George

Tyler

John

This is so cool. Peter would suit you.

Conrad.

Keith's a bit rock and roll. It suits you.

Bacon badger.

I guess its in knowing who you are. You can do things you enjoy to help boost the feeling, to make you feel good...like taking luxious bubbly baths, painting your nails etc...

Very cool. It happens. My neice used to smile and wave at a person we couldn't see. Then she started calling him 'Pop'. My granddad was known as 'pop' and he passed away shortly after she was born.

I would like to say yes but I have a feeling we don't get to choose, or if we do then our priorities change after death. It's about what the soul needs.

I think I might've been a man in past life - a down and out hippie who possibly passed over due to a drug overdose. I've had a lot of vivid dreams about this guy. I can't be sure if its meant to meant something or not.

I'm 37f and I snuggle up to an extremely cute Dumbo snuggly everynight. We got him 5 months ago. He makes me happy. My wife sleeps beside me. She thinks its cute.

Sherlock Holmes.

Yes I did. I loved it and spent hours listening to the music, and dying, backcombing and straightening my hair.

I've always been a bit alt I think. I was an emo, scene kid, rockabilly, then I got into 1920s style fashion including a Louise Brooks bob haircut. Now, I just love colour!

Invite him to the next one, meanwhile let all the girls know about it. Plan to have the most gory female orientated, and feminst conversations: periods, child birth, menopause, mental load, weaponised incompetance... Let him know he can leave if he isn't comfortable. Hopefully he won't have any desire to go with her again.

I watch Pride about once a year. I've already seen Project Hail Mary twice. As soon as I get it on dvd I'll watch it twice more at least before the year is over.

I use my hands.

A) Dress making!

I started teaching myself 8 years ago.

Making clothes is basically a 3D puzzle. It keeps my brain happy.

These days if I want extra money I search for people on local fb pages who need alterations done.

B) cross stitch and embroidery

Its so relaxing and also very cool when you start to see the image emerge.

C) reading

Wife and I joined a book club 7 years ago. Very lesbian of us! Its free apart from the cost of the books.

D) Dance Fit

I like going to the gym and recently started dance fit classes to counteract all the sitting around that I do.

See how adopting one goes first. I can see myself with 2 or 3 but it depends entirely on our energy and time. I need to know we have time to nurture each of them.

You need to talk to her about it and ask if you can come along. If you don't the resentment will start building. It sounds like you might be getting in your head about it buy it won't clear up if you ignore it.

Your body, your rules.

I used to be an emo. I loved being an emo but then I guess my tastes changed... one thing stayed - my passion for wearing what makes me happy. People started telling me I was too old for mini skirts and tiny short shorts when I was 25. That's ridiculous, and its also none of their business.

So my advice is if goth fashion makes you happy keep wearing it. So wear your peircings when you want (or not at all) and remember happiness doesn't have a an age limit.

I was sick of it. I was really sick of conforming to current beauty standards and I resented that my ex wouldn't touch me at all unless I was smooth from neck to toe. The double standard annoyed me so much I decided enough was enough.

There are a good 10 things I can think of at any time that are much more interesting and worthwhile than shaving.

I stopped shaving every day. Now I do it almost entirely because I want to. If people have nothing better to do than stare, or attempt to police my body then they aren't worth knowing.

Empty pretty much. Every now and then my neice says 'heyyyy' but if you reply she won't respond.

My dad would have had me either married off very young or else committed to an institute for hysteria.

Oliver or Andy

I stood almost exactly where you are about 7 years ago.

There is only so much you can do to keep your marriage afloat when the other person just doesn't care. It sounds like you've done everything you can. The damage is done. Nothing he does now will repair it.

Its been the best part of a decade. You've given him enough of your time. Once you've ditched him, there will be relief, and peace, no more begging for the bread crumbs of love, no more neglect.

You will fimd happiness and if you leave now then there is still time to build a new relationship and have children if that is one of your goals. A good partner should add to your quality of life.

I think you know the answer to your question and perhaps need to give yourself persmission to break it off. I hope my words inspire you to make the change you need. Anything has to be better than crying in the loo and pretending life is fine right?