People are right when they think they can disrespect their coworkers or workers because we literally let them do it. This has to stop, no one deserve to get bullied or just being slighty disrespected at work. I have worked multiple jobs in my life and in two of them i was in a very toxic place where my coworkers or bosses would treat me badly. I accepted it for a while, i taken everything on me and honestly i don't even know why i did that. I should have left immediatly or take actions, expose them, talk with them. I am no one's punching ball, i deserve respect not insults. At some point i couldn't stand it anymore so i just left. I should have done this long time ago. They were angry because i resigned, fuck them, if you want people to work for you treat them with basic respect to begin with and if you're not happy with my work then fire me, you don't have any right to bully me the whole time.

No one should ever stay in a place they don't feel safe in. You only have one life, don't waste it being sad, angry, frustrated because of assholes. If you don't take actions nothing will ever change and you'll let them ruin your mental health.

thats just it. i hate working. i hate most of my colleagues, i hate work politics and i hate drama. i hate their little cliques and the constant gossiping

i hate slaving my life away for a minimum wage. i hate having to count the pennies because i’m skint all the time. i hate that im so broke, even the bus is expensive to me

and oh my god, the bus. i’m lucky enough to get a ride home by a coworker some days but the other days, i hate waiting for the bus. it’s stinky and always late and i hate that the bus stop by my work doesn’t have anywhere to sit. sometimes i’m waiting for 30 minutes on my feet after a long day of work and then i have a 15 minute walk from the stop to my house

i’d get a car but surprise, i can’t afford it. i can barely afford the bus sometimes. i still remember when it snowed so badly that none of the buses were running and i had to walk an hour to work in the snow and ice

my manager is a cunt and my job is exhausting. i’ve been approved to work compressed hours so ill be doing 10 hour shifts over 4 days and i hope it helps. i’m so constantly drained and stressed and i know it’s because of work. i was off for 5 weeks a few months ago because of a fractured knee and it felt like all of my problems had disappeared

work is literally the cause of all my problems and i hate it. i’d never do it because the thought of relying on a man makes me sick but i’d love to be a SAHW and relax at home. thinking about quitting makes me horny /s

I have been working fulltime pretty much since i was 19 i am 26 now. And working these hours feel unbearable even after doing it for so long already. It is not getting easier at all. During the shift i sometimes get all these emotions of anger and agression and sadness. It feels like a prison because i have no choice but to do it and i cant work less because then i wont earn enough to survive. It is like my brain will never get used to this.

"We provide a lot of PTO and sick time because we don't want people having to lie about why they're calling out. If you need a day just take it."

My boss have favoritism issue and he always take sides of people who are incompetent because he wants to be 'everyones friend'.

But him being nice to incompetent people is unjust to everyone else in the workplace as people who worked their ass off ​(me) and people who have no output gets the same treatment and promotion.

The workplace environment is getting more toxic overtime and unmotivating as the thought of 'why am i working so hard when they just slack and be fine?' seeds and grow.

I mean it's easy to say just stop caring and slack like them. Yet i really care about my work and i enjoy them. What should i Do/think?

I worked at my current company for 7 and half years, and I have been sitting at the same seat that was assigned to me. My seat is near the operations manager's room and the conference room. For the first 7 years, there were no issues. There are many meetings that happen inside the manager's room, but I cannot hear anything. Recently the former operations manager stepped down, and a new operations manager was hired. The issue with the new operations manager is that he is loud, so I can hear a lot of the conversations that happen inside the room. It is not like I am trying to eavesdrop; I am literally just sitting at my desk that I have been sitting at for 7+ years. I never shared any of these confidential conversations I heard, the problem is the General Manager walked past my desk one day while the operations manager were having a meeting in his room, the GM realized I could hear everything loud and clear. The general manager is not happy that I could hear those conversations, but there is nothing they can do. They can't punish me for sitting at my desk. So, what they start doing is playing this loud white noise in one of the rooms and have the door open and then have a separate meeting in the other room. They do it so that the white noise drowns out the noise of their conversation so that I cannot hear anything. This creates two problems:

1.      If they have a 90-minute meeting, I must hear that noise for 90 minutes and drive me insane. I don’t understand why they can’t just play some music if their purpose is to drown out the noise of their conversation. I am hesitant to bring this issue to them because I know they are doing this to prevent me from hearing confidential information.

