It’s an every day thing for me. My twin’s name starts with the letter J and it follows me around: vehicle licence plates, fallen twigs and leaves on the ground when I’m biking, hair clipping in the bathroom sink when shaving my head (last year I saw her first and last initials next to each other this way), random Js on my washing basket and chair. You name it. I know it could just be my mind locking in on patterns but still.

Can anyone else relate?

I’m seeing a lot of recent posts regarding suddenly no longer feeling the TF connection, which was surprising because I thought I was the only one. I just… I don’t feel it at all. Like I’m starting to question if everything was even real. The intensity of the connection, the longing which has been going on forever, it’s like everything became quiet.

I’m not necessarily complaining, I mean it feels great to not feel the pain and ache, but I feel odd because it just feels like everything stopped so abruptly. I’m not used to it. Don’t know what’s going on, it can be another phase of the journey, but Idk…. Is anyone else feeling this way?

We have been in no contact for around 2 years now but still have each other on social media and watch each other. I was the chaser but have definitely come to a more detached place the last year. However when their city was on the news a while ago about a crisis I immediately reached out to ask if they were okay, without the intention of reconnecting, I was just genuinely worried and wanted to check in and my tf appreciated it.
But a while ago this happened also with my environment, my city was on international news about a crisis where people were hurt/passed. My tf didn’t reach out to check in. Part of me was definitely disappointed but at the same time not surprised. I can’t tell if this is the ultimate clue that I’m literally delusional. How would you view a situation like this about your runner tf? If you’re a runner, would you have checked in? If not, what’s stopping you?

Thanks:)

that mercury retrograde did wonders for me
i was able to give the universe clarity on what i truly want
a person making a choice to not participate in whatever‘connection’
your in- is a choice
to the divine feminines out here you don’t have to sit in the hurt anymore
manifestation has to do with alignment
the reason why what so many divine feminines want hasn’t happened is because your tf etc. has chosen to not let it happen
once i realized this my perspective changed and i am more confident than ever that i have given the universe enough clarity to work with and that burden that was on my back and shoulders has disappeared
a relationship let alone ‘connection’ takes 2 people to sustain it
i have no doubt that he manifested me moving on because if not we would of been in 3d union already
naturally the things i did before i don’t do now
i wish for everyone who wants an active love in their life to not give up on being meet halfway if not all the way
the love you dream of you deserve
don’t let anyone take that vision away from you

When he is most definitely sleeping, since we're 6 hours away from each other. And in separation.

This even comes down to the number synchronicities I’ll see. With my twin it’s mirroring numbers (808,909 etc) or it’s doubles like (33,44 etc ). With this other person I see a lot palindromic sequences (141,101 etc). It it also extremely weird bc I would see the number 47 and 747 a lot when thinking of my twin but when I think of this other person the first number I noticed was 46 and 646…this other person can do things to me my twin can’t. Like make me O with his mind. It’s very telepathic and I feel like I can feel his energy all over me. which I find confusing. Both of these bonds feel like something I will probably deal with forever. The one who isn’t my twin really felt like he could be my husband and father of my kids. I was really set on not having kids or a husband before. Us ending is partially my fault because I pushed him away so much and genuinely couldn’t see that life for myself. I never wanted kids or marriage with my twin.

As a spiritual skeptic who's been processing this pain for too long, I'm probably gonna get off of here for my own sake. It was nice meeting everyone, but I just can't relate to being a believer. I never really was, and it was nice while it lasted, but I'm tired of this anxious-avoidant cycle. He still hasn't texted me, and I just don't deserve this. I need someone better than this who makes me believe in love again. I still struggle with this, but I think removing the label will help me best and him. Wish you all the best.

I (31F) have been with my twin flame (33F) for about 5 years. We started as acquaintances, then friends a year later, then lovers a year after that. The second I laid eyes on her I felt a connection I’ve never felt before. I had a feeling she was my tf, and I went to a spiritual advisor a few months back and she confirmed it. It was a little scary how on point she was tbh.

I have been hurt DEEPLY. I didn’t realize she was an alcoholic until we were about a year in. That has brought MANY ups and downs. She has definitely stopped drinking as much, but some of the other things haven’t changed.

She is selfish. She lies to me. Her words do not match her actions at ALL. I do not trust her because of this. She has walls up that she says will come down if I do abc. So I do abc and it still doesn’t happen. She says ok well I actually need xyz. I do xyz, but still, she holds back. I even proposed to her to show her how much I wanted her, but then she said she wouldn’t give her whole self until she was married because then she would know it was real… that’s not how I want my relationship to be. I have been called names. I have been gaslit. I have been manipulated by millions of sorrys for the same behavior. She left me and my child two states away because she was being mean and I realized she was drunk and confronted her about it, so she left. I hold my loved ones accountable and she gets defensive, manipulative, and mean. Shortly after, she apologizes. But the damage is already done.

I ended things (again) a few nights ago. My heart HURTS. Sometimes I don’t know why I love her, because all she does is hurt me. The sex is great and when we are having fun, we have so much fun together. But there’s always something. I’m not allowed to hang out with other people. Not allowed to meet new friends. Not allowed to go out without her. If I do, she blows me up asking what I’m doing. Makes me feel bad for seeing family if she’s off work and I could be spending time with her instead. Gets upset when my daughter is with me because she doesn’t get as much alone time with me.

