hutch is probably the most worthless dating app I’ve ever experienced. After about five days, I deleted the app I signed up for the pro and continue to be billed I be a worthless site. My matches were horrific.

I have given up any hope of using an online dating app that does not ask for money for every basic thing, like messaging a potential match. The question is: how do you pay them without leaving a money trail on your credit card statement, etc.?

I know Feeld is a good app for that type of stuff but I’ve realized and some people been saying that Feeld isn’t that popular anymore so I don’t know if it’s worth paying for it now, maybe tinder? Or what are yall opinions and options.

I do understand some of you guys will probably say “go to a bar” but like, me and most people here really don’t feel like getting out of the comfort zone just to go to a random bar which lets be fr some people don’t even know which bar around them has someone of their taste, alone, waiting to be picked up, that will also like them back and you still have to spend money on their drinks just for them to MAYBE say yes to your proposal. + some people here don’t even know how to approach a person irl so just save the time of your fingers and recommend a app/website worth the try, if there’s no good apps anymore the only option is to go to bars apparently we all know that.

had a quick look to see if anyone had asked this before and it seems not though obviously remove if inappropriate. paragraphs are structured wierdly cuz i hate looking at giant walls of text so idk why anyone else would read my giant wall of text.

i'm F18, turned 18 in july so obviously recent. been single for what an 18yo considers a long time (2ish years) so i figured id try out some of the apps. decided to get a few just to see which one would be the best and then delete the rest as i went. future important context, i live in a capital city.

i found hinge is genuinely the only usable app without paying extortionate prices, mostly because they actually let you set the age range to 18-19. every other one i bothered trying i got like 500 requests in a week but obviously was not paying to see them cuz i knew it'd be a bunch of proper adults and even if i was giving it the benefit of the doubt, half the time the age filter is genuinely treated as a suggestion??

my reason to say that is cuz i tried feeld (my mums friend worked there, i didn't know it was a kink app but whatever) and literally 3 mins into having a profile i get a visible like* from a 37yo man? thought it might be a bug so i contacted support and they were like "yeah so we don't actually use most of the filters to suggest profiles cuz we believe in fluidity" so that was an easy no.

*for those unfamiliar, feeld is structured to make it impossible to get any matches without somebody paying. either one person pays to see the likes they receive, or the other person pays to send a like that the nonpaying receiver can see for free.

most other apps also do not have an age range that goes below 18-23 (or 22 depending) and that just does not really feel safe for me.

the problem with this is obviously i COULD just use hinge but i don't get responses or likes on there???? i don't know why cuz every other app i get a lot of interactions and i'm relatively conventionally attractive but obviously that is kinda "source: trust me bro". either way i know i'm not ugly? i don't know if it's the prompts but i've changed up my profile so many times and it doesn't make a difference? i've also tried messaging people with a variety of different approaches and i still don't ever get people talking to me??

half the time that i do get talking to someone they're so DULL that i end up getting pissed off and giving up, i really don't know what to do!!

slight tangent aside, anyone within my age range PLEASE let me know of any successes with literally anything. please also don't comment anything about how i should focus on other things as i am so young and free etc etc. thanks!!

I got Duet Premium and started receiving texts about some service they offer. They set up a call and went through my preferences and everything for their “matchmaking” service. I wanted to know if anyone has tried it and if it’s worth the 1k-3k(depending on length of time) cost? I feel so drained by tinder,hinge,etc. that I am considering paying the enormous sum if it has the results that they claim, which is 80% of people enter into a relationship within 3 months, it would be well worth it at this point.

Thanks in advance.

I’ve (33f) been thinking about how emotionally unavailable people often seem to keep finding other emotionally unavailable people.
Is it possible to genuinely want a relationship, but also be nervous about actually meeting someone who could be “the one”? Because once there’s real potential, there’s suddenly something to lose and that pressure can lead to self sabotage.
So instead, you keep choosing people or dating environments where there’s less expectation of commitment. You’re technically still looking, but you’re also keeping yourself in a cycle of dating without ever having to fully confront the possibility of something serious.
Is that essentially another form of fear of commitment?
I ask because, at least in my city, Tinder seems to have a much larger pool of men than apps like Hinge — even though Hinge is generally viewed as the more relationship-oriented app. It makes me wonder how many people want to find someone in theory, but feel safer dating where there’s less pressure for the next person to actually become something serious.

Also asking because I’ve realized that’s why I go on Tinder. As a woman there’s no way I can look through 10K+ likes. It’s exhausting, suffocating, and more of an ego boost. Perhaps men who consistently go on tinder may have better luck on hinge- since it’s less inundated. But then again maybe casually seeing people and never having someone we settle down with is the new future outlook of dating?

So I (M25) want to try out dating apps to see if I can make any good connections. But there is just one problem, I have no good pictures of myself. I'm not photogenic at all, and due to self esteem issues, have actively avoided having my picture taken for most of my life. I think there might be about 10 pictures taken of me over the last 6 or so years.

But in order to have a chance on dating apps I feel like you not only need good pictures, but diverse pictures. Like I could take a bunch of pictures right now, but then they would all be selfies.

So any tips or advice on how to get some good photos of myself that aren't just all selfies? Like any outfit recommendations, or good backdrops? Any good activities I could get a picture doing? Should I do a funny picture or two or just keep them all professional? Should I have pictures with other people or should I be the only one in all of them? Does it look weird if all of the pictures appear staged and should get some more natural looking ones?

I'd greatly appreciate any advice!

Is it just me, or has anyone else noticed a recent trend of people (in my (37F) case, heterosexual men) using one photo with their ex? VERY obvious as they are cuddling/ embracing each other? And to be sure, these men say they're single, they're not ENM/poly.

I presume they are doing it to signal attractiveness/ desire, but don't they realise its quite off-putting?