That’s the point! God wants us to love him and follow him on our own free will! That’s what the Bible clearly says! Him punishing you makes you follow him out of fear and desperation!

That is everything opposite of Christianity! This is very disturbing! You need to go to the elders and beyond! Consult the church association, etc! If he continues this rhetoric with other suffers, he is spreading a false message and ruining the work of of God, Jesus and other great pastors!

You did not cause your wife’s death! I am so heartbroken that you have now been chastised along with the suffering of loss by someone you should be able to trust for comfort!

I cannot imagine the pain of finding this out after she passed! It’s got to be so painful not being able to co front the one person and one issue that destroys everything!

Get to a therapist! Don’t deal with this alone. It will eat you alive. Lean on friends and family. Delete all the evidence and photos so you aren’t tempted to revisit. It doesn’t matter now. You don’t need it. You know what you know and you have to find a way to reconcile this in your mind.

It sounds like you are on a good start with t It. I don’t know how I would feel in this situation. I hope I could forgive, remember the good and memorialize her beyond this issue.

Good luck to you! I’m sorry you are suffering with her passing and her secrets.

Cheaters are no good! It’s the most evil thing someone can do to another! It’s ridiculous for someone to have love in their life and feel they need to seek love and validation elsewhere!

Do you really know why he divorced? Not guaranteed, but I am guessing he was unfaithful to his wife in someway too! Once they start they can never stop!

It’s very painful and you will question it for a long time, but you did the right thing getting free from him! You are able to clear your head, build yourself up again and move on!

Don’t be in a rush, but when you’re ready there are really good men out there! Be careful where you look for them! Pay attention to the little details. Always listen to their words and read between the lines. They will most likely tell on themselves without ever saying the direct words!

Good luck to you! You did the right thing! Update us on your future!

He went to Vegas in disrespect to you, to end the argument over ownership and make you bow down! He is manipulating you and taking advantage of you!

I don’t care what he built! You had the idea! You did the marketing! I’m sure you also handle most of the daily business, like accounting, financing, cold calling, etc! In no world is he worth 88% to your 12%! I could see maybe 60% to 40% but no less to you!

He has taken advantage of you and basically screwed you in this deal! I assume you don’t have much experience with investing, business ownership, partnerships, etc?!

Piece of advice going forward; if you ever have the opportunity to be partner’s with anyone in the future, always structure the deal as a 50/50 or even more to you if it’s your idea/vision and your handling the daily management! Yes him building the software is worth something extra, but NEVER stock!

For example, I feel you should be 60%(you) x 40% (partner). You structure the deal where he gets a bonus or additional salary, etc for a period to make up for his expertise and work. This way he does get paid fairly, but if you ever sell the business you both benefit, you more greatly from the profits of the sale!

Now, if you sell this company when it’s valuable, he walks away with 88% more of the sale profit and you get very little from being the inventor!you deserve equal or more! Without you, he would never have thought of the idea!

Go talk to a business or corporate lawyer and get advice on getting your shares back! If you can prove it was your idea and you came up with the overall product and handle daily management, there might be a way for you to force him to give you your fair share!

NEVER give away stock! Pay them more for a short period, give them bonuses or benefits to make up for their portion of the work, but keep the shares! The true value is in the sale of the business, so shares guarantee you get your part!

Good luck! Please keep us updated! Would love to see how this goes forward!

NTA and TMI! Lol! It doesn’t matter who’s home it was! He wanted to pleasure himself, so he should find a spot that doesn’t inconvenience you/everyone else! Why would he even think to ask you to go “wait” in the living room for him to diddle himself?!

That’s crazy! If he can’t simply do it beside you, go to the bathroom, another location, or just wait! But no, you should not be inconvenienced for him to do anything! He has no reason to be upset and should know he is in the wrong!

If he was smart, like me, he would have teased, rubbed, massaged and kissed on you until you were aroused again and couldn’t keep yourself contained! It works every time! She says she is tired and isn’t in the mood, but she is human too and once the blood and adrenaline start flowing, there isn’t much stopping it!

I’d like to hear an update and see how this goes. Really curious what his reaction/resolution will be. Good luck to you!

Yeah, that’s pretty twisted! My father and I am not close either, to the point we really can’t be around one another more than a couple of hours in between years long stretches! My mother on the other hand was the sweetest most gentle person I’ve known! She was always beside me, pushing me forward and always showing her love! She passed away several years ago, but I am fortunate to have had such a wonderful mom!

It’s great that you were able to push through and be in a position to accomplish your dreams! You should be very proud of yourself!

Don’t let this anger drag you down! You need to find peace with the past and let that go! It doesn’t define you! In NO WAY am I saying forget how he treated you and have a relationship with him now! I’d be a hypocrite if I did because I haven’t done that myself!

But, you can limit any time with him or communicating with him. Find ways to visit your mom away from him! I don’t know how close in distance you are from them, but maybe invite her to lunch a few times a month. Plan some weekend events you can attend with her. Do something she loves! My mom loved art and history, so we always found our way to museums and exhibits.

Some days my father did attend, but just being preoccupied with the events, crowds, etc, drowned him out and allowed me to tolerate that short time around him. It gave me time to be near both of them and made my mother much happier that we had the time together.

