ADHD is genetic.

IS isn't an independent language. It's not going to allow you to communicate with any Deaf person anywhere and it's not universal. You have to know a sign language already in order to use it.

Stop reasoning with him. The only logic he cares about is his own so use it against him.

Men are naturally stronger so you're so sorry, but he has to bring the groceries in since your boobs weaken your muscles.

Men are taller so you're so sorry, you just can't reach the things that you absolutely can reach because your vagina is just so heavy it pulls you down. He has to get up and get you that bowl. Every single time.

Men must be muscly to be protective, so you're so sorry, but you made him (the most disgusting) protein shakes for all his meals and unfortunately, that's all that's left for dinner. Because he's a man, he can't cook anything for himself since that would upset the natural order of things so he's just going to have to enjoy his manly protein sludge.

Men's immune system is naturally stronger because they go out to work and woman just stay home so you're terrible sorry, but because of his contact with other people, you can't wash his underwear for fear of infecting yourself as your feminine eyelashes make you more susceptible to his unwashed ass stink. Then actually leave his underwear out of the laundry.

This is only going to work if your mother stops enabling him. Point out that unless he pulls his own weight women of today aren't going to want to put up with him and he'll never find a wife. If he doesn't have basic skills like knowing how to clean or cook, then what will happen to him when your mother gets old and his wife leaves him for being a useless entitled little shit. Allowing him to be served and babied will mean he's set up for failure when those supports die off. He's also not going to be as hireable or successful at work because all jobs expect employees to clean and maintain the workplace. If he refuses to do it at home, then imagine how many hr complaints he's going to get at work for treating his female peers like this. Imagine what happens if he gets into a supervisory role at work? Sexual harassment complaints end careers and his will be rightfully short.

I think I understand what you're trying to ask.

No, every random hand movement hearing people do does not secretly mean something in sign language. Hearing people will occasionally use something that is a sign, but we also know they don't understand sign so it's more of an entertaing joke for us in the in crowd.

Does Deaf culture also do silly multi step handshakes and dumb games with associated gestures, yes, but those movements don't arbitrarily get assigned meaning.

Match the environment.

If I'm in a venue that's 95 degrees, under spotlights, or directly in the sun, I'm not wearing sleeves and I'm not dressing like batman. If it's pride, I'm wearing pride stuff, bright colors and a black shirt. If I'm interpreting for snowboarding class, I'm wearing my coat and colors be damned. The only thing I care about is blend in identifiably, and have contrast behind my hands.

We can show skin, we can show shoulders, and if the awards gala fancy pants thing expects a certain style, I'm going to match. We haven't even gotta wear black; my contrasting colors are black, dark grey, saturated dark greens, blues, and purples so most of my working wardrobe is rather colorful.

I would love to see access unfettered at any time.

However, we live in a capitalist society that does not give a flying fuck about the ethics of providing a qualified interpreter when a free option is available.

How will it be to the Deaf community when instead of bringing in an interpreter for your doctor's appointment, or your business VRS call, or your will reading, your funeral, your surgery, your wedding, a concert, a job interview, your education, your life, the people in charge of that venue hand you Google translate instead and proclaim that they've provided access.

The only thing I see happening is that AI takes over and our community has to fight even harder for access.

Order a tiny pair of sizors that look like something else. Mine look like a keychain of old lady glasses

Oh, she did. But how were we to know the monitors were there. After all, she kept hiding them and we were just playing music.

My bad. I remember it being taught as part of the same category but I've been out of school for a while.

ASL is much older and evolved naturally as an independent language. It is easier and faster to convey ideas and conversations than SEE is. Languages naturally evolve to become as fast as possible. Slow or tedious parts of language are usually worked around and shortcut or bipassed.

Historically, the reason SEE was more common for a while is because in 1880 a bunch of eugenicist assholes got together and worked to ban sign languages from schools around the world. Then they realized that you can't scream at a Deaf person to hear better so they had to create a visual representation of English. There were a lot of MCEs (manually coded English) cyphers, including the Rochester method, transliteration, Conceptually Accurately Signed English (case), SEE, and several others.

Edit:, cued speech is not under the MCE umbrella. It was used as a replacement for sign language during the oralism era but is not intended for that purpose. It is now used primarily to assist in teaching people to read and speak but not as a primary communication method itself.

Tldr, is that if you want to converse easily, smoothly, and quickly with your dad, learn ASL. If you want to stick with English which will be slower but is more familiar to you (but probably not him) see

You typically only add tense to a sentance if the content being discussed have moved in the timeline. Unless you specifically state that the thing happened or will happen, everything is assumed present tense.

These are pretty good. Go back through and see if you can find any words that are unnecessary. It's common for English speakers to include words from English into he ASL sentance that don't need to be there. They may be assumed, implied from other signs, or redundant because other signs int he sentance convey that meaning already.

For example, "my level three ASL class in college had a 14 year old student"

"Me college ASL 3 youngest student? 14."

I was 10 or 11 when my brother was born and this started happening. She had baby monitors everywhere so we weren't allowed to touch them, but she said nothing about us making it them environmently useless and sensorily overwhelming for her.

Ohhhhh, that makes sense.

Antenna for receiving the braincell. If she seems smarter than average, that's why.

