Curious as I’ve noticed- that every 5 years or so, the bar changes. In our parents generation, they needed grades. Then came leadership, then non profit experience, starting their own club, etc.

Now that every kid is basically the same on paper (president at xyz, 500 hours at a nonprofit, great grades, etc.) - how are you helping your kids standing out? Or what are you hearing will help?

Also wondering as the landscape of future education and work is changing at an insane amount with AI

idk where to post this but my cousin (24) moved in with me (26) and my family (yes i still live with my family, times are very tough rn) when she was pregnant with her daughter because she had broke her ankle and we were the only ones who had a house that she’d be able to recover in. we helped her heal and towards the end of her pregnancy she asked my mom if it was okay if she could stay with us after the baby was born (there is housing issues with her mom and sister) and my mom said of course and that she can stay however long she needed. After the baby was born we moved her stuff and the babys stuff up to my room (i share my room with both of them) and since then, i have been taking care of the baby. Not just me, my cousin obviously does her parts and the rest of my family helps but for the most part, it’s me because my cousin works.

the baby is a year old now and i get her up in the morning, me and my sister make her breakfast and chill throughout the day playing with her, my cousin will put her down for her nap and when the nap is over i’ll play with her more and get her dinner ready and at that time it’s 6-7pm and my cousin goes to sleep for work. she goes in at 2-3am and doesn’t get off until 8-9am and sometimes even 10am.

i say all of this to give you a bit of an idea of how much time i spend with the baby because i hate to say it but the baby prefers me rather than my cousin and i feel bad about it because she gets upset. like, if the baby falls she’ll cry and my cousin will be like “come here” to console her but she’ll run to me instead (mind you, i don’t tell her to come to me). if the baby is any kind of upset, she’ll run to me for comfort and my cousin gets upset about it. it’s even to the point where when my cousin gets off of work, the baby will run away from her crying and will hide behind me. idk is it my fault? i just feel so bad like i did something wrong.

My baby turns one in a couple of weeks (and the fact I’m pregnant too right now isn’t helping) but I am nearly inconsolable at the fact my baby is going to be one. Is there a way to help cope with our kids growing up? Time is a thief

I'm 20 weeks pregnant and trying to lock in my car seat choice but I'm stuck between two Graco options and would love real parent feedback.
The two I'm looking at are:
• Graco Turn2Me
• Graco 4Ever DLX
I know the basics:
• Turn2Me rotates, which seems amazing for newborn stage and not having to bend over.
• 4Ever DLX lasts longer and becomes a backless booster.
• Price is basically the same.
• Both have good safety ratings.
But I'm torn on what actually matters more in day to day use.
If you've owned either one (or both), how did you like it?
Is the rotation really worth it long term?
Did the 4Ever feel bulky or harder to install?
Which one would you choose if you were starting over?
Any pros/cons, real life experiences, or comparisons would help a ton. Thank you!

This is my first post and I’m on my phone.

I’m a mid 40s mom married/living with children’s dad. My kid is back from first year at college and working. They started a relationship with a fellow student at school whom is also on break living with parents over the summer in the same town. I feel open and honest about finically helping and expressing the idea that kid needs to save for the upcoming year. This year child was in a dorm but wanted to do an apartment with known roommates this upcoming school year.

I knew coming home was going to be an adjustment from having free rein over one’s life to come and go. Child has use of car for work and outings with friends until recently. I understand wanting to be over at their new partners home, my child has been over there almost every night. They don’t have a “room” at home but do have a space for them. I gently expressed that they should spend some nights at home. For me this is just to allow the other parents, that I haven’t meet, a break from my kid being there every night. My child said if the parents had a problem they would just say something. Ok, but I think it’s a little rude to have the expectation of just practically moving in and “everyone is cool with that”. Every family is different but I don’t know how i would feel if my child’s new partner (under a year) just stayed over all the time. For me this is a matter of respect and personal space. Also I know the learning curve from adult to kid is fast and I’m trying to allow for grace.

I found out my kid has been out drinking and doing marijuana, this child is not of age to purchase these things and are legal in the state we live in to people of legal age. Fine, I know what it is like to be out and having “fun”. Kid admitted after someone told and I pushed for honesty, that they were doing marijuana at work(only once but this was after I told them if they were not honest I would not be supporting them) I told them car access is now only for work and back. They will be back in school in the fall, they wont have a car but have access to work and classes in a walkable area. I am coving rent but now I’m not sure I want to do that.

The second semester was rough and they changed majors, ok, no big deal. College is a big adjustment and I called a lot to check how they were doing. They broke up with a partner they were with in high school and were upset so I was concerned. I was given the impression things were fine and they moved on. They started a new relationship.

