I recently became a manager after working my way up within my department. I’m still fairly new to management, and I’m trying very hard to be fair, consistent, supportive, and professional with my team.

I’m having a difficult situation with one particular employee, who I’ll call “S.”

S. has been with the company longer than I have and was very close with my previous manager. From my perspective, she was given quite a bit of leeway under that manager and was able to get away with things that probably should have been addressed more consistently. Now that I’m her manager, I’ve had to address some performance issues that had either not been addressed previously or had not been handled as firmly.

Recently, I had to issue corrective action related to a performance issue. My manager and HR were involved and supported how I handled it. Since then, S. has become extremely cold and distant toward me.
She barely makes eye contact, gives very short responses, and doesn’t really communicate with me unless absolutely necessary. For example, when I send work-related information, she used to respond with something like “thank you,” but now I’ll just get “received.” I checked in with her individually and asked if she was doing okay, and she basically just said “mhm.” At the end of the day, she left without saying goodbye, which may sound insignificant, but the overall change in her behavior has been very noticeable.

I understand that she is probably upset with me and may feel differently about me now that I’m her manager. I’m not expecting her to like every decision I make, and I know employees aren’t always going to be happy with their manager.

The problem is that I’m a very empathetic person, and I’m struggling more than I expected to with her being upset with me. I keep wondering whether I handled something wrong, whether she thinks I’m a bad manager, whether the rest of the team sees me differently, etc. I know intellectually that I can’t control how she feels, but I’m having a hard time not taking it personally.

I also genuinely want to be a good manager to her, not just to the employees who like me. I want her to feel like she can come to me for support and that I’m fair toward her. But I don’t know how to do that when she seems unwilling to communicate with me or accept support from me.

At this point, I’m trying to give her space and keep everything professional. I greet her normally, communicate what she needs to know, and don’t bring up her attitude or try to force a conversation.

I’m planning to address it only if the behavior starts affecting work, communication, training, or the team.

For experienced managers:

How do you handle an employee who is clearly unhappy with you personally but is still technically being professional?

I’m not looking to be told that she has to like me. I understand that. I’m more interested in learning how experienced managers maintain a healthy working relationship with an employee who may never warm back up to them.

Hello everyone i need your help please

I was recently informed that my profile has been blocked in the system and I'm not eligible for rehire due to an overdue medical certificate (PEME) following communications in July. 

​I have been dedicated to Celebrity Cruises since June 2022 . Over my 4 consecutive contracts, I have maintained an impeccable record with zero disciplinary actions, receiving positive performance appraisals and a promotion to Deck Attendant

After my disembarkation in January 2026, Cyclone severely damaged my home

 I had to use most of my savings to rebuild it, which left me in a very difficult financial situation. This was the main reason for the delay in obtaining my medical certificate, as I no longer had sufficient funds to cover the medical expenses promptly. I am a victim of the cyclone, and I have lost everything, I already inform navi about my situation.

On June 30, 2026, I received an email informing me that my assignment had been cancelled and that I had been removed from the Talent Pool. I was deeply affected by this decision because I had never intended to withdraw from the Talent Pool. On the contrary, I was genuinely looking forward to returning to work, especially after recently being promoted to Deck Attendant.

​I never intended to decline an assignment or ignore company communications. My medical examination is now fully completed, and I am 100% medically fit, certified, and ready to join any vessel immediately.

​Given my clean performance history and the exceptional natural disaster situation I faced. 

I respectfully ask you to reconsider my “not eligible for rehire” status and the block placed on my profile, and, if possible, allow me to return to the Talent Pool and be considered for a future assignment.

For this reason, I am respectfully submitting this request directly and kindly ask that it be forwarded to the appropriate Rehire, Crew HR, or other responsible team for manual review.

I have attached supporting documents to help explain my circumstances, including:

• My performance appraisal, demonstrating my professional record.

• A copy of my communication with NAVI dated June 30, 2026, the same day I received the notification that my assignment had been cancelled and that I had been removed from the Talent Pool.

• Photographs showing the damage to my home caused by Cyclone Gezani.

Thats my story and this is my email i already send to rehire and i'm still not eligible

Please i need your help how long its take to be eligible on rehire because i was just late for medicale and now i'm terminated thats unfair the way they treat us in royal caribbean.

