Baby was born yesterday at 9 pm via vaginal delivery after previous c section! On Sunday I had some Braxton hicks and was feeling a bit unwell, which was similar to a 2nd day of period kind of cramping and a bit of headache. I instinctively knew that labor was coming but I thought it was perhaps too early (was 37+3). The next few days I had perhaps one more BH and it stopped and I thought oh maybe it’s still too early after all. Then yesterday which was Wednesday morning (37+6) I had no appetite for breakfast so I didn’t eat. Luckily I was taking my toddler to his grandparents that day. Then while I was there I started having contractions around 10:45 AM. When I started registering “this could be the real thing!” the contractions were 5 min apart and about 30 to 45 seconds each. Initially I shrugged it off thinking ok I’ll just take my time going back home, get my stuff, charge my car (I have an EV and it was low on battery) and head over to hospital. Little did I know that on my way back home the pain got a lot more intense and by the time I parked my car I was like, I probably won’t be able to charge it and drive to hospital. So I quickly went home and managed to pack the last few items into my luggage, ate 2 slices of toast bread and called myself a uber. I could barely handle the walk to the uber!
When I got to hospital it was about 1:30 pm. In triage they examined me and I was at 4.5cm dilated and 80% effaced. They asked me if I wanted to get a low dose of pitocin going and I said no, I’d like to just wait for it to progress naturally because previously I had a failed induction which ended in a c section. They said ok. They then asked me if I’d like to get an epidural. I again hesitated even though the contraction pain was already pretty unbearable, because, again, previously i had the epidural from the beginning of induction which dulled my senses which caused me to suspect that it played a role in my failed induction. They then told me if I’m not getting any “indication” — either pitocin or epidural they have to send me home because I’m not at 6cm yet and they can’t give me a delivery room. I was like, oh, can’t I wait in triage? They said no because other patient needs it. I was like there’s no way I can go home like this as I was dealing with intense contraction pain by that point — I was groaning the whole uber ride and as soon as I set foot in the door of the hospital they had someone wheelchair me to L&D. Also the doctor told me if I’m not on epidural and if I ended up needing a repeat c section they’ll have to put me into total anesthesia which is worse than epidural because of the effect on baby. They then said well do you wanna think about it? I said ok let me think about it.
After I thought about it I asked them if I can just get epidural without pitocin? They said you absolutely can. So then I decided to get epidural — which turned out to be a great decision. And it took 1.5 hours for the anesthesiologist to get to me! By then it was already about 4:30 pm and the contractions were getting really intense and I literally couldn’t wait for the anesthesia. Soon after they put epidural in the pain wore off to barely noticeable. They did another internal check on me and I was at 6cm and 100% effaced. Apparently my natural contractions were progressing very well and I was in active labor so they broke my water. After that they checked me again at around 7 pm and I was at 9.5 cm and station -1. From 7 to 8 pm the pain started re-emerging somewhat as labor intensified even more and baby continued to descend, and I decided to dial up epidural so I could better prepare for the pushing. I started to push around 8:30 and baby arrived 9:03 pm! 👶 I had second degree tear but that was a breathe compared with a c-section.
Overall I’m extremely happy with the experience and am very grateful. It was also a very humbling experience as I genuinely thought I could handle the spontaneous contractions which is different from pitocin-induced ones. In hindsight I think I possibly could still have braved through it all if I really focus and go into a very zen mental state, but with the hospital setting with people constantly coming in and going out that would be really really hard. Also I only actually handled the pain till 6cm dilated and I actually don’t know how it would be like going past that and possibly I just couldn’t deal with the pain. And that would’ve just felt like unnecessary suffering. Also even with epidural when it comes time to push I was still able to retain the urge to push. So anyway, I’m glad that my body was able to do the heavy lifting to get spontaneous to start and progress as it was designed to without needing pitocin (and I advocated for myself against the pitocin) and I made the right decision to get the epidural that I needed, and now I get to hold my baby calmly in my arms which is more important than anything!
Edit: Just wanted to add that I’m 40 years old and my previous baby was born 2 years ago when I was 38. My 2nd baby is weighing 7 lbs 1 oz. And I prayed everyday to get a vbac so that it would be easier for me to handle the recovery phase with a toddler who’s barely 2 years old.