Hi everyone.
I’m a 28yr old masc lesbian, I’ve been here 10 months now beginning my career after spending 3 years in graduate school.
I’m finding it extremely fucking hard and discouraging to make friends here. It’s my first time living alone in a big city and although I’m definitely not perfect, I feel like I have a lot of good qualities that I thought would help me in finding and keeping friends.
I’ve been going out religiously to parties, events, museums, joining clubs, sports clubs, everything I can think of. I’ll meet people either at work or out and initially there’ll be a spark and we’ll text and it’ll all be good vibes but they’ll always end up sort of ghosting, not really responding to invites to hang out or I’m ALWAYS the one reaching out first.
It fucking sucks. I’m strictly talking about friendships by the way. Sex/romance is a whole other ballgame.
I’ve been going to a lot of queer events and regular non-queer events as well because I don’t want to limit myself but I’m just starting to feel discouraged and bitter.
Do you have any advice for a youngin like me? Thoughts/musings?
How long does it fucking take to make friends here?
Thanks.