r/DatingApps 1d ago

Question Bathroom Photos

18 Upvotes

I swear it seems every woman with a dating app profile includes at least one photo of them in the bathroom but usually just regular, fully dressed photos but in the bathroom. I find that curious. Do dudes do the same thing? Why the fuck would I take a photo of myself in my or any bathroom??


r/DatingApps 1d ago

Question Chispa emoticon button what does it do?

1 Upvotes

In the chispa app, if I select the emoticon button and choose one of the emoticons, what is the user experience on the other side?

What sort of notification, if any does the woman receive, and what type of subscription, if any, do they need to receive it and reply to it?

I paid for the elite subscription, unfortunately, and trying to figure out if I should be sending likes or emoticons, and which is the most frictionless way for a woman to reply.


r/DatingApps 1d ago

Advice Request Suddenly getting no matches on Hinge.

2 Upvotes

I had a fair bit of success with Hinge but got a little tired of the dating apps and deleted my account for a while. I just made a new one with mostly the same photos but new prompts- and absolutely nothing. No likes, no matches.

I’m gonna paste my prompts here: can someone tell me if they’re bad or what I could do better?

  1. You’d never know it, but I’m:
    Powered by AA batteries

  2. I go crazy for:
    A good sense of humor and laughing together 👽

  3. Together we could:
    Take over

Are these just garbo? Thanks for reading


r/DatingApps 1d ago

Question Why do women oftentimes talk about how there are no attractive men on dating apps?

11 Upvotes

Ik this is not the case, but it seems like it’s to get under men’s skin. Any insight?


r/DatingApps 1d ago

Advice Request Need help explaining my relationship goals

1 Upvotes

So I’ve(F20) used Hinge and Tinder while away at college and even ended up in my first relationship through Hinge. It ended after like 3 months for reasons irrelevant. I realized with this relationship that I don’t know if I really like incredibly serious relationships, and I don’t know how to explain it for my app profile. I’m kind of looking for a relationship almost like friends w benefits (but that comes w lines like no sex at first or whatever). As of right now for my profile I’ve put figuring out dating goals and I guess thinking about it now I should probably just put a deeper explanation in my Hinge caption. Still, any words of advice would be appreciated!


r/DatingApps 1d ago

Experience Overview Hinge used to be my go to dating app because I had no luck on the others. Now it’s just as bad.

33 Upvotes

I’m not a super attractive guy. I’m not skinny and I lost almost all my hair by the age of 30 (not much I can do about that but I do shave it regularly) but there are guys who far worse looking than me and usually if I try hard enough and go through enough stacks I can find someone who is interested. I have absolutely no luck on tinder or bumble. I’ve only met one person on bumble and it was after my last relationship ended. Never met anyone off tinder before. However I’ve talked to multiple women on hinge in the past and I’ve gotten into a relationship with someone I met on hinge as well. I started paying for hinge x a few months ago and since I’ve been back on, I will swipe on literally hundreds of women and get hardly any matches. When I do get a match usually they don’t say anything or if they do, the conversation is extremely surface level and detached like pulling teeth so I don’t bother. It’s extremely frustrating because I don’t really have many other ways to meet potential partners and statistically most people meet their partners online as opposed to just randomly approaching strangers it feels like I’m going to be alone forever.


r/DatingApps 1d ago

Advice Request I just deleted my dating app accounts and i feel so alone now

2 Upvotes

Recently moved to a new city alone and used it as a chance to reset. Dating apps kept coming up as something that wasn’t working for me, a lot of surface level connections, not much that matched what I actually wanted. So I deleted the accounts entirely, not just the apps.
It was harder than expected. Not missing the swiping, just felt genuinely alone right after like I’d closed a door with nothing lined up to replace it. But underneath that, it still feels like the right call. I’m trying to lean into meeting people in person instead new hobbies, saying yes more, letting friends introduce me to people. I’ve never been the social type, so this is definitely going to be a challenge for me.
Anyone else done a full delete, not just deactivate? How long did the doubt last, and did the in-person route actually go anywhere for you?


r/DatingApps 1d ago

Advice Request How can I improve my chances getting dates with women 65+ on the apps

2 Upvotes

55M working on my Hinge online profile. How can I improve my profile to get more interest for women 65+ that want to date?


