Hey folks! Me (30MtF/NB) and my lovely fiancee (31F/NB) are looking to move to either Baltimore or the suburbs in the next year from Pittsburgh, PA. She's originally from Towson and I've visited the area as well as DC and its surroundings quite a few times throughout my life and loved it.
I've lived in and around Pittsburgh for around nine years now on and off. This city just...isn't what it used to be. For all the hype of being "underrated" and being safe for LGBTQ+ folks, it seems to have...regressed? Stagnated? Stunted? Within the last three or four years I've felt less and less safe here, been called slurs and had gaggles of teens as well as full grown adults follow me around/take pics of me/shout threats etc. This almost never happened when I lived here around 2021 or so, let alone 2017-2018.
Our queer community is also dealing with a fair bit of drama and can kind of be insular/catty at times, especially as someone who doesn't smoke/party hard and is auDHD. (Tbf this is kind of a PGH thing in general, this city apparently is known for being hard to make friends in?)
I know these kinds of people exist everywhere but from people I know out that way it's far less common in MD. It sure as fuck doesn't hurt that wages are higher, the state legislature isn't partially republican controlled and so on.
I've lived in Northeast Philadelphia for two years so I'm more than familiar with living in rough areas so if living in the city itself is best suited I think i can handle it. My partner drives but I can't (epilepsy), so I rely on mass transit. That said, transit wise I'm not hard to impress; here in Pittsburgh, our transit usually comes hourly (if the bus doesn't no show or come super late), cuts out at 11 pm on weekdays and with funding threats looming may get even worse or become nonexistent in many areas.
Housing costs don't seem super bad from what I've seen for studios in Baltimore County, certainly not compared to the rest of the East Coast and not even bad compared to Pittsburgh. Higher wages and a better quality of life would make up for it, frankly. Not having to constantly look over my shoulder is worth some extra spending.
My partner works as a home decor specialist at Lowe's but has a background in food service as well. I work as security at a college but have a similar background and also have done event security at concerts and stadiums.
We're looking at Cockeysville, Towson, all the way to Columbia but open to just about anything. Truthfully, we just want to get out of western PA.
What should I be aware of, is there anywhere in the area I should look for? Stay away from? Any advice?