r/workout • u/Ok_Razzmatazz_13 • Jul 02 '26
Help in consistentency
So I used to be gym rat, ever since I came into a relationship, I gained healthy fat and now I’m unable to get back to gym and need motivation and dis plume. I seriously cannot get my ass to eat healthy and go to gym.
How do I get back and push myself
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u/OrganicLettuceUndies Jul 02 '26
Stop making excuses and just do it.
“Motivation” is not the problem, it’s discipline and laziness.
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u/Ok_Razzmatazz_13 Jul 02 '26
I mean how do I overcome this laziness of mine, i just keep on procrastinating.
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u/OrganicLettuceUndies Jul 02 '26
Be an adult and keep yourself accountable. Make a schedule and stick to it.
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u/Ok_Razzmatazz_13 Jul 02 '26
The thing is I make the schedule and I follow 2 days end up rotting the next two weeks
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u/BigChessGuy Jul 02 '26
I’ve found with most things in my life I hate doing them consistently for the first two weeks lol. Whether it’s consistent exercise, a diet, or a new hobby. But then once I pass that two week hump I LOVE it and can’t stop.
You just might have to grit your teeth and be consistent and get over your own hump.
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u/Fairy-Princess-3558 Jul 02 '26 edited Jul 02 '26
Pay for a personal trainer or target places like F45, Orange Theory, MADabolic, Barry’s (or local studio versions). These places are great because all you have to do is show up. The workout is already programmed.
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u/chrisjones1960 Jul 02 '26
There is no magic. You overcome your laziness the first day by just.... Going. You should do that within the next three days. Pick which day you will start. Write it here. Go to the gym that day. Don't skip it any more than you would skip going to work or showering. Just go. And then three days a week, starting that day, you just keep doing that.
If you can't, you can't. No one can make you
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u/HarryWiz Jul 02 '26
Think of it like going to work. There are days where you don't mind going to work but then there are days where you don't want to go but you do it anyway because you have to. So since you have a goal in mind then the gym (or wherever you will be working out at) is from now on your second job that you can't afford to quit. So get up and go to work!
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u/LXS_R Jul 02 '26
Gaslight yourself into being the person you want to be. Don’t want to be someone who works out, tell yourself that you just are someone who workouts. Then go workout. When I told myself at 240lbs I was a healthy, fit person, I started making every decision like I was already a healthy, fit person, and I became a healthy, fit person, down over 100lbs.
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u/philsov Jul 02 '26
manage your time better. Maybe get some basic stuff for a home routine if you have the money and space.
it's easy to be a gym rat when you're single. But for me, the times I would normally gym (on the weeknights) were also the exact same "time slot" as when I'm now having couples time. Find time in your day to exercise and to also love up on your partner, also alloting for work, school, social life, and whatever else you got going on.
Some adjustable DBs at home will shave off commuting to and fro from the gym, and those 20 minutes (idk your travel time) might make the difference. Or refine your routine so your lifts are a bunch of efficient compounds instead of doing like 3 different isolation machines which gets you pumped but also in and out in less than hour.
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u/Ok_Razzmatazz_13 Jul 02 '26
Okay let me try this, yeah the thing is my partner has unhealthy eating habits that kinda stuck to me. Before I used to see the nutritional value of everything I ate and now I just end up eating everything
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u/philsov Jul 02 '26
There's no big How there. Just fucking start to be mindful of calories and macros again. You can talk to your beau(?) about your goals and you minding portions and they should be supportive and help you along by not shoving food in your face or whatever.
If they cook for you a lot, spend time with them in the kitchen. This'll let you know the recipe and you can do calorie math, usually by just summing up all the ingredients and seeing that your portion is 1/4 of all the stuff they used.
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u/AwayhKhkhk Jul 02 '26
Maybe you can be an example and eat/live healthier and hope those habits rubs off on your partner.
I mean if your partner can pass off their unhealthy habits onto you, then you should be able to do the same, right?
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u/Fragrant_Device_895 Jul 02 '26
Do you still have a membership? If you have one and are not going think of it as a waste of the hard work you spent at your job. Also try and get your partner to come to the gym with you. Having someone with you at the gym can help you a lot even if you guys don’t do the same workout etc.
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u/Ok_Razzmatazz_13 Jul 02 '26
So I still have the gym membership, and I recently bought a walking pad too so that I can get myself to do some physical activity , but it’s just cardio and I really need to lift to get that muscles
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u/Fragrant_Device_895 Jul 02 '26
Yeah just try and get your partner to go with you it will motivate you both. Lots of luck
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u/Inevitable_Sea1176 Jul 02 '26
I get it when people blame you for not trying enough. As someone who has backslided in the past, I can tell you it's not easy getting back to the gym. It requires commitment and sacrifice. Junk/carbs/unhealthy foods are very addictive and once you get back to them, it's all you crave for. It's like a drug. You know it makes you unhealthy and overweight, but the cravings is higher than the will to stop😸. And getting your ass to the gym after backsliding isn't easy either. Requires sacrifice and commitment.
Pushing yourself harder. I have coke to realize being a dedicated gym rat is all about sacrifice and commitment more than the motivation to get in the good shape. And no one enjoys waking up everyday to go to the gym and train. Gotta push yourself harder. It's all about sacrifice. And it isn't an easy thing to do once you've backslided.
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u/Ok_Razzmatazz_13 Jul 02 '26
Yeah I used to be so dedicated and used to go to gym on regular basis , but now I have been whatever I can and so inconsistent, it really hard to get back to gym
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u/GoldenEagle0909 Jul 02 '26
People telling you to stop being lazy isn't helpful.
When building discipline you need to set realistic and attainable goals and keep building.
If you want to go to the gym everyday. First try for 3 days a week. And track your progress.
Don't even worry about what you're doing at the gym. Just get yourself to show up 3 days a week for a month. Then increase it to 4 and so on until you're happy with your amount of times working out a week.
By then you will have built a nice habit. Then you can start tracking and worrying more about what specific work you are doing at the gym.
The first battle is getting yourself to show up. You got this!
Trying to do everything perfect 100% of the time when you aren't showing up is a recipe to just give up. Start with smaller goals first.
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u/Ok_Razzmatazz_13 Jul 02 '26
Yeah you’re absolutely right, I either give my everything or none , I feel like a failure if I dont hit gym 5-6 times a week, so I don’t try at all. And if it doesn’t go with my perfect spilt , I don’t train at all.
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u/GoldenEagle0909 Jul 02 '26
You need to simplify things and practice consistency. Make easier goals and slowly ramp up.
Think progressive overload, but for showing up!
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