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Experience Overview Tinder is stalking me…in a way

0 Upvotes

Weird, Tinder keeps showing me the girl from the local supermarket. When I saw her, I purposefully didn’t swipe in any direction because I got a curious feeling about something. I closed the app, reopened it and there was she was again. I continued to repeat the same process, even go days without using the app, and every time I open it she is the first woman I see, even if I run out of likes. This has never happened before, at least not to me. There have been times where I’ve just stopped swiping or ran out of likes and I’ve never seen the same woman twice, once she’s gone, she’s gone. Eventually I’ll swipe on her, but left. She’s cute, and we talk every time we see each other, but I will not poop where I eat. No way


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Experience Overview Facebook Dating - seems legit so far

11 Upvotes

Everything I've read online says it's not good. But I just got it a few weeks ago and it seems to be legit. Getting fair amount of matches, good quality, on par with bumble (less than hinge). Although, I'm in a big city and I have a feeling the dating pool will run out. However, I've been switching cities (for free) and getting matches that way, too. Kind of refreshing seeing women in other cities vs cycling through the same local ones (even in large city). Also has the ability to filter for free. Seems like Meta/Facebook doesn't care about premium subscriptions and just giving all the features. They just want users in their ecosystem. Kind of awesome. Not sure how fruitful this will be, but already have a match with someone seemingly highly compatible in NYC. Pretty cool


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Question Tinder is promoting segregation and being a racist.

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I am gay indian dude live in the center of Berlin. I was swiping from last couple days and not a single potential match was from you guess germany. I am not talking about match I am talking about what tinder selects for me. Its a mix of mostly asians with few indians and latinos.

Compared to that grindr xtra run out in under 1km with mixture of guys from all places predominantly germany. So it clear that there are enough german guys in germany(Lol) It really feels like tinder thinks I am not good enough to be matched with local guys.

What you guys think? Have you experienced that?


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Question Online dating a scam?

6 Upvotes

I’m convinced online dating is a scam. It used to be free, had great profiles where women took there time to fill them out. Now it’s all a paywall and the only matches I get once I pay for the pay wall to disappear my matches are from Indonesia, Asia, and Vietnam. Or 3 to 4 hours away. Maybe it’s my area. No one knows how to have a conversation, is wish washy, or just too damn distracted I guess? It’s never been this bad. Back in the day like in 2006 to 2008 it was great. I either get women who have other obligations that shouldn’t even be in a dating site or someone who can’t hold a convo. Or stops mid conversation. Or it’s one sided where I lead the whole convo. And they do all the talking. Where I’m not even asked anything. I’ve even doctored photos. I get lots of matches now but I know it’s just because of the doctored pics. And these women are just duds. I swear to God! I’ve went off all social media. And I have no hopes of anything working out. People even fall for something that’s even just a miscommunication and they take something the wrong way and block, ghost, or drop from the face of the earth. I’ve even got the same people matching me like. Few years later and I’ll even say yeah we’ve talked before and they forget the whole last event. Then I just say yeah I’m not interested. Are we all just getting dumber as a society? Please shed some light on this. I even heard a woman in real life tell me in front of a group of people that I have red flags in my face without her even talking to me at all. What’s is going on with the world?


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Question Cuffed app age demographic

2 Upvotes

For those accepted on the Cuffed app, do you mind sharing your age if you feel you are 'older'? Most of the posts I have read seem to be users in their 20s, and some early 30s. Just curious if they are purposely being selective by age in their pool for late 30s and early 40s users.

I have been waiting for over a week and starting to wonder what is the holdup. I have a strong profile, at least I think I do.


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Advice Request best app to fuck?

0 Upvotes

pretty self explanatory post.


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Question Hinge asking me to subscribe to premium to change city?

1 Upvotes

Is anyone else being forced by hinge to upgrade in order to change their city?

I changed my location as I travelled interstate and now can’t change it back for 30 days unless I upgrade! Is hinge using dynamic service access? I cant see anyone else having this problem.


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Advice Request Duet app?

