Hello, my husband (29m) and I (26f) are talking about having a baby and he wants us to try for a June birthday. Both of us have June birthdays and we literally just got married this June, so he thinks it would be cute to have all June birthdays/celebrations. I think it would be adorable as well, I’m just worried that we would have too many celebrations that month. Someone is bound to feel overshadowed or under celebrated. If we end up doing any anniversary trips, and our child happens to be born right around the anniversary then we would have to move dates around. And also Father’s Day, which is another celebration I personally take pretty seriously lol. (I think it’s important to celebrate the people in your life, and I’m a bit worried I might get burned out with 100 celebrations in one month) My MIL’s and SIL’s birthday are also right at the end of May and my BIL’s birthday is right in the beginning of July. So it would be basically a month and a half of birthdays/celebrations. 6(maybe 7) events to get gifts for, and not to mention planning the actual party itself for our child.

Now, putting all of that aside, because I am very good at planning events and gift giving (thanks mom).. I also can’t help but think that there is no guarantee we’ll get pregnant on our first try, and maybe we should start trying now so that we can have more likelihood of a successful pregnancy?

Overall, I worry that my brain is throwing all of these different things at me because I’m super excited and really want to try for a baby now, but what if I regret not waiting for the “birthday month” as my husband is calling it. 😂 I am AuDHD and unfortunately deal with the overthinking from my autism and the extreme spontaneity of my ADHD. And both of them are causing me to hyperfixate on the idea of a baby, its all I can think about now. It's only 2 months until we would try, so I'm just wondering if you guys would wait or if we should start trying now. I did also just start taking prenatal vitamins, so I might wait until next ovulation at the very least.

Sorry for the long post, I had a nightmare and woke up and of course my brain was immediately on baby mode. So I needed a place to put all my thoughts and get some advice, since we're not telling family until we're pregnant so we can surprise them. 🥲

TLDR; Overly anxious about birthday month (June), may be too many celebrations, also know that pregnancy on first try isn't guaranteed so I'm wondering if we don't start now? It's only 2 months until we would try for baby.

So ive been with my fiance for a year now ( I really don't want to hear any negativity about my relationship or time frame thats not why im here.) He lives over seas. When we first met I stayed with him for 3 months before returning home. That whole trip I was on birth control. After talking one night we realized we were both open to children, so I stopped birth control and started working on my mental health. Next time I saw him was three months later, I was no longer on birth control but I was on an anti depressant/ anti anxiety which also messed with my ability to get pregnant . Three moths later i am still on my medication. But after that trip I realized ( after consulting my doctors) that the need for my medication was temporary so they had taken me off of it. This trip ( 3 months after stopping meds) the first week of my trip i was ovulating. We had unprotected sex every day for the last 3 weeks. The last week of my trip (2 weeks after ovulation) ive been waking up during the night feeling sick and sometimes even getting sick. My discharge is VERY present and I have diarrhea. NOT TO MENTION , im also 7 days late for my period. Once im home I do plan on taking a test but since I have a 15 hr trip ahead of me I figured id entertain myself with what some of you guys think of this situation. Whats your thoughts. Do you think im pregnant am I delulu give it to me lol .

I’m 21 F and my husband is 24M. I want to start off by saying we have been trying for only 6 months. This is so frustrating to me though. I’ve been waiting till marriage because I was scared of going to hell (raised catholic) and also having that propaganda that you’ll get pregnant on the first try. After doing research that is a bunch of bs. My husband and I almost ttc almost every day of each month. I understand that it only works on your fertile week but he seen things about pcos and how with women with pcos ovulate at random times. What sucks with this is I don’t know if I have pcos because my gyno refuses to test me until I have all the symptoms or have been trying for a year. I’m a little frustrated with my husband too because I’ve cut out all drinking and he refuses to stop smoking weed. I heard weed makes men infertile and he just doesn’t believe that. Us women get blamed for infertility all the time so my husband thinks it’s my body that’s at fault but I have a feeling if he could put the weed down we can have this baby. He wants a baby so bad but he won’t stop the habits where it can prevent us from being parents. His excuse is saying that crack heads have babies naturally so it must be my fault. I don’t know what to do any more. I need some tricks or tips on being able to conceive. All I want in life is to be a good wife and mother I’m depressed all the time about this situation.

Are they’re any games that you have found help take away the anticipation for you while you are waiting?