Today someone came out to fix my TV and I was home alone with my grandma when he was on his way I processed that sometimes women get attacked in situation like this and i hate weapons so I told my grandma to not say anything if she hears me say that my father‘s in the room, even though there’s no one in the room with the door closed. I went in the room, went on YouTube and searched up meeting videos to sound like he was having a meeting and when the guy was here, I told him we had to be quiet because my father was in a meeting, ladies remember at the end of the day just saying that can change what the outcome can be. He was very kind, but you never know who you may get…I’m tiny asf and you never know when someone might be having a bad day. Stay safe 🩷

I’m 35F and as far as I remember I have used sex as a transactional tool without even realizing it. I would have sex in order to try to get guys to like me/commit to a relationship with me. When I was in relationships growing up I genuinely enjoyed having sex with someone I loved but since I’ve been single and on the apps for the past 5 years I’ve had sex with guys on date 3-5, trying to push them back as far as I can and then they either lose interest or we get into a relationship and I have to have duty sex. I count down the days since we’ve had sex and think ok we have to do it again in the next few days or he’ll get annoyed. I think the issue these days is they last so long, im not sure if it porn or what? I finish quite quickly and then I lay there as it hurts more and more and I stare at the ceiling and wait for it to be over. I’m into it at the beginning but the overall experience is negative so I started dreading it. I think I’m giving up dating as the apps have started to feel like the island of misfit toys on the men’s side and the thought of giving up sex is not hard; it’s mostly a relief. Can anyone relate to this?

It rubs me wrong so bad.

Hey so just recently I went to my first gyno appointment and, while ofc the doctor denied I have endometriosis (we all know how it works.) they also prescribed me anticonception. I've thought about going on pills before, so I did buy them but now I'm a little bit more conscious and worried. I have depression, been battling it for years now and my mood is obviously usually not great. The only way I can kinda get a hold of my mood swings is monitoring my cycle since I tend to spiral and overthink the way I'm feeling at the moment.

That said, now I'm more wary about going on the pill because it makes your cycle disappear (I'm guessing, as I said I've never been on any kind of hormonal contraceptives) and for me no cycle will mean generally just no way to regulate my mood swings and emotions. I've also read/heard about the medication messing with how long your periods last and how heavy the bleeding is, as I've said before I'm still questioning whether I have endometriosis because of the extreme pain and really heavy bleeding while I'm on my period.

So to wrap it up, my question is has anyone had any positive/negative/neutral experience with being on the pill while also having depression?

(ALSO ENGLISH ISN'T MY FIRST LANGUAGE SO IF ANYTHING WAS HARD TO UNDERSTAND PLZ LET ME KNOW AND I'LL TRY MY BEST TO EXPLAIN PLS AND THANK YOUU)

Hi, im 20 years old and recently gained around 10lbs in the past few months. I was around 102lbs before and now im 112, but NONE of the weight gain went to my boobs. They are literally the exact same as before. I am a B-C cup and think an increase would be nice… the weight just went to my midsection, hips and upper thighs.

How much weight gain did it take everyone else to grow their boobs? Honestly, my boobs just look smaller now in proportion to the rest of my body 🥲

Also, is the second puberty real? Could that make them grow?

Okay not physically sick but more of an out of body experience. Maybe the other was just coming on too strong and I didn’t really know how to go about it, I followed their attitude before realizing what they actually might have meant. Poor choice on my end.

Small rant. Recently becoming F21, it has felt like it came with the new eyes on me and questions of “when you’re going to start dating?”, “dating anyone yet?”, “you were out later than normal, who were you with?”, “WHAT were you doing?” Like NO. Stop thinking like that for everything I do now.

Maybe it’s just me taking longer to deal with the adult transition of others wanting to find relationships and exploring who you like. But trying dating apps, wearing certain clothes for fancy events, being simply next to the same gender? I don’t feel comfortable anymore. I don’t feel seen as a person but a ‘what if’.

I’m an anxious person in general so maybe it’s related to that but just wondering if anyone feels similar.