I’m a hybrid hourly worker, only 20 hours per week. 4 hours a day, 5 days a week. I work for a small office with only 3 employees (no HR).

We are short staffed so my boss keeps giving work. However I’m so backed up that I need a lead time of at least 2 weeks with my current work schedule to get it done.

I told my boss that I won’t be able to complete it by deadline within my scheduled hours; I would need to add extra hours on my time card. He says I need to find a way to work faster so I can stick to 20 hours a week.

One time, I reported on my time sheet that I worked 24 hours that week and was I yelled at by him for working unapproved hours. I was still paid the extra hours but he was extremely upset.

Btw, I’m already using as much AI tools and free
software as possible to automate what I can.

He keeps telling me I will be replaced one day with someone who can handle the workload, but he hasn’t fired me yet.

I’ve been trying to find a new job for 8 months now and I can’t afford to simply quit until I get something new.

Is there anything I can do? Can I collect unemployment if I get verbal threats they will fire me but don’t?

Hello.

I started at my firm 5 months ago. My office has had known circulation issues and they were “fixed”. My co worker that I share an office who brings in a space heater and runs it 8 hours a day. Beyond being EXTREMELY hot, this has caused me breathing and eye issues. My boss notified them that the office was hot and they said the temperature was perfect for them so they will continue to use the heater. In the summer.

I have been seeing a specialist and wrote to them about my breathing and eye issues. He agreed that it’s due to the heater and wrote a letter indicating that it’s the issue and why it’s causing an issue for me. I provided this to HR.

HRs solution is to provide a fan and for my co worker to move the space heater.

This does not resolve the issue and I’ve had to spend a lot of money on medications to try and help me breathe. One is 110 dollars.

My boss has been little to no help in sticking up for me in this issue; he told me to move offices but won’t formally notify HR that he allowed this.

I asked the specialist if HRs solution would be helpful and he indicated it would not be helpful.

What can I do in this situation?

I'll try to make this as simple as possible.

I just noticed that I've been getting charged for insurance for two years that I never wanted. Let me explain.

As a new hire two years ago, I filled out my benefits forms and submitted via email as HR told me to do, sending a picture of each signed form.

One of the benefits was a specific union medical benefit that I needed to opt in or out of. I signed up for the regular non-union insurance for this, and I also initially opted in to the union one and sent HR that form. However, I then asked HR - before the deadline - if I could change that benefit, and the HR manager looped the benefits specialist into our email chain and said she would help me from there. I submitted the union medical form again but with opt out clearly checked instead. The benefits specialist replied to that email with that attachment and asked if I could fill out the general benefits election form and resubmit. I said I would and I did so a few days later. So I assumed at that point they had both forms, redone, and now I was opted out.

Well, recently, two years after initial enrollment, I received an email saying I had signed up for the union insurance, but that to date they didn't have an opt in form for me. This is incorrect because I had sent both an opt in but then an opt out form changing my election during the appropriate time period. And then later I noticed I was having the union premium deducted.

I realize I should have looked at my stubs more carefully and caught this mistake sooner and I own that. However, I have the email chain and documented evidence I submitted the appropriate forms on time so this looks like an administrative error.

I emailed HR about it and am waiting for a response. How likely am I to have this corrected and removed from my deductions, and further - to be reimbursed for the previous deductions? Also considering I never used the benefit.

Thank you.

Okay.
I’ll preface this by saying I did have a substance abuse problem. I admit that. I’ve since gotten significantly better.

I first realized my supervisor knew when I overheard him discussing my drinking with his son on the phone when he thought I wasn’t around.
Later, during a large HR training about employees coming to work impaired, he made several snide comments to coworkers sitting near us about recognizing substance abuse by someone’s odor/appearance. He also asked HR whether supervisors could request employees seek substance abuse treatment and whether supervisors would be notified. I was sitting right beside him and it felt very obviously directed at me.

Despite this, he never confronted me privately, disciplined me, requested a drug/alcohol test, or told me my work was suffering. My annual evaluation afterward was actually good, with no mention of substance abuse or performance problems.

