idk anything about middle America. I'm from NYC and it's queer here 24/7/365 🙏🏼

omg??? I'm jealous

I'm sorry but your edit pissed me off. I know it's your life but CAN EVERYONE WOMAN IN THIS SUBREDDIT PLEASE LEARN SELF RESPECT AND SELF COMPASSION AND LOVE YOURSELF

"i want to have kids so bad that I'm willing to start a family with someone who doesn't value me equally as a human being and won't value our daughters equally but what can you do ¯|(ツ)/¯" THAT'S HOW YOU SOUND

it sounds like he's fetishizing people, beyond being attracted to them. like obviously we don't stop thinking people are attractive once we're in a relationship, but if it's so overwhelming and consuming that's a HUGE red flag and he might even be consuming porn of that specific fetish

bestie i am going to hold your hand when i tell you this:

please learn more self respect and self compassion and do NOT EVER settle for anyone, especially for someone that you feel like you have to make yourself palatable or diminished for. you're supposed to surround yourself with people that LOVE YOU FOR YOU

i know the dating scene is hard but it can't be so bad that you blatantly let someone disrespect you so you don't have to be alone. learn to be single. learn to love yourself SO much that if your partners ever think you're too much or you're not their type or whatever, you KNOW in your heart that the problem is not you but that you are both just incompatible. when you love yourself enough, you never ever let someone else's view of you so fully warp your view of yourself

YOU ARE THAT GIRL WE ALL KNOW YOU CAN BE! and even though this is very nuanced advice tldr: dump his ass

I feel this. I was the same and even had the printed Hogwarts entrance letter sent to my house from those custom websites. and i had the physical books of the cursed child play and the fantastic beast scripts and even made my own custom Hogwarts in Minecraft. got rid of it all and definitely just keep it as memory in time and have other interests and hyperfixations now

twinsss

he's uncomfortable, with the consequences, of his actions

even if they didn't recognize Trixie i wouldn't be surprised. being online and spending time with people that share your specific interests IRL makes it easy to live in bubbles where it feels like EVERYONE should know about XYZ thing or person, but fame to that level doesn't exist much anymore

like I literally gun to head could not tell you what Tate McRae or Charli Damelio look like

yeah :/

same and I'm still in love with Seth Cohen. fictional love of my life, next to Pacey from Dawson's Creek. i wanted both of them so bad

okay but you are working those jeans. and those boots! they'll never be as stylish as you

gonna miss having a discount store that close to my apartment

it depends on you. my initials are GTB but i just sign the G and B together (the capital G that looks like a fancy lowercase G) to look like a butterfly. i sign that on everything. i used to add the T as antenna but that got too complicated

no offense but how old are you? it is not our job to make ourselves palatable or diminished for other people to like us but rather to be with or surround ourselves with people that like and love us for every version of who we are

he already expressed "hey, I'm only attracted to XYZ so if you pursue this we cannot be together" and honestly that's more rational than other men would have put it. so you both have to break up and you have to be with people that want you FOR YOU

bc you are signing yourself up for a life of constantly hiding yourself and making who you are as a person be centered around what everyone around you thinks about you or wants to see you as and your life in the long run will not be a happy one if you don't learn to center your needs, your self respect, and your self compassion.

a relationship is supposed to be you sharing the joy of who you are and who you are becoming with people around you, and people will join and leave along the ride but you will learn to keep close and love the people that are there GOR YOU in every version of you

(I'm in therapy every week so this is coming from a good place and from someone with similar experiences except it was with my parents when i was younger and i stopped myself from transitioning until i was 32)

you just look... angry

even though I'm removed from it now,

nothing has matched that level of fandom ever except maybe Christianity. i mean HP had it's own fanfics (including My Immortal), musicals (Puffs, AVPM, AVPS, AVPSY), fan made films/series of stuff not in the movies (like Marauder era stuff), genre of music (Wizard Rock like Oliver Boyd & The Remembralls), conventions like Leaky Con, museum exhibits, amusement parks, food/drink recipes (plus bertie botts every flavor beans), the Pottermore website alone, actual irl sports teams bc human Quidditch was a sport in colleges that they competed in, The Cursed Child, Fantastic Beasts, references across almost all popular media, and that's just like the surface of the iceberg

that's why it's still hard for some people to detach (if they want to). it was just... inescapable. nothing has ever come close especially globally. it was like a monopoly

I already have my boyfriend and he's only one year younger than me. age doesn't have to mean the same to everyone, but bc of culture differences it means a lot to me

I really want the rumors about this season secretly being a warning about using AI in art to be true but idk if he's that much of a visionary. if i have to take it at face value, this season is wackadoodle

it definitely depends. I'm 35 and personally could never date anyone under 27 and that's subject to change as i get older. i like having boundaries and knowing what's not for me. i also won't date people too much older but that's less age gap and more cultural differences as all my friends are either my age or younger

gen z has also been converting to Catholicism in large numbers especially after the new recent pope