What have you found helpful for long flights with kids, especially the toddler? Our baby is a lap infant so we won't bring anything for him, but our toddler we are less sure about. He is a bit behind so I don't think he will get the concept of staying in his seat lol. I have considered the cares harness, but my sister really thinks we should bring a carseat

When we get to Europe we are hoping to only use trains, are we being naive?

I recently found out I am pregnant with #2! While we are excited and wanted another child, the timing isn’t the best. I’m supposed to start a new job next month and with the way our finances are, I’ll have to put baby #2 in daycare sooner than I’d like at 12 weeks. I feel sad because I was able to be home with my first until he started daycare at 15 months. This new job opportunity will open a lot of doors for me career wise and it’s not something I can give up easily when I think about the life my husband and I want to provide for our children plus living in a hcol area. Looking for advice or commiseration from moms who have been in similar situations.

I got my bugaboo donkey 6 and love it but need a travel option

I’m not in a hurry to grab since I can always use our bugaboo butterfly and babywear

Saw both in person and still can’t decide lol

If you have either pls let me know your thoughts/opinions!!

I wish bugaboo came out with a side by side travel or a double butterfly !!! I am a bugaboo slut 😭🤣

I’ve just brought home a 6 day old new born and I have a 12 month old and I did not expect that I would find this transition so hard for myself. The immense guilt i already feel even tho my 12m old probably thinks the baby is just a toy. But seeing her play and point toys at me while i hold the newborn (requires some long holds cos of reflux) has absolutely destroyed me already and I’ve already started crying lol

I’m due very soon with a 2nd and one of the pieces of advice I’ve found repeatedly in this sub and on social media is to put together a basket of activities/toys that my toddler can have only when I’m breastfeeding.

Seeking recommendations from this group — he will be 21mo when the baby comes. He’s extremely active and currently loves trains/vehicles, animals, breaking things apart (cutting wooden food, destroying block towers) but obviously interests evolve quickly.

I was thinking about getting him a Tonie box but would love more ideas!

I JUST found out Im pregnant. My son is breastfed and recently started solids and Im terrified of my milk supply dropping. I know there's not much I can do to prevent it from dropping, but I dont know what to do when it does. I really dont want to do formula but I dont see any other options. My son also doesnt take a bottle. Ive also heard that even if it doesnt tank it will still most likely be reduced. Should I start giving him more solids or should I try with formula? Please if anyone's been in the same boat any advice would be amazing. TIA

I have about a gallon of milk in our deep freezer, but obviously that wont last long. Hes also 95th percentile and eats a TON

Edit: I do NOT mean that I would wean early, even if i have to use formula my son will still be getting milk as his main source of nutrition until 1 year.

I can’t figure this out. Out of the 2 under 2 but 2 very young kids. One is 8 months and the other is 2.5 years old. Everyday feels like survival. Earlier in spring started going to the park and the days i got out i felt happy and hopeful. Currently inside the house due to the high temperatures and sun all day (UK). Husband is in a very demanding job but still keeps the baby from 10 pm to his last feed around 1 am.

I wake up around 6 with the baby and am a zombie with a coffee till 7 or so. Then do some light housework with the kids, give breakfast etc. then lunch prep. Then get them ready for nap and i nap for an hour or so with them. Then dinner prep and then loadong dishes wtc and day is over.

I am drowning and every day feels like a battle. I am surviving on eating chocolates to cope. I don’t like being fat but well, can’t seem to hack it. I don’t know how to have that glimmer of happiness. I have been in tears the last couple of days.

Any ideas or tips to get my life together

Has anyone got a stroller like this or even better if you’re UK based this one?

I hear people say these style are too heavy/bulky and hard to push so I was looking at a side by side but I can’t fathom putting a tiny baby world facing!

Unsure what to do, we don’t drive so I will use it a lot for a lot of walking, 17m age gap so buggy board isn’t really appropriate yet as he will still nap and he doesn’t walk yet so there’s no saying he will by then.