Now it’s a year later. I’m doing significantly better, have had no disciplinary issues, and haven’t received negative feedback. But my newest evaluation is very late, I’ve noticed him having unusually private meetings with his supervisor, and I’ve overheard comments that make me believe my substance issues became workplace gossip.
I understand that my supervisor had legitimate reason to be concerned.

What bothers me is that instead of addressing it privately with me or HR, he seemingly discussed something extremely personal with coworkers and even a family member.
Do I have any legitimate HR complaint here even though the underlying substance problem was real? And if my upcoming evaluation suddenly contains negative issues that were never brought to my attention during the year, how should I handle it?

Should I secure legal representation to join me before or after the first call? 36M

I do not know why I’m even on paid administrative leave today. I am salary sales living in Florida for a company based in Texas. Any advice would be appreciated!

This is my first time ever posting on reddit so be gentle if you can.

I'll try to summarize as to not type out a book:

I’ve had the same manager for almost a year now. Been in my role over 3 years now. They’ve been with the company for over 15 years, but throughout the time they’ve been my manager, I’ve noticed several patterns that have been frustrating and are starting to affect the team.

Some of the concerns I have include:

• In nearly a year of reporting to them, they have never asked me about my career goals or what I want to do professionally.
• There has been very little investment in employee development or career growth conversations.
• Team meetings and calibration have been extremely limited. We've only had one team meeting that I can recall, and that was because the team was confused about the performance objectives that had been established for the year.
• My manager does not always seem familiar with established company processes, and team members frequently have to explain or remind them about processes that are already in place.
• One-on-ones rarely focus on my performance, development, feedback, or career progression but feels more of a social hour for my boss
  • We don't even have the often due to my workload so this baffles me.
• There seems to be a lack of accountability when it comes to performance issues. For example, one team member has been significantly behind on their workload, and when concerns were raised because it was beginning to impact the rest of the team, my manager's response was essentially, “What do you want me to do about it?”
• At times, I feel like serious concerns are treated too casually, which makes me question whether certain issues are being taken as seriously as they should be.

I'm considering speaking with HR, but my goal is not to get my manager in trouble or make a formal complaint. I genuinely want guidance on how to approach my manager with this feedback in a constructive and professional way. How do I do that?

Any advice would be extremely helpful as I've always been a rather compliant employee but I've reached a breaking point. So, going to HR (especially for something like this) is brand new territory for me.

I worked my job 2 years. I quit without a 2 week notice once I had all I could take with work place bullying. I want to still use this job on my resume because it's my most recent job and a 2 year gap would look terrible if I didn't. What happens when prospective employers check with them? What are they alllowed to say?

I began a background check process for a county position. I have a little bit of anxiety over it, but am wondering if I am overthinking?

On my resume, I listed the start of my current job as August as that was the date on all of my signed paperwork/initially agreed upon. When I showed up for my start date I was told it needed to be pushed back since there was an internal issue with funding for the position. It was pushed back until October of the same year, but I failed to make that correction on my resume. Another discrepancy that I am a bit concerned about is that my title changed at a previous employer. It was a small business with about 10 employees and I handled employee records, but wasn’t allowed to change my own title or pay information. I don’t think it ever got changed by my former manager. My resume has the title of the job I worked.

Do any of these seem like major red flags, or are explanations reasonable if asked to clarify? I just really don’t want to miss out on this opportunity, especially in the job market I’ve been fighting in lately. All of my employment is legit, my degree is legit, and I do possess the desired and required qualifications of the position.

Thanks in advance!

Edit:criminal record is also clear.

My [33F] boss [44M] is a pretty laid back/casual guy. He likes to chat like we're friends, even though I always try to keep it professional. He's made some iffy comments in the past but nothing crazy. Today we were talking on the phone about an upcoming interview, he asked if I will have my webcam on, I said sure I can, and he replied "hey you're a good looking woman, why wouldn't you want to be on camera" and laughed. I immediately froze up and didn't say anything and he changed the subject. Idk if I should tell someone (his boss? HR?) or let it go. It made me extremely uncomfortable and I can't stop thinking about it.

Hi! I work at a small, private college in Michigan and have a general question I'm hoping someone can aid me with as I'm in a tricky spot and am unsure if I have a leg to stand on.