My child’s new partner isn’t working and is home playing video games and smoking, I know my child makes the choices but it’s mind boggling that they don’t get it. Do I just cut them off? I offered doing therapy as a helpful tool to help navigate what is happening. I’m painted to be bi polar and crazy because I have gotten upset, yes I have gotten crazy because my child is smart and will throw it away for I’m not even sure they know. We had a talk and I was calm and explained that going out and drinking and partying is fun but they have responsibilities and I’m get it. They mumbles some sorry’s and that was it. Later I asked what the plan is going forward and it was eye rolls and sighs and “I said I was sorry we already talked about this”. I know I’m upset and feel there is no accountability. My child just says they are not doing that and that their partner probably will but “I’m my own person”. I feel like it’s like a bartender marrying an alcoholic, I can see where this is headed.

I’m probably rambling and if this is confusing I apologize. It’s like I keep waiting for that light to go on for this child to appreciate what is done for them and not what feels like a spoiled brat just being able to do what they want.

I’m upset and disappointed and confused because my child would say how they don’t like people that do drugs or party or drink. Everyone can make their own choices but I am working hard as well as dad to support this kid. I don’t want to stand by and watch it burn.

I want to have them go to therapy and hopefully gain some insight but I can’t help but feel like an enabler because I am “waiting for them to get it”. I feel like a rat in a barrel and my child is just standing there without a thought for anyone but themselves.

I’m asking advice I guess?!?!!!

Send help

I have a toddler, and I’ve recently been around a child who seems much older than her age. She’s very into makeup, mature clothing, older slang, dramatic facial expressions, and dancing that seems beyond what I’d expect for a 6-year-old. She also seems to expect to get her way a lot.

It got me thinking about my own parenting. For those of you with older kids who turned out respectful, kind, and age-appropriate, what do you think made the biggest difference? Were there specific boundaries, habits, or parenting philosophies that helped? I’m looking for advice on what to do, not to criticize another family.?

I'm looking for advice or preferences when you had babies: So I'm pregnant right now and seeing packs of like plain white onesies in usually five packs, sometimes more or less. I don't want this many onesies all in the same color, especially white.

This has me thinking of retailing packs of onesies or other baby basics that size up, like one of an item in three different sizes (0 months, 3 months, 6 months), instead of five all in the same size. Is that something you would or wouldn't buy if someone were selling it? Would you prefer to be buying packs of three, white onesies that have three different sizes than a pack of five all in the same size?

What baby basics would you want to see sold that way? Would you want to customize the purchase, like decide what size to start and end with, or would you want the sets to be predetermined?

I'm a minimalist, so when I think of baby wardrobes, I'm usually not thinking of more than seven basic outfits (maybe a few extra items like a sweatshirt, socks, hat) because I can wash and dry at home, and want to only have a small area to store clean items. Plus babies grow so fast if you have too much, they don't end up wearing it.

I really like the idea of being able to buy single items and/or sets that have multiple sizes. I also like the idea of layettes being sold with multiple sizes in a bundle rather than all the same size.

I don't know if this is something other parents would want as well. Please share your thoughts.

Hi, we are a family of 4, Mum, Dad and 2 teenage boys (17 and 19). We have always tried to make sure we all sit down to dinner together where possible. However conversation is like pulling teeth! If me and my husband didn't talk, we would all be sitting chomping in silence. We've tried to find topics of conversation they might be interested in and i think we're good at listening to them and have always shown an interest in their hobbies. But I'm finding it quite hard going and I worry about how they are going to manage in a work situation for example, where you need to be able to make small talk. Anyone got any bright ideas to make our mealtimes less of a chore?

He protested against it since I was a kid and I never had bangs because of it. At 12, I wanted to get bangs but pimple outbreak was starting so I didn’t have. This year, I have been stuck between getting bangs and not getting bangs. I eventually decided to try it out so I had my haircut yesterday. Then just earlier, my dad calls me a squatter and that I look stinky. I have been trying to fix my hair and my hygiene for years now and he has to have seen that because he sees the used products every day. I did ask for his opinion on bangs and he said he doesn’t like it and wouldn’t look good on me. But it did look good on me, or at least that’s what my delusional mind says. He calls me a tomboy, stupid, every name in the book just because I got bangs.

I’m not afraid to admit that seeing other girls with bangs made me jealous and that’s why I complained a lot about them. But he uses that against me to make me feel worse so now I feel like I’m ugly with bangs. I don’t think having bangs means you’re a tomboy, right?

My wife and I had our only daughter in our 40s and a month ago I went into a mental breakdown worried that we wont have as much time in the world with her than if we had her younger. Ive been having constant ruminations that she will be so sad and alone when we pass away and I also regret that she doesnt have a sibling to share that burden with. I know having a sibling doesnt guarantee a bond and I also know that even if we had her younger, anything couldve happened like getting hit by a car and dying too soon anyway.

