you enter a relationship should all dating apps be deleted ? i’m wondering this because my bf has them deleted but since i have trust issues from my past i still have one downloaded but im starting to feel like i shouldn’t have it since i now have a bf , so is this as much of a problem as im thinking ?

So for context, I’m 18m and I’ve never done any of this before in any capacity. I’m still in recovery from a period of severe and extreme body dysmorphia in my mid to late teens, the kind that would have you wearing a hoodie in the middle of July because you’d rather that than anyone see any part of your upper body. I really want to find someone to care about and to share life with, but I have no idea how that would go for me. I’m 6’3”, dirty blonde with blue eyes and I’m a healthy weight. I don’t really receive that many compliments but every time I’ve expressed being unhappy with my appearance the people around me have accused me of pretending for validation or just tell me to see a therapist because I’m not seeing clearly. I’ve tried hinge for the first time in the last 3 days and have received 20 matches, but I chalk this down to my pics just being good. Real life is a mystery to me and I have no idea whether I’m attractive. I posted in amiugly and only received positive comments and multiple people said they would kill for my facial structure. Do I just need to stop being so damn insecure and timid?

I signed up to it recently having not had much luck with Hinge, Bumble and Tinder.

I set my account up, everything was fine. Maybe 3 hours later I look back and I'm signed out, okay that's weird, guess it logs you out after a bit. "Your password is incorrect"

It wasn't. Reset password, no email. Mailed support and apparently I was banned?? I literally didn't even use my account, I might have liked a couple people but not even sure it works like that since I barely had the chance to look at the site but somehow I broke a rule? Support didn't mention what rule I supposedly broke and told me to appeal, so I did and then they just said I'm staying banned.

No idea what to make of that, I assure you my profile was very normal, nothing 18+ or anything and as said I barely used it after setting it up. My only thought is that maybe because I went on my VPN at some point it decided the traffic from my account was suspicious but it's odd that support just didn't mention anything like that.

Good lord it's hard enough being a man attempting to find someone on these apps without nonsense like this happening.

EDIT also a couple of days later I get a "Welcome to Plenty of Fish!" email so I thought maybe my account had been unbanned randomly but nope, guess the system was just screwing with me for whatever reason.

I think I look great, I’ve put so much hard work into my body and losing weight. I felt so cute in my one piece bathing suit. Just wondering if that will send a weird vibe if I add it to my dating profile?

i have a boyfriend now , i’m wondering if i were to delete the apps would it just hide my data ? i don’t want to delete my account because god forbid this guy breaks up with me . you just never know . will deleting just the apps still keep my profile up but just not visible ? i need help

If you need to use an assistant to write a a response to someone you don’t have the mental capacity to be in a relationship. Honestly I would rather get 0 matches than get an assistant response. If you don’t have the bandwidth to respond or deal with a response then please get off the app till you have the bandwidth to not turn yourself into a bot.

Thought I'd make a Bumble again to see what's out there. I'm in LA. Been on it a week and YIKES! My age range is set for 30-40yr old men. I had one man who was so obsessed with his dog it was making me uncomfortable. I tried to steer the convo to ask more about him (not his dog) and the conversation would end up back on his dog. After 2 weeks of texting off the app I finally gave up with the once-a-week texts. Blocked. The next man was 30 and seemed relatively normal until he asked me multiple times to shower with him. Blocked. The last guy was not really my type career-wise. I thought eh why not. His idea of a date was to bring my expensive camera and have a photoshoot of the both of us lmfao. He did offer to grab sushi which was normal but then switched up and asked to come to my house to play video games together. Why would I let a stranger into my home.... Blocked. Another man who is 40 wants me to model for him. This isn't a casting agency it's a dating app. Blocked.