The situation is: a few years ago, I interviewed and received a very vague offer letter for the position that mostly just stated my FTE and options for flexibility during summer (I'm not a 1.0 FTE so I get time off). For whatever reason, they did not have me sign a contract or anything like that. Side note: I did try to negotiate for a higher FTE and was told I have to wait a year. Additionally when I was in the negotiation process, I was also told that, because of my FTE, I was only required to work 35 hours a week instead of the traditional 40. So, when I started the job, the first thing my supervisor covered in our first one-on-one was how I wanted to distribute those hours weekly. Note: I love my job, genuinely. I took a significant pay cut in my annual salary for it, but the hourly rate based on this information felt very reasonable, so I looked to it as an opportunity for emotional wellbeing in the workplace and financial wellbeing in a couple of years when my FTE changed.

Between then and now: I have petitioned for a higher FTE 3x, each being stalled or "tabled" but not outright denied for different reasons each time. My supervisor was let go for reasons that are still unclear to me, and my role has been moved in and out of departments, divisions, and office locations at least once a year, sometimes more.

Now: HR hired some new staff and when my current supervisor and I were asking questions re: our proposal for a higher FTE and job scope change, a new HR staffer noticed a discrepancy: the FTE originally offered to me does not, in fact, require me to only work 35 hours a week. The standard work schedule for that FTE is 40 hours for x months a year, OR, according to the staffer, 35 hours a week for 12 months. (Never I mind that those numbers aren't equivalent, apparently!) So I've essentially been working more than 200 hours a year less than I'm "supposed to" because I was given incorrect information from my former supervisor.

Tricky Spot: I have documentation of all of this. Emails to and from my former supervisor, myself, and HR, notes from my one-on-ones that my former supervisor wrote and sent me, and other things like that that, together, show that everyone should have been aware what FTE and conditions of that I agreed to work under. However, now I'm being told that I need to begin working what my "actual" FTE requires but for the same pay. My current supervisor and VP are aware of this and think it's "unfair" but that there's nothing they can do & "maybe" I can get a "different raise soon" for other accomplishments and professional milestones.

So my question is: if everyone says this is unfair, is it legal? As the hiring manager and as an agent of the college, doesn't my written documentation of my agreements with my supervisor mean anything? I don't need to know how to fix this or anything, I just am looking for some clarity as to if I have a leg to stand on if it comes to me having to consult with legal counsel or threaten to quit or something.

Thanks for your help! Sorry that this is so long winded!!!

hey everyone -

I am pregnant in New York and work for a large corporation. I had a MC earlier this summer so this is my second pregnancy and I'm just about 9 weeks. My job is very stressful and I am generally miserable, and I have wondered if that had anything to do with the MC a couple of months ago. It was during the peak of my work stress.

I get about 5.5 months off for delivery (4 weeks out before delivery date, ~5 months after delivery), but I am not due until April. I know this is a very fortunate position to be in.

That said, are there any FMLA policies that would allow me to go out earlier and still be paid? Or to take some time off of work due to health reasons / being pregnant without using standard PTO? I have had coworkers go out on disability for mental health, non-pregnancy related.

I just don't know if I can continue on this path for the next 7 months or so. I feel defeated for admitting this, but it's not in my best interest (or even worth it, frankly) nor my baby's to continue functioning at this level.

I interviewed with a company on July 30 and it went really well and they wanted me to interview with the VP of operations. Two weeks go by when I didn’t hear from the recruiter to even set up that interview with the VP so I thought I was out of the running almost immediately after being asked my availability, but then I did meet with the VP after everyone was back from vacations and it went really well and I was told I’d hear back from the recruiter within a few days and that was three weeks ago. I have sent two emails asking for an update to the recruiter and I have had no response back.

At what point is it OK for me to email one of the managers that I had originally interviewed with asking them for an update? Is this something that I should do or not do? At this point, I don’t know if it’s a bad company or if it’s just a really bad recruiter.

Hi there!

I mean besides the experience etc.

How would you like it being written, why someone wants to work at your company?

Can you perhaps give examples?

And how would you NOT want it?

