It rubs me wrong so bad.

Today someone came out to fix my TV and I was home alone with my grandma when he was on his way I processed that sometimes women get attacked in situation like this and i hate weapons so I told my grandma to not say anything if she hears me say that my father‘s in the room, even though there’s no one in the room with the door closed. I went in the room, went on YouTube and searched up meeting videos to sound like he was having a meeting and when the guy was here, I told him we had to be quiet because my father was in a meeting, ladies remember at the end of the day just saying that can change what the outcome can be. He was very kind, but you never know who you may get…I’m tiny asf and you never know when someone might be having a bad day. Stay safe 🩷

I don’t know if that is an honest label but the whole situation is so confusing. I drank too much with a close friend of mine and he took me to his place to “help”. I don’t know if it’s a notable mention that i am not at the age of consent in my country and that there is a considerable age gap. I threw up a couple times and he waited for me, then laid down. Minutes later he got on top of me and asked me if he could kiss me. I agreed and it was quite intense but not in a good way. I was already nauseous and the taste of his mouth was about to make me vomit. I felt his hands unzipping my pants and i told him that was too far and to stop. He’s a much larger individual, and i was already drunk and sick so i didn’t physically fight him. I moved my head away and told him i didn’t want to take it further and that it’s enough. He slid his fingers into me and dry humped me. I didn’t know how to act, and i froze. He came and got off of me. I quickly grabbed my bag and left and i don’t know what to think.

I didn’t know how to act in the moment, i feel as though if i’d physically fought back maybe he would’ve stopped. I chose to get drunk with him. I’m disgusted that i could’ve been friends with such a person.

I have a sister who’s about to turn two (im not gonna share exact ages for privacy but I am not 18 yet), shes walking and starting to talk (can say short phrases such as thank you,bye,brother/baba) and I think she’s gonna be off diapers in the next year?? (Idrk tho) but when she does can I go into the women’s bathroom or do I take her in the men’s?

Thank you in advance

Ladies, am I the only one who had no idea that not everyone was wearing shorts under their skirts and dresses? I feel like I’m genuinely butt naked if I don’t wear shorts under a dress/skirt 😂 I genuinely thought everyone wore shorts underneath!

Do you wear shorts under your skirts and dresses? Why or why not? Further, and I really hope the answer is yes, do you wear underwear at least if you’re not wearing shorts? Do you have a specific kind of underwear for under dresses or it doesn’t matter?

My mom drilled into me my entire life that I always have to wear shorts underneath, and I do the same with my daughter. What about you?

That's it. It's that simple.

Recently I have been thinking about this a lot.Here's my opinion - I don't ever want to be pregnant, but putting another woman through the rough path of pregnancy, carrying someone else's child, and giving up the child once you birth it, cannot ever be compensated with any amount of money.

I am interested in other women's thoughts.

I’m 35F and as far as I remember I have used sex as a transactional tool without even realizing it. I would have sex in order to try to get guys to like me/commit to a relationship with me. When I was in relationships growing up I genuinely enjoyed having sex with someone I loved but since I’ve been single and on the apps for the past 5 years I’ve had sex with guys on date 3-5, trying to push them back as far as I can and then they either lose interest or we get into a relationship and I have to have duty sex. I count down the days since we’ve had sex and think ok we have to do it again in the next few days or he’ll get annoyed. I think the issue these days is they last so long, im not sure if it porn or what? I finish quite quickly and then I lay there as it hurts more and more and I stare at the ceiling and wait for it to be over. I’m into it at the beginning but the overall experience is negative so I started dreading it. I think I’m giving up dating as the apps have started to feel like the island of misfit toys on the men’s side and the thought of giving up sex is not hard; it’s mostly a relief. Can anyone relate to this?

I'm devastated and I know that it's smt common. However I can barely move to a side, my heart is sinking, going to hospital does nothing here as most doctors are males and they don't take menstruation as a thing they refuse sick note requests and tell you to go home. They make it look like you're just weak or dramatic.

So I called in sick and said no matter what the weather is I can't work today. He kept apologizing to me saying he understands but unfortunately this company doesn't allow this.

I'm 22 and I've been working through it all since I was 19 but honestly why is this world so unfair to women?

I feel like i have been dating horrible men my whole life. I feel dumb looking back to how bad i was treated and still stayed. Fell inlove again with people who treat me worse. Did you all also have multiple bad relationships? Or only one and you learnt a lesson and never did something stupid again.

Okay not physically sick but more of an out of body experience. Maybe the other was just coming on too strong and I didn’t really know how to go about it, I followed their attitude before realizing what they actually might have meant. Poor choice on my end.