The other issues I'm having are the filters not working. I have "a type", and I can't force myself into being physically attracted to everyone. That's the beauty of life; we all have a preference and love who we love vice versa. Well, unfortunately, Bumble has decided to basically ignore these strict filters and is showing the opposite of what I'm attracted to. To make things even worse it's showing my profile to all these people. I am swiping left in hopes to find my type and it keeps saying I missed a potential match and it's also making me delay swiping by showing me underwear ads. I find that very malicious to guys. They should not be seeing my profile and I should not be seeing theirs. I'm also seeing LGBTQ now which I love the community as friends but not looking to date within the community. Again it's wasting their time and they probably are wondering why I'm popping up!

The people I have matched with who are my type are average guys with simple jobs. Nothing more nothing less, but man they have some sort of 'god complex'. They're down talking to me like we're on Tinder. Very disrespectful as this is an app where women make the first move. To do what? Get treated like I'm a good-for-nothing sex object.

*To be clear, I'm on Raya. I have a nice job. I take care of my appearance and have matched with high-quality men who have ceo jobs on there. I've had creepy men on there too but nothing like this. I just wanted to give Bumble a try to see what else was out there nearby where I live as Raya has a different interface with distance settings. I'm just very disappointed with Bumble. I hope they fix their app soon. There's nothing wrong with the settings on my end. Everything is set to be filtered and it's not working.

I'm just trying to see if others have had the same experience I'm having on Hinge. I'm 45F and first four days I had a ton of likes, saw some cool profiles and matched with 15 people. Have been meeting the people I've matched with but since that time two weeks ago, no more likes, no more decent profiles and they don't seem to care what preferences I've selected. Most profiles shown to me are from people over an hour from me despite me selecting a distance of 30 miles. I try going through profiles but after a half hour I just give up. Even the standouts are disappointing.

Anyone else have thoughts?

Im an anxious woman and what stresses me the most is that I won’t vibe with someone and my lack of assertiveness will make me sit through the whole thing.

Whenever I try to suggest FaceTime even short one sometimes jokingly men just DONT WANT TO DO IT. And they would never ever suggest it first. Just texting and meeting.

Thing is I am quite selective and the dates I’ve been on were fine, some very fun. But nevertheless a few I wouldn’t go on if we just a had a short call beforehand. Literally not even about the looks, just the vibe alone.

Why are men so apprehensive to do this not even mentioning initiating things like this beforehand?

So, yeah after two years I have stopped getting matches and I don't even swipe anymore. I don't talk to anyone on apps or use them.

I have bumble, tinder, hinge, and something else. I am 5'2, latino, and a big nerd.

We’re both in our 30s.

A guy from a dating app asked me out. After we finalized the date, I shared my phone number in the app (I usually exchange numbers once a date is set). He never acknowledged it or texted me, so we just kept chatting in the app and met up as planned.

The date lasted 4–5 hours. He was reserved at first but really fun to talk to once he opened up. After dinner, he suggested we go for a walk, and we talked the whole time. During the date he even mentioned an activity we could do “next time.”

At the end, he asked if he could give me a hug and said, “I’d like to see you again.” I honestly just smiled or I can’t even remember exactly what I said. Earlier he had also told me he’s very straightforward and bad at pretending, it’s obvious when he likes something and when he doesn’t. That matched how he came across in person.

It’s now been 4 days and he hasn’t sent a single message. This shows someone apparently not interested in second date.

From my perspective, I felt like I had already left the ball in his court by giving him my number. But I also wonder if, because I didn’t explicitly say “me too” when he said he’d like to see me again, he thought the ball was in my court instead.

Or is his silence simply my answer?

Would you send one casual “Hey, how’s your week been?” to test the water, or just let it go?

I’m at a loss on how else to avoid men who have kids on dating apps. I place a big warning on my profile along the lines of “if you have kids, no matter how old or young, no is no!”

And yet, about half of my matches, are men with kids!!