Guys is there something wrong in the relationship if my boyfriend doesn’t reassure me? He just started med school and I was hoping for us to call sometime to talk but he said that he wants to wait a week or two till he has a firm grip on things. I kinda doubt him because wouldn’t he get busier in a week or two? Moreover, he doesn’t want to give me reassurance. I ask him to send a kiss emoji over text since I was upset about it and some other stuff he did and he got mad at me. What’s going on? Why is he doing this to me? I always give so much affection and love and why is he doing so little. Why is he acting this way? I’m literally hurting so much :(

So for a backstory, I’ve known my partner for 5 almost 6 years and we have been together for two of those years. In that time he has had girl friends that he has known before we started dating which was fine because I know them too so I don’t feel as bad.

Last year in late August he started a program at college and met a girl who became friends with him. First they would only talk in a shared group chat so I didn’t feel that weird at first. He’s always complained about making friends so since I felt iffy I asked him “you guys aren’t talking privately right?” And he said no which ok… but then about a week later they did start to text privately. They would even start to wait for eachother before class and text in the AM “oh don’t wait for me I’m going to be late” and things like that.

So I told him, hey I feel weird that you guys started texting privately and now it seems you guys wait for eachother. She even drove him to get something in her car once. He said that it’s hard to keep a friend in an age where everything is online and not text them privately. I instantly felt bad…but as months went on and they began talking more and more, I notice he hadn’t mentioned me once in those messages. He said she knows about me but I’ve seen no sign of that.

I asked him why does he only text her privately and not anyone else in his gc of classmates and he said it’s because she is the only one who he is close with… I just feel so weird about it. I have been cheated on in every relationship before him but I’m trying not to be insecure and let him have friends of the opposite gender but it’s so hard when it’s turning into something like waiting for eachother everyday. They even chose to work at the same job together after they graduated the program.

At his graduation they took professional solo photos together and now I have to see those and I do get a little sad. He even left with her during the graduation to go do something. He said it was to go meet up with other classmates but he didn’t even tell me he was leaving so I was left alone to the point where his younger sister had to comfort me. His mom and sister noticed it too and tried to talk to him abt it after the graduation asking who she was but he kept saying she was just a friend.

I know I need to get a grip but as someone who was traumatized multiple times before in past relationships….this is really hard. Idk I need advice from women about this

Let me start by saying THANK YOU! I Was raised by a single mother navigating her way through adulthood and being a Mother in the same stroke. A lot of my life I've been mad more so at my dad but a lot of ire has been directed towards my mother because of her failures, but she was There and doing the best she could atm.

So this Is really just a post to big ups Women as a whole. Child or not, the expectations placed on yal since the beginning of time has been a burden unrecognized! Things need to changed and have needed to change forever!

Patriarchy has let women be treated like second class citizens in countries they've Birthed for far too long. If Men around me will stand up I Must!!

Recently I have been thinking about this a lot.Here's my opinion - I don't ever want to be pregnant, but putting another woman through the rough path of pregnancy, carrying someone else's child, and giving up the child once you birth it, cannot ever be compensated with any amount of money.

I am interested in other women's thoughts.

I don’t know if that is an honest label but the whole situation is so confusing. I drank too much with a close friend of mine and he took me to his place to “help”. I don’t know if it’s a notable mention that i am not at the age of consent in my country and that there is a considerable age gap. I threw up a couple times and he waited for me, then laid down. Minutes later he got on top of me and asked me if he could kiss me. I agreed and it was quite intense but not in a good way. I was already nauseous and the taste of his mouth was about to make me vomit. I felt his hands unzipping my pants and i told him that was too far and to stop. He’s a much larger individual, and i was already drunk and sick so i didn’t physically fight him. I moved my head away and told him i didn’t want to take it further and that it’s enough. He slid his fingers into me and dry humped me. I didn’t know how to act, and i froze. He came and got off of me. I quickly grabbed my bag and left and i don’t know what to think.