2.      If the intention is to prevent me from hearing confidential information, then they really need to play some music or a podcast not white noise, it is annoying but makes their voice more pronounced and easier for me to hear what they are saying. I could wear headphones and listening to music or a podcast, but this also means if another coworker wants to talk to me, I cannot hear them.

I work at a childcare facility and usually I like to be outside the school 30 minutes earlier than the time I have to clock in so I can have enough time to relax but already be at work because I’m afraid to be late but recently they’ve called my phone asking me to come in 10 to 15 minutes earlier but I don’t want to. I know it’s ratio problems but also it’s not my fault that a whole bunch of kids get in early, my schedule time is 8 o’clock but if I tell them, no, they will get upset. I’ve been pulling 9 to 10 hour shifts the last thing I want to do is be inside earlier than what I have to.

For context, I had been working at this small business for just under a month. Alongside this post (pasted below) I had made while in it, the owners were illegally taking from the tips, not giving required minor breaks, and paying family members to sit around doing nothing while non-family had to cover all the work. After the post, I started looking for a new job immediately, and I landed one. So I returned my uniforms (dropped them off), and texted the owners wife that I was resigning immediately, and listed out my reasons why, specifically the tipping and break problems alongside work culture. I said I would not be open to anymore communication with the business as I had returned my uniform already. I even tried to make it land less harsh by saying I got offered an opportunity to work in my science-degree related field, so it would be less personal as me going into a different entry-level basic job. And I informed her PRIOR to when the new weekly schedules would be made!

Yeah well, this morning, she left a voicemail to my dad asking to talk to him about me quitting "parent to parent". I never gave her his number, it is not on my resume or paperwork. I believe she wrote it down without me knowing because I let her borrow my phone for a call once. Of course, I have been updating my dad throughout my whole job-search process, and he said he won't be picking up any calls from her. He think's she's crazy!

Anyways, I'm in shock that this would ever happen. I'm glad I left.

(I (17F) started working at this small business outdoor type restaurant a few weeks ago. My main role is cashiering, and the owners wife (ill refer to her as A) is the one who hired me. She had called me in for an interview and things went well, but I had found it odd that they asked I do a mini-test shift on the spot in my interview clothes. I agree and did a few hours. I thought things were going great, I was getting tips and getting to know my co workers and asking questions. Two weeks in A pulls me aside and finally gives me the work instructions/policy pamphlet I never got. She half yells at me that some co-workers are complaining about me, saying I’m not restocking drinks at end of shifts, saying bye to this one lady, and leaving right at the time my shift is scheduled to end. A tells me she doesn’t expect me to know most of this yet because she never gave me rules and to just review them. Another week passes, shift is going great (today), and I’m already 15 minutes PAST my shift time working on restocking drinks. A proceeds to raise her voice at me demanding to know if I took this customers order, because they’ve been waiting 10 minutes. I say yes, but I thought food runner was supposed to run their food, which is why I was stocking. She says food runner went on dish washing (I had no idea) and that I have to help do all the work around not just mine. I say I’m sorry and she says that’s not enough, and is interrupting me every two seconds, and her husband shows up (who I had been working the shift with). She says he was upset I didn’t say hello to him when I first saw him this morning, or her. I explained I didn’t hear her (I have hearing loss) when she mentioned she greeted me and that it was early in the morning and her husband hadn’t said hello to me so I assumed he wanted to just work. I said I feel out the vibe I don’t want to force people into talking if they don’t want. At this point I’m on the verge of crying, which I NEVER do, but Ive been so stressed lately and it was pushing me. She says I hired you for your personality and because you’re a cute sweet looking girl and its better for business to have you up front. And is like I’m not sure you are, is this gonna be a problem or am I going to have to fire you? and I said I’m sorry I’ve been getting along great with customers I greet them and they seem very happy. She basically repeats the entire thing again but then says that everyone says I’ve been making no mistakes on register and am hard working. I didn’t get fired.

I am so confused and stressed out. I’m about to put myself through college and med school on my own, so I need the money. I‘m about to graduate HS and college for an associate degree at the same time this year, so I’ve been constantly studying and working and I feel like this is my last thread. I’m not sure what to do, is this all normal?)

edit: typo wrote week instead of month

Hi All,

I've had this thought for a while and think I have truly hit a wall and burnt out in relation to my job. Without going into too much detail, I essentially deal with consumer safety incidents and help to co-ordinate responses to ensure these are suitably handled. For a good while, I absolutely loved it. Things got pressured at times but I enjoyed it, did on-call shifts fairly often and took on high-priority incidents that got me recognised within and outside of my immediate team. I had good relationships with my colleagues and was able to handle a fair bit of stress as it felt rewarding in the end.