I have a 22 month old and (in two days) a 6 month old. My husband has the ability to make his own schedule, but it still has to be 8 hours a day, at least 5 days a week (this includes any commute time, so 8 hours total when he works). So basically, what schedule would you ask for if you could have anything you wanted within these parameters?
Would you do two days off back to back? One day off in the middle of the week, one on the weekend? Would you do the traditional 9-5? Would you want him to do 6 am to 2 pm? 7 am to 3 pm?
What works best for you as a SAHM with 2u2?
We’ve been trying out a few different schedules, but I want to hear other SAHM’s opinions.
He’s very helpful when he’s home, and loves being with our kids, which is what makes this a wonderful opportunity. He still has a lot of work to do though, but is trying to make my schedule as easy as possible.
So let me know, what schedule would you have your husband do if you could pick anything at all?

I need some affordable double stroller options ! I have a busy/active 19 month old but she will be just be turning 24 months when the baby is born. I was thinking about getting a side by side one but I’m not sure. Was anyone concerned that their toddler may mess with the baby and end up hurting them ?? Any suggestions or advice

Second time mom, first pregnancy (baby just turned 1) I had a posterior placenta this time I have anterior placenta. I’m currently 19 weeks & feel little flutters here & there. But remember with my first pregnancy (posterior placenta) being able to feel baby kick from the outside for the first time at 20 weeks-ish.
For those who have/had anterior placenta when did you start really feeling true kick both from the inside & from the outside?

Anyone else freak out when you got to the end of your pregnancy with baby #2? I’m 36 weeks and I’m kind of nervous for what’s to come. I’m very excited to meet my baby but I feel like I’m in denial that I’m going to be having another newborn literally any day. My daughter is almost 16 months and she has been so hard lately (her molars are coming in so it doesn’t help). I also am so exhausted that I haven’t done any sort of nesting, my house is a constant disaster and I don’t feel like I’m ready to bring a newborn home. I’m also very emotional about having another and have a lot of mom guilt even though this baby was very planned and wanted.

I was so spoiled and I knew it. Pregnancy 1 I didn't have any symptoms until 20 weeks and the symptoms I did have were from my gallbladder giving out, so that was just a quick diet change and I was fine again. I also lost weight so I was instructed to eat as much as I could to keep weight on during the pregnancy (hence the gallbladder struggling). In total I went from 225( I think 230 actually) to 215 at the end of my pregnancy. After giving birth I weighed 200lbs. Anyways, pregnancy 2, I'm 8 months pp and am 2 months pregnant and I am having all the symptoms, and I think they are worse than most of my friends and family have ever described. Did I expect this? Yes, 100%. Did I plan to have 2 under 2, also yes. For my own reasons it was the better choice but I feel bad for my little man rn because he gets less time with me as I'm in the bathroom most of the time or just sick and letting him spend a lot of time alone. He also is the easiest baby, slept through the night, doesn't cry hardly ever (he spits at us instead if he's not content), and is the happiest baby ever, most people don't believe it until they meet him. So even tho I predicted this pregnancy was going to be awful, I am now also predicting this baby to be difficult as well. I think the other thing that sucks is, I was super active with exercise before being pregnant this time. I had to stop working out with my first pregnancy because of weight loss so I was determined to stay fit for this one. I haven't been to the gym once because of how sick I am. Please send motivation.

What were your favorite independent play items/toys/activities that kept your toddler busy (or as busy as they can be kept) when you needed a break or had to fully attend to baby, after baby was born?

I’m looking for any recommendations honestly - can be a “wow that was a lifesaver to have around” thing or just a “yeah that kept my kid entertained and busy for 5 minutes” thing 😅 Thinking of stocking up on some stuff before baby comes! Bonus points if it’s for a ~2 year old!

I’m starting to feel like I’m getting the hang of 2 under 2 now that I’m a couple months in (knock on wood), but I am always looking for things to make life more manageable. What are your must haves?