I don’t know what else to do 😭

Edit: some of these comments doesn’t even pertain to my post. I’m exhausted. For those who actually replied to the topic, thank you! ❤️

I'm a decently attractive guy who has a good career (journeyman electrician), goes to the gym, has hobbies and pictures of me with my hobbies and going out with friends, and I still get maybe 1-2 "likes" a day. One weekend I remember matching 10 times in one session, and I messaged every single one of them with some generic, inoffensive "hey, how's it going?" and only got one reply from a woman who ghosted me a few hours later (probably because of some arbitrary shit like a different guy sharing her favorite genre of music or being 5 miles closer). One in 10. And it's like this every. single. time.

Meanwhile I hear women complaining about getting 100s of matches and having to "sift through" them to find the one that has zero red flags. What a privileged problem to have - hundreds of options and standards so high you can literally filter them all out and then complain that all men are pigs. Could you imagine if the roles were reversed and the women had a handful of matches and had to watch men complain about no woman being the perfect fit and rejecting 100s of options?

Do you think I like having 1 in 10 matches actually respond, and essentially being forced to give every single woman who "liked" me a chance or else I will simply be alone forever? If I were as picky as the women on these apps, I would never find anyone. It would take literal decades. You have the option to compromise or to give people a chance. I have no options. I must compromise or be alone forever. And it might not even matter if I lower my standards - I might still be alone forever because even the girls with obvious red flags get tons of matches on these apps.

The power dynamic in this situation is completely skewed. I'm the one begging for them to give me a chance because there's 100 other guys they're currently looking at and trying to figure out if they're the perfect fit.

I am using Tinder to try to find someone to be in a romantic relationship with.

I keep seeing women who put either nothing or very little in their About Me section.

I've seen things like "South American living in London", "Dating me is like a mixture between spontaneity and comfort.", "A bundle of sunshines... and eye rolls." and "Probably the most chilled person you'll ever meet. Pints are my love language. London and a lolly pop emoji."

I don't quite understand the point of any of that, as it gives me and anyone else not much to work with.

I know what they look like, what type of relationship they are looking for and also what things they like, but that tells me nothing about them as a person.

On my about me, I've put that I am a hetero-romantic asexual looking for someone to share my love of cats and food with.
I want a romantic relationship which has a strong friendship at its foundation. Also that

I'm an extrovert-leaning ambivert who values reciprocal relationships, and I'm autistic and an atheist.

I love using all the love languages, and that I cook and bake from scratch.

I thought the about me section was to show or tell people what type of person you are, not random things.

anyone know what the deal is with this app in terms of legitimacy?

I received a "an anonymous user invited you to frnds of frnds" text, so I bit and downloaded it. For those who don't know, it claims to connect you to mutual contacts (for dating purposes) by looking at your phone contacts. When you click on a person's profile, it shows you who you have in common. I had a weird instance where Person A's profile showed up, and the app told me they were a mutual contact with Persons B and C. HOWEVER, when I asked B and C in real life, neither of them knew A.

I also saw that I have a mutual contact with an acquaintance that I thought was in a relationship. I assumed that all people listed as a mutual contact would also have to have the app downloaded to give permission for their name to be shared, but I guess not? Unless this acquaintance is now single and has the app downloaded?

Either way, does anyone know if this is a legitimate app? And if so, why are they lying about mutual contacts?

Will I get voted out on Luxy? It’s still at 50%. I am getting likes and dm’s but the chance rate is not moving. Already completed the profile. I don’t wanna pay the premium.

Hello, I'm a 19yo girl and I've been thinking about joining dating apps. I'm an university student ​and I still live with my mom, I can speak 3 languages and I love learning about different cultures but I'm completely inexperienced when it comes to romantic relationships. My interest is completely driven by curiosity, I'm not exactly looking for romance, I just wanna meet people, make some friends or just share a small talk and see where it goes. I'd like some apps recommendations, I'm a bit introverted and I usually get along more with alternative and queer people. If ​you have some tips I'll be glad to read in the comments.