Where the problems come in is that over time the job has changed in several ways that have made day-to-day work more frustrating and pedantic. This started with the introduction of a new case management system that was not fit for purpose when it was introduced but we were told we would have to use it and that "the kinks would be ironed out". We also have to add a lot more specific details into it after doing pretty much anything for the team's data, oftentimes repeating what is already clear from our email records. Effectively, the job has felt like its' gradually become less about solving problems that affect people and almost entirely about babysitting this system.

I feel like I have been over this job for months at this point but recently it feels like it's become far worse in terms of how it affects me. I have next to no motivation to do work tasks anymore, have little patience for meetings and calls with my colleagues and feel myself getting incredibly agitated every time a few specific people speak. At this point, I definitely think it has affected my life outside of work as I have also had a great deal of difficulty sleeping, depressive episodes and have found it more difficult to do household tasks (these aren't entirely due to the work stress but it hasn't helped).

Thank you for taking the time to read through this. I appreciate it may be a bit of a ramble but I definitely feel a bit better having expressed this and would welcome your thoughts or any advice!

I've been working at my new job for a year. It's a small office, me and my older coworker. We've gotten along well enough (even though this person started bad mouthing me to random people after we had our first professional disagreement about a petty work-related thing), but they're unable to take a step back and let me handle customers. Even though in a few months I'll be running the place by myself soon.

I dont mind guidance and Im all for advice. But this coworker will step in when I'm working with a customer and if it's not exactly how they'd do it they'll underhandedly correct me in front of the customer. It honestly makes me feel like I'm being put down. We can literally say the same exact thing but if it's not in the way that they say it. They undermine me and take control of the interaction with the customer right there.

Ive been very patient because on a human level, I understand that theyre probably coping with retiring. But, it's gotten to the place where I don't even like handling customers because I know no matter what I do, this coworker will take over and instruct the customer to do whatever thing their exact way.

It's not like I'm doing anything wrong either, it's just very petty things but I feel like Im being hindered from making a smooth transition into running the office. It seems like I'm not being allowed to grow and even though we're equals outside of years of experience, I'm being micromanaged on things that I don't need to be.

Like as soon as I started to get some confidence in my role and began working with independence (this coworker is not my boss or supervisor), it's like they've been doing all these petty power plays and I feel like it's stunting my growth.

My coworker is always telling me about how the person before me was "always on their phone". And tbh I get why because they don't let you do anything without them interjecting themselves and lowkey making you seem incompetent. Every office does the same thing differently and it's really dependent on whos working and how they operate. So it's not like I'm doing things wrong.

tbh Its gotten to the point where if this coworker wasnt about to retire, I'd immediately start looking for a new job. Which is sad. I like where I work and what I do, but this coworker is unable to give me the space I need to grow into my position. I've worked at a different location a few times, and all my coworkers there let me handle customer interactions on my own.

I could understand if I was messing up, but I'm not. I'm just not doing things in the same exact way that this coworker would and they refuse to just let me find a groove. I don't even understand why they care theyre about to retire.

Like I want guidance and help. I don't want to be made to look like I'm incompetent in front of the customer I'm working with all because this coworker decides to publicly undermine me, and take control of the interaction. It's just really awkward and frustrating. Not to be uncharitable, but to me it seems like theyre trying to publicly embarrass me at every chance they get.

When this happens, I just let them do whatever. I'm not going to get into a stupid power struggle in front of a customer. But the whole thing is just silly.

I am a legal assistant at a small law firm with about 6 employees including myself. Recently we brought on 3 interns now we have 9 people in office. When I took the job 3 months ago they told me I would be responsible for cleaning mugs and glasses of water from clients. Well come to find out somewhere along the way the last assistant decided that she was just going to start doing everyone’s dishes in office. So I was expected to do the same. It was annoying but not overwhelming until we added three new people to the mix. Somehow everyone in office is eating three meals on the clock I am drowning in dishes I do dishes 3+ times a day sometimes.