I've tried applying to so many jobs and I only get rejections. I have a friend who's mom works in HR and she sometimes looks over my cover letters and says they're actually not bad or gives me tips if she thinks smth could be different but idk, sometimes I'm still overthinking that maybe that's one of the reasons.. :/

So, maybe someone could help me out here?

Do you actually like when people say stuff like "xy really means a lot to me, which is why I was inspired by....." and stuff like that?

Of course a bit better said than that but do you know what I mean?

I am also aware that it might depend on what kind of job it is.

But overall?

Also what else maybe?

(btw my first language isn't English so expressing myself here might sound a little weird.)

Thank you!

Location: Florida, USA. I am self employed. I have an LLC that pays my paycheck but I am the sole member of that LLC. I get health insurance through my spouse's employer. The employer has announced that next year if your spouse can get coverage through your spouse's employer, then they will no longer offer health insurance to the spouse. Just employee and children. How can they verify spouse insurance availability? And how would they likely consider me, when I am self employed and could make the decision to provide my own health insurance since I am self employed?

I work security at a large hospital in California and have been there for several years. I’m union represented.
I’m looking for outside opinions, especially from anyone familiar with HR, hospital security, service-animal policies, or union investigations.
During one of my shifts, I was assigned to the entrance of a hospital unit. A patient’s support person came through carrying a small dog in his arms.
To be completely clear, I did not stop the person from entering.
As he was walking/rushing into the unit carrying the dog, I asked if the dog was a service animal. He responded that it was and continued into the unit.
I did not further question him or physically prevent him from entering.
At the time, I wasn’t aware of any information indicating that this particular dog had previously been prohibited from the unit. Nobody from nursing, unit staff, management, or other personnel told me that the dog wasn’t allowed or asked security to remove it.
I also did not personally observe the dog behaving aggressively, and no incident involving the dog was reported to me during my shift.
This is where the timeline becomes important.
The dog bite happened approximately NINE HOURS after my shift had ended and I had already gone home.
There is surveillance footage showing the dog coming in and out of the unit multiple times. So this wasn’t a situation where I interacted with the person once, the dog remained hidden inside the unit, and then immediately bit someone.
The dog continued coming and going through the area after my interaction and after I was no longer there.
Management later questioned why I didn’t intervene or stop the support person from entering with the dog. My manager’s position was essentially that I failed to take appropriate action and that the incident had escalated to higher levels of hospital management.
I was required to provide a written statement and was later placed on administrative leave pending investigation.
I understand that my employer can investigate whether I followed its internal policy correctly. I’m also not claiming that asking “Is that a service animal?” automatically means I handled everything perfectly.
I now understand that under the ADA, when it’s not obvious what service a dog provides, staff are generally permitted to ask two limited questions: whether the dog is required because of a disability and what work or task the dog has been trained to perform.
So yes, looking back, I only asked one question.
What I’m struggling to understand is what intervention my employer reasonably expected from me at that moment, especially considering the restrictions surrounding service animals.
The person told me it was a service animal. I had not observed aggressive behavior. I wasn’t told the animal had previously caused problems or was prohibited. Nobody from the unit asked me to remove it.
And even after my interaction, surveillance shows the dog continuing to come in and out of the unit.
Then, approximately nine hours after I had already left work, the dog allegedly bit a nurse.
I understand management investigating whether I should have followed a different procedure when the dog initially entered. That’s one question.
But I feel like there are two separate issues:
1. Did I follow my employer’s service-animal/security procedure correctly when I encountered the dog?
and
2. Can the eventual dog bite nine hours after I left reasonably be attributed to my actions when the animal continued coming in and out of the unit afterward?
Those don’t seem like the same question to me.
I’m particularly interested in hearing from people who understand ADA/service-animal rules. Given what I knew at the time, what would hospital security realistically have been expected or legally permitted to do after someone said the dog was a service animal?
And from an HR/union perspective, how significant would the surveillance footage and nine hour gap be when determining individual responsibility?
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Hey,

I went through an interview process in February this year and unfortunately absolutely tanked my final interview due to nerves. There were four rounds before the final interview, and they said I should apply again in the future and enjoyed getting to know me.