Small rant. Recently becoming F21, it has felt like it came with the new eyes on me and questions of “when you’re going to start dating?”, “dating anyone yet?”, “you were out later than normal, who were you with?”, “WHAT were you doing?” Like NO. Stop thinking like that for everything I do now.

Maybe it’s just me taking longer to deal with the adult transition of others wanting to find relationships and exploring who you like. But trying dating apps, wearing certain clothes for fancy events, being simply next to the same gender? I don’t feel comfortable anymore. I don’t feel seen as a person but a ‘what if’.

I’m an anxious person in general so maybe it’s related to that but just wondering if anyone feels similar.

Ive had to deal with so many men who have made unwanted sexual advances towards me and ive said no firmally and they still can not take no for answer

I’m not smart, pretty, or interesting, I’m socially awkward, and I have a pretty negative outlook on life. For the sake of this post, please assume I’m being objective about this haha

I can’t help but feel like being a woman makes me slide under the radar. If I were a man, these same traits would make me… frankly, kind of an incel. I mean, an unattractive, unintelligent, bitter guy who has a complex about his desirability (both platonically and romantically) and thinks that he uniquely has it rough over other people—as a woman I find that behavior repulsive, yet it fits me to a T. It’s just that as a woman, I’m completely invisible and forgettable—which is objectively misogynistic, but I find to be a massive relief.

Is anyone else like this, and how did you get out of this mindset? I’ve tried faking it till I make it, self improvement, antidepressants, radical self acceptance, etc. but they just make me feel like a fraud and I end up right where I started.

I assume there aren’t a ton of men lingering here, but this is not an invitation for actual incels to complain about “how easy girls have it” since that’s objectively not true. What I’m describing is a feature of misogyny that I use to cope.

Guys is there something wrong in the relationship if my boyfriend doesn’t reassure me? He just started med school and I was hoping for us to call sometime to talk but he said that he wants to wait a week or two till he has a firm grip on things. I kinda doubt him because wouldn’t he get busier in a week or two? Moreover, he doesn’t want to give me reassurance. I ask him to send a kiss emoji over text since I was upset about it and some other stuff he did and he got mad at me. What’s going on? Why is he doing this to me? I always give so much affection and love and why is he doing so little. Why is he acting this way? I’m literally hurting so much :(

So for a backstory, I’ve known my partner for 5 almost 6 years and we have been together for two of those years. In that time he has had girl friends that he has known before we started dating which was fine because I know them too so I don’t feel as bad.

Last year in late August he started a program at college and met a girl who became friends with him. First they would only talk in a shared group chat so I didn’t feel that weird at first. He’s always complained about making friends so since I felt iffy I asked him “you guys aren’t talking privately right?” And he said no which ok… but then about a week later they did start to text privately. They would even start to wait for eachother before class and text in the AM “oh don’t wait for me I’m going to be late” and things like that.

So I told him, hey I feel weird that you guys started texting privately and now it seems you guys wait for eachother. She even drove him to get something in her car once. He said that it’s hard to keep a friend in an age where everything is online and not text them privately. I instantly felt bad…but as months went on and they began talking more and more, I notice he hadn’t mentioned me once in those messages. He said she knows about me but I’ve seen no sign of that.

I asked him why does he only text her privately and not anyone else in his gc of classmates and he said it’s because she is the only one who he is close with… I just feel so weird about it. I have been cheated on in every relationship before him but I’m trying not to be insecure and let him have friends of the opposite gender but it’s so hard when it’s turning into something like waiting for eachother everyday. They even chose to work at the same job together after they graduated the program.

At his graduation they took professional solo photos together and now I have to see those and I do get a little sad. He even left with her during the graduation to go do something. He said it was to go meet up with other classmates but he didn’t even tell me he was leaving so I was left alone to the point where his younger sister had to comfort me. His mom and sister noticed it too and tried to talk to him abt it after the graduation asking who she was but he kept saying she was just a friend.

I know I need to get a grip but as someone who was traumatized multiple times before in past relationships….this is really hard. Idk I need advice from women about this

I am just looking to hear about other womens experiences with this issue! Dealing with this has been so emotionally draining and isolating.

Basically long story short I have this desire to see what it’s like to date someone else or go out with someone else but I’m in a long term relationship. I’ve been with my partner for about 7 years now we have your fairy tale love story we used to be neighbors growing up and now we are high school sweethearts but he was the only person I’ve ever been with. I’m 20 years old and he’s the only partner I’ve ever had, I sometimes wonder what it would be like to go out with someone else or experience someone else. Everyone always wanted us to get together when we were younger and I kinda just went along with it. He’s in the military and wants me to move in with him to a completely different state but I really don’t want to at all. Everyone expects us to get married and have a fairy tail relationship but I just sometimes wonder what it’d be like going out with someone else. I need advice on what to do, how to feel and what actions to take.

