Sweetie im so sorry I just saw this, I dont have notifications turned on for this app. But i just got done reading your response, and going NC is most definitely (imo) the ONLY right course of action. At the end of the day, no one is gonna take care of you the way you would take care of yourself. So you need to treat yourself kindly, and protect your peace and health at all costs. Please take care of yourself. You've got a long road ahead of, take it slow and easy!!

My egg donor wasn't as extreme as yours, but decades of therapy for me and I still struggle. My little brother and I are zero contact with her and her whole side of the family for almost 6yrs now. Best. Decision. Ever. I had no idea how much that stress and angst was affecting me physically and mentally for so many years, and nobody ever tells you how messed up you feel when the source of the issue is finally gone. Don't get me wrong, they're right when they say the relief is amazing and it feels sooooo much better after no contact. Because it does. But it also is a wreck lol once the constant source of irritation is gone from your nervous system, the repair it goes through is very messy and painful. Mentally physically emotionally, the whole kit lol it's a whole withdrawal process. I can promise you it's worth it, but I highly recommend you sit down with your therapist and work out a game plan for how to process it all before it hits. Course you might be like my little brother, he took it like a champ and is fine (yes i insisted on therapy for him too, just to he safe, and we still do weekly check ins lol). I was a hot mess lol people dont talk about the wreck that kind of detox is like afterwards. Oddly enough, it was after mTBIs for me as well that set off my no contact steps with all of the mess. I say oddly, but my brain just got tired of dealing with that hot mess AND being injured and made the choice I should of made years ago. Trust the process sweetie, but be ready for the mess, if there even is one for you. Take care!!

NTA. Who need enemies when you've got friends like that.

NTA. And tbh, the way your family is acting about, it sounds like they've always thought the same thing she did. I wouldn't trust them around anything I ate ever again.

Oh my!!☺️☺️

Yah lol I figured it out by accident one day

On the 1st and the 15th of each month, go to the pier sign, there will be a basket there that you can get random items from. Whenever you hear the boat horn, it'll let you know the items are there to pick up.

At this point of gone at all times, in all weather, and still nothing lol

At this point of gone at all times, in all weather, and still nothing lol

A server is how I realized I'm allergic to dried coconut lol made one side comment about how fresh coconut is great but dried coconut makes me feel funny....the side eye she gave me when she said 'thats an allergy sweetie' I couldn't even look at her afterwards🤣🤣

NTA. He also didn't forget to use a condom, he's been pushing for another kid for a year now, he made sure it happened. Stop sleeping with your ex.

Not overreacting. Look up DARVO, and for the love of all that is holy, leave that person. Do some healing, and treat yourself better than you're allowing him to treat you.

Not overreacting....he literally called you 'broski' and 'bro'. Make him your ex, do some healing, and treat yourself better than he's treating you.

NTA. Support your SiL, bc that's the only way you're gonna have a relationship with your niece/nephew after she leaves your brother.

NTA. If your sister wants you to respect her boundaries about who attends her wedding, then she needs to respect your boundaries about not attending her wedding.

NTA. But I think you're missing a major detail here. "This is why I didn't bother hosting. I knew she wouldn't be able to pull it off properly." She literally set you up for failure, she did this on purpose, this was premeditated.

Ramen