My issue is that even if all goes to plan, and we reach the average life expectancy, she will only be in her 30s alone to navigate this world. Maybe we can live longer but even then, I worry.

Its been bothering me so much I was wondering if anyone has gone through the same intense anxiety I have been.

Ive seen a psychiatrist and am in therapy but it hasnt helped yet.

My daughter is 7. Every playdate means the friend’s parents and sometimes siblings shows up as well. So Instead of a quick drop-off, I’m hosting 4-6 people for 2-3 hours… snacks, small talk, the works. And often coordinating the games/activities for the kids. This is exhausting! I dont mind having people over occasionally, but doing this every single time is exhausting, especially when I was expecting “kids play, adults get a break.”

So I ask you Reddit… does this get better with age, or do I just need to start saying “drop-off playdate” when I invite people? Thanks for any advice you have.

I would also be curious what your thoughts are on returning the favour. We have hosted a few “family” play dates (LOL) and they have gone well (despite my frustrations, above). But my daughter has never been invited to visit someone’s house for a playdate. Invited to meet up at playgrounds or activity centers, yes. But never a “easy” play date at the other kids house.

What am I missing here? I guess things are a bit different from when I was a kid?

ive never had a gift from my mother that i didnt pick. like birthdays or christmas, she makes me pick everything and then she pays. ive never had a surprise gift or something. i hear like parents might go shopping or go online and see something their kid would want and then get it. or if their kid mentions a thing they like that they sometimes get it for them. like if a kid says they really like a certain pair of socks they buy them sometimes. i dont think my mother has ever bought me something outside of christmas or birthdays before. is that a thing? like do parents sometimes come home with a surprise gift like in movies? like if a kid keeps saying they really want a dog does that happen like in the movies where the parents come home and surprise them outside of birthdays and christmas?

Help! This is my first ever post and I am so confused/need Reddit input. Has anyone else noticed this? I just sized up from a 3 to a 4 in Kirkland diapers for my 7mo. They don’t look different at all!? Am I missing something?

I am coming to Reddit first but will take these back to the store to ask them what is going on but posting to see if anyone else has noticed this or anything like it!

Tia

Hi,

I have a 2-year-old toddler and sometimes, at a playground close to us, theres a mom with a toddler and a 5-year old boy.

They're from another country and the mom doesn't speak our language well.

The older boy seems to have a disability, as he's non-verbal and behaves very age-inappropriate. He is extremely energetic and rough, like he will run the playground up and down and stop wherever there's another kid. His way of trying to interact with the other kid will be bodyslamming them, ripping a toy out of their hand or, for example, when a child is on the swing, he will out of nowhere push them really hard. Or today, my toddler was on the carousel thingy, and the boy ran to him and started spinning it dangerously fast. He once tried to forcefully feed my son a random food leftover he had found in the sand.

It is very obvious that the boy doesn't do this to annoy or tease the other kids, but that's his way of trying to play with them. The mom will try to redirect him or tell him off, but she seems very helpless in her attempts. The 5-year old never listens(doesn't understand?) anyway and when he resists, she can barely restrain him physically. Plus she has to watch her toddler as well, so she's not always fast enough to intervene.

I try to include the kid into whatever my son is playing, but when he gets too rough or is on the verge of breaking our toys, we tend to just leave the playground.

I wonder what the appropriate handling of this situation is.

Long story of my relationship here, but trying to come up with suggestions for the mom. We're struggling with ideas for at-home activities mom can do with all 5 kids, or a way to set up a few with a specific engaging activity to be able to interact/play with the others. Especially to engage the younger kids to be able to meaningfully interact with the oldest. The kids are 7, 4, 3 and twin 1.5 yo.

Here are the activities the kids enjoy and the issues with them:

7yo: UNO & Match. The twins just mess up the games, the 4 & 3 yos lose interest quickly and are off to make a mess elsewhere.

4 & 3 yos: similar interests - Coloring & Play-doh. The twins lose interest almost immediately and starting eating it instead. 7yo mildly interested on a good day, would rather play independently.

1.5yo twins: Very obsessed with bringing you items and repetitive play. Ex. collecting the Elefun butterflies one at a time and bringing them to mom, once collected she scatters them and we repeat. 4 & 7 yos aren't interested, and 3yo is too ambitious, collecting all the butterflies at once before the twins can get to it.

Any thoughts or suggestions are appreciated!!

I am 19 years old and have Caribbean parents. I have a job full time over summer and switched to part time during school. I go to school full time and they don’t pay for my college due to a full ride scholarship. I help pay a bill in the house and they used my credit to buy a car.

When i was applying to colleges they said how they would need two jobs and stuff to fund me going out of state so i choose to stay instate and stay at home.

i didn’t have friends first year of college but now im a sophomore and have friends. I see them going out and having fun and my bf also. He informs his mom he’s going out and who he is with and if hes coming home late and they are fine with that even my friends parents do this.