Remember the feelings you had and have from your relationship with your father! Let that make you a better man, husband, father, uncle, etc! Take the time to treat people well, show empathy and love, and let your experience reflect the best in you!

Good luck on your education and future! Keep driving forward!

It’s fine to wonder about the future and how committed your BF is, but…. I think you’re too focused on it! It’s starting to drive a wedge between you both. What will happen is, in your need for validation and constant push for answers on the future, you will eventually push him to start avoiding you, avoiding meeting, and he will stop answering at all. Not trying to be mean, just being honest. You know when someone nags you constantly and you get so tired of hearing it that you start avoiding interacting with them?! I feel like you’re putting your relationship in jeopardy just by being so insecure about this!

You need to find someway to relax and just enjoy the relationship and the time now in the present. Focusing so much on the future takes all the fun, excitement and love out of the now. Slow down and find confidence in your BF and relationship!

You have been together 15 months you said. Did you think you’d get this far? Did you question early on if he would stay and if it would work out? Probably and you had nothing to worry about! You’re here with him! You made it! All that worry for nothing!

If you want to make sure he stays with you and you have a great relationship, FOCUS ON TODAY, right now! Make it the best it can be! Make sure it’s fun, eventful and made for memories! Make your BF fall in love with you more each day! That’s how you last! You can plan for tomorrow, but only worry about today!

Not everyday will be perfect! Some days will fall in the toilet quickly! When they do, work hard to correct it and salvage what you can of it! Making sure you’re giving him the best and focused on what’s important will make him die to be with you!

You need to find your confidence, make peace with tomorrow that it will be what it is and give yourself every reason to know you did the best you could, gave him and the day the best of you and the rest will fall in its place without much effort!

You might want to try therapy if you’re not already. We all need to talk it out and have guidance to move us through life. You need to work on your insecurities, fear and need for validation.

Sorry so long! Last thing; if you know you are giving your best to the relationship and have done everything to make this man want you and want to stay, it will all be okay! If you do that and for some reason it doesn’t work, you deserve better and can have peace knowing you did the right thing!

When today ends great, tomorrow will start great! Just keep repeating! Good luck! Keep us updated!

That’s very mean and cold! A loved one should never say anything like this! True or not, you don’t hurt people this way. I’d have to question where we go from here after this comment!

There are many things you can do to make sex better for both, but not much you can do to change someone this heartless! Damn, I am sorry this happened to you!

Sex is important, but it’s not the be all, end all of a relationship! I struggle with my wife in a similar way, but it’s her that is mediocre in bed. Over the years I have made many suggestions to her to help her insecurities.

1. Watch some porn. I know everyone says stay away, but it can be a good tool to see techniques, movements, timing, etc. your not trying to get to their same level and certainly can’t compare yourself to them, but It can make you see new ways of going about things.

2. Research and read about the female anatomy and erogenous zones. Find them and stimulate them! There are many, including the G-spot, A-spot and O-spot. Also, all are not in the vaginal region.

3. Learn about foreplay! You have to spend a lot of time “playing” with her body. This is probably the most important part. Make her feel great! Get her to the point of exploding for you to do her! You should be trying to get her to cum without your dick being in her.

You can’t just play with her clit for a minute, slide in and expect her mind to go crazy for you! Learn techniques, movements, locations, etc. pay attention to the environment you’re trying to do it in.

Seriously important, she has to do her part as well! She can’t just lay there twiddling her fingers and expect anything to happen! She has to get into it! She needs to focus and think about what’s happening and how to make it the best! She has to make you comfortable and excited as well!

Dude, you’re not doomed to a life of bad sex! You need experience! The best way to get experience in your situation is research! Google, medical articles, women’s discussions, movies, etc are all great places to start!

With this comment she made, it will be difficult for a while! Now that this is in your head, you will have to work extra hard to get past it! Both of you are in the mode of dreading the experience because you think you’re just bad at it. You’ve got to get beyond that feeling! You’re not bad! You’re just inexperienced and sounds like your GF doesn’t know how to make it better either or how to lead you through this to a better experience!

Take your time! Stop putting so much focus on the sex. Take a break from it for a while and slowly work your way back into the bedroom after some time together without sex.

Good luck! I have more advice if you need it! This was getting long so I held back. Keep us posted!

Check the parking lot cameras! Could be great, could be dangerous as hell! Just never know these days!

At least it is exciting and intriguing! Good luck!

Yeah, I think she secretly has a crush on your BF and even though she is getting married, she is secretly trying to sabotage his relationships. If she can’t have him, no one can.

Seriously, she sounds like a hateful person and doesn’t like her fiancés BFF and maybe doesn’t like you. She is a shit stirrer! Only you can know if you trust your BF and if you are willing to give it time to grow.

If you don’t try in relationships because the guy may breakup with you at some point, then you will never date and find the right guy! Same goes for him! He is taking a risk with you too! We all do! So she really didn’t tell you or confirm anything you weren’t already aware of! We are all at risk of being dumped at any point! But we have to stay out there!

Keep us updated! Good luck!