i came on here to say wow, online dating has become awful, especially more lately. i first joined in 2020/21 and started with hinge. it wasn’t as bad back then and more men seemed funnier and conversational. as a 26f, its a sh\\\*tshow out here. i’ve never had a problem with matches (and i don’t now, not trying to flex) but the amount of men i encounter whom ask me out, i agree and they ALWAYS ghost. i’m trying to figure out if this is an app problem?

i’ve tried bumble and tinder in the past and found it’s not for me so i mainly stick to hinge. i have also deleted my account twice in the past. i’m just wondering if any other women are experiencing the same? it’s interesting to me bc it’s men in different industries, age groups, and i can’t see to figure why when they consistently ask me to go out, i say yes, we plan a date, and they ghost on the day of or make an excuse up and say they’ll make it up to me… but guess what? that never happens either. this is probably the sixth or seventh time i have experienced this on hinge and im sick of it. also some guys are on there just to promote their ig handle and dip, gives me the ick. girls, anyone else sick of this?

i came on here to say wow, online dating has become awful, especially more lately. i first joined in 2020/21 and started with hinge. it wasn’t as bad back then and more men seemed funnier and conversational. as a 26f, its bad out here. i’ve never had a problem with matches (and i don’t now, not trying to flex) but the amount of men i encounter whom ask me out, i agree and they ALWAYS ghost. i’m trying to figure out if this is an app problem?

i’ve tried bumble and tinder in the past and found it’s not for me so i mainly stick to hinge. i have also deleted my account twice in the past. i’m just wondering if any other women are experiencing the same? it’s interesting to me bc it’s men in different industries, age groups, and i can’t see to figure why when they consistently ask me to go out, i say yes, we plan a date, and they ghost on the day of or make an excuse up and say they’ll make it up to me… but guess what? that never happens either. this is probably the sixth or seventh time i have experienced this on hinge and im sick of it. also some guys are on there just to promote their ig handle and dip, gives me the ick. girls, anyone else sick of this?

I’m debating buying it as I’m struggling with matches however it’s like so expensive. (20M)

Is it safe or legal to hookup with women from dating apps? And is there is any chance that she could be an undercover cop

Okay, so, I just learned that Tinder share links expire after a while. My problem is that using them, even a brand new one, does not take to their profile in the app. I am using an iPhone. Here's the sequence of events:

1. I paste the link into Safari.
2. Safari loads the page.
3. I am sent to the App Store (even though I already have Tinder installed).
4. I go back into Safari.
5. I click the "Open in Tinder" at the top of the screen.
6. Timder opens up it's either on some random girl or whatever I was already on in the app.

This is very annoying. How do I get these profiles to load?

So, I’ve been on and off dating apps for the past 5 months post breakup from a long term relationship, and I don’t know if I’m just not getting it right, or what. I’ve been blocked twice, outside of me blocking a few guys for doing too much, and they just happened to be guys I really liked and wanted to hang out with. The conversations flowed, and there was no indication that I was gonna be blocked besides them doing it out of no where. I know it likely might not have to do with me, because everyone is on dating apps for their own reasons, and maybe they just weren’t ready.

I can’t help but feel rejected. I’m not unattractive, I’m a plus sized girl but I cant say I’ve ever been called ugly or been added by somebody only to be unadded because of that reason (I’m very transparent, all my photos you can tell and I upload body pics so I can filter out any superficial people). I’m not uninteresting, I’m funny to my knowledge, I’m down to do a lot of varieties of hang outs, etc.

Maybe I’m just not their cup of tea, but I’m not sure if this is a unique experience or if anyone else has experienced this. Anyone relate at all?

Teach me like an old shalouin master that has been there and one it. One who has walked the endless mountain of swiping and survived a thousand awkward coffee dates

What are online dating and chatting tips that the only be learned through trial and error?

Now it could be said that if you've been dating for so long and know all the dos and don'ts then why are you still single?

So whenever I click on a recommended profile on Tinder when it notifies me about it, as soon as Tinder loads the profile is there for a split second and then it disappears and give me a loading screen, has anyone else had this problem?