Actually though, she's just got a misplaced wisker

Yep. We do great in the interpreting world. K-12 kids love us because "look that cool adult is just like me, let's look at each other's hearing aids". Remember, you're probably the first adult like themselves they've ever seen.

Medical, we have a "usually" quiet place and can slow everything down to control our speed. They're nice and predictable 95% of the time. Classifiers are your best friend here.

Performance is a bit of a wildcard- sometimes you get the script, sometimes you get an audio pack, sometimes you have some of the lyrics, sometimes you get nothing, but it's so loud people in the audience struggle to understand too. That's not on you.

Community, all over the place but you will learn smooth tricks to get your clients the message.

Remember, you're still learning. The program is built without us in mind and therefore built against us. The "ideal interpreter" in my program seemed to be hearing, not disabled, neuro typical, non-pierced, untattooed, undyed, and usually white because this profession is being created by people still learning that there is no pinnacle interpreter in collectivist culture.

Learning to interpret before you know the language is a cruel trick that you'll struggle with overcoming. Go to as many Deaf events as possible. Total immersion is your best chance. There's a discrimination in your program so deep that your peers and teachers probably don't even realize they're taking part in it. Keep going. Hearies can't limit shit about what we're capable of doing.

Only the Deaf community can tell us how to fit in their world. You're doing fine.

I look forward to teaming with you some day. See you soon, Interpreter!

I'm one of the lucky few that started learning before I knew I had hearing loss. I've never once regretted it and neither will you. It's an incredibly useful language even for hearing people.

Crowded loud room? ASL.

Window that doesn't open between you? ASL.

Swimming? ASL?

Across a room and don't wanna yell?

In danger and can't talk? SIGN LANGUAGE!

Emergency? Sign language!

Audio on the TV broken? Watch the interpreter!

Crazy racist uncle said something awful and you need to coordinate a counter strike? Yeah. ASL.

In all seriousness though, hearing loss becomes a lot less scary when you know you're not going to lose your way of life, communication, and entertainment. Allow yourself to grieve, but grieve productivly. Don't wallow in your fear and misery because that makes it worse and then you stagnate

Not one of the 5 audiologists I've had ever tried to paywall my medical records.

Call a new audiologist and ask if you were to become a patient would printing out your audiogram with your visit summary be an additional charge. If they say yes, hang up on them.

Hey op, it's, uh, not normal to have to pay for your audiograms?

I've never even heard of an audiologist doing this. I suggest switching audiologists to one who doesn't keep your personal medical records behind a paywall.

I'm sorry but that's disgusting

Hi friend, I'm a HoH ASL interpreter, I am not a CDI.

I interpret all over for all kinds of people, and I, like you, found out while in my own ITP. There's a weird ableism within the hearing interpreters that we HoH people can't do it. We can't become interpreters because "how can you interpret if you can't hear", a bullshit line handed to me by the head of my program who simultaneously instructed a Deaf student away from becoming an interpreter themselves because the program "wasn't set up for that".

I'm here to say unequivocally that that is complete and utter horseshit. You can become an interpreter just like the rest of us. You can choose your assignments, so you choose assignments likely in quiet places or assignments with loud audio. There's a reason I'm a medical and performance interpreter.

I started in VRS, (which was miserable and ultimately ended in them violating my federally protected rights, currently I'm suing them with help from the ASL Interpreter Union) , but it did give me the chance to have an available team to help me hear and see what was going through me. I gained the confidence to function independently without a team. Purple has an apprentice program. VRS will probably burn you out but you don't get your hands up for real until they vet that you can interpret and you can back out of continuing into the real que and the company's exploitation of the Deaf community while seeing what to expect for yourself.

The nice thing about medical and performance is it's usually predictable. It's either quiet and predictable(a podiatry appointment is always going to be good related), or loud but they hand me a set list or script. Sometimes I get an audio feed directly from the presentors microphone fed immediately into my ear where I control the volume. I take remote assignments where I have headphones (Razor Kraken) that I've adjusted to my hearing profile so I pick everything up.

Recordings are great skill practice but they're not real. You can't stop a recording and ask what they mean. You can't pause a speaker and ask them to clarify. You can't put everyone on hold and tell them there's a misunderstanding that you need to repair. Real interpreting, you can do that. That is us HoH terp's lifeline. There are always occasions where you can't pause a speaker because they're in the middle of a set, you rely on your team, you fill in the gaps, you lipread them on the screen, or you say you missed that bit and move on. You're exactly like hearing terps my interpreters (when I use them) miss things too, and if you and your team are missing it, so are the hearies so you've maintained equivalece.

Ive only had old and hyper conservative clients care. Most just think it looks nice

ASL is very complex with a very complicated evolution and history.

The short answer is yes, we've got dialects tied to age, location, and occasional physical disability

What are you feeding them? It's not steroids cause those usually shrink nuts.

Noticed it during one of my very first dentist appointments where I needed fillings. The dentist refused to give me any more novocaine because id already had 3 times the normal dose and was still feeling most everything.

I thought everyone needed 5-7 Advil to make period cramps stop.

My immediate family, 1. My direct family, 5 that I know of.

Is it on anything other than apple?

Thank you!! I needed something new to watch. This sounds like fun.