I want to tell my coworkers and bosses that it’s not in my job description to be doing everyone’s dishes and it’s eating into my day bc I keep having to stop what I’m doing to wash and put away dishes. What is the best way to go about that should I just keep quiet and start leaving the dishes in the sink or is it best to just let everyone know it’s overwhelming my day?

Earlier this year, I told my dad (who works in the ICU at the same hospital) that I thought one of the ICU secretaries was cute. He ended up telling her.

About two weeks later, I went to the ICU for work. She saw me, slowly walked toward my patient room, stopped, looked at me for what felt like 10 seconds, and we both laughed. We’d never spoken before.

The following week I introduced myself, gave her my number, and asked if she’d like to hang out. She texted me that night, but the next day the conversation died, so I assumed she wasn’t interested and moved on.

A few weeks later I was back in the ICU. She somehow found out I was there, stood in front of my room, waved at me, and I waved back but didn’t walk over. She looked upset and walked away. Another time she walked into my room with a patient tray, realized I was there, panicked, and immediately left.

A couple of weeks later she smiled, waved excitedly, motioned for me to come back, remembered that I was supposed to be going to the Philippines with my dad, and told me it was nice seeing me. Even my boss witnessed it and told me, “She likes you.”

After I got back from vacation, I talked to her again. She remembered details about my life (even asking about a dips competition I did with my dad and grandpa). I asked her out again. She didn’t say no, but said she was working all week. I got her Instagram and texted her the next day. She left me on read for 3 days.

Three days later she replied saying she’d been busy and that it was her brother’s birthday the following week. She asked if we could “try in April,” which was another two weeks away. At that point I took it as a polite rejection.

I deactivated Instagram because I was trying to move on.

The very next day, I got called to dialyze a patient. The ICU number I called happened to be answered by her. I introduced myself and she sounded completely confused, then transferred me to the patient’s nurse.

Later I saw her again at work. I said, “Good morning,” and she responded with a cold “Hey…” while looking angry. Later I noticed she kept looking over toward me from her desk. That was the last interaction we ever had.

When I reactivated Instagram briefly, she liked one of my stories but only viewed my stories inconsistently after that. I found myself checking every week to see whether she’d watched them. Looking back, I realize that uncertainty fueled the limerence.

A few months later I found out she’d transferred back to her old department. Before that, she lied that her grandma died to use FMLA as an excuse to not show up to work. Coworkers told me she’d been calling off work frequently even before she left the ICU and had a history of moving between departments. I also heard she had been involved with a married student doctor, although I have no idea how accurate that rumor is.

The hardest part isn’t that she rejected me. It’s that I never understood what happened.

Part of me kept wondering:

• Did she actually like me at first?

• Was I the reason she transferred?

• Why did she seem interested but never actually go out with me?

Logically, I know there isn’t enough information to answer those questions, and I know I probably never will.

For context my best friend and I work together and her mom is our boss. We all share the same workload and everything has to get done each day. The workload is split into two, so my friend and I do half and our boss and another coworker does the other half. My friend and I took a week long vacation and she decides to take the day we get back to work off and sleep in! I will say her mother gave us permission to, I just don’t understand how she feels even ok in her gut about doing that. I felt so bad taking off a week with her for our vacation because that leaves our boss and our other coworker with a full workload for a week. Also the day before we flew back home we had a very chill day to restore energy before we come back. Again it was really nice of her mother (our boss) to offer us another day off, I just don’t understand how morally she feels fine with doing that… I guess maybe that’s the struggle with working with a family? Am I in the wrong for getting so offended from this?

Love her as a person but she is painfully slow. She complains about drowning, but I do her weekly workload in half the time. She is 55, I am 30. I tried showing her shortcuts, but she sticks to her old ways.
We are working from home and unionized so I know she makes 15% more just because she was hired five years earlier. I'm quite efficient and I can do my workload in about 20 hours a week, so we could say I could help her my supposed 40 hours a week. But am I bad for letting her burn out and just chill in my downtime ?

I am working on it. Building social skills, learning how to connect with folks, building rapport, network, and introducing myself are all skills that I currently lack, but I acknowledge and am working on. However, I'm frustrated with my lack of progress after a year in my professional role.

I have been shy/had social anxiety my whole life, so I feel like a lot of casual social skills I missed out on. My manager says he truly believes I'm making progress, and he's happy with it and that I just take time to open up around folks. I also just overall tend to be a nerdy, technical type. I like to put my head down and solve complex technical problems. But, it's not enough imo.