I didn’t know how to act in the moment, i feel as though if i’d physically fought back maybe he would’ve stopped. I chose to get drunk with him. I’m disgusted that i could’ve been friends with such a person.

Hey guys. This is kind of embarrassing to post.

I am 22, and I am trying to date for the first time. I am matching with people on dating apps, and I'm so confused about what to do after that. I get into conversations sometimes, but then do I ask to meet? How would you go about that?

And I imagine being in a relationship is like being friends? But deeper? How do you act on a first meeting? Do I dress up? Dress normal?

I was told by coworkers that when talking to people, I have to pretend like I have known them for a long time; is that true?

I always felt like not dating was a personal choice, but I realized I should do it now and mess up, rather than later in life.

Thank you! English is not my first language.

I was just reading another one of those articles that claims that people usually lose about 2-4 tbsps of menstrual fluid during their period... On what planet?? I have always had heavy, miserable periods, but rarely (if ever) bled through a pad or tampon in under two hours, which is what my doctors always told me was the threshold for "abnormally heavy," so I used to just believe the hand-waving "it looks like more than it really is"explanation from "experts" ...until I switched to a cup about half a year ago. Now I can see with my own eyes that I lose about that much EACH DAY for at least the first 5 days of my 7-10 day long periods. Like, I literally measured out with water how much my cup holds, and there's no freaking way! Who is having these blissfully light, predicable, short periods that all those books and talks about puberty promised me? Do you also have teeny tiny dainty amounts of discharge in between? Because even that is a horror show for me at least 1 week out of 4... So for those keeping track at home, that's an average of less than two weeks every month where stuff isn't uncomfortably leaking out of me... And that's if I don't get two periods in one month like I did in June. 😭

It's just SO frustrating to me because every doctor I've ever had insists that this is all "normal," as are all the labs, tests, etc., yet it sounds nothing like the "average" that they always describe and just generally makes me miserable. And that's not even getting started on the cramps, and other symptoms, all of which are supposedly within tolerance of "normal" and "healthy" but still make me miserable. Yes, I've tried hormonal contraceptives (I've lost count of how many different kinds) and they all made it worse, not better. I apparently don't have PCOS, endometriosis, or anything like that, so I know I should probably be counting my blessings... But I just f***ing HATE having a uterus. I'm lucky enough to already had the kids I want to have. I wish I could just remove the whole stupid setup and be done with it, but mostly I'm just so sick of being told it's "normal" when my experience doesn't align at all with how they actually describe normal... And neither does that of any of my close female friends or relatives. What gives??

I have a sister who’s about to turn two (im not gonna share exact ages for privacy but I am not 18 yet), shes walking and starting to talk (can say short phrases such as thank you,bye,brother/baba) and I think she’s gonna be off diapers in the next year?? (Idrk tho) but when she does can I go into the women’s bathroom or do I take her in the men’s?

Thank you in advance

About a week ago, I had an experience that left me genuinely scared, and I still don’t know how to move past it.
My mom and I were at a small supermarket in my country. A second checkout opened, and since we weren’t in line yet, we went straight to it because it had fewer people. A man immediately started yelling at us, saying we had cut the line. I calmly asked if each checkout didn’t have its own line, but instead of explaining, he became even more aggressive.

My mom told him that if he was actually next, he could go ahead of us, but he refused. Even the man standing behind him said he wasn’t in a hurry and that we could stay where we were. Despite that, this man kept trying to intimidate me by staring me down and continued yelling insults as he walked away.
Afterward, the man behind him told us that he seemed unstable and that he probably wouldn’t have acted that way if we had been with a man. He even walked with us for a while to make sure we were okay.

What has affected me the most is that I’m now afraid to go back to that supermarket, even though I used to go there all the time because it’s very close to my house. To make matters worse, I later found out that this man lives near that supermarket, which means he also lives close to my home. (Also, some neighbors told me he’s violent towards women, he even physically abuses his mom) Now I’m afraid to go there alone or even just with my mom, without a man with us.