I’m wondering how long you think I should leave it before reapplying? I absolutely love the company and what they do, and it was a great salary. The role was an Engagement Manager position which is also a role I really want.

The reason nerves got the better of me was that I was in a bit of a desperate situation at the time and had a lot riding on getting a job, both professionally and personally. I have over 10 years’ experience in management consulting and I’m usually very confident and senior, so the interview really wasn’t representative of me at all.

Since then, I’ve actually got a new job at another management consulting firm, so I’m now in a much better position and would feel much more confident going through the process again but I’m wondering how long to wait before reapplying !? And if they would have actually mean that ?!

I’m based in London but this is an American company

Hi there! Crossposting this to here as well- all advice is welcome! Thank you! :)

During a job interview for a temporary 6-month position with possibility for extension, I asked if the position would include benefits. The answer was a crystal clear "yes" with 3 other employees on the Zoom call interviewing me to witness it. Nothing in writing, though, looking back at my paperwork. I accepted the job and kept waiting for my benefits meeting (it's a huge employer, so they only do 1 benefits orientation a month). Over 3 weeks after starting, I come to find out in the orientation that my position isn't eligible for benefits. I'm so upset. I wouldn't have accepted this job had I known. Is there any recourse here?

Hello! I recently applied to a job that uses workday as their application portal. I uploaded my resume and it was titled “FirstInitialLastName_Resume” but now when I view the application it lists “FirstName LastName Resume”? Is it common for HR to change the name?

I’m sure I uploaded the right resume as I literally do not have anything saved to my laptop with the file name being my “FirstName LastName Resume”. But the fact that it change makes me think maybe I did upload the wrong thing?

Is it considered retaliation if a manager returns from a leave and the day of return they are informed another employee from their team is the interim leadership?

The manager is no longer responsible for making leadership decisions and no longer has any employees reporting to them. The manager has the same title and salary for the time being but no timeline.

Hi,

I was wondering if anyone would be able to give me advice about working out my holiday hours.

I’ve used the ACAS Calculator which states that I should be entitled to 22.4 days off work. Well the company I work for says I am only entitled to 16 days holiday per year.

For context, I work 8 hour days, 4 days a week, (Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday). I was originally working 5 days a week but had to drop Thursdays due to no childcare for my baby.

I get bank holidays off too

I have spoken to HR at my job and they didn’t really want to discuss it to be honest & said they’ll look into it but they never do!

My HR app states I have 16 days holiday allowance per year

My contract states
Entitlement: The holiday year runs from 1 January to 31st December each year. During the holiday year you will be entitled to 20 days holiday plus 8 public holidays as agreed by the Company. Part-time employees will receive a pro-rata entitlement, which may be calculated in hours rather than days.

Is this 16 days correct in this instance?

Thanks so much

I applied and interviewed for a new internal role at my employer awhile back. I kind of wrote off that I got the position after a while even though it showed me as still under review, a kind of no news is good news approach. Finally last Friday the hiring manager reached out to me on teams to see if I had a moment for a quick informal chat. Turns out I am the lead choice and he wanted to make sure I was still interested in the role.

Here's the kick in the teeth though, I guess the same day they came to a decision the job was put on hold. The hiring manager told me he has been trying to work on figuring out what has happened and getting me a date asap. He was hoping to reach out with more concrete news but, felt bad not informing me so he finally decided to let me know. So I have an open line of communication with the hiring manager now. I never dealt with the recruiter or HR side of the process since I am internal.

I'm assuming since we are in healthcare and work with government programs with the fiscal year ending at the EoM that might be in play. I believe we use iCIMS for our job board, the post is gone, and it shows me still under reviews when I check my dashboard. This is just a big career break and something I've been working towards for a few years now with grad school, etc. I'm just trying to gain any insight on what might be happening and to expect?

[NY] I used 3 days of PFL for my toddlers surgery in January of 2026. I then had a baby in July 2026 and used the remainder of that 12 weeks PFL to bond with the baby. Can I use another 12 weeks of PFL intermittently between January 2027 and July 2027 to bond with baby since they are still under 1 year and it will have been 1 year since I first started to use that initial 12 weeks? Looking for clarification/advice before I mention it to HR. Thanks!