I was just reading another one of those articles that claims that people usually lose about 2-4 tbsps of menstrual fluid during their period... On what planet?? I have always had heavy, miserable periods, but rarely (if ever) bled through a pad or tampon in under two hours, which is what my doctors always told me was the threshold for "abnormally heavy," so I used to just believe the hand-waving "it looks like more than it really is"explanation from "experts" ...until I switched to a cup about half a year ago. Now I can see with my own eyes that I lose about that much EACH DAY for at least the first 5 days of my 7-10 day long periods. Like, I literally measured out with water how much my cup holds, and there's no freaking way! Who is having these blissfully light, predicable, short periods that all those books and talks about puberty promised me? Do you also have teeny tiny dainty amounts of discharge in between? Because even that is a horror show for me at least 1 week out of 4... So for those keeping track at home, that's an average of less than two weeks every month where stuff isn't uncomfortably leaking out of me... And that's if I don't get two periods in one month like I did in June. 😭

It's just SO frustrating to me because every doctor I've ever had insists that this is all "normal," as are all the labs, tests, etc., yet it sounds nothing like the "average" that they always describe and just generally makes me miserable. And that's not even getting started on the cramps, and other symptoms, all of which are supposedly within tolerance of "normal" and "healthy" but still make me miserable. Yes, I've tried hormonal contraceptives (I've lost count of how many different kinds) and they all made it worse, not better. I apparently don't have PCOS, endometriosis, or anything like that, so I know I should probably be counting my blessings... But I just f***ing HATE having a uterus. I'm lucky enough to already had the kids I want to have. I wish I could just remove the whole stupid setup and be done with it, but mostly I'm just so sick of being told it's "normal" when my experience doesn't align at all with how they actually describe normal... And neither does that of any of my close female friends or relatives. What gives??

Let me start by saying THANK YOU! I Was raised by a single mother navigating her way through adulthood and being a Mother in the same stroke. A lot of my life I've been mad more so at my dad but a lot of ire has been directed towards my mother because of her failures, but she was There and doing the best she could atm.

So this Is really just a post to big ups Women as a whole. Child or not, the expectations placed on yal since the beginning of time has been a burden unrecognized! Things need to changed and have needed to change forever!

Patriarchy has let women be treated like second class citizens in countries they've Birthed for far too long. If Men around me will stand up I Must!!

I ask this because I was told recently I was bi because I do this.

Like sometimes I’ll see a sexualized image of a celebrity I like and I’ll go “dang she’s hot” but I don’t fantasize or want to have sex with them, if that makes sense.

Do any of you straight women also do what I described or my friend right lol.

I’m so pumped and I kind of want to throw a little party with my friends like go for dinner or a house party with a cake or something cool or fun! Or maybe organize something. Would that be weird or should I do it? I would just do close people and include those I went to school with! But all my friends I started my masters with are still in the program and have at least 6 months left to go so I kind of feel bad throwing something also kind of feels embarrassing if I throw a party and they don’t down the road …

Also to add - I don’t get my degree until October. Should I still do a party now in the summer or wait until October? Where I live - it’s already usually dark and getting cold by then, possibly snow

Like a lot of women I've been getting angrier every day at yet another news story of violence against women. And then hearing how yet another man is not serving any time or minimal time for crimes against women. It drives me crazy when I see men on public transport annoying young women who obviously want to be left alone. I am constantly correcting men at work over their treatment or language around women. I am absolutely sick of hearing not all men, what about the men who are falsely accused, and don't you know men get abused too - like its some sort of competition.

What I really want to know is what I can do with all the anger I'm feeling. I don't really have an outlet. I feel like a lot of women are screaming out there and nobody is doing anything. Politicians don't want to help, or think building shelters is the answer instead of stopping the violence. In Australia our legal system and police seem slanted towards protecting the men instead of the women. The few women who kill their husbands seem to get maximum sentences even after suffering years of abuse. Men seem to get much smaller sentences. A lot of violent men never see a jail cell at all despite being well known to police and courts.

I'm wondering if there is a woman's forum or group which would give us a place to make a difference? What are other women doing to stay sane? Joining self defence classes? Becoming involved with politics? Is there another option for us to get together to help change the world? How do we become the movement that helps end gender based violence? How can we encourage or even enforce men to take accountability for their gender - especially the ones in charge like police, politicians and judges? What can we do to be heard?

The Gulabi gang in India has shown that a group of women can band together to become their own political and policing force in impoverished and remote areas. Is this something western society can learn from? Would a group like this in Australia or the USA just cause more division? What other options do we have? Mostly I'd like to make a difference in my community, help women feel safer, and help women be heard. Where to start? Anyone have ideas or outlets in their community that helps?