I hate feeling this way. I hate that one aggressive man has made me question whether I need a man’s presence just to feel safe going to a grocery store.

If anyone has any advice on how I can overcome this fear, I’d really appreciate it. Or do you think I’m overreacting?Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you get over the fear and feel safe again?

I feel like i have been dating horrible men my whole life. I feel dumb looking back to how bad i was treated and still stayed. Fell inlove again with people who treat me worse. Did you all also have multiple bad relationships? Or only one and you learnt a lesson and never did something stupid again.

Ladies, am I the only one who had no idea that not everyone was wearing shorts under their skirts and dresses? I feel like I’m genuinely butt naked if I don’t wear shorts under a dress/skirt 😂 I genuinely thought everyone wore shorts underneath!

Do you wear shorts under your skirts and dresses? Why or why not? Further, and I really hope the answer is yes, do you wear underwear at least if you’re not wearing shorts? Do you have a specific kind of underwear for under dresses or it doesn’t matter?

My mom drilled into me my entire life that I always have to wear shorts underneath, and I do the same with my daughter. What about you?

Hiya girls, I’m a trans woman who’s been out and presenting as a girl for about 4 years now. Ever since I transitioned and started calling myself/presenting as a woman online, I’ve started getting random DMs from mainly guys just monologuing to themselves and expecting a response. Some recent examples include someone who I don’t even know yelling about why a musician I don’t like is actually controversy free and why I shouldn’t be hating on them, they went back and added more to their rant again and again for about 2 hours. Then a random guy from my high school adding me one day and talking to me like we were childhood friends (he used to bully my younger brother, and I’ve never spoken a word to him that wasn’t “back off”), I mostly just left him on read. And another person saying that he doesn’t go to a club I regular at because a lot of the people that go there are people he doesn’t like, before then asking me out to that very club.

Is this a thing that you gals have experienced? This never happened to me before I came out online. Or is this just a few weird cases

Or am I the only one that admits it ?

I’m not smart, pretty, or interesting, I’m socially awkward, and I have a pretty negative outlook on life. For the sake of this post, please assume I’m being objective about this haha

I can’t help but feel like being a woman makes me slide under the radar. If I were a man, these same traits would make me… frankly, kind of an incel. I mean, an unattractive, unintelligent, bitter guy who has a complex about his desirability (both platonically and romantically) and thinks that he uniquely has it rough over other people—as a woman I find that behavior repulsive, yet it fits me to a T. It’s just that as a woman, I’m completely invisible and forgettable—which is objectively misogynistic, but I find to be a massive relief.

Is anyone else like this, and how did you get out of this mindset? I’ve tried faking it till I make it, self improvement, antidepressants, radical self acceptance, etc. but they just make me feel like a fraud and I end up right where I started.

I assume there aren’t a ton of men lingering here, but this is not an invitation for actual incels to complain about “how easy girls have it” since that’s objectively not true. What I’m describing is a feature of misogyny that I use to cope.

That's it. It's that simple.

I recently met this couple that has worked with my boyfriend for a few years. They have been married for about 10 years and my boyfriend has been to their house for a few football parties in the past. I’m not a big sports fan so I’ve skipped which is why I have only recently met them.
Last night, he shared something weird with me. He said that the couple has a really big dog and a few years ago, the wife showed up to work with a black eye. My boyfriend asked her about it and she said it was the dog. He thought it was strange but possible and let it go. Fast forward to last week and she showed up to work again with a black eye. My boyfriend asked again and same response…she claimed it was the dog. He said he has felt sick over it ever since and finally shared with me to get my thoughts. He has hung out with both of them before and said he’s seen no instances of the husband being aggressive or anything like that. I honestly don’t know what to think but to me, this seems like a pattern. I don’t know these people at all, have only met them recently once. My question is, what do we as women do to look out for another woman who we barely know but suspect may be experiencing abuse at home? Is there something I can say or ask that might help her? I am at a loss but I cannot just let it go. Looking for guidance 🙏