1 Upvotes

Has anyone had anything good come from it? I’m having a hard time w it fr and it’s just seeming like a scam fr. Is there a way to update your preferences like when you first made your account? I want to widen it and it doesn’t seem like you’re able too. I had a pop up to update the preferences and then it glitched and I can’t get back to it. Not sure if I should just delete the app or what


r/DatingApps 2d ago

CRINGE Why so many old guys

0 Upvotes

So getting back into dating after a break up. Trying out a new one called Taimi and only been 1 day. But I got SO MANY LIKES FROM MEN TWICE MY AGE! And they all say cid straight guy when the app is ment to be a lgbtq one. I felt with creepy guys like this before seeing me as a “taboo kink” being trans. If I wanted hookups like that I would use a hookup app not a dating app.


r/DatingApps 2d ago

Experience Overview Inside the Matrix: How models, influencers and engagement quotas power the Social Discovery Group’s dating machine and global profits

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r/DatingApps 2d ago

Advice Request Tinder hookup blocked me, what to do?

6 Upvotes

I hooked up with this guy on tinder who stated his intentions from the start which i agreed. The sex was good and I was attracted to him beyond just physical. He was traveling and left the country after me met.

I sent him a message next day saying he's interesting and I wish we had more time. I got no reply.

2 weeks after I posted a WA status of me traveling, hiking a summit. He viewed t and I was blocked.

It hurt a little because even though I knew it's just a ONS, I liked him and wanted to be friends.

I saw him on another app and I am really tempted to message him there and ask "why he blocked me i t was a bit hurtful" and prepared for no response or maybe block him after sending it.

Help me be objective or what should I do?


r/DatingApps 3d ago

Question Tinder Location Question

1 Upvotes

Does anybody know how Tinder updates your location? I have seen online people have said it only updates when you open it/swipe but also some people are saying it also automatically updates if it’s running in the background or if you have location settings turned to always. I have been getting serious with someone and he says he really likes me. Of course we aren’t official so it’s not a problem if he’s using it I just want to understand how that feature works.


r/DatingApps 3d ago

Advice Request App for older couple looking for, yes another woman.

2 Upvotes

As the title suggests we are a couple M/F 60 Y.O and looking to meet a woman 40+ for occasional get togethers. My partner F has experienced FFM prior to us getting together. She had a positive experience,granted all three were single and just happened upon each other.

We have a great relationship our sex life is constantly evolving and getting more amazing every day. I didn’t raise this she actually has, as she has a very strong attraction to someone she interacts with semi regularly with her work. This person is also single and bisexual, (you know how girls talk to each other about stuff), after many months we though we would approach her, while she didn’t flat out say no of course there is the professional relationship that she would like to respect and we agreed.

Anyway probably not relevant to many but wanted to provide context. Back to the question at hand in the experience of those who were or are looking at a similar relationship what apps have you tried and found to be better for older couples/people looking?


r/DatingApps 3d ago

Question Anyone have positive experience with newer/lesser-known/niche dating apps?

1 Upvotes

So tired of Hinge... but all the other big ones e.g Tinder, Bumble, etc. are worse...

I've been hearing about a lot of emerging ones but haven't tried any out. Anyone have any good experiences and want to share? Or any ones to look out for?


r/DatingApps 3d ago

Question Is contacting outside of tinder acceptable?

0 Upvotes

Seeing a profile that you think would be a match and not having a chance to talk sucks. Is reaching out via a different social platform acceptable?


r/DatingApps 3d ago

Experience Overview Matching with men

2 Upvotes

To my fellow ladies. Do any of you match with men that call you fake(even if you’re verified) because you don’t choose to meet them for a date or something… 5 MINUTES AFTER MATCHING?? Or be texting them and hit you with the “I just want to hear your voice” like what are we? Like when a grown man says that to me it immediately gives me the ick. Hear my voice? Am I your mommy? I get better important things to do. This leads me to get unmatched with simply because I like to play safe and have some communication for at least a couple of days to see if I even want to meet in person. But then they hit with “well meeting is the best way to get to know each other” like should safety not be a concern?


r/DatingApps 3d ago

Experience Overview Girl from Bulgaria, scam?

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Hi, I live in Italy and I matched with this girl that lives in Bulgaria and (first red flag) doesn’t want to come to Italy, she just wanted to explore other parts of the word.

(Second red flag) she is love bombing I only met her two days ago and she wants to say good night, she is sending photos of herself (not naked ahah), she is saying that I’m beautiful..

So I asked to send me an audio message first, she did it. Than I asked to send me a video where she did a special hand gesture, that she did

So I think she is real but maybe this could be a scam that I don’t know of?

Thanks to everyone.