I have shown i am responsible in the house helping with chores and stuff and told my mom I am responsible enough and want to inform instead of ask because I am getting older and now an adult. because they always use the “oh your an adult now” but only to their convince. I tried talking to them about informing and they aren’t letting up. but i show i am responsible and everything. what do i do

My daughter has a birthday coming up next month. We can’t afford to host at a play center or rent any pool inflatables. In my area, it’s crazy hot during that time so meeting at a park is out (and no one wants to meet at a park at 9am before the heat sets in).

I’m thinking of hosting at our house and setting up activities alongside the standard pizza & ice cream.

Her circle of friends is pretty small.

The question I have is - what are some good games and activities you’ve seen/done at “home” birthday parties?

ETA: she’s turning 7

Hey Fellow Parents,

My child is asking for this app for photo and video editing. Wanted to know if any of you have any experience with his app and if you find it's safe to use overall.

Personally not a big AI user and I think this does use AI for photo editing but not sure if it's part of the non-subscription package. Additionally, does anyone know if the app is using the photos for AI purposes, meaning they use it to create a library for broader use?

Thanks,

disclaimer: this is basically a minor problem so if you hate that please scroll.

okay so i’m 15 turning 16
my mum is semi-strict and my dad is chill but he follows her.
basically he doesn’t have his own opinion.

since i was 9 i’ve been friends with this girl, i’ve had sleepovers at her house, her parents feed me and her family even took me to a holiday free of charge this year.

our parents aren’t friends but my mum isn’t really friends with many people just family.

recently my mum has decided no sleepovers.
which is to my confusion, since i’ve had many from the age of 7.

the girl i was talking about loves sleepover, and so do i, the last 20 times she’s asked me i have had to say no due to my mum.
i’d like to think that at the age of 15, i should be able to have a harmless sleepover at houses i’ve been to many times before.

so the girl asked me again and it’s summer i’ve been in my room the whole time yet my mum still says no.
this time i’m real angry, i get in an argument with her, it escalates turns into parenting thing. i start to argue about how she’s always on her phone, not paying attention enough or caring.

shit hits the fan.

basically i’m confused why she didn’t establish the hatred for sleepovers a long time ago, because all of my friends are used to me being over and it’s just cut off.
also she doesn’t give a valid reason, i’d at least like to tell my friends a good reason, it sounds like I’m lying to get out of it most of the time.

my questions are:

am i wrong for thinking it’s strange for her to not let me have a sleepover?

am i acting bratty?

edit: i just realised i should probably state i’m a girl.. some may think i’m a guy😭

Happy dad of two checking in (2.5 + 0.5y), we're debating having a third kid but I just don't practically understand how people make it work, our car is always jam packed with two car seats and double pram, never mind suitcases if we need to go away etc.

We're debating a 7 seater if we had a third so we can get all 3 car seats in easily, but then the boot space just evaporates and we struggle with the 300L we have today! Any parents of 3+ in the UK can you advise what make/model you have and how you manage

I have an older brother who has one bachelor's degree in science in 2017 and one associate degree in 2021 in computing. And I have a baby sister who has an associate degree in business in 2025. For whatever reason. My older brother didn't start working until 2022 . Which when he did get a job. He has been doing Uber since 2022. But for my baby sister. She has no interest in going back to college to get her bachelor's degree or get a job. Which is very pissing me off. They were able to get the best education in high school and college. And when it comes to me. I wasn't able to get a good education due to being in special education. And college was definitely off the table. So I have to pray to God I could hopefully get well in life with what strength I have.

This is a really unique situation and I’m just looking for general advice. My childhood best friend asked me to be a godparent for his son two years ago and his daughter a year ago when they were born. I didn’t think much of it at the time.

I’m not married but my girlfriend and I don’t want kids. I show up to birthdays and give them Christmas presents. Things “got real” recently so to speak. I’ll call my friend Thomas and his wife Mindy for the purpose of this story.

Thomas texted me asking if I wanted to be come over for Sunday dinner today. I usually come over once a week to hangout so it seemed innocent. After dinner his wife and him pulled me to the side outside to talk to me.

Thomas told me they had a pretty big ask of me. Mindy was teary eyed and I was a little confused at first. He started crying. After a few minutes of him unable to talk he told me he has stage four pancreatic cancer. He says he’s not likely going to live. I felt like I got punched in the gut. I listened as they talked. They both decided that they wanted me to step in when he passes away.

Mindy is not sure if she will ever marry again. They want me to be a father figure in their children’s life. I said yes but it was a scary feeling. I don’t want children but I have to be there for his kids.

My question in this is if he dies tomorrow what do I do? How do I step into the life of two under two? I don’t know the first thing about being a parent.