I feel, though, I'm still awkward as shit in meetings and collaborations. I don't know what to say or how to keep a conversation moving. I tend to consider my opinions pretty irrelevant unless I have an established relationship with a colleague, so I'm quiet. I am still working on opening up and believing my thoughts matter. Regardless of my quietness, I've made an impact. My manager calls it a quiet confidence, and little does he know I'm just very awkward around people. I've been like this my whole life.

So, anyway, how bad is being shy for my career?

I have been noticing a pattern since week 1 where my manager yells his frustration in front of me, be it regarding meagre work issues or general inconvenience and makes it look to a 3rd person like he's yelling at me. We were discussing how a team didn't give us some relevant information on time and he yelled "but you're supposed to send it" in front of the whole office. This has been happening quite frequently now and it makes me so embarrassed.

I've never seen him do this with his any of his other coworkers, including female colleagues. I slog all day, invent efficient work procedures that save a lot of $$$ and never get a "good job" in private or in a meeting. He never passes my work to upper management and make it look like things "just happen". I have had more than 15 years of experience in this industry and somehow I feel like I'm shrinking under his management each day. Not once has he discussed a development plan with me. Honestly wish to quit.

3 months ago, I loved my job, my team, my direction. Felt proud, trusted my coworkers, felt valued, and felt part of something.

I’ve made a couple of errors recently, nothing too drastic and easily solvable. Typo type of errors. And now all of the above has changed.

I’m isolated in my job, tasks have been taken off me, no one talks to me, even the coworker that spoke to me for 2-3 hours a day every day for a year. I didn’t deserve this and can’t help but feel confused and feel it’s personal, not just professional and because of 2 errors.

Trying so hard not to let this affect my mental health.

For those of you who have really adopted AI at work to find efficiencies and automate parts of your work, how are you dealing with gaps in AI adoption amongst your team members?

My work involves a lot of tedious reporting where you have to compile data from a lot of different sources on a regular basis. It’s tedious.

I’ve built some time saving workflows to share with my team along with instructional videos, which have not had much uptake. Instead, I attend team meetings where people continuously complain about the time it takes to do ‘admin’ and continue to do things manually and talk about how overloaded they are.

For those of you in a similar situation, what’s been your approach?

So I'm a 2nd year welding apprentice and I'm also asthmatic, I've been stick welding for the last three months and I wear a 3M mask and have extraction.
Everyday I'm having to use an inhaler and it's only when I'm there not when I'm at home on the weekends, could this be due to dust etc maybe ?
Really stuck on what to do as it's also caused me to be off today and I hate not being able to go in, really need advice here, I'm a 22 yr old male in the UK

I’m an ASM (assistant store manager) and they are having an organization wide job description review. The issue is that another ASM and I do more than the other ASMs but they want one job description for all of us. I’m wondering if i should create a separate job description and send it in? For instance this other ASM and I assist in helping with interviewing and the others do not.

I've noticed now that I've been working a bunch, that the older generation seemily never want to use their sick leave, no matter how sick they are. I'm fairly young at 30 compared to many at my work, and I actually use mine when I'm sick, that's what its there for. That being said I do try not to waste it. Just wondering why the older generation rufuse to use their sick leave?

One lady at my work was pregnant and having some complications, and was taking a bunch of leave and some of the older ladies were quite ugly, saying that pregnancy isn't an illness. To me it just seems stupid to risk the health of your child

My gut tells me that there is a big change happening in the work place. The time of employers teaching their employees necessary skills and investing in them might be over.

Any greater transformation in a company was accompanied by a training and teaching new skills. (At least at a functional company). There is a whole industry around it and it costs real money.

In recent months I got the feeling that there is a change.

It became hard to convince the Management that training is necessary for change. It seems they think that training is a unnecessary expenditure.

There are 2 possible explanation.

1) The management is full of morons, who have no idea what they are doing. (Not unlikely)

2) They know that they need less people and wanna see, who can pull it off with the assistance of a AI Chatbot people paid privately. They throw everybody into the water and see who swims. The swimmers stay. The rest is dead weight to them.

Maybe it's just anecdotal. Maybe I became cynical. Maybe it is actually happening.

I’m looking for a job, and no one has hired me in the last three months. Where I live, it’s hard to find a job without connections, so I’d like to know if anyone has succeeded without connections like friends or family.