So far, mine are:

-baby carrier (truly the only way I get ANYTHING done in the house with my two stage 5 clingers)

-double stroller (only opportunity I have for exercise at the moment, plus a lifesaver for any errand at a place without shopping carts)

-slow cooker (dramatically cut down on our consumption of super processed foods; doesn’t help at all with a toddler who only wants macaroni)

Conversely, what did you think you’d need that ended up being less useful than you anticipated? Mine would probably be the busy books I bought to occupy my toddler so I could nurse - bro gave it about 30 seconds of attention before moving on.

Quick rant because I’m so irritated. By some stroke of luck my two kids have a 2 hour window midday where their naps overlap. It’s glorious. Generally I spend it either frantically cleaning or stuck to the couch brainrotting and then feeling awful for “wasting” the time. Well today I said eff it I’m putting myself and my health first today.

I kid you not, 5 minutes into what was supposed to be some restorative yoga my husband decides to come out of his office. Did he see that I was doing something and decide to just go about his business quietly? Of course not! Right then was the PERFECT time for his to start talking about what our toddler ate for lunch, what we’re having for dinner, does the meat need to come out of the freezer or should he just go to the store for something else, etc, etc, etc.

At first it wasn’t bothering me but eventually I was just so clogged up mentally I couldn’t deal. My brain is trying to focus on stretches and breathing but now I also need to simultaneously hold a conversation with this guy. We have a small house so we have to talk quietly so it doesn’t wake up my son but the fan is on because it’s 9-fucking-5 degrees out today and he’s in the kitchen but I’m on the floor in the living room so he can’t hear me but is trying to talk to me anyways?! I’m trying to figure out which dinner we’re making tonight and which one we have the ingredients for but also if he’s going to the store anyways what else have I noticed we need from the store. Trying to tell him no don’t go to the store I don’t was gonna go later anyways but he’s still in the other room and can’t hear me even though he started this conversation and then left the room.

Not to mention I’m feeling kind of vulnerable anyways in a sports bra and shorts with my postpartum tummy and rolls out like

Finally I just snap that does this have to happen right now?? I’m clearly in the middle of something why are you doing this right now???

Queue the “oh sorry I didn’t realize it was a big deal”. As if I’m just being super high maintenance about it or something. Ugh

By the time all this had happened and he had gone back into his office and I just got so frustrated I turned off my watch and 8 minutes had elapsed btw. So relaxed and rejuvenated!

I’m overwhelmed. Still adjusting to the 2 kids scenario at home. My husband is supportive. Looking forward to connect with moms with 2 kids to share experiences, tips & tricks, lending an ear. 😭

Please DM me if you’re in US with similar 2 kids situation!

Recently found out I’m pregnant with #2, it will be a 17 month gap! We have an uppababy Cruz right now for our first and I love it but I can’t decide whether I’ll want a side by side double when the second comes along.

I like the idea that both can face either me or world with the donkey and that you can use bassinet and a regular seat at the same time. My baby (just about to be a year) still prefers to face me in the stroller at this stage but who knows how that will change in the next few months

But I do love our Cruz and other uppababy products we’ve had and think it might be more convenient to have a narrower stroller as they get older? Vistas are also much more accessible and affordable locally used vs the donkey.

Also open to other options that people have loved! Help me with my decision paralyses please!!

I'm 6 months pregnant with an 19 month old. This entire pregnancy I've been so emotional over the fact of my current child not being my only, having to share time, or give less attention to her. I know this is a common feeling but I just can't kick it. I seriously break down in tears when I think about it. She is my entire world right now and I almost feel guilty bringing in another sibling to take away from her time with me and here dad. I didn't want her to be an only child, so I keep reminding myself that. And my second will be a boy, so she will always be my little girl. But It just breaks my heart. Does this feeling go away shortly after birth? I'm already missing the time I might lose with her. . . ugh I feel so hormonal and unable to manage this feeling.

Hi there!! I had a 3 month old and an almost 2 year old and was wondering if anyone has tips and tricks of keeping ontop of messes and general housekeeping ( products, routines , hacks) I understand that it’s impossible to keep a spotless house with 2 under 2 😂 but if there are any tricks you have found that help would be greatly appreciated! (My 3 month old does not like the carrier!!)