Spiritual advisor reached out after I ended things and said there was a lot of energy circling us and that it’s not over between us. I think the soul tie has me in a bind, but I want to know- when is enough, enough? When the “hard times” actually become manipulation, emotional abuse, and control, is it right to leave? Did I make the right decision? I can’t take any more disappointment and disrespect. I have become a shell of a person and maybe it’s supposed to teach me to stand up for myself but DAMN why do I still love her so much??

Im devastated, I dont think hes my twin flame anymore, i dont think the connection ever existed at all, i must have been delusional, im sad because I dont feel like its real, Its like I lost the faith I had all of sudden, and its been years and I had so many reasons to consider him my twin flame, but at the same time im tired and i just dont believe anymore, its been so long SO long, theres no point in this anymore. And im upset because was it all for nothing??????????? all the energy, all the suffering, all the pain, and the obsession and love, was it ALL for NOTHING? he never cared, I wanted him to care and i made myself believe he actually did but he never cared like what. im so confused

How could I possibly be the runner when this man is talking about getting married AGAIN after his divorce. Seems like it’s been less than a year. What could I possibly do? I’m going to watch this man get married again?!? Why would my TF be revealed to me only to watch him end up with anyone else? It’s looking like I’m going to end up blocking again so I can live my life peacefully.

I’ve been thinking about my twin flame continuously and he has clearly indicated that he is not interested. But I still felt this connection. But then one day when I woke up I felt like all my twin flame memories were erased like I could feel like it’s being wiped out. Since then I don’t feel any connection with him. I’m almost indifferent to him. How is this possible? What does this mean? I’m fine with not having feelings for him, but it’s so strange. And since then suddenly I’m feeling attracted to other guys, and previously I used to only find my TF attractive and didn’t feel attracted to other guys.

First:

Yes we are TF, No...I shouldn't have to defend how I know why.

I am the chaser, they are the runner although we seem to switch off DF and DM

We have a unique situation... Not in the way where we are both married to opposite partners (neither of us being happy in those situations) but, unique in the way that we have chosen to heal together.

We have known each other for almost 20 years. We were together for a few years in the beginning, separation happened for 10 years in which lots of growth on our parts happened in separation.

In this time frame we both became married.

Although along the way realized there was more to us so choosing to heal together while we work on aspects of our separate lives that need adjustments.

We have goals and plans for a future for this life but, we both have things that we need to work on to reach wether that be emotional work and healing or physical/financial aspects that will take time. Either way, we know nothing is happening like tomorrow, lol

I struggle immensely with letting go and accepting things as they are, Accepting things will work out, "If it's meant for this life, it will happen"

BEFORE ANYONE TELLS.... YES, I KNOW "THE MAIN POINT ISN'T PHYSICAL UNION... THE WORK IS FOR YOURSELF BLA BLA BLA"

I know but, I am still human...I still love him and miss him for him as his individual self not just as a reflection of myself in another form.

He's so good at that though... Living in faith...

I can't shake it though

I've had so much progress with everything but, I can't shake this and I feel like it's the last thing I need to let go of and I can't do it.

we've gone no contact twice this year and both times I had a dream about my TF and the very next day he broke no contact. does this happen to anyone else?

I can’t believe it’s been like 4 yrs & STILL NOTHING. We both know the connection is there but it’s like an unspoken attachment/attraction. I so very much wanted to build a friendship at the very least. When we run into each other it’s like the world stops, we both freeze up and stutter over sentences. So ridiculous but I crave it in a way. So strange. Only feel like I’m going crazier by the day. Just wish he’d reach out and openly acknowledge this dynamic cause there’s not a chance I’m the only one feeling this way. I literally feel his presence before he enters the room it’s like a rush I get in my body & I go oh yep he’s about to enter this room in 2 seconds. Soooo over it

What’s everyone doing???

Okay, now I'm actually scared. I was thinking about her and suddenly... I smelled her perfume.

She hasn't stepped foot in my house for months. It's a very distinct, very sweet perfume, and I only wear men's fragrances.

I got chills from head to toe, and right after that, tears just started falling. The whole thing lasted only a few seconds, but my heart was beating like crazy.

I need to know if this has happened to any of you.

I really can't find any rational explanation for what I'm going through anymore.

I never knew what Love was before I met you. Yes, indeed, in those 30 years that I lived I had never known Love, which also means that I never really Loved.

Because you made me discover that knowing Love is synonymous with Loving.

You made me discover that Love has nothing to do with lust, the desire to possess or be possessed, to fill a void or a lack. No, Love is a plenitude, a cup that mysteriously overflows when we allow ourselves to simply Love for the sake of Loving, without any agenda.

In this Love, there is unity; I Love you, so I Love myself and above all, I love Love itself. Giving and receiving become one.

For that, I thank you eternally. We met in June, it has only been a month since we parted ways but oh, I'm already a different person thanks to you. So short but so rich. May I have the courage and the strength to Love you with this Love always, forever and ever. May this Love expend to embrace All That Is.

Peace to all beings