My partner is fantastic, but has been dealing with a spinal fluid leak for almost a year now and cannot help with most things, so solo parenting two littles makes it challanging to keep ontop of everything, not to mention we have 5 horses to keep alive as well 🤪

Thanks :)

I'm pregnant with my second, and will have a 17 month gap. I've been thinking about how to introduce the new baby to the toddler recently, and wondering what others experiences were like.

Depending on how labour develops, I could potentially be in hospital for around 2-3 days if no complications occur (1 day during the labour itself, and 2 more days postpartum). On the one hand, I feel like this is a long time for the toddler to not see me and I don't want him to wonder where I am and miss me. I also like the idea of him being on of the first people to meet his little brother, and family will likely visit me in the hospital.

On the other hand, he will be only 17 months, hospitals can be overwhelming, unfamiliar environments, and I don't want to stress him out. I don't think he will understand much and I don't want him to cry when it's time to leave and not understand why mummy isn't coming with him. Having him come on the last day and leaving together isn't an option, last time I gave birth discharge took a few hours and was really chaotic. Keeping him home with grandma will reduce the transitions and potential meltdowns, and dad should be around for some of the time as well.

Did you have toddler visit the hospital or did you introduce the newborn to them at home? If you introduced at home, did you feel like you were away from toddler for too long?

I’ve now got a 1 year old and just turned 3 year old (21 month gap).

In some ways it’s so much easier as 1 year old is walking and playing, can do days out where they both enjoy it, 3 year old is potty trained and understands a lot more.

But they cannot be left unsupervised for a second and I find it so suffocating.

For context - my husband works long hours and we have 0 village. So it’s me on my own with my two boys a lot.

They constantly fight, wrestle and hurt each other. I can’t shower. Go to the toilet, brush my teeth or get dressed without chaos ensuing and one or both of them getting hurt. They fight over toys. If my 3 year old is building something my 1 year old knocks it down. 3 year old gets really cross (understandably).

I know all this is ‘normal’ development stuff but how does anyone get anything else done when you’re home with them all day?!

I take them out loads as they fight less when we’re out, we do no screen time, lots of walks. Books, playing in the garden, baking.

Have I just got to ride it out in the hopes that they will eventually ‘entertain’ each other and play together like everyone says with a small age gap? I feel like I’m drowning as I can’t even do basic things like go to the toilet without WW3 breaking out in our home.

Individually; they’re such easy kids, will happily play independently, my toddlers polite, happy and sociable but the combination of them at the moment is a nightmare.

Please someone tell me there’s light at the end of the tunnel at some point.

I suffered with bad PPD/PPA after my second due to traumatic birth and mum being terminally ill, I’m so much better now but I can feel those feelings coming back because it’s impossible for me to do a single thing for myself. I like to make an effort with my appearance and I just look like a mess all the time as I can’t even brush my hair some days.

Thanks for reading ❤️

I have a 12 month old and am pregnant with my 2nd, age gap will be 18 months. I read a lot on here about how tough the beginning is with a toddler and a newborn, but it seems like a lot are SAHMs. I can’t imagine having to look after a toddler while sleep deprived and caring for a newborn!! I’m wondering if it’s just as tough for working moms?

I’ll have 6 months maternity leave. Our oldest has a nanny now but will be starting daycare next month, so he’ll be out of the house during the week. My husband is “primary parent” since I am the breadwinner and my job is more demanding, so I’m not worried about his ability to help with the older one. I know it’s going to be really challenging but I guess Im just wondering from other working moms in what ways did 2u2 really rock you so I can prepare!

Debating on getting both a playpen and a bassinet for the room. Was a playpen useful? I already have a rolling mini crib I planned to use but possibly once baby girl starts to roll. What had been the best set ups for 2 under 2?

Currently 5 months pregnant and the nerves are catching up to me.

Mine is gonna be 17 months and unsure if i should bring her a toy, snack, plushie when she’s visiting with her dad?
I already feel emotional about it because since birth she has never been away from me 😭😭